FabSwingers.com forum: New to this....advice wanted!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey there, i'm new to all this but i want to put myself out there, i've been on the site just over a month and have had no luck, what am i doing wrong? Can someone give advice?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Welcome to the forums.

You being a single male, you will need patience, some men don't get a meet for a while when they first join so you need to make an impression, be that in mails or on your profile....it is the first thing people will see and although not everyone will have the same idea as to what is a good profile, try and make it eyecatching. Check out other peoples profiles and get some ideas.

You have dipped your toe now so you could stay and join in the posting , that will get you noticed.

You could try the chatrooms.... they can be great fun and again will get you noticed.

If you fancy a social to get to know people too there are lots advertised in the meet and party section.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

flesh out your profile a bit, and add some clothed/semi clothed pics showing off your best features.

Oh and patience. There is a very high ratio of men to others in Fab. And you really need to stand out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

shave

and remove yr 2nd pic its horrid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"shave

and remove yr 2nd pic its horrid

Well we were going to post straight after the O.P.

However,we were wondering the best way to word it.

Fortunately Sweetkisses had no such qualms.

So its just left to us to reiterate.

Yes,the 2nd pic is somewhat dubious,so we would drop it.

We also agree with her "shave" comment,many people on the site dislike pubes and .......heres the awkward bit........we'd hazzard a bet that many more dislike ginger ones.

This is based on our own personal taste and many comments we've heard on the subject.

Please don't get us wrong,we're not getting at you,just being honest with the advice you asked for.

Hope this helps in some way.

Good Luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey there, i'm new to all this but i want to put myself out there, i've been on the site just over a month and have had no luck, what am i doing wrong? Can someone give advice?

ok not being cheeky but trying to be constructive here , this seems to come an awful lot , you not been on that long really , patience goes a long way as a single guy on here , also make the profile the best you can , try and look at previous posts on the forums for advice , be 100% honest with folk , accept that sometimes well most of the time as a single guy your going to be ignored , get into the chat talk to people make some friends , attend a social perhaps ? bottom line you get out what you put in to this site being honest , just be yourself , be patient and be friendly and hopefully things will happen best of luck .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would agree that bushy pubes are not a plus point! And why not add a face pic? Your face is individual but pubes and dangly bits, well we all know what they look like!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right I think as stated you need to bear in mind the massive numbers of guys on here. So the numbers are stacked against you.

Running alongside that you have the fact that most folks on here dont like pubes so the jungly look isnt going to help much.

And running alongside that the flaming bush/ginger situation means that you are going to be appealing to ever decreasing circles of people.

Plus I'm struggling to fathom Pic number 2. Is that a shot of the outer bit of your stench trench?

I'd go on the chat and try and get involved with the socials. Failing that maybe clubs are a way forward.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey there, i'm new to all this but i want to put myself out there, i've been on the site just over a month and have had no luck, what am i doing wrong? Can someone give advice?

Welcome to the forums! You've had a lot of good advice (above). As previous posters have said, be patient, maybe come to the chat room, maybe come to the socials. All good ways of getting to know people.

Depending on who you hope to appeal to, maybe rethink your pictures. For ladies, a nice face pic is best, or a nice pic of your chest (if you don't want to show your face).

Ass pics can be tricky, if you're hoping to appeal to both sexes ... but to appeal to ladies, I think an ass pic of you standing up would be prefered. Your second pic, particularly, would really put me off.

Also, as previous posters have suggested, most swingers are either shaved or very closely trimmed. So maybe take a pair of scissors to your nether regions, then re-do your photos.

Other than that, good luck, and I hope you find what you are looking for, on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In addition to the very useful advice others have offered as a single woman you wouldn't appeal to me as you seem more interested in having fun with other men and you've added women as an afterthought. I cant see you appealing to a straight couple either, especially as all your friends are men! This site is diverse and caters for everyone, so patience and good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheesh! Talk about intolerance and hypocrisy!!

If a larger lady posted a thread like this and someone said, "Hey, lose the blubber, pork chops!" He or she would have been lynched by you lot.

So this guy shaves his hair off. You then have no idea he's a ginger. He shags you, you enjoy it. You get a good time out of it but he had to shave his hair off to make you happy.

