FabSwingers.com forum: mental health

By *inky p OP Woman
over a year ago

leicester

Is there anyone out there that has had voices in there head asking them to kill themselfs? My 17yr old was attacking herself last night punching herself in the head to stop these voices,I need to understand it to help properly. Thank you in advance for any replies.

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By *xoticloverMan
over a year ago

newcastle

"Is there anyone out there that has had voices in there head asking them to kill themselfs? My 17yr old was attacking herself last night punching herself in the head to stop these voices,I need to understand it to help properly. Thank you in advance for any replies."

Since how long has this been happening? Was he intoxicated? Any history or family history of mental health problem? Sorry i am asking lots of questions but such symptoms cannot be ignored...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've worked in this field and am happy for you to contact me via pm......it's a frightening thing to go through for both you and your daughter.

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By *xoticloverMan
over a year ago

newcastle

If you want to keep it confedential you can pm me.. It cab be something or nothing...! I have experience dealing with such problems.

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By *inky p OP Woman
over a year ago

leicester

She says its been going on for four yrs,I sat with her last night an wrote down what they say an how its said,also linked it with times of yr she misses her dad who died suddenly 8 yrs ago.they get louder around these times,the voices are very nasty an destructive ,basically saying she's no good an should kill herself slowly an painfully,we have tried prozac in the past but they make her act aggressively towards siblings.so she stopped taking them.I have depression/bipolar.dad had split personality,an drug induced sycosis.she struggles to talk to any body so councilling hasn't been helpful in the past.

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By *xoticloverMan
over a year ago

newcastle

"She says its been going on for four yrs,I sat with her last night an wrote down what they say an how its said,also linked it with times of yr she misses her dad who died suddenly 8 yrs ago.they get louder around these times,the voices are very nasty an destructive ,basically saying she's no good an should kill herself slowly an painfully,we have tried prozac in the past but they make her act aggressively towards siblings.so she stopped taking them.I have depression/bipolar.dad had split personality,an drug induced sycosis.she struggles to talk to any body so councilling hasn't been helpful in the past."

I am sure she would be under a psychiatrist, if not she needs to see one ASAP...

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By *inky p OP Woman
over a year ago

leicester

She was under Camhs but they kick you off the books at 17 an don't refer you to anyone.we've been left to get on with it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok. Well the first thing is right now. Is she safe right now? Secondly, is she likely to act on the voices? If so, has she a plan as to how she will kill herself or any type of self harm. Anything like that is an immediate intervention, whether contacting local mental health emergency helplines or if need be 999.

Next thing is you need to contact your GP this morning and ask for an emergency referral. Due to her age they will act very quickly.

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By *xoticloverMan
over a year ago

newcastle

These syptoms needs prompt assessment by a doctor/ mental health worker... Get an urgent appointment with you GP...

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Your 17 year old has an extremely serious mental illness and you are asking for opinions on a swinger's forum?????

What is wrong with you?

Get him to a GP or a hospital quickly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is an emergency situation - have you made contact with any mental health teams/gp?

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By *urvy_bi_honeyWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Try watching the video in this link:

https://www.ted.com/talks/eleanor_longden_the_voices_in_my_head?language=en

it explains voices extremely well. You could both watch it together.

If the link doesn't work - Google 'Eva Longden - the voices in my head' and it will come straight up.

Honey x

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By *inky p OP Woman
over a year ago

leicester

I didn't ask for your judgment OK.I have 3 kids not 1 so getting to hospital or doctors is not straight forward as I have no one to help me look after the other 2.judgment is the last thing I need when I'm trying to do my best.an just for the records I also have bipolar so find things like this a little over whelming.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Your 17 year old has an extremely serious mental illness and you are asking for opinions on a swinger's forum?????

What is wrong with you?

Get him to a GP or a hospital quickly"

As a parent my mum did not know what to do when i had my breakdown.

The op is probably frightened scared and worried; this is one of the few places that people can come to and ask a question

I must admit I saw Counceling which did help but I had to change things my own way as well

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"I didn't ask for your judgment OK.I have 3 kids not 1 so getting to hospital or doctors is not straight forward as I have no one to help me look after the other 2.judgment is the last thing I need when I'm trying to do my best.an just for the records I also have bipolar so find things like this a little over whelming."

