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"Don't worry about it - probably just the only reason they were comfortable blowing you out with. " Didn't bother me really, just wondered on other people's thoughts. As someone still quite new I'm interested in the whole scene and the complexities of it all 🤣 Call it my natural curiosity. | |||
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"To some you may seem "busy", to others not. To some we may seem "busy", to others not (we only play about 5 times a year). It's just someone's opinion, people will have different opinions. Their opinion is probably in the minority. " I guess yeah, it's a matter of perspective and personal preference isn't it. Thanks. | |||
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"It's just one of those hazards of fab. You could have published 2 meets 2 Saturdays apart. For some that would be too much, and 3 months later not be enough for others. Its seems to be the first step that having a 'meet' veri as opposed to a social veri or a webcam veri is the first fundamental. Overall it's just another selection variable, height, size, orientation, frequency Good luck " Yeah seems to be like that. Cheers | |||
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"Don't worry about it - probably just the only reason they were comfortable blowing you out with. Didn't bother me really, just wondered on other people's thoughts. As someone still quite new I'm interested in the whole scene and the complexities of it all 🤣 Call it my natural curiosity." It's a strange measure to choose to be honest...we've got loads...we have hosted parties and club nights. It may put people off and that is absolutely fine...if you read them they're actually predominantly social ones. However, this isn't our first, or our only profile...so we have others on our party and single female profile...then there are the people we play with regularly that don't leave a veri every single time...or those in clubs who don't use Fab...its utterly unreflective of how 'busy' people are... | |||
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"Don't worry about it - probably just the only reason they were comfortable blowing you out with. Didn't bother me really, just wondered on other people's thoughts. As someone still quite new I'm interested in the whole scene and the complexities of it all 🤣 Call it my natural curiosity. It's a strange measure to choose to be honest...we've got loads...we have hosted parties and club nights. It may put people off and that is absolutely fine...if you read them they're actually predominantly social ones. However, this isn't our first, or our only profile...so we have others on our party and single female profile...then there are the people we play with regularly that don't leave a veri every single time...or those in clubs who don't use Fab...its utterly unreflective of how 'busy' people are..." Maybe yeah, sometimes they just look at numbers, perhaps she never actually read them to understand the detail. Thanks and have fun | |||
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"It’s all down to compatibility. Some won’t care either way, some want lots, some want none. It’s an amazing phenomenon how single women can be goddesses one minute then slags with a foof like a tunnel after a rejection, based on our number of veris. " Foof like a tunnel. Love this. I guess you can't please them all and just keep enjoying ourselves. | |||
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"I personally like a number of verifications. Although find anything older than 12 to 18 months less relevent. We've had our Fab profile 10 years and have veris dating back to the start. We generally hide anything older than 12 months for that reason also. Information overload etc." Wow, 10years is impressive. Think nearly 6 months in for me, so will bare that in mind. | |||
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"I personally like a number of verifications. Although find anything older than 12 to 18 months less relevent. We've had our Fab profile 10 years and have veris dating back to the start. We generally hide anything older than 12 months for that reason also. Information overload etc. Wow, 10years is impressive. Think nearly 6 months in for me, so will bare that in mind. " Thanks. We haven't been active the whole time. We had a 3 year hiatus starting in 2020. But kept the profile running for if and when we returned to it. | |||
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"I personally like a number of verifications. Although find anything older than 12 to 18 months less relevent. We've had our Fab profile 10 years and have veris dating back to the start. We generally hide anything older than 12 months for that reason also. Information overload etc. Wow, 10years is impressive. Think nearly 6 months in for me, so will bare that in mind. Thanks. We haven't been active the whole time. We had a 3 year hiatus starting in 2020. But kept the profile running for if and when we returned to it. " Makes sense indeed. Shame devon so far as would love to meet you both and pick your brains on 10years of experience. My work takes me about so who knows. But in meantime thanks again | |||
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"Personally our preference would be las many and as recent veris as possible. " Like you both already. Cheers | |||
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"Yes mate, I’ve had “Sorry, you’re too active for me” before. Welcome to Fab as a single guy; whatever you do, it will be wrong 😁👍" Or welcome to fab, people have preferences that might not match you | |||
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"You won't match and be mutually compatible with most other people. This may be for numerous reasons. You just have to continue doing what you think is right for you and to move on. Including this in your setting of realistic expectations can be supportive of your wellbeing "Yeah it's been a learning curve since joining the site and scene. Getting there but enjoying the journey so far overall | |||
