FabSwingers.com forum: Another single male profile help!!!

By *aved400 OP Man
35 weeks ago

woking

So as the title explains, single male seeking advice.

I understand being a single guy on here is hard and i wouldnt be everybodys cup of tea.

But seems genuine articulate messages go under the radar or i get a reply that would seem the other party is interested to then be blanked.

Is there something about my profile that would put someone off as i know my messages arent your generic "wanna fuck" with an inserted dick pic.

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By *erald 1999Man
35 weeks ago

carmarthen

Maybe a bit clinical ,is the only thing i can say relax its early days 4 weeks is very new i think i didnt get a meet for a couple of months

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By *rx1Couple
35 weeks ago

Devon

The first think that jumps out

is you are "Straight", but looking for TV's ?

Not being able to accommodate, usually suggests you could be playing away. Yes granted you could be house sharing

just food for thought

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By *aved400 OP Man
35 weeks ago

woking

Are people put off by that? Many profiles ive seen are essentially looking for the same.

Also the accomodation you are 100000% correct i currently live in a house share i could accom but out of respect for my house mates and a potential meet its best if i dont if that makes sense.

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By *iss DevilWoman
35 weeks ago

Bedford

For me, "dominant" would be a red flag, as well as "cannot accommodate". When I am meeting, I prefer to accommodate myself as I am much more relaxed at my place, plenty of women/couples on here look for someone who can accommodate as they either can't or won't. Also, most see the "cannot accommodate" as "married/attached and playing away", even though there are other reasons why the person wouldn't accommodate.

The "dominant" part - yes, you are explaining it pretty well in your profile, and I would leave it there as that's who you are. And your profile is supposed to reflect you. Also, I would actually expand on it- is it just rough sex that you like, or do you actually like to use restraints, floggers etc? Women/couples who seek dominant men would surely like to know.

I would bulk up your bio a bit. Apart from being dominant, have you got any "specialties", something that women and couples may sought after? Something else than your dick that you could bring to the party?

Otherwise, well done for not going for the standard dick pics from a million and one angle.

Fab itself is just a tool to communicate with people but not necessarily to get that initial connection. Get more involved in the forum, and, if you can, get yourself out in the real world with swingers, try organised socials, clubs, or maybe even BDSM munches?

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By *iss DevilWoman
35 weeks ago

Bedford

You've already covered the "cannot accommodate" while I was typing my post. You don't have to give a reason on your bio, but maybe put "happy to book hotel/share hotel costs"?

Regarding being straight and looking for TVs- yes, that can put people off as they may think you're actually bi, just not open enough to admit it. If you are bi/bi-curious, and you'd admit it on your profile, it would shut some doors in your face, but also open others.

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By *aved400 OP Man
35 weeks ago

woking

Well thank you all for the comments ill take it all on board and work on the profile and give it a bit more detail.

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By *ir EndipityMan
35 weeks ago

Deeping

This is one of those issues that's been highlighted before of lumping TV and TS in together.

In my mind, it's perfectly possible to be straight (in that you don't fancy men in any way) but like the idea of meeting a convincing, smoooth TS, a TV not so much.

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By *aved400 OP Man
35 weeks ago

woking

100% a tv and ts are two entirley different things however fab doesnt give you an option other than both

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By *inky PerkyCouple
35 weeks ago

Narnia

Your bio is unappealing. It's essentially just a list of things that you want. Think about what you can offer.

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By *olbornsubguyMan
35 weeks ago

london

As profiles go it’s pretty good. You’re articulate and clear about what you want and offer either/both a dominant and/or sensual experience that will appeal to some. The logistics of meeting up with you aren’t clear. Assume you can travel if the other party can accom. Are you otherwise looking to split the cost of a room? Would you get somewhere for the evening or night? How far can you travel? Might help others to imagine what they’re getting into if you paint the options more clearly.

Personally I’d add some unclothed pics as well - or some that at least show some skin and give an idea of what your body is like. Agree endless dick pics are a bore, but even just a chest pic would help give an idea of what’s in store (though personally I like a dick pic or two, but then I’m not your target market!). This is a sex site not a dating site so I’d show at least some of the goods.

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By *aved400 OP Man
35 weeks ago

woking

"Your bio is unappealing. It's essentially just a list of things that you want. Think about what you can offer."

And your profile tells others what you offer?

Lets be real it isnt about what im offering every tom dick and harry has a profile offering the best shag in existance. My profile is a reflection of me and what i am into.

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By *arkdawsonMan
35 weeks ago

around

"So as the title explains, single male seeking advice.

I understand being a single guy on here is hard and i wouldnt be everybodys cup of tea.

But seems genuine articulate messages go under the radar or i get a reply that would seem the other party is interested to then be blanked.

Is there something about my profile that would put someone off as i know my messages arent your generic "wanna fuck" with an inserted dick pic.

