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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

hi all,hope ur well,quite new to site and still a bit green around the ears,why is it that a high percentage of people who s add is responded to dont reply? Its quite disheartening for someone like myself who has done alot to make my profile as honest and true as i can,i feel as though their is a whole load of action going on and im missing out.any other guys feel the same? Ok moan over,lets here what u all think,i welcome advice without predjudice

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Some will use grammar, punctuation and spelling as reasons.

Others will just not fancy you.

But you'll find someone if you go about things the right way - whatever way that is!

Bon chance!

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By *on-bazCouple
over a year ago

rushden

You have been on this site 5 weeks and have had one meet. Compared to a lot of other single guys on here you have done well. Why ya moaning?

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

5 weeks and you've had a meet so you're not doing too bad,it can take months and months for single guys to get anywhere on here

I would'nt let lack of response get you down,lots of people won't enter into discussion if they're not interested and if they get lots of mail they won't have the time or the inclination to respond to everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with SDM...

Before emailing do you check you are in their age range if the are looking for guys,if you smoke will they meet smokers? Things like that make a difference in what people are looking for.

You only been on here 5 weeks and already have a couple of meets under your belt so your doing better than a lot of single guys on here...

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

lol not moaning lol just fuckin horny as hell and expected more than 1 meet in 5 weeks lol . Just looking for ways to out the timewasters and liars lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol not moaning lol just fuckin horny as hell and expected more than 1 meet in 5 weeks lol . Just looking for ways to out the timewasters and liars lol "

Lol did you expect a meet every night of the week?

This maybe a swing site but women dont drop there knickers just because they have had an email.

As for timewasters and fakes an early phone call to the fem or couple usually s them out

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"i feel as though their is a whole load of action going on and im missing out

lol not moaning lol just fuckin horny as hell and expected more than 1 meet in 5 weeks lol . Just looking for ways to out the timewasters and liars lol "

That about sums it up for us! It has already been said, just because this is a swingers site (and some don't even consider you a swinger!) it doesn't mean you will be able to shag anything that moves.. We have said before on other threads that you may have better luck at a club/pub on a Saturday night...

We think there are way too many "chancer" type single guys on the scene that ruin it for the genuine ones and the above comments don't help your cause in our book!

Just our opinion...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi mate,

Gotta say I was thinking of placing a similar thing on here a few days ago but you know what? I thought I was damn lucky enough to have even one meet with all my supposed disadvantages (I'm not built average... I'm a little festively plump!)

Unfortunately the reality is that this is not a porno set, all of us are real and getting rejected (or accepted) for a meet is part of having a site like this with way more men than women.

I'd personally like to see the ranks of single blokes gone through to see if we are all as genuine as we say we are. As others have said it doesn’t help when "chancer" types inevitably tarnish us all with the same brush. It must be hard getting dozens of messages a day and trying to see through the inevitable bullshit ones.

I've taken a lot of time with my profile (and the messages I send out) and I still get 99% of my messages rejected.

Yes some people just want to "fuck and forget" but a few of us don’t (I feel like I’m the only one!) and that pushes us into the sidelines even more.

I think I've said my piece, probably gone a little off tangent but I want to air my views as much to say "welcome to the reality of a site like this" as much to sympathise about the mass rejections.

H

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

You expected?

Sorry hunny but dont think its a good idea to expect anything.

I am hoping your aware that single men far far far outweight single fems and couples. But you expect?

Are you actually reading the profiles before you mail them to check you fit their criteria. If you mail someone who states that your too young or too old for them then there isnt much point.

Honestly tho dont assume anything will happen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i appreciate your view and respect them,but to me this is all about a lifestyle choice,i choose not to meet normal partners,i cant express myself in a normal style relationship,so i chose to enter into this lifestyle and was expressing my frustrations with the hype of some of the members on here regarding their so called success on here. And as with all minority communities their is a definite click operating in some of the communities ,and as for being a chancer mate-ill leave that to nigel havers happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i dont expect anything,just as i dont expect to be full up after a meal in mcdonalds lol,

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

Expected???

What/who the fuck do you think the women/couples on here are?

Rent-a-shag?

Will-fuck-anything-that-moves-Beryl?

This is NOT 'I'm-an-easy-lay.com'

It's the single blokes whining because they don't get that swinging is about trust, honesty and connection and not about getting your leg over every night of the week, that piss people off.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


"lol not moaning lol just fuckin horny as hell and expected more than 1 meet in 5 weeks lol . Just looking for ways to out the timewasters and liars lol "

Looking at your profile, you are a barebacker. (no safe sex tick)

Most will not entertain you on that basis alone.

Too dangerous for the majority.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


" And as with all minority communities their is a definite click operating in some of the communities"

So because your mails go unanswered and people aren't throwing themselves at you, they're a clique?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i been on here for quite a while, without much luck now i ain't moaning that's how it is on here with the single males far outnumbering the females and couples.

the idiots and timewasting single fella's that put there profiles on here spoil it for us genuine ones who want to be trusted and believed.

will keep plodding on in the hope i do get to meet some sexy gals whenever that may be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" was expressing my frustrations with the hype of some of the members on here regarding their so called success on here. "

Huh?!! That's a new one!!

I've seen countless posts about not getting meets, yet to see one complaining about having to beat them off with a stick!

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


" was expressing my frustrations with the hype of some of the members on here regarding their so called success on here. "

And those single males are respectful, never moanor whinge about not getting meets, join in the forums/chat rooms, get to the socials and actually meet people, don't treat the women like cattle or just something to shag, speak to the male of the couple to make sure that they are acceptable, join in and generally get to know the people they are trying to meet.

There are extremely successful single blokes on here, I'm met most of them socially at parties/socials.

They all have one thing in common.

They treat everyone with respect!

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By *jaexWoman
over a year ago

staines

Bare back 100% no no. I as a single fem on the site for a year have met and played with some very nice single guys. Us girls aren't gagging for it off any tom dick and harry!!!!!!! If you are lucky enough to have a social meet, get a good verify or two! Then you can network with friends etc Us girl read all the details before replying. ALWAYS safety first!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all this advice is great, but being a single dad makes if very difficult to make the social meets if i can't get a babysitter for my little one.

i would love to be able to get a few more verifications, so gals know i am genuine but alas that's not always poss. will keep posting in here and chat in the chat rooms

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