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"So recently had a reply that stated they liked my message (was a nice change to the usual crap they had) and liked my profile but said I seemed "busy". As a guy on here not having veris is hard but now having a few is the same (although a few are just socials) Interested in opinions and thoughts on this from those who use them to decide on replying as well as those who may see the same issues. Have fun all " It should never be about the numbers. People should read the verifications as some will be purely socials.  | |||
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"So recently had a reply that stated they liked my message (was a nice change to the usual crap they had) and liked my profile but said I seemed "busy". As a guy on here not having veris is hard but now having a few is the same (although a few are just socials) Interested in opinions and thoughts on this from those who use them to decide on replying as well as those who may see the same issues. Have fun all It should never be about the numbers. People should read the verifications as some will be purely socials. "Yeah I agree | |||
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"I finally had my first meet and got verified, I do think it makes a big difference, i think it puts people at ease knowing there legit" Yes def makes a difference. I would recommend a social too if your able. You can get a few there and make some good connections | |||
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"We only play occasionally or whilst on holiday due to unforeseen circumstances and an active family and friends social life , We have luckily found some understanding Fab members who are great .. " That's really good. I admit I have a regular person I meet with and we don't bother with veris as feel they are more to show a person is genuine to help others make decisions. | |||
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"We only play occasionally or whilst on holiday due to unforeseen circumstances and an active family and friends social life , We have luckily found some understanding Fab members who are great .. That's really good. I admit I have a regular person I meet with and we don't bother with veris as feel they are more to show a person is genuine to help others make decisions. " Thank you , We do our best to be friendly and social , If you a patient enough to wait and friendly we normally find a mutual time to meet eventually ... | |||
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"So recently had a reply that stated they liked my message (was a nice change to the usual crap they had) and liked my profile but said I seemed "busy". As a guy on here not having veris is hard but now having a few is the same (although a few are just socials) Interested in opinions and thoughts on this from those who use them to decide on replying as well as those who may see the same issues. Have fun all " Personally for me, when looking at single males I prefer more verifications. The more the better and bonus points for repeat meet verifications. | |||
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"I think people who have been on Fab for a while understand that meets accumulate over time. The number itself is rarely important - it’s more to do with whether your veris are consistent with each other or not." This is a great point | |||
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"So recently had a reply that stated they liked my message (was a nice change to the usual crap they had) and liked my profile but said I seemed "busy". As a guy on here not having veris is hard but now having a few is the same (although a few are just socials) Interested in opinions and thoughts on this from those who use them to decide on replying as well as those who may see the same issues. Have fun all Personally for me, when looking at single males I prefer more verifications. The more the better and bonus points for repeat meet verifications." I have a couple of repeat meets but we tend not to verify after the first few. Maybe I'm making a mistake there. | |||
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"You can't be all things to all people. Don't worry about it" Indeed it seems such a wide range of opinions on this. | |||
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"So recently had a reply that stated they liked my message (was a nice change to the usual crap they had) and liked my profile but said I seemed "busy". As a guy on here not having veris is hard but now having a few is the same (although a few are just socials) Interested in opinions and thoughts on this from those who use them to decide on replying as well as those who may see the same issues. Have fun all " We just use verifications to confirm actually meeting in real life, not an on line meet or web cam. Not that bothered what a verification contains as no right minded person would allow a verification stating " Mr X showed up, on time and was very pleasant but sadly was a total waste of space in the bedroom department" So all verifications will have a positive spin. On FAB for over 12 months and no meets is a red flag for us. Too many verifications isn't an issue, only tend to read the first 4 or 5. | |||
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") We just use verifications to confirm actually meeting in real life, not an on line meet or web cam......On FAB for over 12 months and no meets is a red flag for us." Exactly this! | |||
