FabSwingers.com forum: single women - do you worry going to a stranger's house?

By *urvyemma OP Woman
over a year ago

wigan/bolton

I have done this before. .just turned up at a total stranger's house but then in my saner moments I think what the fuck am I doing? ?

Does it ever worry you?

I don't have time or inclination for social coffee etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope because I wouldn't do it. Value my safety over a quick shag any day. Clubs only for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it does and that's why I don't do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would never do it!!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You need a txt buddy to tell him/her where you are going. I've done this for a lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it does, I feel safer meeting in a hotel on neutral ground so that's what I do unless it's someone I've got to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still doesn't guarantee safety at a later date but I always meet socially first in a public place and hubby always gets an up to date account of where I am. If I then arrange a meet at the guy's house, hubby gets the address and texts confirming i'm ok when i'm there. Do you have a friend who you could do this with? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You need a txt buddy to tell him/her where you are going. I've done this for a lady. "

I struggle to get a signal from under a stranger's patio. Just not on!

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By *urvyemma OP Woman
over a year ago

wigan/bolton

Yes I always text a friend with username and address and times of when I am meeting

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"Yeah it does and that's why I don't do it "

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I've only done it once but I did meet him for an incredibly brief social a couple of days before. In that case it worked out because I'm still seeing him a year on. Definitely an exception though; I like the neutrality of a hotel and meeting in public first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope because I wouldn't do it. Value my safety over a quick shag any day. Clubs only for me."

This for me too. Having had an experience, if I'd reported, would have seen someone serving time I'd never risk meeting at someone's house or a hotel ever again.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

I always meet at a pub close to their house with a view to going to theirs after. I've never not felt safe doing this because I chat to people for so long before I meet.

I have had men round to mine that I probably shouldn't have. THAT worries me more, strangers knowing where I live.

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

when single i never had trouble inviting ladies to my house, it depends on how you chat to them in the messages first

then there is the point that ladies always complain when the guy can't accommodate, so once again men can't win

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See I feel safer meeting at a stranger a house than a club or hotel.

Given we've had loads of posts on here about sexual assault and even rape at clubs they're hardly safer plus you have no idea who you met was at a club or a hotel.

At their house you've got their address for the police plus your dna all over their house.

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Were a couple looking for single men we always meet in a pub for a drink and a chat first never invite any one to our home with out meeting them or go straight to a house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No because I don't and wouldn't do it, nor do I invite anyone to meet first time at mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd always meet them socially first, but I wouldn't have a problem with it for a second meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope because I wouldn't do it. Value my safety over a quick shag any day. Clubs only for me."
yep, me too x

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By *mallteaserWoman
over a year ago

Central

Must admit if done this before, gut feeling xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have done this before. .just turned up at a total stranger's house but then in my saner moments I think what the fuck am I doing? ?

Does it ever worry you?

I don't have time or inclination for social coffee etc"

Im either an extremely good judge of character, very lucky or very naive, I do it all the time, go to guys houses and get in their cars. I've never had any issue so far (touch wood)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It helps that the statistical chance of being raped by a stranger is incredibly low.

If you want to protect yourself your friends and spouses are the ones who are most likely to assault you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have done this before. .just turned up at a total stranger's house but then in my saner moments I think what the fuck am I doing? ?

Does it ever worry you?

I don't have time or inclination for social coffee etc"

I'd love the chance to meet you, sadly I'm 2" too short, although the 2" did go elsewhere lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah it does and that's why I don't do it "

I have this worry to .. I have done it in the past.

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe

I cant accom myself but i always prefer hotels from my own safety point of view as well as that of the person im meeting xxx Not that im against a social meet first whatever they prefer really xxx

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Yeah it does and that's why I don't do it

I have this worry to .. I have done it in the past. "

Always done it. Since I was a teenager. I guess I like the thrill. Never had a problem. I refuse to have people at my house so always go to theirs. I also enjoy dipping into people's worlds and seeing their home environment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See I feel safer meeting at a stranger a house than a club or hotel.

Given we've had loads of posts on here about sexual assault and even rape at clubs they're hardly safer plus you have no idea who you met was at a club or a hotel.

At their house you've got their address for the police plus your dna all over their house.

Statistically less rapes happen in hotels or clubs than private resident's... ( you can easily research that)

I always think my view is a bit off from having worked with victims of violent sexual assault , so when you have worked helping it seems a much more common affair than to most people x

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe

"See I feel safer meeting at a stranger a house than a club or hotel.

Given we've had loads of posts on here about sexual assault and even rape at clubs they're hardly safer plus you have no idea who you met was at a club or a hotel.