Look at his username, he obviously doesn't have a problem with being ginger so why the fuck should you have a problem with it.

And this is supposed to be a help forum. I'd rather scape my nuts down a rusty cheesgrater then soak them in vinegar before asking for help in here!!

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"Cheesh! Talk about intolerance and hypocrisy!!

If a larger lady posted a thread like this and someone said, "Hey, lose the blubber, pork chops!" He or she would have been lynched by you lot.

So this guy shaves his hair off. You then have no idea he's a ginger. He shags you, you enjoy it. You get a good time out of it but he had to shave his hair off to make you happy.

Look at his username, he obviously doesn't have a problem with being ginger so why the fuck should you have a problem with it.

And this is supposed to be a help forum. I'd rather scape my nuts down a rusty cheesgrater then soak them in vinegar before asking for help in here!!"

Now now Wishy..........

To be honest, it's got bugger all to do with the fact he is ginger........

I've looked and he's a nice size, could do unmentionable things to my fanny but I'd never go near it because I don't like flossing with public hair.

The OP is bi...... and thats gonna take a fair few away from him and the fact that his pictures are appaling......

Other than that, he shouldn't give up and he should make his profile his window to the swinging world, not 2 lines of blither.......

Standard response that most single males get.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Cheesh! Talk about intolerance and hypocrisy!!

If a larger lady posted a thread like this and someone said, "Hey, lose the blubber, pork chops!" He or she would have been lynched by you lot.

So this guy shaves his hair off. You then have no idea he's a ginger. He shags you, you enjoy it. You get a good time out of it but he had to shave his hair off to make you happy.

Look at his username, he obviously doesn't have a problem with being ginger so why the fuck should you have a problem with it.

And this is supposed to be a help forum. I'd rather scape my nuts down a rusty cheesgrater then soak them in vinegar before asking for help in here!!"

lmao, that made me spit my cuppa out the way you worded it , but so true too

Keep your pubes ginger or not if you like them !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey there, i'm new to all this but i want to put myself out there, i've been on the site just over a month and have had no luck, what am i doing wrong? Can someone give advice?

aye wot rugby said is good advice, only i noticed your profile says u only play with up to 35 lots of couples have one half 20s/30s and the other half older so that might not help your case lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cheesh! Talk about intolerance and hypocrisy!!

If a larger lady posted a thread like this and someone said, "Hey, lose the blubber, pork chops!" He or she would have been lynched by you lot.

So this guy shaves his hair off. You then have no idea he's a ginger. He shags you, you enjoy it. You get a good time out of it but he had to shave his hair off to make you happy.

Look at his username, he obviously doesn't have a problem with being ginger so why the fuck should you have a problem with it.

And this is supposed to be a help forum. I'd rather scape my nuts down a rusty cheesgrater then soak them in vinegar before asking for help in here!!"

If I put up a thread along the lines of the OP I would expect comments along the lines of bbw not for everyone (and not so tactfully put variants of), pics of legs (tree trunks, elephants) say nothing put some face body shots on, your looking for sub men but don't want bi - make your mind up lady, good luck with finding that, you're profile makes you sound like you're right up your own arse and for a fat chick you're mighty picky...all of the above I've received from people I've not even contacted by the way.

Therefore, knowing the brutal honesty of Fab forumites, if I put up a thread like this asking for help I would expect some positive, some negative comments - no point asking if all you want to hear is oooh you're gorgeous, everything is fine just be patient!!

You post your thread and you take your chances!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You post your thread and you take your chances!!!

yea i agree..u put up a thread u need

2 listen 2 wats said thats the whole

point of it is it not..wat put me off

right away would be the forest he's

got round his cock..but each 2 there

own..everyone is diff an everyone

is looking for diff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

get some clothes and face pics and have a shave or at least a trim...lol

there sheds load of males on the site so people can be choosy,

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would it help if we wrote "Everything's A-OK mate"?

Sure a bit tongue in cheek but the guys asking for advice here. Its not so much the ginger thing anyway more the fact that he has a sea of pubic hair where most folks I've seen on here and in clubs dont.

