FabSwingers.com forum: Waste of time?

By *ealerThanReal_NI OP Man
11 weeks ago

Kilrea

So I’ve been on here for a couple of weeks and I’m gonna be honest I thought I would be hooking up left right and center (what a foolish thought!) and I’m like a little disappointed bc from what I’ve noticed is all the ladies near me don’t wanna meet or don’t reply but all the ladies that are miles away all want to meet? Just thought I’d share some thoughts! Thanks for listening😌

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
11 weeks ago

Telford

Haha nope it never typically works like that.

Even when people say they want to meet most will have an emergency at the last second

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By *gly duck cdTV/TS
11 weeks ago

middlesbrough

You’ve joined like a lot of people thinking that everyone is going to be ready and willing, reality of the site is different, it takes time to get established on here , but keep checking the forums and updates looking out for social gatherings and go along to them and get chatting, hopefully it would lead to something for you

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By *ealerThanReal_NI OP Man
11 weeks ago

Kilrea

And I also thought that me fixing up my profile and using all the advice all you kind people gave me would also get me a little more traction but nothing

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By *ealerThanReal_NI OP Man
11 weeks ago

Kilrea

"You’ve joined like a lot of people thinking that everyone is going to be ready and willing, reality of the site is different, it takes time to get established on here , but keep checking the forums and updates looking out for social gatherings and go along to them and get chatting, hopefully it would lead to something for you "

Thank you so much for this advice!!!!!

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By *opsadaisyCouple
11 weeks ago

Salisbury

You’re going to need to invest more than just a little time on forums, etc. The only advice I’d offer would be to visit clubs and parties, never fails (mostly!).

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By *ealerThanReal_NI OP Man
11 weeks ago

Kilrea

"You’re going to need to invest more than just a little time on forums, etc. The only advice I’d offer would be to visit clubs and parties, never fails (mostly!). "

I’m currently being a lot more active! I get what you mean, thank you so much! And I’ll try those clubs aswell!

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By *lueDressWoman
11 weeks ago

Bath Somerset

When I first started using the Internet. Bought a desktop PC in 2005. I was inundated on the fetish dating websites. I think everything has changed now, due to scammers and people who have fake profiles. The likelihood of meeting someone now is probably zero.

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By *rodigal funCouple
11 weeks ago

Antrim Down Derry Tyrone Armagh

There's your answer OP, travel!

Local meets will suit some and not others.

If you're willing to travel to socials and/or events it shows a degree of effort.

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By *ealerThanReal_NI OP Man
11 weeks ago

Kilrea

"When I first started using the Internet. Bought a desktop PC in 2005. I was inundated on the fetish dating websites. I think everything has changed now, due to scammers and people who have fake profiles. The likelihood of meeting someone now is probably zero."

It’s such a shame I wish I could have experienced that. It such a shame there are people just purely here to cause issues

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By *irky_coupleCouple
11 weeks ago

Kirky

A couple of weeks is nothing but sorry to say,single guys who cant accomodate are usually at the bottom of the totem pole. Doesnt matter how good a profile is. Clubs and socials are your best bets just now.

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
11 weeks ago

Newry

"You’re going to need to invest more than just a little time on forums, etc. The only advice I’d offer would be to visit clubs and parties, never fails (mostly!).

I’m currently being a lot more active! I get what you mean, thank you so much! And I’ll try those clubs aswell!"

You won't find any clubs either side of the border in Ireland but I'd definitely recommend one of the many social events, specifically those that are open to to unverified attendees. You'll find the events listings on the Ireland forum. Alternatively check out the DV8 Sunday socials in Dublin.

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By *WB85Man
11 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Every man joins here thinking it will be easy, thats a fact.

However we must remember that this website gives ladies all possible options and choices.....so they can be incredibly selective.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
11 weeks ago

SW1A1AA

looks like ai has written your profile

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By *aandLoCouple
11 weeks ago

Southampton

We often read that couples are "entitled," "spoiled for choice " etc. The reality is the quality of messages and profiles is poor. A decent profile, with decent photos will always get a reply from us. A one line profile, a series of cock pics, and conversation skills unfortunately is the norm.

It doesn't take much to be the cream of the crop in our opinion. Get to a club to get some veris - connecting is every bit as valuable as sex initially. Invest time and effort, be patient and you'll have success.

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By *aandLoCouple
11 weeks ago

Southampton

"We often read that couples are "entitled," "spoiled for choice " etc. The reality is the quality of messages and profiles is poor. A decent profile, with decent photos will always get a reply from us. A one line profile, a series of cock pics, and conversation skills unfortunately is the norm.

#poor conversation skills#

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By *ealerThanReal_NI OP Man
11 weeks ago

Kilrea

"looks like ai has written your profile"

Couldn’t be further from the truth

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
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11 weeks ago

Central

Slow and steady wins the race used to be a common saying.