At their house you've got their address for the police plus your dna all over their house.

Statistically less rapes happen in hotels or clubs than private resident's... ( you can easily research that)

I always think my view is a bit off from having worked with victims of violent sexual assault , so when you have worked helping it seems a much more common affair than to most people x "

True sad world we live in xxx Good job victims have people like yourself to turn to xxx Though it shouldnt be happening at all but its not a perfect world

xxx

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

It's obviously risky for the woman involved, and even more risky if she is visiting the home of a couple. It's also risky for a couple having a stranger visit their home.

Having said that, not all strangers are maniacs, some are simply lovely people you haven't met yet. We're happy to say that every time a stranger has come to our home we have found her to be delightful, and she has suffered nothing more sinister in our hands than a fabulous night of sexual debauchery.

Hooray for Fab!

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I've done it before, but that was back when I first started swinging. Was a little worrying, probably wouldn't do it now though.

As for the safety texts. If someone got angry with you and violent, they are going to let you text your friend, they are going to stand over your shoulder, or even type the message, making sure you say you are having a wonderful time, and everything is fine.

My safety texts always say "having a shit time. He's got a small dick." If they say anything different, my friend knows there is something wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See I feel safer meeting at a stranger a house than a club or hotel.

Given we've had loads of posts on here about sexual assault and even rape at clubs they're hardly safer plus you have no idea who you met was at a club or a hotel.

At their house you've got their address for the police plus your dna all over their house.

This

I've never ever had any problems meeting strangers at their home, but then I meet for a social first, make sure that they are verified and I dunno, the guys I've met have met friends from fab previous to me so I think I'm pretty safe

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"I've done it before, but that was back when I first started swinging. Was a little worrying, probably wouldn't do it now though.

My safety texts always say "having a shit time. He's got a small dick." If they say anything different, my friend knows there is something wrong. "

Very good advice!

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

"See I feel safer meeting at a stranger a house than a club or hotel.

Given we've had loads of posts on here about sexual assault and even rape at clubs they're hardly safer plus you have no idea who you met was at a club or a hotel.

At their house you've got their address for the police plus your dna all over their house.

I agree with this. I've always felt safer going to their home. I always do a safety call on the way in with details of the meet and on the way out to say I'm safe.

I've had three negative experiences. One was with a male friend in my home years ago, one was in a club and one was at a hotel.

Never at a man's home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've done it before, but that was back when I first started swinging. Was a little worrying, probably wouldn't do it now though.

As for the safety texts. If someone got angry with you and violent, they are going to let you text your friend, they are going to stand over your shoulder, or even type the message, making surest you say you are having a wonderful time, and everything is fine.

My safety texts always say "having a shit time. He's got a small dick." If they say anything different, my friend knows there is something wrong. "

Savvy

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

"See I feel safer meeting at a stranger a house than a club or hotel.

Given we've had loads of posts on here about sexual assault and even rape at clubs they're hardly safer plus you have no idea who you met was at a club or a hotel.

At their house you've got their address for the police plus your dna all over their house.

I agree with this. I've always felt safer going to their home. I always do a safety call on the way in with details of the meet and on the way out to say I'm safe.

I've had three negative experiences. One was with a male friend in my home years ago, one was in a club and one was at a hotel.

Never at a man's home. "

Have any men had any scary experiences going to a female's home?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See I feel safer meeting at a stranger a house than a club or hotel.

Given we've had loads of posts on here about sexual assault and even rape at clubs they're hardly safer plus you have no idea who you met was at a club or a hotel.

At their house you've got their address for the police plus your dna all over their house.

See for me it's more about if I'm in a hotel I know exactly how I'm getting home. If I'm at someone's house, then chances are it's an unfamiliar environment that straight away puts me at a disadvantage.

Clubs are irrelevant to me as I don't go to them but I do feel safer in a hotel. I'm not really coming at this from a DNA and prosecution point of view, I don't ever want to be in a situation where the police have to be involved in the first place.

Nothing is ever going to be foolproof but for me social meet + hotel makes me feel more comfortable and that's a good starting point.

Plus I like hotels and they're nice and clean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only ever meet in a Hotel! As long as you put the "Do not Disturb" sign on, then you know you have until at least 11am for them to find the body!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See I feel safer meeting at a stranger a house than a club or hotel.

Given we've had loads of posts on here about sexual assault and even rape at clubs they're hardly safer plus you have no idea who you met was at a club or a hotel.

At their house you've got their address for the police plus your dna all over their house.

I agree with this. I've always felt safer going to their home. I always do a safety call on the way in with details of the meet and on the way out to say I'm safe.