Do what you like; ask for treatment plans on forums for someone who wants to kill themselves. Some swingers here must be experts at giving you diagnoses and treatment plans

However, I am not mad enough to ask for these kind of serious issues on forums. I would have called an ambulance by now

I am outta here; good luck with the FabS mental health team

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By *inky p OP Woman
over a year ago

leicester

We tried councilling for 2 yrs which didn't seem to help,maybe because she won't talk to anyone about it.I'm lucky to have got this much insight to how she's feeling,so desperate not to mess it up an go about things the wrong way for her.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Your 17 year old has an extremely serious mental illness and you are asking for opinions on a swinger's forum?????

What is wrong with you?

Get him to a GP or a hospital quickly"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your 17 year old has an extremely serious mental illness and you are asking for opinions on a swinger's forum?????

What is wrong with you?

Get him to a GP or a hospital quickly"

Your daughter is extremely unwell and needs urgent heklp

Call 999. Go to a doctor. Make an urgent self referal to your local mental heath team. Go to your nearest A&E

No one on here can do anything more than offer sympathy or kind words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what you like; ask for treatment plans on forums for someone who wants to kill themselves. Some swingers here must be experts at giving you diagnoses and treatment plans

However, I am not mad enough to ask for these kind of serious issues on forums. I would have called an ambulance by now

I am outta here; good luck with the FabS mental health team"

This.

You need help for your daughter.. Real help.

I hope you manage to find it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Counselling will not help or stop the voices in her head.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

When a close family member of ours has a serious episode the mental health team come out to their house. Would your GP visit if you're finding it difficult to take him anywhere?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Sorry...her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She's asking people if they have any experiences of it,not their opinions of her as a mother. Our mental health care in this country isn't great and people aren't directed to the appropriate place for help as quickly as they should be. I would advise anyone who only wants to give advice about sex or swinging to not open these kinds of threads.

OP I would go to my GP and insist she is seen by professionals,and look up any charities or groups for mental health. They are run and used by people in the same position as you. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was also advised to go to A&E if I needed,or walk in clinics for mental health. Ask your doctor for your local centres,if you have any. Take your other children with you if you have to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My stepson had voices. I took him to our gp who referred him to a psychiatrist. They gave him anti psychotic drugs and anti depressants to level him.

The psychologists then spent many sessions with him working on a diagnosis for the root cause.

We're in a much better place now.

Just put the computer to one side and go and seek help.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Do what you like; ask for treatment plans on forums for someone who wants to kill themselves. Some swingers here must be experts at giving you diagnoses and treatment plans

However, I am not mad enough to ask for these kind of serious issues on forums. I would have called an ambulance by now

I am outta here; good luck with the FabS mental health team"

I also have three kids and would not use that as an excuse for helping one for them. When one gets ill, we all troop to the hospital and sit there ... so be it ... you must take action straight away for something like this, and get support for the whole family.

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Feel free to message me as I may have info that will be useful x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i work in mental health - your child needs professional help - take the other two kids with you and be overwhelmed - in the grand scheme of things it could be a whole heap worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really hope that she gets the required help my thoughts and prayers are with you both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your 17 year old has an extremely serious mental illness and you are asking for opinions on a swinger's forum?????

What is wrong with you?

Get him to a GP or a hospital quickly"
Honestly thats what we thought

wondered how long it would be for someone else with a bit of common sense to chirp in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had mental health probs for a few years... PTSD.... I'd say get on phone to GP asap.

Sounds like Xmas has maybe 'triggered' something

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

New Cross

Get a GP ref to MH services asap. If a 'incident' is actually happening call 999 for an ambulance but state a police escort will be needed in case she refuses.

Has she been smoking dope btw?

Feel free to pm me. Good luck. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your 17 year old has an extremely serious mental illness and you are asking for opinions on a swinger's forum?????

What is wrong with you?

Get him to a GP or a hospital quicklyHonestly thats what we thought

wondered how long it would be for someone else with a bit of common sense to chirp in"

I went to my GP asap,she told me to stop thinking. Two weeks later I was suicidal and down to under 8 stones. I didn't know what to do because I hadn't been in that position before. I didn't know I could have insisted on something more or what to insist on. No one told me what to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what you like; ask for treatment plans on forums for someone who wants to kill themselves. Some swingers here must be experts at giving you diagnoses and treatment plans

However, I am not mad enough to ask for these kind of serious issues on forums. I would have called an ambulance by now

I am outta here; good luck with the FabS mental health team"

I have bipolar too and it wouldn't stop me getting the right help because you of all people should know she needs it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This sounds similar to Mrs N's son. It is heart breaking to see it happening and it's like a car crash in perpetual slow motion.

