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"Have an honest chat with your partner. " Good advice, I'll do that! | |||
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"My better half is away on a girls birthday cruise in a few months. I'm trying to think of good ways to persuade or plant the seed it's ok to have fun when she's with the girls. I think I was spoiled by previous partners who would play away and send me photos or tease me after. It's something we have never discussed. The thought of it is driving me crazy but I don't want to ruin or wreck my present relationship for a fantasy. What should I do?" How did the subject come up with your previous partners and why do you think it would ruin your relationship if you discussed it with your partner? Are you looking for ways to suggest this without actually having to say it out loud, because that never really works. How about saying that this is a fantasy of yours that you'd love to fulfill and see what she says. | |||
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"Have a talk about any fantasies you both have choose your time. Tell her it a fantasy of yours. But don't push it pant the seed then see if she brings it up . Joke as she goes about don't forget send me pics when you have fun. Just don't get your hopes up or make it a big thing" Good suggestion, definitely not going to push it. I'll bring up the fantasy conversation at the right time. I like the way your thinking 👊 | |||
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"My better half is away on a girls birthday cruise in a few months. I'm trying to think of good ways to persuade or plant the seed it's ok to have fun when she's with the girls. " Might she think you are suggesting this because you want to meet other women whilst she's away ? | |||
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"Can you not just let her have her holiday with friends without such nonsense?" The sensible advice I needed. I'll get my head out of the clouds. Thank you very much and enjoy the rest of your weekend! | |||
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"It's already been on your mind for two weeks. When is her cruise ?" She sails into the sun set in the middle of June. | |||
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"My better half is away on a girls birthday cruise in a few months. I'm trying to think of good ways to persuade or plant the seed it's ok to have fun when she's with the girls. I think I was spoiled by previous partners who would play away and send me photos or tease me after. It's something we have never discussed. The thought of it is driving me crazy but I don't want to ruin or wreck my present relationship for a fantasy. What should I do?" This belongs in the story / fantasy section surely  | |||
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"Have a talk about any fantasies you both have choose your time. Tell her it a fantasy of yours. But don't push it pant the seed then see if she brings it up . Joke as she goes about don't forget send me pics when you have fun. Just don't get your hopes up or make it a big thing Good suggestion, definitely not going to push it. I'll bring up the fantasy conversation at the right time. I like the way your thinking 👊" If you've been fortunate enough to have a few relationships on the bounce where you were allowed to "have fun" you might just count yourself lucky. It's not the norm. Many blokes would love such an opportunity even for just a few days once in their lives. But instead have to settle for having another wank instead. | |||
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"Have a talk about any fantasies you both have choose your time. Tell her it a fantasy of yours. But don't push it pant the seed then see if she brings it up . Joke as she goes about don't forget send me pics when you have fun. Just don't get your hopes up or make it a big thing Good suggestion, definitely not going to push it. I'll bring up the fantasy conversation at the right time. I like the way your thinking 👊 If you've been fortunate enough to have a few relationships on the bounce where you were allowed to "have fun" you might just count yourself lucky. It's not the norm. Many blokes would love such an opportunity even for just a few days once in their lives. But instead have to settle for having another wank instead. " It's seems to be a fantasy a lot of married or men in relationships have. I thought I was a bit insecure or just kinky. I've definitely been lucky with a few, especially one. I'm not going to push this on my current partner. Just need to be smart how I approach her having fun on holiday. | |||
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"Have a talk about any fantasies you both have choose your time. Tell her it a fantasy of yours. But don't push it pant the seed then see if she brings it up . Joke as she goes about don't forget send me pics when you have fun. Just don't get your hopes up or make it a big thing Good suggestion, definitely not going to push it. I'll bring up the fantasy conversation at the right time. I like the way your thinking 👊 If you've been fortunate enough to have a few relationships on the bounce where you were allowed to "have fun" you might just count yourself lucky. It's not the norm. Many blokes would love such an opportunity even for just a few days once in their lives. But instead have to settle for having another wank instead. It's seems to be a fantasy a lot of married or men in relationships have. I thought I was a bit insecure or just kinky. I've definitely been lucky with a few, especially one. I'm not going to push this on my current partner. Just need to be smart how I approach her having fun on holiday. " Why make her holiday about you? If she wanted to play away, she would likely have raised it. Ship WiFi is bad enough as it is, without having to worry about a partner not being happy. Try it at home where you are both contactable and reconnect if she didn’t enjoy it. Stop being selfish if you want the relationship to last. | |||