I've had three negative experiences. One was with a male friend in my home years ago, one was in a club and one was at a hotel.

Never at a man's home.

Have any men had any scary experiences going to a female's home?"

I think they're all quite happy, locked up in my basement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always meet at a pub close to their house with a view to going to theirs after. I've never not felt safe doing this because I chat to people for so long before I meet.

I have had men round to mine that I probably shouldn't have. THAT worries me more, strangers knowing where I live."

I ve done this too...the horn just gets the better of me and i make stupid decisions, after reading a horror story on the forums though i have stopped.

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By *b coupleCouple
over a year ago

southampton

We use our friends place for meets, he's not into the lifestyle but loves listening.

So we always have an X squaddy in the room next door.

Kinda of a strange set up now that I think about it lol

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

"See I feel safer meeting at a stranger a house than a club or hotel.

Given we've had loads of posts on here about sexual assault and even rape at clubs they're hardly safer plus you have no idea who you met was at a club or a hotel.

At their house you've got their address for the police plus your dna all over their house.

Nothing is ever going to be foolproof but for me social meet + hotel makes me feel more comfortable and that's a good starting point.

Plus I like hotels and they're nice and clean

I like hotels too. It's a different vibe hotels to home visits. I enjoy both. I just don't feel scared going to someone's home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See I feel safer meeting at a stranger a house than a club or hotel.

Given we've had loads of posts on here about sexual assault and even rape at clubs they're hardly safer plus you have no idea who you met was at a club or a hotel.

At their house you've got their address for the police plus your dna all over their house.

Nothing is ever going to be foolproof but for me social meet + hotel makes me feel more comfortable and that's a good starting point.

Plus I like hotels and they're nice and clean

I like hotels too. It's a different vibe hotels to home visits. I enjoy both. I just don't feel scared going to someone's home. "

I think it's partly a transport thing, I don't drive so if I started to feel uncomfortable at someone's house I'd have to sit there and wait for a taxi or roam the streets trying to find the bus stop.

I've been to the house of someone I trusted though and it was a different, but equally good vibe to a hotel. I just don't think I could quickly get to that level of comfortable with a total stranger in their home, so probably wouldn't enjoy it from the start.

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

"See I feel safer meeting at a stranger a house than a club or hotel.

Given we've had loads of posts on here about sexual assault and even rape at clubs they're hardly safer plus you have no idea who you met was at a club or a hotel.

At their house you've got their address for the police plus your dna all over their house.

I agree with this. I've always felt safer going to their home. I always do a safety call on the way in with details of the meet and on the way out to say I'm safe.

I've had three negative experiences. One was with a male friend in my home years ago, one was in a club and one was at a hotel.

Never at a man's home.

Have any men had any scary experiences going to a female's home?"

My friend met a woman on another site. Had a coffee meet, all great. Went to hers a few nights later, turned up a little early and saw at least 5 guys through her window. Ran like hell back home. Said he thought they were there to mug him. Suppose, giving her the benefit of the doubt, she could have just arranged a gang bang and not told him but scared him a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a little protective, so I'm happier if ladies have someone who know where they are going and if not in city centre, could go and pick them up if it came to that.

Saying that, it's only ever been me that's had a problem: with a man following me into my London hotel and trying to go in my room with me! So maybe I should start worrying about myself and hotels instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a little protective, so I'm happier if ladies have someone who know where they are going and if not in city centre, could go and pick them up if it came to that.

Should have let him in. Might have been fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't go to a strangers house I only do house visits with men i have met previously

what amazes me though is the amount of guys who offer to come pick me up, would any women on here get in a car with somebody they had never met before?

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

"I wouldn't go to a strangers house I only do house visits with men i have met previously

what amazes me though is the amount of guys who offer to come pick me up, would any women on here get in a car with somebody they had never met before? "

Yes. All the time. Last two club visits I had, I made arrangements through fab for lifts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't go to a strangers house I only do house visits with men i have met previously

what amazes me though is the amount of guys who offer to come pick me up, would any women on here get in a car with somebody they had never met before?

Yes. All the time. Last two club visits I had, I made arrangements through fab for lifts. "

really?

see I don't view that as any different to getting in a car with a guy who offers you a lift in the street

they could drive you anywhere

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By *ubicinchMan
over a year ago

Gwynedd

I don't get this hotel security thing; if you are going to get alone in a room with a nut job, what difference does it make if its a car, a caravan, a hotel room, or his house? If he's going to overpower you, he will, no matter where, even if it is out in the middle of a park or quiet street. Choose wisely, read the veris, contact the veris for feedback maybe? Meet somewhere public, if he's edgy and pushy, bail out. But still, look at Ted Bundy. I know, that's extreme, best shut up now or nobody will ever meet ever again lol.