It is up to your daughter to seek help as she is over 18 by the sounds of it. Thankfully she seems to acknowledge there is a problem by telling you she is hearing voices. This is something he did not for extremely complicated reasons that I could not possibly explain on here.

The only way our nightmare has been suspended was for the police to arrest him, imprison him on remand where it was picked up that there was something very wrong with his mental health. He is now in a mental home receiving treatment for psychosis. Been there nearly a year now so he must have been a pretty serious case and like you we went through all the cahms process and like you got nowhere because it was just a stalling process, waiting for the patient to do ever more awful things and I was in the firing line.

I have been attacked by him and had a tooth knocked out during one of his episodes. It is terrifying when they are off on one.

I do hope you get help as this is living nightmare. When they release him from section will our nightmare return. I am dreading it to be totally honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This sounds similar to Mrs N's son. It is heart breaking to see it happening and it's like a car crash in perpetual slow motion.

I have been attacked by him and had a tooth knocked out during one of his episodes. It is terrifying when they are off on one.

I do hope you get help as this is living nightmare. When they release him from section will our nightmare return. I am dreading it to be totally honest."

im damn well certain that when a person is suffering a crisis episode the fact they are over 18 has little to do with help being sought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See your gp asap.. Is the only advice.. Hope he /she gets the help and treatment to be well very soon x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what you like; ask for treatment plans on forums for someone who wants to kill themselves. Some swingers here must be experts at giving you diagnoses and treatment plans

However, I am not mad enough to ask for these kind of serious issues on forums. I would have called an ambulance by now

I am outta here; good luck with the FabS mental health team

I have bipolar too and it wouldn't stop me getting the right help because you of all people should know she needs it. "

She's not you though is she.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

OP please close fabs and make an urgent appointment with your GP or go to A & E.

If you have friends or family locally explain to them you have a crisis and need them to look after your younger children.

If your own mental health is not good, It can make it more difficult to deal with these kind of situations, but you need to act quickly as your daughter is in danger.

Get Professional Help for your daughter. URGENT

Get someone to help with care of your other children....family,

friend, neighbour.

Get support for yourself. Mental health helpline, carers support group,social worker ?

This is a lovely friendly site, but you need to get proper help NOW.

Please start making phone calls . You must get help today.

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By *r ManxMan
over a year ago

NeverWhere

If you are concerned enough to post on here just call an Ambulance and get everyone involved to a place of safety. If not get your GP involved. If you are not happy with GP's response ask to speak to the Practice manager and then ask to see another GP.

In some areas mental health provision is terrible you need to keep the confidence of your Teenager but you also need to fight to get them the help they need.

All so look into mindfulness

http://mindfulnessuk.com/

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By *rs Mia WallaceWoman
over a year ago

Bathwyche

Everybody has an internal dialogue. We all just manage it differently.

Yes it could be a serious mental illness (ie something that is 'incurable') but it is unlikely to be schizophrenia if it began in her early teens.

Schizophrenia typical develops around 18/19 when the brain goes through the final stages of development.

Depression, especially chronic, clinically depression can have a negative internal diaglogue and those 'voices' can be the internal voice that is telling her to kill herself, not those of auditory hallucinations. This is what it sounds like to be honest....and yes, she should go and see her GP straight away and started on a course of anti-depressents and also to ask to sign up to a short course of CBT...which is less about opening up and more about challenging the thoughts/associated behaviours. Anti-depressants take ages to kick in and prozac probably isn't the best. there are loads on the market and her individuality should be considered when accepting one....ie has she had eating disorders, does she have social anxiety. All of them can have different actions upon different things too.

To me, it sounds like a serious case of depression and should seek medication, in the first instance, immediately. Sounds silly....but also encouraging mindful acts, like colouring in....playing an instrument, gardening...what ever it is she likes..... some distraction technique to keep her mind of the voices. That might mean lie-ing on the sofa watching box sets.....They are negative voices of depression i believe, not schizophrenia. I hope that helps.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

Your 17 year old has an extremely serious mental illness and you are asking for opinions on a swinger's forum?????

