FabSwingers.com forum: why dont men answer a question directly

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have chatting to this guy to arrange a meet. All I ask is were to meet. Address would be good. But all im getting back is a vauge answer! I think he doesn't want to meet. What do you think?

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

If you've got as far as talking about a meet, then a direct question should get a direct answer.

No direct answer? Move on to the next guy, and let the previous guy chase you (if he is really interested).

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Men only give direct answers in one situation:

If the answer to a direct question is yes, or positive in some way, they will respond with a direct answer.

If the answer is NO, or negative in some way, they will respond with endless nonsense.

So if you don't get a straight answer right off then the answer is no

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Because we have been taught well by women

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

I would move on.. this is similar to when i ask when we going to meet and all i get is "Soon". (No am not starting a war of sexes)

His loss move on and as per post above let him chase you if he was really interested.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

Whatttttt?!?! That's not necessarily true.

I've had a few meets where I've not known where we would meet up at this stage. I still have one now. It depends on when I'm free. When she's free. Which hotels are available, how much they cost, etc.

It's not always possible to answer questions.

If he is responsible for setting up the meet, let him do it. Let it go. If he doesn't arrange it, it's his loss? Right?

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

"Whatttttt?!?! That's not necessarily true.

It's not always possible to answer questions.

If he is responsible for setting up the meet, let him do it. Let it go. If he doesn't arrange it, it's his loss? Right?"

And thats absoloutely fine.. i was just explaining how i find it.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

"Whatttttt?!?! That's not necessarily true.

It's not always possible to answer questions.

If he is responsible for setting up the meet, let him do it. Let it go. If he doesn't arrange it, it's his loss? Right?

And thats absoloutely fine.. i was just explaining how i find it. "

Oooops. Sorry! That reply wasn't for you, I was reading kinky minx.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

again...sweeping generalizations do my fecking tits in..

blame our entire sex for one guy not responding to a question...and it becomes 'all' men..

to be honest I find it quite immature when I hear many things like this..

oh..and to answer the specific question... he might have a partner/wife/mother/child in the house...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He has something to hide or he doesn't trust you yet.

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Hi OP move on if he cannot be botherd to be straight with you its not worth your time and will only end in a no show probably x

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"I have chatting to this guy to arrange a meet. All I ask is were to meet. Address would be good. But all im getting back is a vauge answer! I think he doesn't want to meet. What do you think?"

because they often have things to hide! like a wife lol

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By *eMontresMan
over a year ago

Halesowen

What gives you that impression?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Say what you like but how many men will give a straight answer if asked?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"to be honest I find it quite immature when I hear many things like this"

I'm far from immature. Are you saying you have never given vague answers to a woman instead of a direct reply?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I am happy to give a direct answer

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"It's not always possible to answer questions."

I know this, but that can be conveyed without vagueness.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

"Say what you like but how many men will give a straight answer if asked?"

I am not sure, what do you think?

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

"It's not always possible to answer questions.

I know this, but that can be conveyed without vagueness."

Well, yes, sometimes, not always , well usually I suppose lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He may not be able to answer your question. I don't like to give an exact date and time until I'm sure I can make it. I don't have set free days and if I have a busy week I need my weekend to recover.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"It's not always possible to answer questions.

I know this, but that can be conveyed without vagueness.

Well, yes, sometimes, not always , well usually I suppose lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have chatting to this guy to arrange a meet. All I ask is were to meet. Address would be good. But all im getting back is a vauge answer! I think he doesn't want to meet. What do you think?"

He's married?

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"to be honest I find it quite immature when I hear many things like this

I'm far from immature. Are you saying you have never given vague answers to a woman instead of a direct reply?"

Given the current politic regarding how men are expected to treat women as equals (yea!! Who'd a thought it would only take 4 million years of evolution to figure that one out?)

Maybe sweeping generalisations about an entire sex are a little 1980s? Perhaps it is time to move on and start to see people as individuals as opposed to pigeon holing into whatever category suits your particular prejudice?

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"I have chatting to this guy to arrange a meet. All I ask is were to meet. Address would be good. But all im getting back is a vauge answer! I think he doesn't want to meet. What do you think?"

Ignore and move on....

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By *htcMan
over a year ago

he has a wife or girlfriend,

doesnt want to accom or give address until last minute

most prefer to visit someone than invite them to there home, hotel aswell, if he paid for a hotel, it might be on his details, misses might see it, or letter through the post about staying again with that hotel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As usual only one side the story and yet the women making generalised statements lambasting the men again.... you'd be well to listen to some of the very good and valid replies the men have given. Generalisation never helped anyone who is genuine.

There have been times in conversation when I have found a women pushy and as a result have held back wanting to know more before committing to a meet. When you have had no shows with lame excuses like the 'mother nature' for cancellation of a coffee meet one begins to _iew things with some skepticism. Women can change their mind in a given.moment with no apparently obvious reason. These are fabbers after all and they have the monopoly of choice and better options do come up quite quickly for them and many do play the game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"to be honest I find it quite immature when I hear many things like this

I'm far from immature. Are you saying you have never given vague answers to a woman instead of a direct reply?

Given the current politic regarding how men are expected to treat women as equals (yea!! Who'd a thought it would only take 4 million years of evolution to figure that one out?)

And there are a LOT of 1980s on here...but they wont change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men only give direct answers in one situation:

If the answer to a direct question is yes, or positive in some way, they will respond with a direct answer.

