FabSwingers.com forum: Would you meet someone if they wouldnt chat on phone

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There's a guy on here who want's me to meet him .He lives in Coventry and he expects me to drive over 20 miles away and he refuses to give me his mobile number and also refuses to chat on phone before meet.

I've told him time and time again no. Just wanted to know your thoughts on this .

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i'm really funny about chatting on the phone for some reason (even worse cos i work in a call centre lol) but will give my number out no problem for texts.

i do speak on the phone but for some reason i get a nerous feeling when someone sugests a phone call initially - weird i know

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

No!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Definetly no, sounds very fishy to me. Anyone is capable of picking up a phone and speaking for a few moments, even more so if its you traveling to him

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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago

clacton on sea

sounds like one of them swingle guys you know the one with the wife at home who doesn't understand his needs, so no i wouldn't meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tell him no

no chat - no meet - simples !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

No.....if someone can't be bothered to have a quick chat on the phone then I would just assume they were a waste of time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, no contact number, no chat, means no meet for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely sounds iffy!

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

Presumably, when you've driven to Coventry and he's not there, you have no way of getting hold of him.

Definately NO.

If in doubt...... don't do it (simple rule of swinging)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definatly no chance,we would never meet anyone we havnt spoke to on the phone first x

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By *hristalCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

No chat no meet!

Funnily enough i have a single guy that wont send a facial.

He keeps trying and i said no pic no meet.

Makes me wonder what they have to hide

Christal x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No No No and thats three nos sorry he aint going ta Hollywood xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont meet him at all under any circumstances, far too dangerous and if he wont give his mobile out, sounds like he is not really single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A BIG FAT NO........ OH AND A NO......

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By *assybutclassyCouple
over a year ago

Swingin seaside resort....

definately no hun....if he can't be bothered to chat to you on phone first then stay well clear.....xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what they ^ all said defo no no best to be safe than sorry.

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

Definately no, a lot can happen between logging off fab and driving to your meet 20 miles away, you both have to be contactable in case of no-show whatever the reason.

And why wouldn't you want to have a short conversation on the mobile? very suspicious!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

might be a homophobic for all you know, get you out then, you get the crap kicked out of your... or worse and there is no way of catching him.

id not bother with him, better to be safe than.... dead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

I've told him time and time again no. Just wanted to know your thoughts on this .

Why are you even asking? If he won't talk on the phone he has problems. I know there is a recognised phone phobia though so if he has that TELL him to drive 20 miles to YOU and just for a coffee. You should NEVER meet for sex if you haven't so much as spoken

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By *imnher2Woman
over a year ago

watford

no way. if he wants a meet im sure he can spare a minute or 2 to confirm he is genuine.. otherwise stay well clear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definately 'NO'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NOOOOOOOO!! It sounds like he wants you to know as little about him as possible.

He could be a bloody psycho for all you know or married at the very least.

Block and delete.........you know it makes sense.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fully agree with all the above that give a resounding "NO", play safe - if someone will not comply with something so simple as face picture or 'phone call then don't waste your time on them.... have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of curiousity, have you chatted via web cam etc, or is he just expecting you to meet blind with no other contact except asking to meet via email.

Some people dont like phone chats, but still give out numbers to confirm or in case something crops up.

Just go with you're intuition.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've asked him time and time again?!!

After the FIRST time didn't you have a clue?!!

You shouldn't have to ask surely: alarm bells should have deafened you!

No, no and thrice NO!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont chat on phone but do chat in the chat room and ask to see face on cam or msn if they dont expect me to play there. otherwise it a big no if cant come on in room or chat without whispering in room

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By *UNCHBOXMan
over a year ago

folkestone

"Hi

I've told him time and time again no. Just wanted to know your thoughts on this .

Send him to Coventry (metaphorically speaking)!.