What is wrong with you?

Get him to a GP or a hospital quickly"

Some people have their priorities totally the wrong way round!!!!!

You would be better spending time with your daughter and getting urgent help than being on fab chatting away...Samaritans should be able to help...

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

good luck to her and you.

Seeking professional help is key and the immediate step to take.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Your 17 year old has an extremely serious mental illness and you are asking for opinions on a swinger's forum?????

What is wrong with you?

Get him to a GP or a hospital quickly

Some people have their priorities totally the wrong way round!!!!!

You would be better spending time with your daughter and getting urgent help than being on fab chatting away...Samaritans should be able to help..."

You realise the OP hasn't been chatting away for nearly 5 hours ....... or eveb been online!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She was under Camhs but they kick you off the books at 17 an don't refer you to anyone.we've been left to get on with it ."

Cahms do not kick you off the books at 17. You continue till 18 where you are then passed over to the adult team... If that hasn't happened the go to your doctor to ask why. I'd have queried it at the time.

Get her to a doctor now. Do not let it get worse... And if talking to someone doesn't help there is other ways to do therapy.

My experience comes via work related and personal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's easy to be rational when a situation isn't personal to you. I've dealt with a few peoples seizures but when my son had one i panicked like fuck, despite previously being able to handle it. So don't expect OP to be rational, she's probably worried enough as it is.

Hope you've sought professional help OP, although they might not be able to do anything if she doesn't want to see someone about it.

Someone i know had these symptoms but didn't tell anyone about them and then acted on it. They're ok now, sorted with meds and counselling but it was scary at the time and i hadn't a clue what to do about it either. The only time anyone could intervene was when they were unconscious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was she d*unk ? On drugs ? Or does she ? You need to get proffessional advice/help asap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your 17 year old has an extremely serious mental illness and you are asking for opinions on a swinger's forum?????

What is wrong with you?

Get him to a GP or a hospital quickly

Your daughter is extremely unwell and needs urgent heklp

Call 999. Go to a doctor. Make an urgent self referal to your local mental heath team. Go to your nearest A&E

No one on here can do anything more than offer sympathy or kind words."

Maybe that's what the OP is looking for!!

Jesus people have some compassion

She has just found this out this place is her outlet and maybe just maybe someone on here might have gone through this so she's looking for understanding.

If u read all her replies she has sought help.

Ok Hun a serious mental illness popped into my mind but I'm not trained in that field.

My advice to you would to contact ur local gp or medical centre.

Over here (Dublin) we have PETA house and many more supporting clinics who would talk to you .. Maybe try find something similar.

It's great that ur daughter told you .. But it's also a cry for help . Suffering from a mental illness and dealing with 3 kids must b hard but right now focus on getting her help.. Even if u don't understand she is a danger to herself.

Hope you get some help soon xx

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By *ylonhunterMan
over a year ago

She needs help imeadately don't sit and waste time posting that on here sort your daughter out before she dose anything serious to herself or other!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your 17 year old has an extremely serious mental illness and you are asking for opinions on a swinger's forum?????

Well said

What is wrong with you?

Get him to a GP or a hospital quickly"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doctors or a&e ASAP as in today.

If shes been hearing voices for a long time why was she only on prozac not an anti psychotic?

Are they voices or inteusive thoughts?

Either way she meeds to be in hoapital or a doctors office by the end of today really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She needs help imeadately don't sit and waste time posting that on here sort your daughter out before she dose anything serious to herself or other!!!! "

Please look, this post was made at 7 this morning and the Op hasnt been on since then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your gp should be able to give you a number for a mental health crisis team in your area....call them asap

I really hope you get the help you need xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess she is dealing with it..

A lovely poster has informed me that the lady n daughter have sought help.

God there are so many judgemental people on here ..

This is a swingers site/ sex site where people are comfortable talking and showing their private life and most Inamate details .. Where people just go and fuck strangers BUT when someone feels the need to bare their soul In a time of need coz she prob doesn't have anyone to turn too she gets lifted out of it..

Shame on some of u..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess she is dealing with it..

A lovely poster has informed me that the lady n daughter have sought help.