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"Have a talk about any fantasies you both have choose your time. Tell her it a fantasy of yours. But don't push it pant the seed then see if she brings it up . Joke as she goes about don't forget send me pics when you have fun. Just don't get your hopes up or make it a big thing Good suggestion, definitely not going to push it. I'll bring up the fantasy conversation at the right time. I like the way your thinking 👊 If you've been fortunate enough to have a few relationships on the bounce where you were allowed to "have fun" you might just count yourself lucky. It's not the norm. Many blokes would love such an opportunity even for just a few days once in their lives. But instead have to settle for having another wank instead. It's seems to be a fantasy a lot of married or men in relationships have. I thought I was a bit insecure or just kinky. I've definitely been lucky with a few, especially one. I'm not going to push this on my current partner. Just need to be smart how I approach her having fun on holiday. Why make her holiday about you? If she wanted to play away, she would likely have raised it. Ship WiFi is bad enough as it is, without having to worry about a partner not being happy. Try it at home where you are both contactable and reconnect if she didn’t enjoy it. Stop being selfish if you want the relationship to last. " It's just a daft fantasy that I'm going to leave in my head. Your right, I'm being selfish and could ruin my relationship. Thanks for your good advice! | |||
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"We assume you didn't like any of the advice given asking the same question on the 4 previous threads with the exact same scenario lol" I think I just needed someone to tell me to stop being a fantasising selfish idiot! | |||
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"We assume you didn't like any of the advice given asking the same question on the 4 previous threads with the exact same scenario lol" It's obviously a fantasy or attention seeking thing then. | |||
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"If this was me starting back at tge beginning again there's 2 or 3 ways I would try it. 1. Both get d*unk. Have sex. Mention it. If its not acceptable blame the drink. 2. Use it as a topic when talking dirty to your g/f and see if she likes it. Again if not happy then you can just say it was heat of the moment. 3. The best way I would do it is watch one of the Swimgers documentaries (channel 4/5 have covered it) and discuss it. Say someone at work said it was interesting to watch. It took a while to convince my g/f. Good luck xx " If she says yes in 1, he gets all excited and in her sober light of day decides against it will there be the same acceptance of “blame the drink”? What about when she is on holiday and “failing him” because they “agreed”? This is terrible advice. No one can consent when intoxicated. Steer clear and avoid false hope. 2 & 3 is okay; but also why not be grownups? Christ if one can’t have sex and fantasy conversations at their age, start with communication skills and openness because swinging certainly can’t work if you can’t communicate openly and honestly. | |||
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"I've definitely been lucky with a few, especially one. I'm not going to push this on my current partner. Just need to be smart how I approach her having fun on holiday. " Could you tell her how your previous partners have enjoyed this and ask her how she feels about trying it ? Maybe she already does it but hasn't dared mention it. | |||
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"If this was me starting back at tge beginning again there's 2 or 3 ways I would try it. 1. Both get d*unk. Have sex. Mention it. If its not acceptable blame the drink. 2. Use it as a topic when talking dirty to your g/f and see if she likes it. Again if not happy then you can just say it was heat of the moment. 3. The best way I would do it is watch one of the Swimgers documentaries (channel 4/5 have covered it) and discuss it. Say someone at work said it was interesting to watch. It took a while to convince my g/f. Good luck xx If she says yes in 1, he gets all excited and in her sober light of day decides against it will there be the same acceptance of “blame the drink”? What about when she is on holiday and “failing him” because they “agreed”? This is terrible advice. No one can consent when intoxicated. Steer clear and avoid false hope. 2 & 3 is okay; but also why not be grownups? Christ if one can’t have sex and fantasy conversations at their age, start with communication skills and openness because swinging certainly can’t work if you can’t communicate openly and honestly. " Jesus how holy than thou are you! If its crap advise then don't follow it! I was saying what I would try. | |||
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"I've definitely been lucky with a few, especially one. I'm not going to push this on my current partner. Just need to be smart how I approach her having fun on holiday. Could you tell her how your previous partners have enjoyed this and ask her how she feels about trying it ? Maybe she already does it but hasn't dared mention it. " It is a possibility she does. I'll find a way of suggesting that she enjoys everything the cruise/holiday has to offer her. In a naughty life's to short sort of way. | |||
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"Can you not just let her have her holiday with friends without such nonsense?" This  your with the wrong lady if your having these thoughts and she isent aware of your kinks by now !! Just let her have a nice break and don't worry her , and maybe when she is back sit down and discuss what your looking for " in a relationship | |||
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"Can you not just let her have her holiday with friends without such nonsense?" This!! Its her holiday with her friends, it's not about you. If she was already into it then fair enough, but it sounds like you are trying to push your fantasy on to her. | |||
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"My better half is away on a girls birthday cruise in a few months. I'm trying to think of good ways to persuade or plant the seed it's ok to have fun when she's with the girls. I think I was spoiled by previous partners who would play away and send me photos or tease me after. It's something we have never discussed. The thought of it is driving me crazy but I don't want to ruin or wreck my present relationship for a fantasy. What should I do?" If your on this site without her knowledge then you're already thinking about having fun. If she can see your profile then may have already read what you want. Just have a chat with her. | |||
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