Our understanding can develop as we gain more data, within the context we're learning about. It's perhaps natural that people with zero experience of swinging would have a somewhat naive expectation.

I assume that OP you have tried to learn much more now that you are here. Otherwise we can cling to one dimensional/sided perceptions.

Getting to Fab socials and clubs helps you to meet and get to know others better. I'd not recommend that you use Fab for 100% of your sexual activity, whilst you're not established. Do you do well in the wider world?

Nothing is owed to any of us. We must earn our way in life and relationships. We do need to invest

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By *ealerThanReal_NI OP Man
11 weeks ago

Kilrea

"Slow and steady wins the race used to be a common saying.

Our understanding can develop as we gain more data, within the context we're learning about. It's perhaps natural that people with zero experience of swinging would have a somewhat naive expectation.

Ummm I kinda popular outside of this website, my friends say I’m really easy to talk to and get along! And their words not mines that I’m a bit funny but I don’t think so I just have good timing!

I assume that OP you have tried to learn much more now that you are here. Otherwise we can cling to one dimensional/sided perceptions.

Nothing is owed to any of us. We must earn our way in life and relationships. We do need to invest "

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By *ealerThanReal_NI OP Man
11 weeks ago

Kilrea

Ok I don’t know why that fucked up like that lol

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By *ealerThanReal_NI OP Man
11 weeks ago

Kilrea

"Slow and steady wins the race used to be a common saying.

Our understanding can develop as we gain more data, within the context we're learning about. It's perhaps natural that people with zero experience of swinging would have a somewhat naive expectation.

I assume that OP you have tried to learn much more now that you are here. Otherwise we can cling to one dimensional/sided perceptions.

Nothing is owed to any of us. We must earn our way in life and relationships. We do need to invest "

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
11 weeks ago

Leeds

You started with very unrealistic expectations that were impossible to meet.

There's 1000'a of guys looking to get their dicks wet here it's not easy.

Make your profile stand out, join in the forums, attend local social events & clubs probably gives more a chance.

People assume because we are all here for sex our legs open for anyone, that's not the case, I'd rather have a perfectly good wank over shit sex with someone I'm not attracted to.

Mrs

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By *andyrich555Man
11 weeks ago

ub4

Use the hear me search function and check out your competition.

Firstly you will find that for every 35 or males there will be one couple, one female and one TV.

Have a look at what they have to say, look to see who has been verified the most and see what they are offering.

When I read your profile it came across as being all about you, what you want and how you like to do it.

The wifes needs, the husbands needs o the ladies needs didnt get a mention.

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By *ovinglife!40Man
11 weeks ago

Hinckley

"And I also thought that me fixing up my profile and using all the advice all you kind people gave me would also get me a little more traction but nothing"

Your profile reads more like a list of fantasies rather than experience.

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By *ealerThanReal_NI OP Man
11 weeks ago

Kilrea

"And I also thought that me fixing up my profile and using all the advice all you kind people gave me would also get me a little more traction but nothing

Your profile reads more like a list of fantasies rather than experience.

We’ll tell that to the people that help give advice

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By *ovinglife!40Man
11 weeks ago

Hinckley

"And I also thought that me fixing up my profile and using all the advice all you kind people gave me would also get me a little more traction but nothing

Your profile reads more like a list of fantasies rather than experience.

We’ll tell that to the people that help give advice "

They helped you write your profile??

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By *spire2writeandEnjoyMan
11 weeks ago

Pontypridd

Hey mate, dont worry about it.

It’s got nothing to do with you. It’s all down the fact women and couples here get swamped.

Girl I did meet with showed me her fab, there’s like 99+ guys everyday. There’re no couples or women in the world who have the time and energy to go through that. No matter how good looking or well-spoken you are.

You need to go to some local meets in your area. You’ll meet people and they can verify you as good then.

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By *piral36Man
11 weeks ago

South

I definitely get more offers from men than I do women lol but hay I'll take that as a +ve even though it's not for me lol

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By *sX2Couple
11 weeks ago

South Downs

Absolutely this. We have hundreds of messages yet the majority are one line (even more often just one word). It’s not difficult to stand out!

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By *nlyessexCouple
11 weeks ago

Hornchurch

"Haha nope it never typically works like that.

Even when people say they want to meet most will have an emergency at the last second

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your so right

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By *inkPomPomWoman
11 weeks ago

Isle of Man

Lol

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By *ull of PuddinWoman
11 weeks ago

isle of munters

I love the 💚 🏹

3 months here is the equivalent to 3 seconds

You had expectations and have been told it doesn't work that way, and yet still think it's instashag

You asked multiple times for advice but now it seems your blaming people that took the time to give their opinion because your profile which you control isn't working for you.

Spend some time in learning how the site works and how many different ways people use it.

