FabSwingers.com forum: Message help

By *ordl97 OP Man
7 days ago

Andover

Over a year on this site and no matter what i do i never get a reply, i try be respectful with my messages, but i have no idea how to grab someones attention

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
7 days ago

Central

No physical reply is a reply of 'no thanks', if you read the site FAQ.

Recipients will almost always view the sender's profile, before a message and if you're not matched, they move on.

Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people, so messages get no reply

Get to clubs and Fab socials, to get known in person. Plus read posts from men who struggle and the advice given them, taking on board what could work.

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By *ull of PuddinWoman
7 days ago

isle of munters

Are you asking for general advice?

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By *ordl97 OP Man
7 days ago

Andover

Yes

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By *ordl97 OP Man
7 days ago

Andover

I get that, i never spam message etc, i just dont know what im doing wrong

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By *rectus HumongusMan
6 days ago

uranus

Omg not another one of these, with you being on here quite a while would have thought you checked fab rules and frequently asked questions it is covered there, or as I suspect it is a pity post.

I may come across cynical I suppose on this topic I am, as similar thing crops up all the time.

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By *rectus HumongusMan
6 days ago

uranus

"No physical reply is a reply of 'no thanks', if you read the site FAQ.

Recipients will almost always view the sender's profile, before a message and if you're not matched, they move on.

Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people, so messages get no reply

Get to clubs and Fab socials, to get known in person. Plus read posts from men who struggle and the advice given them, taking on board what could work.

Cracking post

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By *iss DevilWoman
6 days ago

Bedford

OP, as it has been stated many, many times before on similar threads, women and couples tend to read profiles before deciding whether they want to have a conversation with the message sender. You may not think they do look at your profile as mostly they look in "ninja" mode, so they don't show on "who looked at me" page - that prevents the "you looked at my profile" type of messages.

Make sure your profile is as informative as it can be, as well as telling your potential meets why they should choose you over the other thousands of men.

Then the age range - yours is very restrictive, I don't think there are that many 18 to 30 years old on here.

Plus here goes what is normally advised to people who struggle to get replies (and this advice has been already been given to you higher on this thread): get yourself out into the real world. If swingers clubs are not your thing, then there are organised socials available. However, single male spaces, if available, go very fast.

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By *ull of PuddinWoman
6 days ago

isle of munters

If you come back OP......

Read the last 4 threads in this section

The advice on them threads is the standard advice

One of them threads, the guy actually has a fantastic profile

Because he made the effort to write one in the first place.

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By *erPleasureHisRulesCouple
6 days ago

Barnsley

How to grab our attention.

Have decent pics on your profile.

Have a decent profile telling us about yourself.

Send a decent message not just "hi, how are you?" Or 'how are you finding Fab?".

Lastly be attractive to my wife, obviously you either are or aren't not much you can do about that one.

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By *ersatilefoxMan
6 days ago

Notts

You aren't doing anything wrong. Unfortunately the ratio of men to women on here is around 100:1 . So the women have a massive pool to choose from. And can be very picky, which they are entitled to do. You have to be one of those stand out people with your profile. Even then it's actually pot luck if your profile ever gets seen. Lots of women get so many messages they have to bulk delete many times.

Just keep at it , or as people on here have already said, go to socials, clubs. But here again as a single guy you will be penalised with inflated entry fees and lots of the clientele not wanting single guys there.

I've been very fortunate in certain respects in six years I've had five meetings, all of them in the first four years. Nothing since. On the other hand I could have a different guy or more every day, if that's what I wanted.

Good luck OP

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By *ordl97 OP Man
5 days ago

Andover

Thank you, it isnt a pitty post etc, i always take a "read" or "deleted" message as a no and dont send anymore, was just asking if theres any advice on how to actually grab someones attention

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By *aphunterMan
5 days ago

horsham

"Over a year on this site and no matter what i do i never get a reply, i try be respectful with my messages, but i have no idea how to grab someones attention"

Maybe say what you like in your description?

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By *aphunterMan
5 days ago

horsham

Just read my reply, sounded a bit cold, sorry I was multitasking. I wanted to add that fabs takes time, try and get involved here on the forums too, go to clubs (not that I have) and I’m sure you will do fine

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By *xSirenaxxWoman
5 days ago

OP, the harsh reality is that your profile and messages aren't resonating with the people you're messaging. Eg "Hey, how are you?" is respectful, but it's also the fab equivalent of plain toast. Nothing to engage with.

Good photos and an interesting profile do most of the heavy lifting. People like to blame the man to women ratio, but often the issue is that they're not giving others a reason to reply.

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By *ister MeanerMan
5 days ago

Manchester

It’s supply & demand on here, so unfortunately you need to accept you’re always going to be shooting in the dark. Don’t take it personally, it’s very much a buyers market for lasses on here so you either stand out or you don’t.

I rarely get replies too but equally I don’t spam people as I can appreciate that’s infuriating & probably the cause of a lot of frustration for women on here. A good trick is occasionally I’ll check my sent box and do the following:

If they’ve not replied and deleted my message, I’ll just instantly block them. Not as a ‘fuck you’ but more it stops them reappearing in future searches and let’s be honest, a deletion usually means zero interest now & forever.

If they’ve read it and left on read, after a week with no reply then I’ll do the same as above as I’ve had some replies a day or two after they read my message, but anything long than a week just gives me the vibe they’re not interested. No hard feelings.

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By *AYENCouple
5 days ago

Lincolnshire

"Over a year on this site and no matter what i do i never get a reply, i try be respectful with my messages, but i have no idea how to grab someones attention"

If it hasn't happened in over a year it's unlikely to change. Every woman on here exists in real life, so unless you're irresistible to women, it's easier to meet women off of Fab. K.

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By *ootnootboopCouple
5 days ago

Cheshire

I tend to reel in the ladies with a closeup pic of my japseye....

Never had a complaint yet.....

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By *wingshot321.Couple
5 days ago

Nearby

Your pictures aren't that great, have you tried going to a club?

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