FabSwingers.com forum: Help needed :)

By (user no longer on site) OP
41 weeks ago

Hi 41 year old single and been here before many a time, problem is I seem to be really struggling this time around

Can’t be my age because most people are around this age on here….feel free to tear apart my profile, honest advice appreciated x

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
41 weeks ago

West Suffolk

"Hi 41 year old single and been here before many a time, problem is I seem to be really struggling this time around

Can’t be my age because most people are around this age on here….feel free to tear apart my profile, honest advice appreciated x "

Hi OP I just had a look at your profile and my advice would be to change your pics as they are basically all the same and your bio doesn’t say much about you, what you like, what you can offer etc just remember your profile is your shop window 😊

Mrs

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By *ulderandScullyCouple
41 weeks ago

North West

"Hi 41 year old single and been here before many a time, problem is I seem to be really struggling this time around

Can’t be my age because most people are around this age on here….feel free to tear apart my profile, honest advice appreciated x "

The only thing I get from your profile is you do a lot of sit-ups.

You say you're the ideal FWB but you don't say why. Then you complain about men hassling you on here which - sorry - nobody cares about.

There are a gazillion men on here. You're gonna have to do better than "defined abs" to stand out from the crowd.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
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41 weeks ago

Central

Your profile is perhaps 50% emphasizing that you will not have sex with men. Is that truly the best use of your description of what you offer and want?

Search and read some of the many posts from men who are struggling and note the advice given to them. Implement what's relevant and experiment to assess results.

Get to socials and clubs to get to know more people

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
41 weeks ago

Central

Also, after being here many times, consider not coming and going, as you need to fight to establish yourself each time and people will not have the trust in your reliability that they maybe could have. You can hide your profile, if you need a break.

Reliability and trustworthiness are essential qualities to have here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
41 weeks ago

Thank you appreciate the help

will have a tweak and cross my fingers 🤞😁

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By *he Silver FuxMan
41 weeks ago

Utero

"Hi 41 year old single and been here before many a time, problem is I seem to be really struggling this time around

Can’t be my age because most people are around this age on here….feel free to tear apart my profile, honest advice appreciated x "

Probably struggling due to a profile that says nothing about you other than your entire personality is based on having abs… And…?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
41 weeks ago

How about now….is there anything good that I should stick to doing as I now know what wasn’t working (or was it all of it lol) xx

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By *.A.KinkWoman
41 weeks ago

wigan

"Hi 41 year old single and been here before many a time, problem is I seem to be really struggling this time around

Can’t be my age because most people are around this age on here….feel free to tear apart my profile, honest advice appreciated x

Probably struggling due to a profile that says nothing about you other than your entire personality is based on having abs… And…? "

Howlinnnn

Thank you for taking one for the team with this response because you said it more diplomatically than I could

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By *arleycplWoman
41 weeks ago

Frodsham

You have a photo with a child in it!!!!!!! The rest look like a quick snap while the wife's just nipped to the loo.

"Impecable taste" "don't show or give verifications"

Really ?

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
41 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry

To add what others have said; a screenshot with a kid… yikes! Says no men but the photos are very oriented to what men want, like and admire (ie. Gym fit, 6-pack, abs, abs abs, dick pick).

There are a lot of posts on this, so it might be worth looking at them, but also women’s/couples profiles text to see what we look for.

We only reply to messages when we are actively looking to meet and it’s a very quick turnaround. Others want to build a connection. Pick profiles that work for your style and write messages that reflect you have read the profile. That said, responding to meet requests and clubs/socials are probably the easiest way forward as those are people actively looking.

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By *ulderandScullyCouple
41 weeks ago

North West

Oh holy shit hadn't even noticed the pic with your kid in it.

What the fuck is wrong with you?

If that's your idea of boundaries you need to stay away from here, and maybe from people in general

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By *orgetmeKnotCouple
41 weeks ago

Rainham, Kent

Yeh kid pic is not a good look. Face blanked out or not, this is a site based around sex and fetish. We wouldn't even look at any more photos after that, let alone read the bio or reply.

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By *ackson2022Couple
41 weeks ago

London

The fact you thought it was ok to post a photo with a child in it (regardless of the face being blanked out) speaks volumes about you......This is a swinging/sex site just in case you were't sure what you signed up for.

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By *arleycplWoman
41 weeks ago

Frodsham

But how did it get past the mods????

I have reported it, hope you are going to as well

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By *ackson2022Couple
41 weeks ago

London

"But how did it get past the mods????

I have reported it, hope you are going to as well"

I imagine most people who spotted it have already reported the profile and picture.....and yes

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By *.A.KinkWoman
41 weeks ago

wigan

For someone who’s “been here before” you seem wholly inexperienced and uneducated.

The disappointing reality is this isn’t the first profile I’ve encountered with images relating to children. Only a few weeks ago I messaged an account here to ask if he thought taking photos of himself and uploading them online; that were of a sexual nature, led on a child’s cartoon character duvet, with his child’s toys on the floor, was appropriate?

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By *rikTheVikingMan
41 weeks ago

Llanelli

A photo with your child in it is seriously not cool, you've posted nearly every photo of your ABS , yes we get it you've got a 6 pack.. I'm a straight male but its clear you seem more interested in the way you look and how women see you , than simply just being yourself..

I have zero problems with getting meets, have no issues with how my body looks even though I could lose a few LBS if I wanted to. But im always myself..

I currently have 2 FWB , and possibly a new one tomorrow after our meet , so really my time on FAB will be a lot less from now on..

Take a look at my profile, like I said im never short for meets..

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By *.A.KinkWoman
41 weeks ago

wigan

"A photo with your child in it is seriously not cool, you've posted nearly every photo of your ABS , yes we get it you've got a 6 pack.. I'm a straight male but its clear you seem more interested in the way you look and how women see you , than simply just being yourself..

I have zero problems with getting meets, have no issues with how my body looks even though I could lose a few LBS if I wanted to. But im always myself..

I currently have 2 FWB , and possibly a new one tomorrow after our meet , so really my time on FAB will be a lot less from now on..

Take a look at my profile, like I said im never short for meets.. "

Hell yeah!

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By *eus n EuropaCouple
41 weeks ago

Norwich

Now busy penning a new profile no doubt

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By *arleycplWoman
41 weeks ago

Frodsham

Upps another UNLOS

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By *.A.KinkWoman
41 weeks ago

wigan

"Now busy penning a new profile no doubt

AHAHAHAHAHAH yup!!!! X

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By *estinysswingersCouple
41 weeks ago

Worsley

UNLOS.

Clearly didn't need that much help.

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