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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

"i'm really funny about chatting on the phone for some reason (even worse cos i work in a call centre lol) but will give my number out no problem for texts.

i do speak on the phone but for some reason i get a nerous feeling when someone sugests a phone call initially - weird i know"

Exactly the same as us, we get people aasking to speak on the phone after two messages and we find this a little off putting. we do not mind chatting if we got a meeting arranged put to chat after one or two mails and no meet arranged. everyone to there own i guess.

sue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i personally wouldnt meet anyone I have not spoken to on the telephone, cos for all i know it cud be another fem unless you speak on the fone or seen them on cam how do you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont like the idea of arranging a meet and then hanging around looking like billy not mates. I always think you can tell a lot by the tone of voice, the words they use, whether they laugh easily etc. My biggest fear has always been arriving at a hotel only to find more than the person I expected in the room ie several guys who are rough physically. I am a 1 on 1 girl.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if someone didnt give me a number to text or call, i would be suss sorry x

go with your gut feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely agree, not chat on phone,, not happy to be asked out of the blue questions. I'd certainly not meet anyone who did't! xd

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

I've had meets where a phone call prior to meeting has proved to be unnecessary, but an outright refusal to speak on the phone? I'd give it a miss.

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By *pecial bbCouple
over a year ago

london

No No No No No

If you have any doubts at all say no.

Go with your instincts and keep safe.

I would block him too. Def something suspicious there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A def "NO", for your own safety you need to inform someone else where you going to and who you meeting...and if this guy doesn't want to give a number then your own safety isnt there at all...sounds like some that enjoy asking people for meets and never turn up...get a kick out of that..sad!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my guess is hes a married guy....... sounds very odd to me.... dump i say xxx

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

no call=no meeet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have a different view on this. P is very shy when it comes to talking on the phone, but shes got no probs going on cam, meeting up, she holds constant ann summers parties for girls on fab and she has no issues when it comes to the sexy time. Just more of a texter really.

if he goes on cam etc, then id mabye say hes just really shit over the phone like my girl x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"have a different view on this. P is very shy when it comes to talking on the phone, but shes got no probs going on cam, meeting up, she holds constant ann summers parties for girls on fab and she has no issues when it comes to the sexy time. Just more of a texter really.

if he goes on cam etc, then id mabye say hes just really shit over the phone like my girl x

I wont talk on the phone, i just dont like it, even with friends i will txt them or go and see them b4 i would pick up the fone. So im happy enough to give out ma moby number if im going to meet some1, and will do a 2 min call, just to confirm im a female, but would rather txt, so most of my meets havent involved a call.

Thu I wouldnt go to meet someone if my only contact had been thru here.

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By *ooneyCouple
over a year ago

Chester

no way, you must ask yourself whats the problem with talking on the phone ? 100 years ago there may have been a genuine issue lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no. never, ok maybe we will miss out on some nice genuine people but I am sure we will avoid a lot more timewasters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet unless I've spoken to them. For me it give us "both" the chance to see how we will get on before meeting up for the first time.

Personally if I can talk to someone easily on the phone then I'm pretty sure we'll get on if we meet, even if there isn't the "spark" there - so I'll have a nice time meeting up anyway

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By *ubblyjoyWoman
over a year ago

west lakes

for me would be a definate no ,,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No No No Definately Not.......sounds a bit dodgy to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i never chat on the phone, i just dont like phones, yet have met lots of people so yes i would meet without talking on the phone and so do other people lol

however i am happy to use my web cam to verify i am female, its not because i have something to hide.....ie a cock lol i just dont like phones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"might be a homophobic for all you know, get you out then, you get the crap kicked out of your... or worse and t

here is no way of catching him.

id not bother with him, better to be safe than.... dead

i think thats a little OTT, if shes going to his house in cov hes giving her his address so if he does 'kick the crap out of her' theres more chance of catching him with an addrsss that a mobile number, anyone can sling a sim card and get a new one you cant sling your address in 5 mins lol

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