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By *akie32 OP   Man
8 weeks ago

winchester

as the title really, single people arent swingers,i always thought that swingers were couples looking to swap etc....

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
8 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

I don't understand is there a question?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
8 weeks ago

East Sussex

I think you can call it what you want but without single guys lots of couples wouldn't be swingers either by your definition

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By *eroLondonMan
8 weeks ago

Mayfair

Surely, as one example, it takes a single person to make a couple into a triumvirate. Would that single person not be a swinger?

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By *entfootloverMan
8 weeks ago

Sevenoaks


"Surely, as one example, it takes a single person to make a couple into a triumvirate. Would that single person not be a swinger?"

Interesting. First thought, the swingers are the couple in the open relationship. But then, a single person who actively seeks multiple casual engagements with couples who swap, shouldn't that be a swinger too? They actively seek people who want to swap.

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By *aviniaCDTV/TS
8 weeks ago

Leeds (close to GAP)

An interesting thought OP, especially as your very own profile states that you....

'have swinging experience as a couple and single'

That went well!

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago


"as the title really, single people arent swingers,i always thought that swingers were couples looking to swap etc...."

That might be how swinging first started out but times have changed.

Don't be a dinosaur OP.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
8 weeks ago

cahoots


"Surely, as one example, it takes a single person to make a couple into a triumvirate. Would that single person not be a swinger?

Interesting. First thought, the swingers are the couple in the open relationship. But then, a single person who actively seeks multiple casual engagements with couples who swap, shouldn't that be a swinger too? They actively seek people who want to swap."

Technically the single person isn't swapping, merely receiving. I think the enm title probably fits most people.

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
8 weeks ago

Middle England

Single people can be swingers.

What does sometimes irk people are those in relationships who 'cheat' behind their partners back. As they would say cheating is not swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago


"Single people can be swingers.

What does sometimes irk people are those in relationships who 'cheat' behind their partners back. As they would say cheating is not swinging."

Totally agree number of couples wanting a male or female to join for a threesome means of course single people are required on the swinging scene.

But also agree cheating is not swinging. Which is why many swingers prefer to only play with genuinely single people.

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By *teinsGateDuoCouple
8 weeks ago

Newcastle under Lyme

Swining is engaging in group sex or swapping partners. It's not bloody watching or chatting that's for sure. Sadly there's a lot of that.

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
8 weeks ago

Café Leblanc, Stourbridge

Single people absolutely can be swingers.

What if you are in a swing couple and seperate or partner passes away? You stop being a swinger until you are in a couple again? No.

People who are cheating aren't swingere however.

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By *eadpool-ishMan
8 weeks ago

Horam

I think King Louie was a single primate ... and he was king of the swingers

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By *rad670Man
8 weeks ago

South Lakes

In the original true sense of the word maybe but if swinging couples didn't have fantasies involving single males or indeed unicorns then my few years on fab would have been very boring, think of it as a service to the swinging couples community.

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By *ootnootboopCouple
8 weeks ago

Cheshire

Ah it's just a label......

We don't care much for labels...

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By *weetWithATw1stWoman
8 weeks ago

MiddleofMyStreet

I'm single... count myself as a swinger... i love swings weeeee

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
8 weeks ago

Coventry

If you embrace and participate in the wider swinger lifestyle then you're a swinger regardless of your relationship status.

It's not hard to get your head around.

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By *issmorganWoman
8 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

You can be single and still be a swinger.

Lots of couples are only looking for men or women to join them,not partner swapping.

People who embrace the lifestyle and meet multiple people for 3sums and more sums swing too.

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

Oh here we go again

Someone trying to define what or who we are

Plenty of threads on this

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By *absFrenchGentMan
8 weeks ago

stafford

the term swingers applies to people who have multiple partners with whom they engage in sexual intercourse not just people who swap partners . therefore singles can also be swingers and on top of that during their encounters it will happen that singles will get involved with others including other singles and they will swap "partners" during orgies for example .

so i am a fully fledged swinger wether i'm single or not ' thank you very much .