There might be profiles or threads that are specific to what your looking for but what do you bring to them. One sentence doesn't cover it and there's 1000s out there that design their profile to match with like minded specific people so it's easily available from the bio

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By *WANDTGCouple
11 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

Here's an example. We been chatting and had planned to meet someone this Saturday,whilst driving back from our short break today, my engine light came on and stayed on for the last 15 miles of our journey. I'm putting it in the garage tomorrow and won't get it back til next week. So we've had to cancel Saturdays meet because we have no car.

Life gets in the way.

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By *ornucopiaMan
11 weeks ago

Bexley

If you look at another current thread OP, you will see that describing yourself as a 'kind person' apparently raises red flags among many profile readers...

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By *ellinever70Woman
11 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Consider your fab experience a life lesson learned....sex doesn't grow on trees ripe for you to pick

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By *ouncerbiscuitMan
11 weeks ago

nottingham

It happens had a meet planned booked hotel for fun woke up this morning blocked lol

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By *allySlinkyWoman
11 weeks ago

Leeds

"So I’ve noticed is all the ladies near me don’t wanna meet or don’t reply but all the ladies that are miles away all want to meet? "

So why not plan a road trip?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
11 weeks ago

Leeds

"And I also thought that me fixing up my profile and using all the advice all you kind people gave me would also get me a little more traction but nothing

Your profile reads more like a list of fantasies rather than experience.

We’ll tell that to the people that help give advice "

Having clicked the green arrow I'm not sure that was the advice.

Mrs

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By *icemember7Man
11 weeks ago

Worcester

You have to keep on trying, message everyone in the distance, don't give up keep trying.

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By *otPoshorBecksCouple
10 weeks ago

London

Your profile is hidden in just three days of you posting. So it’s hard now to give feedback, but like others said get yourself to clubs and fab socials xx

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
10 weeks ago

your bed

Been here for many years it's a simple numbers game.

Supply and demand.

There is an over supply of single men and an under supply of people looking for single men.

In such an imbalanced market there will be a few single men in high demand, but for the rest it will be very infrequent opportunity.

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By *ercuryMikeMan
10 weeks ago

Newtown / Oswestry

Get a grip man.

If you can’t figure out how to sell yourself on here and have to ask us bunch of randos, then that there might be half the issue.

Single blokes on here are like when you see 1000’s of pond skimmers darting around the surface of a pond, whilst the golden carp - single women, couples or whoever you’re into - swim serenely below.

Every now and then one of them will rise to the surface and engage, Until then you just keep skimming around.

And try not to post anything that makes you sound like a dick - a bit like this post probably makes me sound.

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By *renzMan
10 weeks ago

Between Chichester and Havant

Going to a club or a social is no guarantee of meeting up for fun either. It may give you a few verifications, which may help.

As others have said, your face has to fit. Lower your expectations, relax a little more and try not to sound desperate.

I've been around for a long time and it has changed over the years, it is more difficult to set up a meet than it used to be, possibly my age. But I had a lot of fun a few years ago, now I have no expectations at all. Even if you match all the criteria within the profile you are messaging, you are one of many.

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By *parky123Man
10 weeks ago

Lincoln

Couple of weeks? Wait a few months at least

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By *host63Man
10 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

Mate I have been here since the late 90s on and off.

In that time Im lucky to get so much as a hello and.

80% kf arranged meets are nk shows.

Two weeks? Hardly any time at all.

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
10 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

OP we are a couple been on here for years and barely get any meets at all, clubs is where most of our fun comes from. Keep going though but don’t expect anything anytime soon it’s nothing to do with you or your profile just the nature of the scene

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By *olfandtazCouple
10 weeks ago

Bristol

Getting yourself verified is a massive thing for most people on here.

We use the chatrooms to speak with people and on the back of that we have had some amazing meets, our verifications speak for themselves.

We still get messed around with, we still get last minute cancellations and all that jazz. With fab you need to develop a thick skin and take the rough with the smooth

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By *lack King DomMan
10 weeks ago

London

Try seeing statuses and biographies as a guide to what they are looking for but not the absolute. Then, lower the expectationthat every message you send will be replied in kind. Alot of users are here for the fantasy, the thrill and or for the attention. Other users prefer a slow, genuine build up to the first meet. Exhausting yourself mentally and fab isn't worth it.

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By *randmrssbCouple
9 weeks ago

norwich

"OP we are a couple been on here for years and barely get any meets at all, clubs is where most of our fun comes from. Keep going though but don’t expect anything anytime soon it’s nothing to do with you or your profile just the nature of the scene

We are pretty much the same. We have good success in clubs but find it very hard to get any meets in here (even socials!)

It’s not just single men that struggle with genuine meets

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By *hevintagecoupleCouple
9 weeks ago

Braintree

We are pretty much the same. We have good success in clubs but find it very hard to get any meets in here (even socials!)

We've been on here for nine months now and are having similar difficulties - the lack of meets comes down to either (a) a lack of mutual attraction, or (b) an inability to get a date pencilled in, due to distance, lack of childcare, work obligations etc...

We're visiting our first club at the end of this month, and hope that's when this lifestyle clicks!

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