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By *eautyandthebeast86 OP   Couple
16 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

We dont understand how a vast majority of people who we interact with on here or who message us can’t understand that we have each other and love each other and only looking for extra fun as a extra. People saying well maybe we have an itch that needs scratching, well no I have my man for that. The sense of entitlement from the men also, just because you have nothing but your hand doesn’t mean we have to be there to service your needs. We have daily regular intimacy so we don’t do this because we are lacking anything if anything it’s because we are so filthy and love sharing each other and being shared. Sorry to rant it’s just it seems to be getting worse.

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By *onyHoveMan
16 weeks ago

North East

I've always thought the best meets I've had with couples have been when they are clearly very close, and loving towards each other, and enjoy inviting someone into their world on their terms.

It's an extra experience for them that they have decided upon equally.

It's a total privilege. For me, it's the only way to view it.

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By *ootnootboopCouple
16 weeks ago

Cheshire

It's sadly a reflection of the rest of the internet.

Guys that can't get any women to interact with them because of whatever reason they use, just see couples and women on here as hole to use for their "needs".

Not saying it's everyone, but there does seem to be a massive influx of idiotic men these days sadly.

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By *eautyandthebeast86 OP   Couple
16 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)


"I've always thought the best meets I've had with couples have been when they are clearly very close, and loving towards each other, and enjoy inviting someone into their world on their terms.

It's an extra experience for them that they have decided upon equally.

It's a total privilege. For me, it's the only way to view it.

"

I think that’s a great way to think and if all the men or people on here thought like that then it would make this place better and ironically they would be more likely to get fun with a good attitude

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By *hitelotusMan
16 weeks ago

london

That is one one angel ! People enter this life style from different angeles. The spectrum is vast so what swinging means to you could be completely different from another person’s view

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By *igYin n CowGirlCouple
16 weeks ago

New Cumnock

Well said, totally agree! xx

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By *igYin n CowGirlCouple
16 weeks ago

New Cumnock

Thats the best way to look at it xx

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By *ustforshow25Couple
16 weeks ago

Leatherhead

As the one (Mr) who does the 'fabmin' it seems like something that is fairly common. A lot of the messages we get are immediately addressed to Mrs (there is 2 of us here) and many seem to think it's some sort of on demand service.

On the plus side, it acts as a good filter to help quickly whittle down prospective participants to those who recognise we do this because we both enjoy it and are happy to have others enjoy it with us.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
16 weeks ago

Coventry

We don't even swing that much. We have a healthy relationship and a great sex life. We're here not because our sex life needs it. Here because its just a lot of extra fun involving other people and having sexual variety. We are deviants and this is our deviant hobby.

I must admit we've never really encountered this. Most people get us and get the tightness and fulfilment in our relationships. Although on a couple of occasions there has been guys like this. We don't entertain such attitudes. If they don't understand it fine, we're not wasting our time to educate them.

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By *irsSubCouple
16 weeks ago

Stockton

We also call it our extra fun, as we could easily live without it. The post earlier about using bad behaviour as a filter is spot on.

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By *onyHoveMan
16 weeks ago

North East


"I've always thought the best meets I've had with couples have been when they are clearly very close, and loving towards each other, and enjoy inviting someone into their world on their terms.

It's an extra experience for them that they have decided upon equally.

It's a total privilege. For me, it's the only way to view it.

I think that’s a great way to think and if all the men or people on here thought like that then it would make this place better and ironically they would be more likely to get fun with a good attitude "

Thank you. Much appreciated

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
16 weeks ago

Coventry


"I've always thought the best meets I've had with couples have been when they are clearly very close, and loving towards each other, and enjoy inviting someone into their world on their terms.

It's an extra experience for them that they have decided upon equally.

It's a total privilege. For me, it's the only way to view it.

"

Exactly this!

I've also politely declined where there has appeared to be 'friction' in their relationship - and on one occasion the appearance of coercion. Absolutely not something I'm ever going to get myself involved in. On the other hand what you've said has been right on the money in my experience too.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
16 weeks ago

East Sussex

We only met single guys and couples and always considered for the brief time we were with them that they were an equal participant. Not lucky or privileged but equal for the time we were with them

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By *r SensualMan
16 weeks ago

London

Whilst I empathise with the sentiment of this post and that’s it’s nothing more than a rant, I can’t help but feel a sense of pretentiousness here… I say this a man who is in a loving & healthy relationship himself.

Maybe I’m overthinking or being too sensitive here but was the “just because you have nothing but your hand” remark really necessary to get your point across?

Respectfully, there are some who feel the couples on here going around with a level inflated self-importance are getting equally as worse as those very individuals you ranting about.

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By *irsSubCouple
16 weeks ago

Stockton


"Whilst I empathise with the sentiment of this post and that’s it’s nothing more than a rant, I can’t help but feel a sense of pretentiousness here… I say this a man who is in a loving & healthy relationship himself.