God there are so many judgemental people on here ..

Shame on some of u..

Oh I am glad to hear that, fingers crossed the help they need is offered to them both xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess she is dealing with it..

A lovely poster has informed me that the lady n daughter have sought help.

God there are so many judgemental people on here ..

Shame on some of u..

Totally agree. Shocking that someone can't reach out for a little humanity from fellow human beings without being berated for it.

Hope the op manages to sort things out and finds some peace for her and her daughter over Christmas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also suffer with bipolar disorder and have times when I have voices in my head telling me to kill myself. These voices have been so strong at times that I have tried to act on them on more than one occasion. I have found these to be at times where my anxiety is at an all time high. When I feel that I am not in control of a situation, it is worse. I am on medication for my bipolar but it does not stop you being human and having feelings.

When I am in this state of mind, I tend to stay close to my family. I have been so see the psychologist who at times has upped my medication and offered me the chance to basically section myself for my own safety.

If your daughter is struggling like this and you have the mental health issues that you have which are hard enough, have you considered getting in touch with the GP, explaining the situation and asking if she can be sectioned under the mental health act. It seems harsh but that would give you the chance to get your head straight and be able to deal with the situation and would also give your daughter the chance to get the correct medication and help that she needs.

I am not ashamed to say that I have been sectioned twice when I have been in a very similar situation to your daughter and I truly believe that with the help that I needed so badly at that time, it literally saved my life.

I wish you all the best. xx

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"I guess she is dealing with it..

A lovely poster has informed me that the lady n daughter have sought help.

God there are so many judgemental people on here ..

Shame on some of u..

I think everyone who posted were concerned for the OP and her daughter however it was worded, but some did not phrase their replies with the compassion appropriate to the difficult situation.

I am relieved to know they have sought help and wish them both well and hope the whole family are able to enjoy Christmas in one form or another.

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By *fcdTV/TS
over a year ago

Southend

"We tried councilling for 2 yrs which didn't seem to help,maybe because she won't talk to anyone about it.I'm lucky to have got this much insight to how she's feeling,so desperate not to mess it up an go about things the wrong way for her."
I'm surprised you only got counseling. A friend's daughter has something very similar and she was immediately put on a regime of drugs, which quietened them down a lot and weekly therapy sessions for about a year. She's much better now and the few times they do break through, she knows to ignore them, which is a huge step forward.

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By *r ManxMan
over a year ago

NeverWhere

"I guess she is dealing with it..

A lovely poster has informed me that the lady n daughter have sought help.

God there are so many judgemental people on here ..

Shame on some of u..

I think everyone who posted were concerned for the OP and her daughter however it was worded, but some did not phrase their replies with the compassion appropriate to the difficult situation.

I am relieved to know they have sought help and wish them both well and hope the whole family are able to enjoy Christmas in one form or another. "

Excellent news. i wish them well, no one can properly understand depression unless they have delt with it personaly and its never the same we are all different and deal with things diferently

But if her posting on here and seeing the positive advice has helped her it has to be more positive than negative

( please excuse spelling misstakes if their are any my dyslexia spell checker has crashed )

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

"I guess she is dealing with it..

A lovely poster has informed me that the lady n daughter have sought help.

God there are so many judgemental people on here ..

Shame on some of u..

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

sharing details of your own health challenges is one thing, to share other people's doesn't sit comfortable with me.

glad she is doing ok

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

I understand the _iew that some people would question looking for support off a swinging website isn't always going to be the best place of contact to get the answers that you need. And yes, there may be some ground to this.

Though I think we should also recognise that swinging is a lifestyle with culture and has an ever growing community that is so diverse of colours, creeds, religions, background and socioeconomic scale.

With this in mind we do have to appreciate that what swinging means to one person can be different and unacceptable to others. Nevertheless, it should be respected that we are in it for different things.

So going back to the community. I personally see nothing wrong with advice, non-sexual conversation and cry for helps. There may be better tools out there to support this particular case but I think it's important to recognise that whilst swinging quenches our sexual desires, we are human at the end of the day and I see no reason for other swingers to not share their lives, if they feel the need, and others to offer support. Ideally positive but appreciate that sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind or play the devils advocate.

For the OP, I offer you empathy as a parent and sympathy to your experience.