Just pointing out that on site with a massive surfeit of men you need to appeal to the widest audience.

Otherwise he will be coming on here asing for advice. Oh wait a minute...

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

All that really good advice has obviously been taken on board!!! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol oh bloody hell.

My career in advising would-be profile writers has gone down the pan before it even began lol

I still think a trim isnt a bad idea...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definatly shave or at least trim.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

We could say anything here i think - doesn't look like the op has taken on board any of the advice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It always amazes us how many times someone will ask for advice,then you never hear from them again.

Not so much as a kiss my arse or thank you!!

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It always amazes us how many times someone will ask for advice,then you never hear from them again.

Not so much as a kiss my arse or thank you!!

XXXX"

did you message them and say .. 'come and shag us right this very second'....

some want genuine advice... the others just 'help me, help me, shag me and that will help me '

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey there, i'm new to all this but i want to put myself out there, i've been on the site just over a month and have had no luck, what am i doing wrong? Can someone give advice?

Defo lose the ginger clock springs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol sorry i am still laughing over this one - i have a wierd sense of humour lol

bless the poor lad he really didnt know what would hit him did he!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate, look out!

Your cock is on fire!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

awwww be nice now!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mate, look out!

Your cock is on fire!

Grr if he'd been an overweight lady coming on here for help and we said lose it etc.....Grrrrrrrrrr

I'd sooner scrape my lovespuds on a cheesegrater and soak em in olive oil than ask you lot for....

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i say be honest with yourself i love the fact you have displayed your bi and not found yourself sucomming to the many out there who lie to get what they want! i also love the fact you are proud to be ginger and are not shy about it! putting a pic of your cock on is a mistake 90% of men on here make so live and learn and stick it in private and lets see one of u smiling and enjoying yourself......lenghten the profile a bit and tell people about yourself not just what your looking for and hey presto i think u may of cracked it!! and whatever you do dont be put down if your ignored or politely told no its not always that there not into you there numerous thing i.e there timewasters or the come on here for a chat and have never actually swung and wouldnt do everyone has different reasons for joining this wonderful world and thats just a few of them good luck and get yourself to a gangbang you just never know who u might meet!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It always amazes us how many times someone will ask for advice,then you never hear from them again.

Not so much as a kiss my arse or thank you!!

XXXX

did you message them and say .. 'come and shag us right this very second'....

With that fiery forest!!!! Are you kidding?

XXXX

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

ive read all the post on this thread ,and ive found that although i took time to create a detailed profile ,giving as much info as poss , uploading lots of recent face, full body and dressed pics (albeit in my friends gallery for discresion purposes im happy to show anyone who wants to see them ,sending polite and detailed messages -all this has made no difference and i will admit im scratching my head as to what more i can do to stand out.

i go in chat ,but have found unless you are a couple or single female no one is interested in speaking to you .

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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They are if you join in and have fun.

Just butt into the conversations until someone answers you.

Put their name against your comments so they know you are talking to them, and keep it upbeat, people will notice you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

... what she said..... that and you've only been here a month, so keep scratching your head a while longer!

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

ive looked at a great deal of male profiles to get some pointers , and one thing that ive noticed is there are a lot of single males who have one line profiles, no pics ,yet have had a lot of meets .

yet you go to a great deal of effort to compose a detailed profile with plenty of pics ,and it makes no difference.

im going wrong somewhere

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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You are not. What catches one persons eye won't catch anothers.

We all like different things, including how profiles are set out.

You need a bit of patience and no expectations. It isn't like ordering a pizza, it might take time.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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PS This won't put everyone off, but negative comments in a profile puts us off.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"ive looked at a great deal of male profiles to get some pointers , and one thing that ive noticed is there are a lot of single males who have one line profiles, no pics ,yet have had a lot of meets .

yet you go to a great deal of effort to compose a detailed profile with plenty of pics ,and it makes no difference.

im going wrong somewhere "

Honest truth......

You're shoving ya knob up some random woman with no condom on.....

Screams barebacker........ you've just cut 80% of the site off. You are also looking for local meets and regular meets not one offs....... you've just cut off another 15% or so.....

Unfortunately, you are not left with much.