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By *absFrenchGentMan
8 weeks ago

stafford

apart if someone is sitting on your face

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
8 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"the term swingers applies to people who have multiple partners with whom they engage in sexual intercourse not just people who swap partners . therefore singles can also be swingers and on top of that during their encounters it will happen that singles will get involved with others including other singles and they will swap "partners" during orgies for example .

so i am a fully fledged swinger wether i'm single or not ' thank you very much ."

The original definition in the OP doesn't sit well with me.

Couples just swapping partners is wife/husband swapping in my mind. Not saying they're not swingers, but singles certainly can be too.

Sure, some are just looking for 1-2-1 NSA hook ups and you could argue that's not swinging. But singles meeting couples, multiple other singles, enjoying group play and orgies? Yep. That's swinging. 🤷‍♂️

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By *allySlinkyWoman
8 weeks ago

Leeds

I am single and have frequently had sex with couples. I have enjoyed group sex and also me with three men. Am I a swinger or a slapper ?

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
8 weeks ago

Café Leblanc, Stourbridge


"I am single and have frequently had sex with couples. I have enjoyed group sex and also me with three men. Am I a swinger or a slapper ?"

A slipper.

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By *w funwifeWoman
8 weeks ago

near taunton

couples are swingers but singles can swing with couples ... singles who meet singles are just having fun as singles do

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By *eyeYCouple
8 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

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By *eyeYCouple
8 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

Had considered this, but very uninterested in label's so...

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By *acky RacersCouple
8 weeks ago

Lincoln

I think single people who embrace a non monogamous lifestyle and understand the dynamic are very much swingers if that's the word people want to use...

However...I think a lot if single profiles especially male ones(actually single or not) see this as a place to pick people up for casual sex...nothing wrong with casual sex per se, but when it leads to the frustrations and abuse people get when it's not like picking something out of the sexual argos catalogue...it's not cool...

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By *osweet69Couple
8 weeks ago

portsmouth

Collins: Definition of 'swinger'

Swingers are people who are married or in a long-term relationship and who like to have sex with other people's partners.

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By *eyeYCouple
8 weeks ago

Nr Leicester


"Collins: Definition of 'swinger'

Swingers are people who are married or in a long-term relationship and who like to have sex with other people's partners."

Yes exactly, but would that not eliminate a lot of dynamics.. 🤔

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By *absFrenchGentMan
8 weeks ago

stafford

just as according to some encyclopedia not that long ago Pluto was a planet of the solar system and yet ...

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple
8 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire

There are a lot of singles who wouldn't be swingers if they were part of a couple, because they wouldn't want their partner to have the same freedom that they have.

There is something special about being in a relationship, and trusting your partner so much that you don't care what they do as long as it makes them happy. What word you use for that isn't that important

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By *p4fun60Couple
8 weeks ago

Hampshire

When we initially entered this lifestyle many,many years ago it was called wife swapping & you needed another half to attend a party with, I can honestly say we never came across a single male or female - after a very long break of 20+ years we've come back into it & surprise surprise singles are of an abundance, so much so that it's almost an extension to Tinder or plenty of fish

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By *areDevil99Man
8 weeks ago

West Midlands

Trust me, I've been to enough clubs that were swinging to be defined as one!

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By *w funwifeWoman
8 weeks ago

near taunton

singles can swing but they are not swingers as swinger are couples its always been known that couples are swingers no couples no swinging scene ...single use the scene the swinging scene but dont get the title no matter how many clubs n parties youve been to its logic.. swingers = couples who play with others

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By *tormchasingCouple
8 weeks ago

Essex

You're over thinking it OP

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By *otMediterraneanWoman
8 weeks ago

MK

Ok slight expansion but not hijacking’s the thread

Currently ffm is my way of playing with my husband

Having had plenty and we only have ever had ffm

I don’t necessarily consider myself a swinger either

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By *illan-KillashMan
8 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"singles can swing but they are not swingers as swinger are couples its always been known that couples are swingers no couples no swinging scene ...single use the scene the swinging scene but dont get the title no matter how many clubs n parties youve been to its logic.. swingers = couples who play with others "

In which case you should close this single female profile where you are specifically looking for men, and stick to your couples profile.