I think your point does raise validity that the system still fails to provide real support for those that need it and do hope that you get a resource to support you, your daughter and your family.

I wish you all the best, and stay safe xx

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By *xoticloverMan
over a year ago

newcastle

For the OP, I offer you empathy as a parent and sympathy to your experience.

I think your point does raise validity that the system still fails to provide real support for those that need it and do hope that you get a resource to support you, your daughter and your family.

I wish you all the best, and stay safe xx "

Well said mate... Enjoyed reading your support, i felt as if someone has given words to my emotions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please get her some help even if it means A and E thinking of you all-I've been there I understand how terrifying it is to go through it and also can empathise as a parent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For the OP, I offer you empathy as a parent and sympathy to your experience.

I think your point does raise validity that the system still fails to provide real support for those that need it and do hope that you get a resource to support you, your daughter and your family.

I wish you all the best, and stay safe xx "

I think the point of many peoples posts wasnt so much about this being a swinging site but more the severity of the incident.

Its kinda like somone comming on here going "so my hubby had a stroke last night what do you think i should do" the obvious reaponse is gonna be why the hell haven't you got them to a hospital yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess she is dealing with it..

A lovely poster has informed me that the lady n daughter have sought help.

God there are so many judgemental people on here ..

Shame on some of u..

My only problem with the forums is the responses to some of the posts that are reaching out...To some people on here we are their 'friends'...In some cases maybe their only friends and they're looking for some help not criticism. How about we treat each other the way we would like to be treated particularly at this time of year but preferably for always."
In this case the majority posting are not qualified to offer advice let alone friendship, This is the last place in the world to bring your problems that only medical professionals can sort out

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

"I guess she is dealing with it..

A lovely poster has informed me that the lady n daughter have sought help.

God there are so many judgemental people on here ..

Shame on some of u..

My only problem with the forums is the responses to some of the posts that are reaching out...To some people on here we are their 'friends'...In some cases maybe their only friends and they're looking for some help not criticism. How about we treat each other the way we would like to be treated particularly at this time of year but preferably for always.In this case the majority posting are not qualified to offer advice let alone friendship, This is the last place in the world to bring your problems that only medical professionals can sort out"

So you're saying that some of the posters in this thread who have gone through similar circumstances have no relevant information or advice to offer? And that because we're on Fab we can't form friendships with other members? Does that mean somebody asking a question about a car problem I have experienced personally can't be answered because I'm not a mechanic? From my reading of the OPs post she wasn't asking for medical advice or even where to seek it...Just some information from someone at a stupid time in the morning when she felt low herself. I just hope you never find yourself in a position like this or needing help in any other way but in spite of your attitude and behaviour here I would still try and answer in a helpful and friendly manner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some very harsh people on here I must say

A little bit of empathy can go a long way sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some very harsh people on here I must say

A little bit of empathy can go a long way sometimes

And sometimes a forceful shove towards the hospital can go even further

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"Some very harsh people on here I must say

A little bit of empathy can go a long way sometimes

And sometimes a forceful shove towards the hospital can go even further "

I think people were just talking shit when the OP wasn't even on the site to reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a nephew with a similar problem, the gp put us in touch with the mental health crisis team,who were a great help,visiting when we need them, and with the right medication he is fine now and back at work and doing really well. Please seek help as it won't go away by its self, get the support you need xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your 17 year old has an extremely serious mental illness and you are asking for opinions on a swinger's forum?????

What is wrong with you?

Get him to a GP or a hospital quickly"

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"I guess she is dealing with it..

A lovely poster has informed me that the lady n daughter have sought help.

God there are so many judgemental people on here ..

Shame on some of u..

My only problem with the forums is the responses to some of the posts that are reaching out...To some people on here we are their 'friends'...In some cases maybe their only friends and they're looking for some help not criticism. How about we treat each other the way we would like to be treated particularly at this time of year but preferably for always.In this case the majority posting are not qualified to offer advice let alone friendship, This is the last place in the world to bring your problems that only medical professionals can sort out

I don't think mental health should be taken less seriously than physical health. If you thought you had broken your leg, you would seek medical advice, not the advice of the forum, surely?

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"I guess she is dealing with it..

A lovely poster has informed me that the lady n daughter have sought help.

God there are so many judgemental people on here ..