IF and I say IF, you are genuinely into safe sex...... take that photo off or if you are a barebacker, say so...... there's a percentage on here that look for that.

But I'd say mainly it's the radius of your meets that's making it hard for you.

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

i take on board your comment about that pic. i accomodate only ,as i dont drive ,so thats why im looking for local meets . not everyone drives .

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"i take on board your comment about that pic. i accomodate only ,as i dont drive ,so thats why im looking for local meets . not everyone drives . "

I've got no other answers, it's a good profile and the other pictures are decent.......

I do think your radius is your main problem. Some single blokes travel for miles and miles to a meet.

You are just gonna have to be patient and get to a social that is on a train route!

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

"i take on board your comment about that pic. i accomodate only ,as i dont drive ,so thats why im looking for local meets . not everyone drives .

I've got no other answers, it's a good profile and the other pictures are decent.......

I do think your radius is your main problem. Some single blokes travel for miles and miles to a meet.

You are just gonna have to be patient and get to a social that is on a train route!"

i take your points on board ,and think maybe im wasting my time on here ,as i dont think ,after reading what ytou have pointed out , i stand any chance of any sucess . thanks for your thoughts. Mark

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

your point about attending a social Madchick is something ive tried to do already ,as its something i enjoy ,but a local social i tried to get an invite for recently refused me ,as i havnt met anyone yet and dont have any meet verifications. its a vicious circle im afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"your point about attending a social Madchick is something ive tried to do already ,as its something i enjoy ,but a local social i tried to get an invite for recently refused me ,as i havnt met anyone yet and dont have any meet verifications. its a vicious circle im afraid"

You do not have to meet in person in order to get verified.

You can be verified after a cam to cam or phone session.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My own first verification was from a gent who played for me on cam while I chatted to him via MSN.

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

ive been verified by a couple i spoke to on the phone ,and ive made quite a few friends so far ,but sadly no one has vouched for me in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if it had been mentioned before, if a single gent cannot travel, then it can have a significant effect on his chances to meet people.

From a personal prospective, even though I can travel, I would not be interested in anyone that can't, as I believe he is not making enough effort.

There is also the personal safety aspect that women need to consider. I would not be happy to meet a propective new playmate at his own home on the first meet - it must be a mutually agreed public place like a pub, preferably not his local either!

My 2p.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"ive been verified by a couple i spoke to on the phone ,and ive made quite a few friends so far ,but sadly no one has vouched for me in person. "

We are holding a meet in May, and I'd be happy to put you on the list if you can hold out thil then.

PM me a facial picture and I'lll stick you on the list and I'll even advise you of the train routes..

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

"Not sure if it had been mentioned before, if a single gent cannot travel, then it can have a significant effect on his chances to meet people.

From a personal prospective, even though I can travel, I would not be interested in anyone that can't, as I believe he is not making enough effort.

My 2p.

having browsed a large amount of couples profiles on here -mainly on the "meet today " section , i found that there are quite a lot of couples seeking single men who state the male must be able to accomodate , so i feel i must be going wrong somewhere else on my profile.

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

"ive been verified by a couple i spoke to on the phone ,and ive made quite a few friends so far ,but sadly no one has vouched for me in person.

We are holding a meet in May, and I'd be happy to put you on the list if you can hold out thil then.

PM me a facial picture and I'lll stick you on the list and I'll even advise you of the train routes.."

Thanks for the invite ,but im at the other end of the country ,so travelling so far is a non starter.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Sheffield to the party is 2 hours and 16 minutes by train. It is hardly the ends of the earth. There are hotels to stay over in.

If you want honesty, it sounds like you are putting obsticles in the way..and want it your way or not at all.

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

There are lots of people on here that live in south yorkshire like myself ,so obviously their the members im going to message first and foremost.

There are regular socials near me ,but as of yet ive had no luck in getting an invite for one for whatever reason .

i take on board your points though i feel travelling so far is not practical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are lots of people on here that live in south yorkshire like myself ,so obviously their the members im going to message first and foremost.

There are regular socials near me ,but as of yet ive had no luck in getting an invite for one for whatever reason .

i take on board your points though i feel travelling so far is not practical"

Is Barnsley too far for you to travel?