Just be careful and stay safe lovely fabbers

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Have any men had any scary experiences going to a female's home?"

As a single pringle, I had gone with single women to their homes and must admit that I always felt a little uncomfortable in this situation. I always preferred meeting couples as there was a safety net and at least no accusations could be made as such.

That was just a personal feeling.

Single women have to be careful. At the end of the day, there is always a risk element whether hotel, their house, your house or otherwise. A shame as everyone is entitled to have fun.

However, it really is about common sense and minimising risk.

My partner in her single days did go to meet a couple once at their house (only to find out that his "partner" was on call and had to pop out).

At that point she really should have left, and whilst nothing too bad really happened, he was a bit rough, it was an uncomfortable experience for her.

So please take this on board too.

There are some real serious blaggers out there on the point of desperate to go through lies to get a thrill and a fuck.

Gut feeling is also good to go on. If it doesn't feel right, protect yourself.

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

"I wouldn't go to a strangers house I only do house visits with men i have met previously

what amazes me though is the amount of guys who offer to come pick me up, would any women on here get in a car with somebody they had never met before?

Yes. All the time. Last two club visits I had, I made arrangements through fab for lifts.

really?

see I don't view that as any different to getting in a car with a guy who offers you a lift in the street

they could drive you anywhere

Yes they could. But I have measures in place. They also had veris on fab and I had a friend with me.

Honesty, I've had worst experiences with people I know and trust. Strangers don't phase me and I've had positive experiences. Maybe I have a good judgement call. Maybe it's luck. Either way, it's worked so far and I've been doing it since I was 15.

I must point out that my good judgement has been with strangers and not with picking husbands but that's a whole other story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't have a problem going to their homes. ..I'd have more of a problem meeting them for the first time in a hotel and would never let a guy pick me up in their car for the first time ....I always get to know them through fab then WhatsApp and always chat before a meet ...I've lived by this and it's never let me down yet ...call it lucky or a good judge of character I don't know x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't get this hotel security thing; if you are going to get alone in a room with a nut job, what difference does it make if its a car, a caravan, a hotel room, or his house? If he's going to overpower you, he will, no matter where, even if it is out in the middle of a park or quiet street. Choose wisely, read the veris, contact the veris for feedback maybe? Meet somewhere public, if he's edgy and pushy, bail out. But still, look at Ted Bundy. I know, that's extreme, best shut up now or nobody will ever meet ever again lol.

Just be careful and stay safe lovely fabbers

I know I am losing out by being overly paranoid about people. I am actually a good judge of people. To the degree that Mr calls me a witch at times. Yet I just have negative things from my past which i still let cloud my judgement x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've done it before, but that was back when I first started swinging. Was a little worrying, probably wouldn't do it now though.

My safety texts always say "having a shit time. He's got a small dick." If they say anything different, my friend knows there is something wrong. "

Great idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See I feel safer meeting at a stranger a house than a club or hotel.

Given we've had loads of posts on here about sexual assault and even rape at clubs they're hardly safer plus you have no idea who you met was at a club or a hotel.

At their house you've got their address for the police plus your dna all over their house.

Statistically less rapes happen in hotels or clubs than private resident's... ( you can easily research that)

I always think my view is a bit off from having worked with victims of violent sexual assault , so when you have worked helping it seems a much more common affair than to most people x "

What's the reporting rate for sexual asssult in swinger a club cause I'd guess it would be in the single didget percent range through embarrassment etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See I feel safer meeting at a stranger a house than a club or hotel.

Given we've had loads of posts on here about sexual assault and even rape at clubs they're hardly safer plus you have no idea who you met was at a club or a hotel.

At their house you've got their address for the police plus your dna all over their house.

Nothing is ever going to be foolproof but for me social meet + hotel makes me feel more comfortable and that's a good starting point.

Plus I like hotels and they're nice and clean

As long as I can see my motorbike out the window im happy :p

also helps that I turn up wearing full body armour and knuckle dusters ^_^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always have a social meet first, but prefer to meet privately rather than clubs. I don't have a problem with going to other people's homes and don't bother with a text buddy. If I'm going to get fucked over, a text buddy isn't going to be of much use. I really don't see clubs as a safer option.

I prefer to be responsible for my own safety and trust my own judgement.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

My very first meet on this site, I went to a guys house. It ended horribly wrong, with me driving home at 5am totally naked.