Besides you look like your going to your prom your on forums winging ! I mean this with respect just relax hit the threads be funny stand out not with that profile pic but have fun around here ! It works

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By *eus n EuropaCouple
35 weeks ago

Norwich

"Your bio is unappealing. It's essentially just a list of things that you want. Think about what you can offer.

And your profile tells others what you offer?

Lets be real it isnt about what im offering every tom dick and harry has a profile offering the best shag in existance. My profile is a reflection of me and what i am into."

We don't see this couple asking for profile advice tho. You asked for opinion and that is exactly what you got. Their opinion is just that. When asking for help it's best to take the rough with the smooth

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By *en_Dover79Man
35 weeks ago

Oswaldtwistle

Just dont send any messages, let them come to you if they want you

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By *arkdawsonMan
35 weeks ago

around

"Your bio is unappealing. It's essentially just a list of things that you want. Think about what you can offer.

And your profile tells others what you offer?

Lets be real it isnt about what im offering every tom dick and harry has a profile offering the best shag in existance. My profile is a reflection of me and what i am into.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

"Your bio is unappealing. It's essentially just a list of things that you want. Think about what you can offer.

And your profile tells others what you offer?

Lets be real it isnt about what im offering every tom dick and harry has a profile offering the best shag in existance. My profile is a reflection of me and what i am into."

Don't ask for advice then if you don't like what people say.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
35 weeks ago

Leeds

Why do you write "I" as "i" ?

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By *riel13Woman
35 weeks ago

Northampton

My advice is... Make your profile exactly how you like it then you are guaranteed to find the people that are for you

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By *arkdawsonMan
35 weeks ago

around

"My advice is... Make your profile exactly how you like it then you are guaranteed to find the people that are for you "

I disagree respectfully that might work for you girls

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By *riel13Woman
35 weeks ago

Northampton

"My advice is... Make your profile exactly how you like it then you are guaranteed to find the people that are for you

I disagree respectfully that might work for you girls "

Nope... Women will get messages regardless, unfortunately but if there is little to no effort from a guy you are likely to get the same from your audience (unless it's other dudes) for me personally, I have to like the face... If I don't the rest doesn't matter at all but if I do, it totally does

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

My man I have the same issue and I been on and off here for a year

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

I disagree as I have spent hours composing personalised message to individuals and they get read or deleted, what a waster of time and effort

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By *lowercandyWoman
35 weeks ago

Lancashire

"So as the title explains, single male seeking advice.

I understand being a single guy on here is hard and i wouldnt be everybodys cup of tea.

But seems genuine articulate messages go under the radar or i get a reply that would seem the other party is interested to then be blanked.

Is there something about my profile that would put someone off as i know my messages arent your generic "wanna fuck" with an inserted dick pic.

I appreciate clarification on the can't accommodate

Photos are ok maybe a few more they don't need to be cock

Not sure if your expectations but you have only been here a few weeks

So pick your profiles with care, send a good message and be patient

Meanwhile get out to social events and clubs

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By *mimrgreyMan
35 weeks ago

lancaster

You can be polite, a arsehole, funny ,have the best profile ever written if.you aint a adonis with a bog dick no chance really us normals no.chanve thats how it is

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By *arkdawsonMan
35 weeks ago

around

"So as the title explains, single male seeking advice.

I understand being a single guy on here is hard and i wouldnt be everybodys cup of tea.

But seems genuine articulate messages go under the radar or i get a reply that would seem the other party is interested to then be blanked.

Is there something about my profile that would put someone off as i know my messages arent your generic "wanna fuck" with an inserted dick pic.

Again ? Just rent a cheap ragged ass h00?er less effort !actually My moms free tonight

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By *he James gangCouple
35 weeks ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

"100% a tv and ts are two entirley different things however fab doesnt give you an option other than both"

They both have a cock unless you state mpost op ts and then in that case, they're more woman than man only with a deeper voice, an Adams apple and probably large feet. If it's a pre op ts with a todger, then you're bi curious. I don't fancy men,

I'm ou twardly manly but I do like a cock

in stockings. In the absence of different

categories most would regard you as bi. You can't both edgsWe get a lot of winks and messages from couples where the guy is straight but then admit their biness at the outset. If you're writing to straight couples or singles, the ts part will most likely have a negative effect. Whatever the difference you perceive between a TV/ts is immaterial. My guess is you don't fancy men but a very convincing TV with a cock does rock your boat, and nothing wrong with that but you need to get off that fence before you get a scarf in your arse

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By *arkdawsonMan
35 weeks ago

around

"So as the title explains, single male seeking advice.

I understand being a single guy on here is hard and i wouldnt be everybodys cup of tea.

But seems genuine articulate messages go under the radar or i get a reply that would seem the other party is interested to then be blanked.

Is there something about my profile that would put someone off as i know my messages arent your generic "wanna fuck" with an inserted dick pic.