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By *w funwifeWoman
8 weeks ago

near taunton


"singles can swing but they are not swingers as swinger are couples its always been known that couples are swingers no couples no swinging scene ...single use the scene the swinging scene but dont get the title no matter how many clubs n parties youve been to its logic.. swingers = couples who play with others

In which case you should close this single female profile where you are specifically looking for men, and stick to your couples profile.

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your missing the point im still one half of a 30 plus plus years swinging / cuckold couple having a profile for me alone dont change that im part of a couple and i openly say that on this profile if you wanted all women of swinging couples to shut thier prpfiles then there would be very few women left..

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By *am8312Man
8 weeks ago

Brighton


"I think King Louie was a single primate ... and he was king of the swingers"

Excellent

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By *illan-KillashMan
8 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"singles can swing but they are not swingers as swinger are couples its always been known that couples are swingers no couples no swinging scene ...single use the scene the swinging scene but dont get the title no matter how many clubs n parties youve been to its logic.. swingers = couples who play with others

In which case you should close this single female profile where you are specifically looking for men, and stick to your couples profile.

your missing the point im still one half of a 30 plus plus years swinging / cuckold couple having a profile for me alone dont change that im part of a couple and i openly say that on this profile if you wanted all women of swinging couples to shut thier prpfiles then there would be very few women left.."

It was a point that you made. You may well be part of a swinging couple, but as a single person, you're not a swinger. It's your own point.

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By *w funwifeWoman
8 weeks ago

near taunton


"singles can swing but they are not swingers as swinger are couples its always been known that couples are swingers no couples no swinging scene ...single use the scene the swinging scene but dont get the title no matter how many clubs n parties youve been to its logic.. swingers = couples who play with others

In which case you should close this single female profile where you are specifically looking for men, and stick to your couples profile.

your missing the point im still one half of a 30 plus plus years swinging / cuckold couple having a profile for me alone dont change that im part of a couple and i openly say that on this profile if you wanted all women of swinging couples to shut thier prpfiles then there would be very few women left..

It was a point that you made. You may well be part of a swinging couple, but as a single person, you're not a swinger. It's your own point.

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ok what your saying make zero sense what i said was couples are swingers singles can swing but are not class as swingers where did i say profiles ??? alot of single profiles are part of couples real married couples just because one has a single profile does not mean they are single a profile does not defind your relationship status or indeed how yo play

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By *illan-KillashMan
8 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"singles can swing but they are not swingers as swinger are couples its always been known that couples are swingers no couples no swinging scene ...single use the scene the swinging scene but dont get the title no matter how many clubs n parties youve been to its logic.. swingers = couples who play with others

In which case you should close this single female profile where you are specifically looking for men, and stick to your couples profile.

your missing the point im still one half of a 30 plus plus years swinging / cuckold couple having a profile for me alone dont change that im part of a couple and i openly say that on this profile if you wanted all women of swinging couples to shut thier prpfiles then there would be very few women left..

It was a point that you made. You may well be part of a swinging couple, but as a single person, you're not a swinger. It's your own point.

ok what your saying make zero sense what i said was couples are swingers singles can swing but are not class as swingers where did i say profiles ??? alot of single profiles are part of couples real married couples just because one has a single profile does not mean they are single a profile does not defind your relationship status or indeed how yo play "

If only couples can be classed as swingers and singles can swing but they can't be classed as swingers, what should we class singles as?

By your own definition, on this single female profile, you can't be classed as a swinger. How should we class you? Obviously not as a swinger as defined by yourself.......

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By *olds CoupleCouple
8 weeks ago

Louth Lincolnshire

Back in the '70s we knew it as wife swopping, I think the swinging term came from the USA. These days wife/husband/partner sharing would probably be a more descriptive title if you needed one.

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By *effdelightMan
8 weeks ago

Grimsby

Like saying you're not heterosexual without a partner of the opposite sex.

Ridiculous.

Very basically wrong.

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By *entenTeaCouple
8 weeks ago

Buckley North Wales

Swinging is as much a social scene as,l any thing else. If you are actively onbtge scene and engaging sicislly and sexually with other people on the scene. Then you are a swinger. Regardless of: relationship status, gender or orientation.

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By *layfullsamMan
7 weeks ago

Solihull


"as the title really, single people arent swingers,i always thought that swingers were couples looking to swap etc...."

Is this a statement of fact ? Or your opinion

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