Biggest mistake ever, but I've learned from that now and do club meets only, although with a regular buddy, I feel safe to go back to his.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to get knocked on here a lot for only wanting hotel meets,but I always stick to my guns xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After rushing into my one of my first ever meets on here at a guys house and ending up in hospital, I am now really careful about where I meet a guy. I generally stick to playing in clubs but will still go to a guys house after a social and a few weeks of chatting until I trust them x

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By *urvyemma OP Woman
over a year ago

wigan/bolton

Omg what happened?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I always have a social first and if the guy isn't happy to do that he's not my kind of guy anyway.

My women's intuition is pretty finely tuned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There obviously is nice people out there but the weirdos outweigh them. Never would I do it but my friend did n she got spiked with ecstasy n he wouldn't let her leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got lifts from strangers to clubs all the time but I check their profiled n verfiys etc and go on my gut instincts.

I have been to a few couples homes on first meet just go by gut instincts nothing has happened to me so far.......usually have a social meet first before hotel meet or invite to my home though

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By *leasurehunters7Couple
over a year ago

Youghal, Co. Cork

I've done both, turned up at a strangers house and had strangers into my home.

However Ireland is a very small country and it turned out that he knew my little brother and vice versa.

As for inviting strangers into my home, I dont live alone and always point out that my male house mate is up stairs or on his way home. Thats assuming of course that they hadn't met him at the door. All in all positive experiences.

I also think that the verfication process on here offers a certain amount of protection but again its a very small community.!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always talk a while before meeting for a social and so far its always worked out ok Ive never felt I was in danger when going to someones house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much all of my meets have been at mine or his/theirs. I'll never do a last minute meet though and usually chat via here and WhatsApp for a while first. I won't arrange anything till I feel comfortable and if I'm unsure I will do a social first (with a view to play the same day) but that's pretty rare for me... Unless you count having a brew before play. Maybe I've just been lucky but it's always worked for me. Think I can count on one hand the number of times I've met and it hasn't resulted in play

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By *o_added_sugarWoman
over a year ago

A club not so many miles away

I have met complete strangers only after a couple of messages and gone straight to their house. You have to use your judgement on this one. Another reason why I like verifications so you can see that they have met others and they have been "safe" I always check in with a friend before and after I leave home and they always know where I'm going. I use to always ensure that my meet was aware that my friend knew all this too. And once in the home be aware where the key is if the door is locked behind you. Everything is a risk even a social or a club meet but It's a calculated risk you need to be confident you can deal with if it goes wrong.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Yeah it does, I feel safer meeting in a hotel on neutral ground so that's what I do unless it's someone I've got to know. "

I've read on here women who've met in hotels only to be met by groups of men who had paid for a gang bang with her, whilst she was expecting a one on one meet.

I meet socially first: some of my meets ask to meet me socially several times as they'll be coming to my home and be tied up and gagged and want to feel safe and comfortable.

These playmates I have no qualms about going to their home. A strangers house? No, I wouldn't.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"See I feel safer meeting at a stranger a house than a club or hotel.

Given we've had loads of posts on here about sexual assault and even rape at clubs they're hardly safer plus you have no idea who you met was at a club or a hotel.

At their house you've got their address for the police plus your dna all over their house.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Just be careful and stay safe lovely fabbers

I don't get the hotel is safe either. Also verifications mean fuck all to me. Using your example, Ted Bundy didn't kill every woman he met and many women had nice things to say about him: the ones he butchered would differ.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be careful and stay safe lovely fabbers

I don't think hotels are completely safe. Nothing is completely safe. But I feel safer in a hotel room in a big building with a lot of other people in it in a city centre I can get home from really easily, than I do alone in a house that no one has seen me go into, that's probably in an unfamiliar area.

For me it's not even about getting attacked or whatever because the likelihood of that is pretty small. It's more about being able to leave easily without it being really awkward if I feel uncomfortable. That I find easier if in a hotel rather than someone's home.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Just be careful and stay safe lovely fabbers

I can understand that, it's just you get the impression some people think hotels are 100% safe.

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By *a petite madameWoman
over a year ago

London / Essex

I appear to have been very lucky. When I first started meeting, I used to get in people's cars/ go to their homes. These days I would not dream of doing that. I always have a social meet and will only play in a club initially. As a result, I do not meet as much, which is fine if it means my safety isn't compromised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo meet socially first and then is still try meet at a neutral venue eg a hotel

Even when on as a cpl we did this with single guys , they need to feel comfy too in their surroundings

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By *edkent69Man
over a year ago

maidstone

"I always talk a while before meeting for a social and so far its always worked out ok Ive never felt I was in danger when going to someones house"

Sounds very sensible x

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