If the answer is NO, or negative in some way, they will respond with endless nonsense.

So if you don't get a straight answer right off then the answer is no

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hehe but when do women ever do what they say they are going to do and how can you possibly save 50% when you are spending 50%

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Lots of men have the memory span of a goldfish ...and find it hard to process simple information ....researched by many universities ..

* running away very quickly *

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of men have the memory span of a goldfish ...and find it hard to process simple information ....researched by many universities ..

* running away very quickly *

I having a good ogle.... love the bounce xxxxx

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Cheeky xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cheeky xx"

2 actually. ...and very nice they are

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By *he SeductionistMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Just move on..direct is the best way oh and at least your getting to the point of arranging a meet!! I'm not even getting that, I'm like do I not appeal to anyone?!

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I have chatting to this guy to arrange a meet. All I ask is were to meet. Address would be good. But all im getting back is a vauge answer! I think he doesn't want to meet. What do you think?"

I disagree with the generalisation about men not giving a direct answer.

Sounds to me like you've engaged with a MP.

Stay away from those politician types, if I was you and all the recent bad press.

They'll promise you endless orgasms but will not deliver!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi OP move on if he cannot be botherd to be straight with you its not worth your time and will only end in a no show probably x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met a Lovely lady at a party recently, seemed to click, chatted on here briefly and due to meet this week..... What is so difficult? Honesty is the best policy I find.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I have chatting to this guy to arrange a meet. All I ask is were to meet. Address would be good. But all im getting back is a vauge answer! I think he doesn't want to meet. What do you think?"

I think he doesn't want to meet, or he could be in a relationship. I personally would move on, there are plenty of nice guys on here who would meet you. Sure you will find someone soon! Don't waste your time with this one!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gotta love vauge as fuck ops

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

We'll that's what I get from women vague answers at times untill she feel comfortable with me .

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I think he doesn't want to meet either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always give a direct answer if asked a direct question, and would hope that most people are capable of doing the same in return.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"I have chatting to this guy to arrange a meet. All I ask is were to meet. Address would be good. But all im getting back is a vauge answer! I think he doesn't want to meet. What do you think?"

I meet in a public place have a social before I hand out my home address, if he's being vague about his home address I can understand why.. if it's a neutral / public venue I'm unsure why.

Best bet... Ask him. If he's still vague or unwilling to answer move on.

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By *ojos party boyMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

Direct wuestion?

Love to answer love but i've got some things to do for erm...something.

On a serious note, i think lads are either to upfront or too reserved on here.

But it is hard to be 100% honest over the internet- i don't understand why he won't give you a meet spot? Doesnt seem legit to me.

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

"I have chatting to this guy to arrange a meet. All I ask is were to meet. Address would be good. But all im getting back is a vauge answer! I think he doesn't want to meet. What do you think?"

Ive found in my time on here nearly all the men I've met have answered my questions directly, regardless of the subject. Maybe he has something to hide, I wouldn't waste my time to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yet if this thread had been the other way round it would be full of "shes totally right not to give her address out!!! She has to think of her safety!!"

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By *ojos party boyMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Yet if this thread had been the other way round it would be full of "shes totally right not to give her address out!!! She has to think of her safety!!""

Ooh aye! PC brigade would be all over this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would move on.. this is similar to when i ask when we going to meet and all i get is "Soon". (No am not starting a war of sexes)

His loss move on and as per post above let him chase you if he was really interested."

Why tho? Sometimes it might be weeks and weeks before I can commit to a particular day/time. Some of us have lives outside of fab! I have kids and work long hours, would you really pass up the chance of a potential meet with someone for the sake of a couple of weeks?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Blimey, I said something as a joke and a load of you take it wrong

Though the forum does have a large number of people who have to complain about posts rather than just take them in the spirit they were meant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think things are pretty bad in Syria!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Us men don't give direct answers and don't like saying everything about ourselves

Quite simply because women like to find out things

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"hehe but when do women ever do what they say they are going to do and how can you possibly save 50% when you are spending 50%

Don't you start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would move on.. this is similar to when i ask when we going to meet and all i get is "Soon". (No am not starting a war of sexes)

His loss move on and as per post above let him chase you if he was really interested.

I would and have passed up meets for less

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cos they can';t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most men I know won't answer any question directly, that would be far too much commitment!! Sad but true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"cos they can';t"

Who says

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most men I know won't answer any question directly, that would be far too much commitment!! Sad but true!"

A generalisation based upon a little personal experience makes general sweeping statements. I can say the same for couples but it does mean most are like that...just some in my experience.

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage

I personally havent ever had a man be vague when asked a direct question about meeting, or vague when arranging a where and when etc, but maybe because I just ask do you want a coffee, if replies yes, i then state well im free on x date are you, again if answer is a yes then a time is arranged.

If the man is being vague or if a man wouldn't give me a direct answer I would read into that thats he doesn't want to meet, wish him well and cease communication

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"to be honest I find it quite immature when I hear many things like this

I'm far from immature. Are you saying you have never given vague answers to a woman instead of a direct reply?

Given the current politic regarding how men are expected to treat women as equals (yea!! Who'd a thought it would only take 4 million years of evolution to figure that one out?)

And there are a LOT of 1980s on here...but they wont change."

You may be right, but that does not mean we cannot hold them up to ridicule.

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