Kev and Kat are great hosts of regular socials at their pub there.

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

Is Barnsley too far for you to travel?

Kev and Kat are great hosts of regular socials at their pub there.

Kev and kat DO NOT meet single guys ,so an invite for their socials is out of the question .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is Barnsley too far for you to travel?

Kev and Kat are great hosts of regular socials at their pub there.

Kev and kat DO NOT meet single guys ,so an invite for their socials is out of the question ."

Sorry, however, I believe you are getting confused with organised social events at public places with meeting peeps privately.

As a couple, they may not meet single gents.

However, it is a different story alltogether with the socials they organise at their pub at Barnsley.

The social in Oct 09 definitely had a number of single gents there.

They have a social in Feb 10 too, thread is up in the Meetings section, with wording "Full Monty" in the title.

You may be too late though, as they normally only allow a small number of single gents, and these places get filled very quickly.

Try them and see if places are still availble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BTW, if a social event is posted up in a public forum, it is usually open to all on a first come first serve bases.

One should NOT expect invitations to parties without putting in some efforts to get to know people etc., IMHO!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is Barnsley too far for you to travel?

Kev and Kat are great hosts of regular socials at their pub there.

Kev and kat DO NOT meet single guys ,so an invite for their socials is out of the question .

Sorry, however, I believe you are getting confused with organised social events at public places with meeting peeps privately.

As a couple, they may not meet single gents.

However, it is a different story alltogether with the socials they organise at their pub at Barnsley.

The social in Oct 09 definitely had a number of single gents there.

They have a social in Feb 10 too, thread is up in the Meetings section, with wording "Full Monty" in the title.

You may be too late though, as they normally only allow a small number of single gents, and these places get filled very quickly.

Try them and see if places are still availble.

Yip, spot on, we personally dont meet single men but our socials are open to everyone, be that couples, single gals or guys, tv/ts etc...

If your interested please mail us direct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yip, spot on, we personally dont meet single men but our socials are open to everyone, be that couples, single gals or guys, tv/ts etc...

If your interested please mail us direct

Thank you!

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

Yip, spot on, we personally dont meet single men but our socials are open to everyone, be that couples, single gals or guys, tv/ts etc...

If your interested please mail us direct

Thank you!

The Pussy Posse also host a couple of parties a year. See if you can get along to one of those. Single men are most welcome and we don't have a set number because we use specialist clubs to host our parties. Always room for one more.

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

what area of the country are they based ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what area of the country are they based ?"

The Pussy Posse is just a group of women who get together from time to time at socials and terrorise the men.

The parties Maddie was referring to, one is at Gloucester at the end of May 10, and the other is at Chams in Darlaston at the end of Aug 10.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And one can find the threads about these events in the Meetings section of the forums!

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

The Pussy Posse is just a group of women who get together from time to time at socials and terrorise the men.

The parties Maddie was referring to, one is at Gloucester at the end of May 10, and the other is at Chams in Darlaston at the end of Aug 10.

Way to far away for me - thanks anyway

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over a year ago

The Pussy Posse is just a group of women who get together from time to time at socials and terrorise the men.

The parties Maddie was referring to, one is at Gloucester at the end of May 10, and the other is at Chams in Darlaston at the end of Aug 10.

Way to far away for me - thanks anyway "

There are people on here giving you sound advice like i pointed out to you on another thread..

Seems that you dont want to put anything into getting meets but expect people to come to you..

People have been trying to help you.

Maybe you are right what you said before,thinking that you should give up.

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over a year ago

He has put his name down for the Barnsley social in Feb 10 about an hour ago, so he has taken some of the advice on board.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

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The Pussy Posse is just a group of women who get together from time to time at socials and terrorise the men.

The parties Maddie was referring to, one is at Gloucester at the end of May 10, and the other is at Chams in Darlaston at the end of Aug 10.

Way to far away for me - thanks anyway "

You get out of swinging as much as you put in.......

We've got people coming from Scotland and Ireland to the Posse party in May.... And both are on good train routes.

Make the effort and you will enjoy the fruits of your labours!