Maybe I’m overthinking or being too sensitive here but was the “just because you have nothing but your hand” remark really necessary to get your point across?

Respectfully, there are some who feel the couples on here going around with a level inflated self-importance are getting equally as worse as those very individuals you ranting about. "

As the male in a couple who manages the fab account I've experienced first hand what the OP describes. I do also get that it's not easy for guys, fab is a massive mind fuck of mismatched expectations.

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By *r SensualMan
16 weeks ago

London


"Whilst I empathise with the sentiment of this post and that’s it’s nothing more than a rant, I can’t help but feel a sense of pretentiousness here… I say this a man who is in a loving & healthy relationship himself.

Maybe I’m overthinking or being too sensitive here but was the “just because you have nothing but your hand” remark really necessary to get your point across?

Respectfully, there are some who feel the couples on here going around with a level inflated self-importance are getting equally as worse as those very individuals you ranting about.

As the male in a couple who manages the fab account I've experienced first hand what the OP describes. I do also get that it's not easy for guys, fab is a massive mind fuck of mismatched expectations."

Totally agree with you regarding the mind fuck of mismatched expectations. However, the mismanaged expectations of one particular demographic is called out a whole lot more than the other demographics.

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By *eroLondonMan
16 weeks ago

Mayfair


"I've always thought the best meets I've had with couples have been when they are clearly very close, and loving towards each other, and enjoy inviting someone into their world on their terms.

It's an extra experience for them that they have decided upon equally.

It's a total privilege. For me, it's the only way to view it."

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I hope that "privilege" is a two way street when you've had those "best meets".

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By *ichaelsmyMan
16 weeks ago

douglas

my experience with a couple was while i was away down south. said i was only in the area for that night. we chatted for a bit, but it didnt work out.

then all of a sudden they said they were available after all. met down stairs for a drink in the hotel bar.

which i said was for them to have a chance to say yes or no.

she said yes, we had sex.

the husband just sat on the sofa and watched, he never said i thing the whole time.

when we had finished she was a big hug and kiss, thank you as she left.

he just walked out behind her.

i never did work out what he got from things.

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By *uriousCouple20224Couple
16 weeks ago

nottingham


" We only met single guys and couples and always considered for the brief time we were with them that they were an equal participant. Not lucky or privileged but equal for the time we were with them "

That's how I like to look at it. I really don't like it, when someone calls it a privilege.

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By *uriousCouple20224Couple
16 weeks ago

nottingham


"We don't even swing that much. We have a healthy relationship and a great sex life. We're here not because our sex life needs it. Here because its just a lot of extra fun involving other people and having sexual variety. We are deviants and this is our deviant hobby.

I must admit we've never really encountered this. Most people get us and get the tightness and fulfilment in our relationships. Although on a couple of occasions there has been guys like this. We don't entertain such attitudes. If they don't understand it fine, we're not wasting our time to educate them."

Great post. This is exactly our outlook. We haven't experienced much if any of the guys mentioned by the OP, but we do have single men blocked the majority of the time!

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
16 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire

I think there's a lot of guys who are under the misapprehension that swinger women will sleep with anyone.

And so if a woman turns them down, they think that she is she picking on them, when she says yes to everyone else.

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By *illySlutinOxfordshireTV/TS
16 weeks ago

North Oxfordshire


"my experience with a couple was while i was away down south. said i was only in the area for that night. we chatted for a bit, but it didnt work out.

then all of a sudden they said they were available after all. met down stairs for a drink in the hotel bar.

which i said was for them to have a chance to say yes or no.

she said yes, we had sex.

the husband just sat on the sofa and watched, he never said i thing the whole time.

when we had finished she was a big hug and kiss, thank you as she left.

he just walked out behind her.

i never did work out what he got from things."

Quite a lot of men have a cuckold fantasy which can take different forms and some are lucky enough to have a partner who shares it and so they are able to make it reality.

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By *ctionSandwichCouple
15 weeks ago

Newcastle under Lyme

One click of the delete button, and/or block and it goes away...

Who gives a fuck what some random stranger messaging you on a sex site thinks?

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By *luffyrabitCouple
15 weeks ago

Darlington/ Stockton


"As the one (Mr) who does the 'fabmin' it seems like something that is fairly common. A lot of the messages we get are immediately addressed to Mrs (there is 2 of us here) and many seem to think it's some sort of on demand service.

On the plus side, it acts as a good filter to help quickly whittle down prospective participants to those who recognise we do this because we both enjoy it and are happy to have others enjoy it with us. "

We have the opposite problem. Yes, rabit does most of the 'fabmin', butI (fluffy) am spoken about, not to. The messages speak about me like some commodity, to be passed around

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By *eyeYCouple
15 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

Generally it seems 'reading the room' is a dying thing.

