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How to get that first initial verification

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By *reshDesire OP   Man
7 weeks ago

Manchester

Hi there. I'm pretty new here and still trying to get to grips with things. How do I gather enough trust to have that initial social with someone?

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By *weetWithATw1stWoman
7 weeks ago

MiddleofMyStreet

I find it is easier to look for a social gathering in your area and attend one of them xx

There are a fuck ton of guys on here compared to ladies/couples. So i always say go to a social party and mingle there xx

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By *reshDesire OP   Man
7 weeks ago

Manchester

That's a good shout. Do you mean specific swinging gatherings or just gatherings in general?

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By *weetWithATw1stWoman
7 weeks ago

MiddleofMyStreet


"That's a good shout. Do you mean specific swinging gatherings or just gatherings in general? "

I would say have a look in the forums for social parties taking place. some take place in vanilla venues like a pub... others are in a swinger club xx

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By *iss KinkWoman
7 weeks ago

Up North


"Hi there. I'm pretty new here and still trying to get to grips with things. How do I gather enough trust to have that initial social with someone? "

I’d look at an organised social or a club visit you will deffinately get some verifications x

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By *ogandher1962Couple
7 weeks ago

Reading


"Hi there. I'm pretty new here and still trying to get to grips with things. How do I gather enough trust to have that initial social with someone? "

Plenty of clubs in the Manchester area, you could go to one of those, chat to folk and ask to be verified.

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
7 weeks ago

Alphabet Mafia HQ, Dudleyish.

Clubs, social and munches are your best way to get veris.

We have seen guys go from 0 to 10+ from a club night.

Bear in mind it doesn't make it easier to get other meets but you make some connections if you make a proper go of it.

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By *eekendVixenCouple
7 weeks ago

Birmingham

We’ve verified guys for first time we met in a club but vixen didn’t get chance to play with.

A 10min chat with someone new and keen goes a long way.

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By *oiluvfunMan
7 weeks ago

Penrith


"Hi there. I'm pretty new here and still trying to get to grips with things. How do I gather enough trust to have that initial social with someone?

I’d look at an organised social or a club visit you will definitely get some verifications x"

But choose the club carefully; not all are single guy friendly...

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By *iss KinkWoman
7 weeks ago

Up North


"Hi there. I'm pretty new here and still trying to get to grips with things. How do I gather enough trust to have that initial social with someone?

I’d look at an organised social or a club visit you will definitely get some verifications x

But choose the club carefully; not all are single guy friendly... "

The ones I go to are

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By *oiluvfunMan
7 weeks ago

Penrith


"Hi there. I'm pretty new here and still trying to get to grips with things. How do I gather enough trust to have that initial social with someone?

I’d look at an organised social or a club visit you will definitely get some verifications x

But choose the club carefully; not all are single guy friendly...

The ones I go to are "

Not all of them

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By *aomilatteCouple
7 weeks ago

Midlands

Defiantly go to a club and say hello to people. Most (not all) people in clubs are friendly and will be happy to have a chat and verify you. You could get 5 or 6 verifications in one night. You may even have some fun, though don't assume you will.

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By *ootnootboopCouple
7 weeks ago

Cheshire


"Hi there. I'm pretty new here and still trying to get to grips with things. How do I gather enough trust to have that initial social with someone?

I’d look at an organised social or a club visit you will definitely get some verifications x

But choose the club carefully; not all are single guy friendly...

The ones I go to are

Not all of them "

Going to be honest, this whole "some clubs aren't friendly to single guys" idea is weird!

The club is never the problem, it's the people within it. You get out what you put in, so go up to people and say hi, strike up a conversation with someone in the hot tub, make a joke about how you as a man can't hack wearing that beautiful ladies 6 inch heels anymore....

I'll guarantee you, 9/10 people will engage with you in some positive way, even if it's just a friendly comment back ☺️

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

Clubs are always a good shout, however there is a regular social in Manchester posted here on the forum.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Central

Only some people perhaps won't meet someone who's not verified. I'd put the focus on what you can control and change easily, before you get to a social. Clubs are easiest but beware of any with high joining fees, if you're not going regularly.

