FabSwingers.com forum: Someone is know

By *ohnthorpe OP Man
18 weeks ago

near by

Bit of a dilemma,seen someone on here that I know through work! She is absolutely stunning, I know I'm not her type, do I tell her or not

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

No not unless you would approach her in that way in real life.

The furthest is I’d not hide who you were and see if she reaches out!

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By *arryandhedgehogCouple
18 weeks ago

Essex

You know you're not her type so leave her to it, you could quite easily freak her out and cause her to panic.

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By *arriedfun69Man
18 weeks ago

Bedford

Absolutely not .. this is our escape from the real world where we can really be ourselves without judgement

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
18 weeks ago

South Wales

I wouldn’t xx 😘

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By *urreywifeandmeCouple
18 weeks ago

woking

no do not , why would u embaress her

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By *venturerMan
18 weeks ago

nr Bodmin

Always best to keep your own counsel, never reveal yourself to people who are not compatible with their published desires.

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By *orksbloke73Man
18 weeks ago

Goole

I'd leave it and not say anything, never know if could cause any issues.

Wife got found out doing swinging etc, at a party. Funny but awkward for her at time. A woman at the party was riding my cock, and wife saw her. Turned out was a parent of an ex-pupil she'd taught !!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
18 weeks ago

East Sussex

Why on earth would you tell her?

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By *ools and the brainCouple
18 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

You've already decided you are going to OP so why ask?

We wouldn't unless we already knew them through swinging however even then it would only ever be a polite nod or a brief hello if passing, even then the general rule is

What happens on fabs stays on fabs, it's just not cricket old chap to approach someone in vanilla life.

Leave her be.

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By *ellhungvweMan
18 weeks ago

Cheltenham

My general opinion is to leave people in real life alone. The two worlds don’t need to collide. Block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

"Bit of a dilemma,seen someone on here that I know through work! She is absolutely stunning, I know I'm not her type, do I tell her or not

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You've answered your own question.Leave well alone and best to block her. Never ever mix work and pleasure as it has a nasty habit of kicking you in the nuts and possibly loose your job.There are lots of lovely ladies on here and some who love no strings sex. That's my advice OP but ultimately it's your call. Good luck whatever you decide to do.

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By *ravelling_manXXXMan
18 weeks ago

Ormskirk

Thd old adage; "Dont $h1t where you eat" has never been more apt.

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By *issmorganWoman
18 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Nope, if you know you're not for her, what's the sense in making her feel uncomfortable.

Block and let her be here in peace.

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By *tlanshiaWoman
18 weeks ago

Chatham

"No not unless you would approach her in that way in real life.

The furthest is I’d not hide who you were and see if she reaches out! "

When I start thinking maybe it isn't all that bad. Men start encouraging other men to manipulate women online.

Block her and move on. If she has said she isn't interested then respect her wishes.

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By *inkPomPomWoman
18 weeks ago

Isle of Man

I would find that so stressful, just ignore it

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By *azzabiguyMan
18 weeks ago

Longton

No.what anyone does outside of work is there private business.

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
18 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire

You have two alternatives here:

1) if you meet the criteria she says she's looking for, and if she accepts messages from single guys, then message her with a face picture, but crucially DON'T EVEN HINT THAT YOU KNOW HER.

2) Failing that, do nothing.

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By *sX2Couple
18 weeks ago

South Downs

We can’t see any good that would come from you telling her. You’ve already admitted she’s ’out of your league’, so at a guess your chances of hooking up with her are low. All you’re going to do if you tell her you know her is freak her out and potentially cause her to leave the site, as well as make work awkward too

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
18 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

When you are on the receiving end of being identified, it can lead to all kinds of concerns and anxiousness - who are they going to tell? What will they say? Will they tell others outside of the swinging world? What will others think if they get told? etc, etc and this is even if you are given reassurances that nothing will be said you still wonder what will be said if that person gets pissed one night and discretion goes out of the window. Say nothing, there is nothing for you to gain by saying anything.

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
18 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire

"We can’t see any good that would come from you telling her. "

I'd agree that telling her you know about her is always a bad idea.

If you can out yourself to her without letting her know that you know about her, then it's a possibility.

There's many times that I've swung with women that are out of my league. If I stuck to women that are in my league I'd hardly have swung at all.

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By *ichaelsmyMan
18 weeks ago

douglas

It is a hard and fast NO

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
17 weeks ago

Coventry

"Bit of a dilemma,seen someone on here that I know through work! She is absolutely stunning, I know I'm not her type, do I tell her or not

That's an easy one. If you know your not her type simply be a gentleman, block her and forget she's on here.

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By *valiceslutTV/TS
17 weeks ago

London

OP ….. Doesn’t seem to be a dilemma for all reading … not one person has said do it.

And it’s a simple ‘block her’ from me

Have a lovely weekend

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By *ockdownlickdownMan
17 weeks ago

paisley

"Bit of a dilemma,seen someone on here that I know through work! She is absolutely stunning, I know I'm not her type, do I tell her or not

Dont tell her you're not here type if she hasn't worked that out yet 🤷‍♂️

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By *enelope2UWoman
17 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

"Absolutely not .. this is our escape from the real world where we can really be ourselves without judgement

It's my reality and not an an escape if anything not all of us lead fake lives

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By *enelope2UWoman
17 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

Id approach her in a real sense and if she's not interested there then she wouldn't be interested online.

Maybe suggest the typical boring coffee and conversation.

Unless you know her type then you wouldn't know on any situation.

If you are being immature about it and expecting to get your dick wet simply because she's on here then of course that's different. Plus approaching at work and discussing things sexually can be sexual harassment so even more intelligence and maturity is required.

Some of us are actually adults and don't have fake 2nd lives but have intelligence.

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By *layfullsamMan
17 weeks ago

Solihull

"Bit of a dilemma,seen someone on here that I know through work! She is absolutely stunning, I know I'm not her type, do I tell her or not

First rule of fab privacy

You do not talk about Fab

Rule 2

You DO NOT talk about Fab

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By *ess n BenCouple
17 weeks ago

Didcot

Would be a big mistake

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
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17 weeks ago

Central

No. The general expectation is for discrimination in the swinging world. If you recognise people, it's wise to block and leave them to do their own things, in their way. If you see them at swinging clubs, wait for then to make the move.

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple
17 weeks ago

west london

Wear a t-shirt to work with an upside down pineapple and let her see it without intention

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By *ockdownlickdownMan
17 weeks ago

paisley

"No. The general expectation is for discrimination in the swinging world. If you recognise people, it's wise to block and leave them to do their own things, in their way. If you see them at swinging clubs, wait for then to make the move.

How does that work.... You both recognise each other and wait for the other to make the first move. I'm all for poor advice mind

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By *panking masterMan
17 weeks ago

Washington

"Bit of a dilemma,seen someone on here that I know through work! She is absolutely stunning, I know I'm not her type, do I tell her or not

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just block her profile so she cannot see your profile and just act normal if you bump into her at work,,, not worth risking your job,,,

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By *nfinished_sentenc100Man
17 weeks ago

here and there

Think you answered your own question tbh pal

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