I appreciate clarification on the can't accommodate

Photos are ok maybe a few more they don't need to be cock

Not sure if your expectations but you have only been here a few weeks

So pick your profiles with care, send a good message and be patient

Meanwhile get out to social events and clubs "

Fuck me ! Think you held back a tad

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By *ootyfruityCouple
35 weeks ago

andover

Actually a good profile I think, a few more pics would be nice, it’s nice you don’t have cock pics though!

We would definitely be interested if you were bi

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
35 weeks ago

Telford

I like the photos, hot many show their face which is fine but no penis pics and you're in a suit sporting a lovely smile.

I like the profile, I don't immediately just think people are cheating because they cannot accommodate. You have explained the situation and that should be enough. If it isn't then well that's their issue not yours.

The only thing is I don't actually know what your looking for. Are you looking for one offs,do you have a type etc. Other than that I like the profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Maybe that you're straight but looking for tv/ts which means you interested in PENIS, and that put some women off.

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By *inky PerkyCouple
35 weeks ago

Narnia

"Your bio is unappealing. It's essentially just a list of things that you want. Think about what you can offer.

And your profile tells others what you offer?

Lets be real it isnt about what im offering every tom dick and harry has a profile offering the best shag in existance. My profile is a reflection of me and what i am into."

This site offers a very different experience for couples and women. As a single bloke you're a commodity, so if you don't want to be like the other 99% who have zero success then you need a bio that raises the bar significantly.

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By *riel13Woman
35 weeks ago

Northampton

"You can be polite, funny ,have the best profile ever written but if you aint attractive to whoever you're messaging... no chance "

There you go, fixed it for you

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By *og and MuseCouple
35 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Psychologist in me is confused by this profile. Uses a couple of negative words in the opening sentence and your picture displays someone who is not overly confident and maybe submissive. Yet the profile then goes to to state confident & dominant

I would say, unconfuse yourself and give it another shot

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By *he James gangCouple
35 weeks ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

"This is one of those issues that's been highlighted before of lumping TV and TS in together.

In my mind, it's perfectly possible to be straight (in that you don't fancy men in any way) but like the idea of meeting a convincing, smoooth TS, a TV not so much."

In the absence of a category saying, you're straight but like sucking cock, you're still assumed bi. Any bi guys we've met have never displayed any sort of typical gayness, Im not attracted to men in the slightest but I still wouldn't want to play with Shrek if Johnny Depp was on offer.

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By *arkdawsonMan
34 weeks ago

around

No way bro you’re still getting roasted ! Chin up you live and learn

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By *irty DiamondsCouple
34 weeks ago

London - South East and West

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By *irty DiamondsCouple
34 weeks ago

London - South East and West

"So as the title explains, single male seeking advice.

I understand being a single guy on here is hard and i wouldnt be everybodys cup of tea.

But seems genuine articulate messages go under the radar or i get a reply that would seem the other party is interested to then be blanked.

Is there something about my profile that would put someone off as i know my messages arent your generic "wanna fuck" with an inserted dick pic.

You may want to take cookery lessons and then go to the dizziest of heights by baking the most delicious of cheesecakes (various flavours) or the most moist servings of Victoria sponges, then shout it out from the highest of Fab rooftops, you will receive an avalanche of unsolicited messages from the sweet~toothed ladies of Fab and be spoilt for choice who to serve it up to.

Trust me on this.

Mr DD 😇 🍰🍰 😇

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By *irty130Couple
34 weeks ago

Bristol Area

The AI-written word salad of profile text would make me wonder if your “articulate messages” match in tone. Which voice is the real you?

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

"This is one of those issues that's been highlighted before of lumping TV and TS in together.

In my mind, it's perfectly possible to be straight (in that you don't fancy men in any way) but like the idea of meeting a convincing, smoooth TS, a TV not so much."

No sweetheart, if you're attracted to trans woman you're gynosexual and not heterosexual... don't be insecure, come out of the closet! 😉

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By *artorialMan
34 weeks ago

weymouth

"This is one of those issues that's been highlighted before of lumping TV and TS in together.

In my mind, it's perfectly possible to be straight (in that you don't fancy men in any way) but like the idea of meeting a convincing, smoooth TS, a TV not so much.

No sweetheart, if you're attracted to trans woman you're gynosexual and not heterosexual... don't be insecure, come out of the closet! 😉"

Never heard of that term, and yes I think I fit that definition - more accurate than hete

exible

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By *arkdawsonMan
34 weeks ago

around

My god how long has this roast being going on for ? I don’t care at this stage I’m impressed he hasn’t just deleted it

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

"My god how long has this roast being going on for ? I don’t care at this stage I’m impressed he hasn’t just deleted it "

The OP can’t delete a forum post, only admins can

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By *arkdawsonMan
34 weeks ago

around

"My god how long has this roast being going on for ? I don’t care at this stage I’m impressed he hasn’t just deleted it

The OP can’t delete a forum post, only admins can "

Really ? They must be enjoying this so

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