That or the entitled belief that their approach has not been tried many times prior..

A simple block works, but the time it takes 😜🤦

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By *e46cockMan
15 weeks ago

Hexham


"As the one (Mr) who does the 'fabmin' it seems like something that is fairly common. A lot of the messages we get are immediately addressed to Mrs (there is 2 of us here) and many seem to think it's some sort of on demand service.

On the plus side, it acts as a good filter to help quickly whittle down prospective participants to those who recognise we do this because we both enjoy it and are happy to have others enjoy it with us.

We have the opposite problem. Yes, rabit does most of the 'fabmin', butI (fluffy) am spoken about, not to. The messages speak about me like some commodity, to be passed around"

I can totally see that happening and it’s shocking even on a site like this respect is key. I always address both M and F on a profile, pity I can’t message you as I don’t have any pictures on my profile as your videos are fantastic

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By *elaxed_Fun_TimesMan
15 weeks ago

Buckingham


"I've always thought the best meets I've had with couples have been when they are clearly very close, and loving towards each other, and enjoy inviting someone into their world on their terms.

It's an extra experience for them that they have decided upon equally.

It's a total privilege. For me, it's the only way to view it.

"

Just wanted to give a thumbs up to this. Inviting somebody in to "fix" something is a rather bad idea. To augment what you have already, great.

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By *eautyandthebeast86 OP   Couple
15 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)


"I've always thought the best meets I've had with couples have been when they are clearly very close, and loving towards each other, and enjoy inviting someone into their world on their terms.

It's an extra experience for them that they have decided upon equally.

It's a total privilege. For me, it's the only way to view it.

Just wanted to give a thumbs up to this. Inviting somebody in to "fix" something is a rather bad idea. To augment what you have already, great. "

Yeah there is a misconception that a broken relationship can heal through swinging. Swinging only works if you are strong together and like you said to enhance a loving sexual relationship that’s already there.

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By *arand25Couple
15 weeks ago

Crowborough

We are very, very close & our sex life is great. We have a guy we meet regularly for MFM now & it enhances all of our sex lives greatly. He loves that we're so close & finds that a real turn on.

Took a while to find the right one though!

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By *abulincsCouple
15 weeks ago

near a bridge

Couldn’t agree more with OP what we do in this lifestyle is just extra fun pastimes nothing more guys on here seem to think reading some their messages that we have a baron sex life totally wrong and young guys can fuck me better than iv ever had lol when I pointed out was was fucking hubby before they was born get all funny about it and then there is the do call doms bulls ect think they need to think about how they approach things on here lol maybe have bit more success lol

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By *eautyandthebeast86 OP   Couple
15 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)


"Couldn’t agree more with OP what we do in this lifestyle is just extra fun pastimes nothing more guys on here seem to think reading some their messages that we have a baron sex life totally wrong and young guys can fuck me better than iv ever had lol when I pointed out was was fucking hubby before they was born get all funny about it and then there is the do call doms bulls ect think they need to think about how they approach things on here lol maybe have bit more success lol "

I completely agree, the assumption that we are gagging for it because our men can’t or don’t satisfy us… couldn’t be anything further from the truth, we have a great sex life but just filthy and like to add even extra spice to an already sexy and spicy bedroom time!

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By *inWithLZCouple
15 weeks ago

Bradford

"I am horny" takes over I guess. 90% of messages are addressed to the Mrs.

The block list is definitely large.

What annoys me most is that people think it's on demand and as if they have something we lack.

An extra inch ain't going to make her orgasm or squirt any harder buddy boy. 😁

Just a lot of desperation tbh. It's like at clubs with the wanking dead. Just a plague of disrespectful people who think they are entitled to some pussy. 🤦🏻‍♂️

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By *eralDeviantWoman
15 weeks ago

Hull


"Whilst I empathise with the sentiment' fab is a massive mind fuck of mismatched expectations."

Single female here, I love to see a couple in love with one another. The ease of how they move together, silliness instead of awkwardness ♥️ and I love telling the entitled single males that fab is social media nothing more 😂

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By *eralDeviantWoman
15 weeks ago

Hull


""clubs with the wanking dead. Just a plague of disrespectful people who think they are entitled to some pussy. 🤦🏻‍♂️"

Love that phrase 😂 I call them 'towel zombies'

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By *eralDeviantWoman
15 weeks ago

Hull


"I think there's a lot of guys who are under the misapprehension that swinger women will sleep with anyone.

And so if a woman turns them down, they think that she is she picking on them, when she says yes to everyone else.

"

'swinger women'... Nope you just have to have a profile on 'a swinger site' that's enough because apparently we can have what we want when ever we want 😂😂😂🤣 which is sooo far from he truth 😂

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