Shame on some of u..

My only problem with the forums is the responses to some of the posts that are reaching out...To some people on here we are their 'friends'...In some cases maybe their only friends and they're looking for some help not criticism. How about we treat each other the way we would like to be treated particularly at this time of year but preferably for always.In this case the majority posting are not qualified to offer advice let alone friendship, This is the last place in the world to bring your problems that only medical professionals can sort out

I don't think mental health should be taken less seriously than physical health. If you thought you had broken your leg, you would seek medical advice, not the advice of the forum, surely? "

I have just nicked my shin with my chain-saw; I'm pouring blood out, feeling very faint and I can see something white; oh yeah, I think its my shin bone

Dear Forum users (some of whom might be orthopaedic surgeons), what do you think I should do? I've got loads of band-aid in my bathroom cabinet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess she is dealing with it..

A lovely poster has informed me that the lady n daughter have sought help.

God there are so many judgemental people on here ..

Shame on some of u..

My only problem with the forums is the responses to some of the posts that are reaching out...To some people on here we are their 'friends'...In some cases maybe their only friends and they're looking for some help not criticism. How about we treat each other the way we would like to be treated particularly at this time of year but preferably for always.In this case the majority posting are not qualified to offer advice let alone friendship, This is the last place in the world to bring your problems that only medical professionals can sort out

I don't think mental health should be taken less seriously than physical health. If you thought you had broken your leg, you would seek medical advice, not the advice of the forum, surely?

I have just nicked my shin with my chain-saw; I'm pouring blood out, feeling very faint and I can see something white; oh yeah, I think its my shin bone

Dear Forum users (some of whom might be orthopaedic surgeons), what do you think I should do? I've got loads of band-aid in my bathroom cabinet"

Rub some salt in. Will make it better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess she is dealing with it..

A lovely poster has informed me that the lady n daughter have sought help.

God there are so many judgemental people on here ..

Shame on some of u..

My only problem with the forums is the responses to some of the posts that are reaching out...To some people on here we are their 'friends'...In some cases maybe their only friends and they're looking for some help not criticism. How about we treat each other the way we would like to be treated particularly at this time of year but preferably for always.In this case the majority posting are not qualified to offer advice let alone friendship, This is the last place in the world to bring your problems that only medical professionals can sort out

I don't think mental health should be taken less seriously than physical health. If you thought you had broken your leg, you would seek medical advice, not the advice of the forum, surely? "

The OP has sought medical help as a poster above has explained. This post was from yesterday,once the Op had let of some steam at 7am in the morning yesterday she did so. This was obviously a place she felt she could ask for anyone in a similar situation to speak to and get her own head in a place where she could think and get the help needed.

I personally think this post should be put to bed now, I am not here to judge anyone for their words or actions, we all have our own _iews on it. But i do think its enough now.

Merry Christmas all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion the nhs is useless with mental health , most doctors just want a 2 min chat then hand out pills , the nhs budget for mental health is a joke considering suicide is the biggest killer of men under 35 now .

I was diagnosed with PTSD last year and having ever suffered depression before it came on quickly and hit me like a brick wall ......before it happened to me I didn't understand it at all in other people .

The docs / nhs were useless , the pills made me too lethargic/ unfocused to be able to do my job .

The thing that helped me the most was the support of my friends, it shocked me how many people had been through similar and that alone was comforting , talking to them and knowing that it wasn't weakness that made me feel that way .

That is why people need to be much more open about it , to remove the stigma attached to mental illness of all kinds , this especially a problem for men as we like to be seen as strong .

So I say good on her for reaching out for a little support , its very easy to criticise someone from the outside looking in , and a couple of the comments on here I found to be overly judgemental .

But well done to those who offered help via pm .

Merry Christmas everyone

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Given the OP's obvious distress with the situation at the time of posting this thread, some of these recent responses are quite abrasive.

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By *r ManxMan
over a year ago

NeverWhere

Unless it is a update from the original poster let us know how she is getting on , I hope well.

This thread should be closed.

The op was obviously distressed and desperate for help and looked for help where she hoped she could get it without being judged.

Their is a large amount of open minded people on this forum with a wealth of experience both profession and personal from all sorts of work i.e Nurses, Dr , Paramedics, and people that work in and have had mental health problems .