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"So recently had a reply that stated they liked my message (was a nice change to the usual crap they had) and liked my profile but said I seemed "busy". As a guy on here not having veris is hard but now having a few is the same (although a few are just socials) Interested in opinions and thoughts on this from those who use them to decide on replying as well as those who may see the same issues. Have fun all We just use verifications to confirm actually meeting in real life, not an on line meet or web cam. Not that bothered what a verification contains as no right minded person would allow a verification stating " Mr X showed up, on time and was very pleasant but sadly was a total waste of space in the bedroom department" So all verifications will have a positive spin. On FAB for over 12 months and no meets is a red flag for us. Too many verifications isn't an issue, only tend to read the first 4 or 5." Wouldn't it be funny if fab didn't allow the hiding of veris and this was allowed. I wonder what they would say then for some? Although I would guess if not a good meet then prob don't do a veri anyway | |||
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"So recently had a reply that stated they liked my message (was a nice change to the usual crap they had) and liked my profile but said I seemed "busy". As a guy on here not having veris is hard but now having a few is the same (although a few are just socials) Interested in opinions and thoughts on this from those who use them to decide on replying as well as those who may see the same issues. Have fun all We just use verifications to confirm actually meeting in real life, not an on line meet or web cam. Not that bothered what a verification contains as no right minded person would allow a verification stating " Mr X showed up, on time and was very pleasant but sadly was a total waste of space in the bedroom department" So all verifications will have a positive spin. On FAB for over 12 months and no meets is a red flag for us. Too many verifications isn't an issue, only tend to read the first 4 or 5. Wouldn't it be funny if fab didn't allow the hiding of veris and this was allowed. I wonder what they would say then for some? Although I would guess if not a good meet then prob don't do a veri anyway" If FAB allowed all verifications to automatically be shown it would be anarchy. Can you imagine all the nutters posting verifications on people they had never met and the responses from those people to the verifications posted. It would be hilarious and impossible not to read. Car crash verifications. 🤣🤣 | |||
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"So recently had a reply that stated they liked my message (was a nice change to the usual crap they had) and liked my profile but said I seemed "busy". As a guy on here not having veris is hard but now having a few is the same (although a few are just socials) Interested in opinions and thoughts on this from those who use them to decide on replying as well as those who may see the same issues. Have fun all We just use verifications to confirm actually meeting in real life, not an on line meet or web cam. Not that bothered what a verification contains as no right minded person would allow a verification stating " Mr X showed up, on time and was very pleasant but sadly was a total waste of space in the bedroom department" So all verifications will have a positive spin. On FAB for over 12 months and no meets is a red flag for us. Too many verifications isn't an issue, only tend to read the first 4 or 5. Wouldn't it be funny if fab didn't allow the hiding of veris and this was allowed. I wonder what they would say then for some? Although I would guess if not a good meet then prob don't do a veri anyway If FAB allowed all verifications to automatically be shown it would be anarchy. Can you imagine all the nutters posting verifications on people they had never met and the responses from those people to the verifications posted. It would be hilarious and impossible not to read. Car crash verifications. 🤣🤣 " Agree yes absolute bedlam. But hilarious too, yes | |||
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"I think your title is spot on for our approach, 'balance.' Balance is what we look for in verifications: socials, parties, clubs, and meets. It really is quality rather than quantity we evaluate." Thanks. Deciding on the title was a interesting one and I did feel balance was the right term. Love your approach too having a good mix to look for. | |||
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"For us its having no verifications and been on for some time that's more of a red flag . The scene is a very social place and if your out and about meeting people it doesn't mean there all play meets but even if it was it's swinging and having fun with the people you connect with. All consenting adults having fun after all. " Yeah I was lucky enough to stumble across a social quite early on (up the brum) but I get impression a lot.ofmguya think just messaging everyone to meet with inappropriate pics is all it takes. | |||
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"I've been told that too! Too active, slag/slut, must have a loose pussy etc 🤷♀️🤷♀️. I just know they aren't the men for me. I like men to be active and have verifications social or otherwise. The only ones I stay clear of are the ones who have been verified multiple times by the same person xx" I've also been on the receiving end of this appalling attitude, usually after my polite rejection.🙄 I'm like "Don't Hate the Player, Hate the Game!"🤓 Adios Amigo!👋🏼👋🏼 TWUNT BLOCK🚫 | |||
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"For us its having no verifications and been on for some time that's more of a red flag . The scene is a very social place and if your out and about meeting people it doesn't mean there all play meets but even if it was it's swinging and having fun with the people you connect with. All consenting adults having fun after all. " Most of the people I meet at events don’t use this site, so I don’t get verifications here though… | |||