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

There are people on here giving you sound advice like i pointed out to you on another thread..

Seems that you dont want to put anything into getting meets but expect people to come to you..

People have been trying to help you.

Maybe you are right what you said before,thinking that you should give up."

its a personal choice not to travel ,as it is of a lot of couples who choose not to travel. i dont think a single male who dosnt travel is any different to a couple who only accomodate, but is comes across as though the single guy is the one expected to do all the travelling.

i have a nice new build appartment ,which i would like to get full benifit from and entertain couples in .

i feel the opinion is that its perfectly ok for a couple to accomodate only ,but if a single male makes that decision ,then they are accused of not making an effort .

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By *iggerLuvWoman
over a year ago

leeds

I can see why you find it frustrating that as a single guy you are expected to do the travelling. The reason for this rightly or wrongly is due to the fact that you are a single guy. I am afraid no amount of foot stamping or saying its not fair will change that. People on this thread have tried to help you but you stubbornly refuse to comprimise. Your profile says you like clubs do you go to the one is Sheffield (sorry I don't know what its called)????

I am a single girl who cannot accomadate (small children at home) and I do travel to meet couple most recently to St Helens. Have you thought that if you travelled to meet a couple and had a good time maybe the next time you met they would come to you???

Anyway good luck.

J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

did the OP ever come back and use any of the advice given??

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over a year ago

The Pussy Posse is just a group of women who get together from time to time at socials and terrorise the men.

The parties Maddie was referring to, one is at Gloucester at the end of May 10, and the other is at Chams in Darlaston at the end of Aug 10.

Way to far away for me - thanks anyway

You get out of swinging as much as you put in.......

We've got people coming from Scotland and Ireland to the Posse party in May.... And both are on good train routes.

Make the effort and you will enjoy the fruits of your labours!"

Maddie Darling you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink

So much good advice has been given in this thread I think ill point it out to anyone that moans about single guys getting bashed all the time

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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There are people on here giving you sound advice like i pointed out to you on another thread..

Seems that you dont want to put anything into getting meets but expect people to come to you..

People have been trying to help you.

Maybe you are right what you said before,thinking that you should give up.

i have a nice new build appartment ,which i would like to get full benifit from and entertain couples in .

i feel the opinion is that its perfectly ok for a couple to accomodate only ,but if a single male makes that decision ,then they are accused of not making an effort .

Personally I don't think the accomodating thing that might be putting people off.

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By *andcCouple
over a year ago

London and Cheshire

There are people on here giving you sound advice like i pointed out to you on another thread..

Seems that you dont want to put anything into getting meets but expect people to come to you..

People have been trying to help you.

Maybe you are right what you said before,thinking that you should give up.

i have a nice new build appartment ,which i would like to get full benifit from and entertain couples in .

i feel the opinion is that its perfectly ok for a couple to accomodate only ,but if a single male makes that decision ,then they are accused of not making an effort .

We are a couple who travel to meet single guys who can accom, so no problem there, would we meet with you, no as you have not been verified by meeting in person and there lies the problem with not travelling. Have you ever thought of widening your area or travelling to meet someone, then when you've actually got some verification reverting back to accom only. It's easier to be choosy once verified.

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

Its a vicious cirlce . Like you have pointed out yourselves HandC, you wouldn`t meet me as i aint been verified as meeting in person by a couple ,but i cant get that verification until i have my first meet with a couple ,which will only happen if and when i find a couple that travels . Thanks for your kind words anyway . Mark x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not to sound rude but your pics..... put me rite off sorry again xoxo

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

"not to sound rude but your pics..... put me rite off sorry again xoxo"
in what way ? i welcome your advice , in fact any advice that may help me (apart from people telling me to travel )

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City

"I can see why you find it frustrating that as a single guy you are expected to do the travelling. The reason for this rightly or wrongly is due to the fact that you are a single guy. I am afraid no amount of foot stamping or saying its not fair will change that. People on this thread have tried to help you but you stubbornly refuse to comprimise. Your profile says you like clubs do you go to the one is Sheffield (sorry I don't know what its called)????

Anyway good luck.

J x

Thanks Tigger, i will keep perservering and hope for the impossible .

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