Without say what I do, I deal with the public medical and up to 25% of the adults that I deal with are on or have been on antidepressants at some time in their life.

Mental health services are over stretched under resourced and the stigma of a mental health condition can make things worse.

If posting on here has helped the op to get her thoughts in order, so that she can get the appropriate help , it should be seen as a good thing .

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"I guess she is dealing with it..

A lovely poster has informed me that the lady n daughter have sought help.

God there are so many judgemental people on here ..

Shame on some of u..

My only problem with the forums is the responses to some of the posts that are reaching out...To some people on here we are their 'friends'...In some cases maybe their only friends and they're looking for some help not criticism. How about we treat each other the way we would like to be treated particularly at this time of year but preferably for always.In this case the majority posting are not qualified to offer advice let alone friendship, This is the last place in the world to bring your problems that only medical professionals can sort out

I don't think mental health should be taken less seriously than physical health. If you thought you had broken your leg, you would seek medical advice, not the advice of the forum, surely?

I have just nicked my shin with my chain-saw; I'm pouring blood out, feeling very faint and I can see something white; oh yeah, I think its my shin bone

Dear Forum users (some of whom might be orthopaedic surgeons), what do you think I should do? I've got loads of band-aid in my bathroom cabinet

Rub some salt in. Will make it better

Can't get to the salt shaker; am loosing conciousness

C'mmon; there must be some orthopaedic surgeons here (or atleast wannabe orthopaedics surgeons or someone who has experienced the same or someone who have watched it on television) who can mumble some kind words to fix me up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your 17 year old has an extremely serious mental illness and you are asking for opinions on a swinger's forum?????

What is wrong with you?

Get him to a GP or a hospital quickly"

Hmmm, I'm afraid I have to agree with this!

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By *ne hung loMan
over a year ago

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Have suffered anxiety issues many years call gp get home visit under circumstances think they will come to you it might not be as bad as you think best of luck

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By *xoticloverMan
over a year ago

newcastle

OP has sought help and has got appointment with IAPT...so things have improved...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good to hear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some very harsh people on here I must say

A little bit of empathy can go a long way sometimes

And sometimes a forceful shove towards the hospital can go even further

I think people were just talking shit when the OP wasn't even on the site to reply. "

Sounds typical of a lot on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a doctor. so if you need any help, please Pm me!

This case is beyond counselling. You need an immediate help. I won't advise you to speak to your GP.. i guess you have already done that. Just go to your local hospital! A and E!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is she acting on the voices she is hearing? If she is then it may be worth seeing if you can get a doctor to come out to the house and assess her. The important thing here is she has taken the first step in confiding in you, that takes a lot to admit as she is probably feeling a lot of shame guilt and embarrassment about her thoughts. If she isn't comfortable talking to other people then that's the first step to try work on, she's never going to walk into a councillors room and pour her heart out from the first meeting, may take some time of continuous changing of councillors until she finds one she feels more comfortable with, after that the steps get easier. Has she smoked in her young teens? That could be a contributing factor. My younger brother has been through the doctors and psychiatrist for these same symptoms, they originally diagnosed him as depressed, then schizophrenic and finally started to look into borderline personality disorder, he still isn't fully diagnosed yet, that will take time and commitment from him. He was 17/18 when he started the process of getting help. He still isn't 100% but he certainly functions much better with less episodes occurring (they usually happen with something that effects his emotions really bad,stress, upset, worry ect)

I hope she gets the help and gets on the road to recovery. Keep strong and as hard as it may be stay ppositive. A quick Google search will lead you to loads of forums and information sites that you could use as an extra guidance.

Peach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thread is two weeks old guys it just got bumped...

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By *uny1122Man
over a year ago

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Oh god ur 17 years trying that and u as a mother here on sex website sham on u look after ur baby don't be a englishi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh god ur 17 years trying that and u as a mother here on sex website sham on u look after ur baby don't be a englishi"

thats a bit shit suny , come on ffs

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

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Have suffered from very similar problems feel free to pm if you want to talk, a lot of people do not understand mental health and therefore do not no how to or what it takes to even begin dealing with it let alone live with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh god ur 17 years trying that and u as a mother here on sex website sham on u look after ur baby don't be a englishi

thats a bit shit suny , come on ffs"

I hope your daughter is being treated op x

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