Loads of friendly people around Manchester

Look at the tips for single men to help improve their chances, such as best ways to use their profiles etc

But stay aware that Fab needs investment of hard work m, to get established

Good luck!

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
7 weeks ago

Alphabet Mafia HQ, Dudleyish.


"Hi there. I'm pretty new here and still trying to get to grips with things. How do I gather enough trust to have that initial social with someone?

I’d look at an organised social or a club visit you will definitely get some verifications x

But choose the club carefully; not all are single guy friendly...

The ones I go to are

Not all of them

Going to be honest, this whole "some clubs aren't friendly to single guys" idea is weird!

The club is never the problem, it's the people within it. You get out what you put in, so go up to people and say hi, strike up a conversation with someone in the hot tub, make a joke about how you as a man can't hack wearing that beautiful ladies 6 inch heels anymore....

I'll guarantee you, 9/10 people will engage with you in some positive way, even if it's just a friendly comment back ☺️"

We can second this.

Our whole group who the clubs by us are very single male and newbie single male friendly.

In a club situation you can shine by getting involved and trying to start conversation.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
7 weeks ago

Coventry

From my own experience as a single a verification isn't the gate keeper. Its not necessarily the thing holding you back or the thing that will give you the key.

A verification can be helpful but is only one factor in peoples calculus on if to meet or not. Many people know everone has to start somewhere and if you've not been on too long it's not a red flag.

Also people pay attention to the type of verification and what it says (between the lines too). For example is it a mind blowing verification of a sexual encounter from a credible established profile that holds weight. Or is it a webcam verification or just some generic kind words from a social meet. Which of course aren't a bad thing but don't necessarily give much insight or weight other than you are real and seem to be a decent enough guy (as everyone should be). Remember you don't really get a great insight until you get down to it, so a social showing you're on your best social behaviour may not say a lot. Also if you have loads of generic social verification saying chatted to this guy, he's nice etc may start to be counter productive eventually. People start to question if he gets about a bit but why is no one dragging him off to the bed room? And of course when you have glowing verifications from iffy profiles that have been on two minutes it can be a red flag.

So don't desperately chase verifications. You will get there and you will get one, we all have our first. And quality verifications and what they say are better than loads of wishy washy generic ones.

Mr

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By *asygoingcouple1000Couple
7 weeks ago

North Manchester


"Hi there. I'm pretty new here and still trying to get to grips with things. How do I gather enough trust to have that initial social with someone?

I’d look at an organised social or a club visit you will definitely get some verifications x

But choose the club carefully; not all are single guy friendly...

The ones I go to are

Not all of them "

Clubs know which side their bread is buttered. They make the money from the single guys so what are you on about

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By *orny PTMan
7 weeks ago

Peterborough

Clubs and socials: the hosts can do them, if you ask them nicely and make the effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

I went on cams went in the bi room got my cock out on cam and bang got verified. That was my last resort. lol

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By *reshDesire OP   Man
7 weeks ago

Manchester

Thanks for all the replies! This has been a lot of help.

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By *oiluvfunMan
7 weeks ago

Penrith


"Hi there. I'm pretty new here and still trying to get to grips with things. How do I gather enough trust to have that initial social with someone?

I’d look at an organised social or a club visit you will definitely get some verifications x

But choose the club carefully; not all are single guy friendly...

The ones I go to are

Not all of them

Clubs know which side their bread is buttered. They make the money from the single guys so what are you on about "

Speaking as someone who has visited several clubs as a single guy, I am “on about” the difference of reception I’ve received. Two clubs I would happily return to, as the staff were genuinely friendly and welcoming towards me. One club (to which I referred above) couldn’t have cared less once my cash was in the till, and the owner himself even blanked me completely when I asked for a drink from the bar….

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

As others have said,

A Local Social Event. Goto a Club on Newbies Night if they have one. Get involved here in the Forums (Sometimes People meet based on what they see here as a reflection of Your personality),Keep sending respectful Messages out, (Maybe) have a peek at some Guys Profiles and see if some format or statement catches your eye and adapt it for Yourself (But keep it Real to You)..

But Most of all.. It's Perseverence! But Enjoy Yourself and keep smiling

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