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"So recently had a reply that stated they liked my message (was a nice change to the usual crap they had) and liked my profile but said I seemed "busy". As a guy on here not having veris is hard but now having a few is the same (although a few are just socials) Interested in opinions and thoughts on this from those who use them to decide on replying as well as those who may see the same issues. Have fun all We just use verifications to confirm actually meeting in real life, not an on line meet or web cam. Not that bothered what a verification contains as no right minded person would allow a verification stating " Mr X showed up, on time and was very pleasant but sadly was a total waste of space in the bedroom department" So all verifications will have a positive spin. On FAB for over 12 months and no meets is a red flag for us. Too many verifications isn't an issue, only tend to read the first 4 or 5. Wouldn't it be funny if fab didn't allow the hiding of veris and this was allowed. I wonder what they would say then for some? Although I would guess if not a good meet then prob don't do a veri anyway If FAB allowed all verifications to automatically be shown it would be anarchy. Can you imagine all the nutters posting verifications on people they had never met and the responses from those people to the verifications posted. It would be hilarious and impossible not to read. Car crash verifications. 🤣🤣 " Or verifications that are too specific and long where the idiots on here think what's written applies to mandatory activities they've to receive | |||
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"So recently had a reply that stated they liked my message (was a nice change to the usual crap they had) and liked my profile but said I seemed "busy". As a guy on here not having veris is hard but now having a few is the same (although a few are just socials) Interested in opinions and thoughts on this from those who use them to decide on replying as well as those who may see the same issues. Have fun all We just use verifications to confirm actually meeting in real life, not an on line meet or web cam. Not that bothered what a verification contains as no right minded person would allow a verification stating " Mr X showed up, on time and was very pleasant but sadly was a total waste of space in the bedroom department" So all verifications will have a positive spin. On FAB for over 12 months and no meets is a red flag for us. Too many verifications isn't an issue, only tend to read the first 4 or 5. Wouldn't it be funny if fab didn't allow the hiding of veris and this was allowed. I wonder what they would say then for some? Although I would guess if not a good meet then prob don't do a veri anyway If FAB allowed all verifications to automatically be shown it would be anarchy. Can you imagine all the nutters posting verifications on people they had never met and the responses from those people to the verifications posted. It would be hilarious and impossible not to read. Car crash verifications. 🤣🤣 Or verifications that are too specific and long where the idiots on here think what's written applies to mandatory activities they've to receive " Ah the ever fun "well you did it with that one person so why not me" | |||
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"I've been told that too! Too active, slag/slut, must have a loose pussy etc 🤷♀️🤷♀️. I just know they aren't the men for me. I like men to be active and have verifications social or otherwise. The only ones I stay clear of are the ones who have been verified multiple times by the same person xx I've also been on the receiving end of this appalling attitude, usually after my polite rejection.🙄 I'm like "Don't Hate the Player, Hate the Game!"🤓 Adios Amigo!👋🏼👋🏼 TWUNT BLOCK🚫" I know someone who if she does politely say no, blocks straight away, but she says in the message to save them time. So many previous who gave grief and shitty messages after it became the best way. | |||
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"Like with a lot of things on fab, its a case of 'each to their own'. I have, and do discount profiles on their verifications. If they are meeting a lot of people, and those people they are meeting are all meeting a lot, for me its a turn off. If they portray being a certain way, but their verifications read otherwise. If they've met a particular person.... If you are going to display your verifications, you are putting yourself up for judgement. But like I said, it's not a one size fits all. Some people won't mind one bit, some people will.... you just have to find your people. Enjoy your Sunday xx"Thanks for the input, very valuable. Enjoy your Sunday too x | |||
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"OP. You don’t need to display any verifications or even the summary. But agree with most above. Some people will find something they don’t like… normally as an excuse tbh. Just do you 🌈" I suppose yeah, I do think guys struggle if they don't show them but do think selective ones may be the one forward. Amazing smile btw Have a great day | |||
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"I wouldn't call your verification rate overly busy. Successful for a single guy for sure, but not worryingly so. As for us, the number of verifications isn't likely to put us off a person; the kinds of people who made them might. If we see a lot of verifications from people who can't form a sentence, or talks about stuff we find problematic (like illicit substances) then yeah, that's going to put us off. " I like this. A nice balanced approach. I seem to have been quite lucky as a single guy (I keep getting told anyway) but a lot of it was down to a social event and made some good friends there who introduced me to clubs and stuff. I just try to be genuine and approachable and def not send inappropriate pics in messages | |||
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"Don’t worry about it. I’ve seen a profile with over 200 verifications within 12 months. And that didn’t seem to stop them " Busy busy | |||
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