FabSwingers.com forum: Messaging

By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

I am at my wits end

I write a message each and every time specific to the person/profile and yet trying to be a gent on this site seems to get you nowhere

I appreciate my profile needs some attention but thinking this isnt the right site to be on if you cant even get a reply to strike up conversation

I have done one liners or a generic copy and paste but neither have i sent out I would do "xyz" to/with you

What are people after to warrant a response? Not begging (far from it) and appreciate many hundreds of messages are sent. Just seems impossible at times

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By *iss DevilWoman
38 weeks ago

Bedford

Unfortunately, as there is a huge amount of single men on here, creating a lot of competition, women and couples can pick and choose. And no matter how good the message is, they will always look at the profile and decide whether or not to engage with that person. You already know your profile needs work, so that's a step ahead. If you don't know what exactly you want from this site, nobody is going to ask you.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
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38 weeks ago

Central

People do reply, to those who they perceive as mutually compatible. The Fab rule is no reply, = thanks, but no thanks.

You're right to emphasise the need to focus on your profile, as every recipient will read this, before your message.

Getting to socials and clubs is also a good way to get to know others

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By *ilthyRacersCouple
38 weeks ago

Coventry

Your profile has no interests on it, and nothing elsewhere, to give people any clues what you’re into at all.

This is a site where people are into everything from whips, chains and gimp masks, down to tantric sex by candlelight - and literally everything in between! Giving folks a basic idea of what you’re into might encourage more to reply.

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By *eus n EuropaCouple
38 weeks ago

Norwich

Your post OP is quite confusing to say the least along with your profile. You say you are sending many messages yet your profile clearly states you won't be sending messages

Therefore to anyone you message they will go straight to your profile and wonder what the right situation and signals are due to your wording

You need to decide what exactly it is your wanting from a site like this and word this on your profile. Ie what you can offer and what you want from a meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

"Your post OP is quite confusing to say the least along with your profile. You say you are sending many messages yet your profile clearly states you won't be sending messages

Therefore to anyone you message they will go straight to your profile and wonder what the right situation and signals are due to your wording

You need to decide what exactly it is your wanting from a site like this and word this on your profile. Ie what you can offer and what you want from a meet "

It just states when i find the courage and not clearly i wont message

Looking back though a full rework of profile and interests is needed

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By *ilthyRacersCouple
38 weeks ago

Coventry

It just states when i find the courage and not clearly i wont message

Looking back though a full rework of profile and interests is needed

I read it the same way as the other poster

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By *ear_TinkerbellCouple
38 weeks ago

The lost village

Are you making sure you match what they are looking for? Even then, no one is owed anything.

Tink

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By *ucka39Man
38 weeks ago

Newcastle

You could always use the cam chat rooms and strike up a conversation and receive a reply plus it can also lead anywhere

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"I am at my wits end

I write a message each and every time specific to the person/profile and yet trying to be a gent on this site seems to get you nowhere

I appreciate my profile needs some attention but thinking this isnt the right site to be on if you cant even get a reply to strike up conversation

I have done one liners or a generic copy and paste but neither have i sent out I would do "xyz" to/with you

What are people after to warrant a response? Not begging (far from it) and appreciate many hundreds of messages are sent. Just seems impossible at times"

Your profile is the key, it’s your shop window, the first thing someone sees, make it the best of you, good tasteful pics, a bio about you, who you are, your likes, what you bring to the table.

Women get messages but they look at the profile before opening them, make your shop window amazing

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
38 weeks ago

Gloucester

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
38 weeks ago

Gloucester

Sorry very bad spelling. Let me try again, as others have said women and couples get many messages on here and will look at your profile before deciding to reply.

The “ I will get my profile sorted once i have worked "me" out so that i don’t waste your time or mine as life is too short” is enough to put me off responding to you. Why should I bother if you clearly don’t know what you can offer someone.

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By *issmorganWoman
38 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op, it reads to me as if you're not sure what you're looking for here and I'd question if you'd go through with a meet tbh.

Think about how you want to come across and attract the people you're looking for.

Be postive, what are you offering, you do need to stand out on here, given all the other men here too.

It doesn't matter what messages you send, if the person doesn't like your profile,they won't respond.

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By *issmorganWoman
38 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Ps not being critical, but 9nmonths should be enough for you to know what fabs about and what you're actually after on here etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Your written profile says you're 39 but you're 40 #attentiontodetail

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By *uliette500Woman
38 weeks ago

Hull

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By *uliette500Woman
38 weeks ago

Hull

Most women on here will go look at the profile before reading the message. If the profile doesnt appeal you will be lucky if your message even gets looked at.

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By *ilthyRacersCouple
38 weeks ago

Coventry

Clearly the OP didn’t like the advice from folks

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
38 weeks ago

Gloucester

Oops! UNLOS

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