FabSwingers.com forum: Not everyone's cup of tea

By *he Old School Rockers OP Couple
1 week ago

Gloucester

Not sure whether it's the age gap, the beard, or what, but we struggle with Fab, meets, chats.

We try clubs, we wink and message, but rarely get much interest.

Is it us, is it Fab, or just people?

Looking for feedback, advice etc

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By *heelerMan
1 week ago

Northants

"Not sure whether it's the age gap, the beard, or what, but we struggle with Fab, meets, chats.

We try clubs, we wink and message, but rarely get much interest.

Is it us, is it Fab, or just people?

Looking for feedback, advice etc "

Your not looking for single guys so Your restricting the field.

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By *issmorganWoman
1 week ago

Calderdale innit

I can't see anything wrong in your profile guys, you have pics of both and a decent write up too.

It's just incredibly hard to meet other couples and get the attraction between all people.

Then you have to factor in 4 people's availability and if all are not free for a good while, interest can wain and conversations tail off.

I'm half a couple and we have had more luck at socials than just from here.

Factor in I'm straight and my other half can be orally bi and our chances get even lower on fab.

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By *he Old School Rockers OP Couple
1 week ago

Gloucester

We don't include single guys, because we don't want single guys. It's nothing to do with restricting the field.

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By *WANDTGCouple
1 week ago

Borough of Greenwich

You have 20 veris and 33 meets, pics go back 2023, so if that is in the past 2 years then you're doing something right.

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By *ootnootboopCouple
1 week ago

Cheshire

"Not sure whether it's the age gap, the beard, or what, but we struggle with Fab, meets, chats.

We try clubs, we wink and message, but rarely get much interest.

Is it us, is it Fab, or just people?

Looking for feedback, advice etc

Your not looking for single guys so Your restricting the field. "

But just like the title of the thread, single guys are not "everybodies cup of tea"....

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By *he Old School Rockers OP Couple
1 week ago

Gloucester

"You have 20 veris and 33 meets, pics go back 2023, so if that is in the past 2 years then you're doing something right. "

They are mostly from attending socials not play meets. Maybe once people meet us they find us more “friends” than “friends with benefits”

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By *randmrs757Couple
1 week ago

New Forest

Profile looks great to us,shame we're not a bit closer. But if you're ever down this way...

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By *uenevereWoman
1 week ago

Scunthorpe

From a profile and Fab perspective, the lack of a photo together and the name would be a negative to me.

Your profile text also starts negatively, which may put people off. I tend to be put off by negativity and think saying what you do want comes across better than what you don't want.

I reckon hubby and me would probably get on well with you, but mutual 4 way attraction is never easy. Having a larger than average age gap between the 2 of you may be a factor, but who knows.

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
1 week ago

Bristol

Gloucester you say?

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By *exxyyDy11Man
1 week ago

North West

Sadly it is fab. It is difficult on here. Nothing wrong with your profile. Just keeping trying and persevering I say.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
7 days ago

Leeds

I think you need some pics of you both together.

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
7 days ago

Around the Midlands

To us there isn't ever a perfect way to do this. Not sure if advice from others would make much difference. It's all about a 3/4 way connection which isn't always easy.

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By *he Old School Rockers OP Couple
7 days ago

Gloucester

Kindly keep replies on the post. No need to inbox us tearing us apart, if you can’t say it publicly then you know you shouldn’t be saying it at all.

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By *ongueingroove58Man
7 days ago

Whitley bay

I'd say 30 verifications in a year means you aren't exactly struggling!

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By *he Old School Rockers OP Couple
7 days ago

Gloucester

Thanks for the advice all. Had a tweek of our profile and will look into getting more pics of us together.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
7 days ago

Leeds

It reads so much better now

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By *ongAndThick123Man
7 days ago

Leeds

"Not sure whether it's the age gap, the beard, or what, but we struggle with Fab, meets, chats.

We try clubs, we wink and message, but rarely get much interest.

Is it us, is it Fab, or just people?

Looking for feedback, advice etc "

My advice would be to travel outside of the southwest. Go somewhere more populous.

I travel around a lot and I’ve noticed that areas with low populations and close-knit communities tend to have people who are way more cautious and on edge about things. There’s always a strange tension to communications down in the southwest too. I find most people want to know everything about you, but not reveal anything about themselves, and so all conversations fizzle out (just my experience).

I’d advise visiting somewhere like yorkshire or Lancashire, where you have millions of people and dozens of major towns and cities. People are more open minded and less paranoid.

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
7 days ago

Leeds

"From a profile and Fab perspective, the lack of a photo together and the name would be a negative to me.

Your profile text also starts negatively, which may put people off. I tend to be put off by negativity and think saying what you do want comes across better than what you don't want.

I reckon hubby and me would probably get on well with you, but mutual 4 way attraction is never easy. Having a larger than average age gap between the 2 of you may be a factor, but who knows.

This for me too.

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By *teinsGateDuoCouple
7 days ago

Newcastle under Lyme

We're looking for folk who full swap and are here to full swap. Looking at your profile we get the impression, rightly or wrongly, you're more for the social side than we would be.

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By *he Old School Rockers OP Couple
7 days ago

Gloucester

"We're looking for folk who full swap and are here to full swap. Looking at your profile we get the impression, rightly or wrongly, you're more for the social side than we would be."

We like a social yes but we are a full swap couple. But thanks I’ll take another look at our profile

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
7 days ago

Coventry

I see no problem with the profile. Photos are lovely and give us an impression of your character as well as what you both look like. The bio gives us a good impression of yourselves and what you're after. It's a sound profile.

As always none of us are everyone's cup of tea. But that's fine because we all want to find our people. Personally we don't really fab to find meets. We use clubs, parties and organised socials. I think there is always that risk of freinds zoning yourselves, think we've done it a few times. We've learnt that if you want to fuck someone in this lifestyle you just need to be brave and say it. Don't expect the others to initiate it. Because others can be just as crap at it too and won't ask even if they want to. Generally if you want sex with them and it's going well then desire will be mutual. Worse they can say no thanks.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
7 days ago

Coventry

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By *bi HaiveMan
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7 days ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

95% of people won't be compatible with eachother. And that's looking at two singles.

When you have four in the equation the odds are often worse. That's life, the same as it would be in the real world with vanilla dating.

I think the profile is fine myself. Yes, a few pics of you together might help but at least it's not 100% photos of her, and none of him which is a common theme. And there's nothing wrong with enjoying the social side either. With one of my partners we generally only meet at clubs and events then we often don't end up involving anyone else unless we find the right person/people. It doesn't change out enjoyment of the club or indeed Fab. We'd rather meet less people but have a good time than plat with someone just because the opportunity arose.

And we have more of an age gap than you too. 😉

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By *ornydadbod69Man
3 days ago

Dublin

"Kindly keep replies on the post. No need to inbox us tearing us apart, if you can’t say it publicly then you know you shouldn’t be saying it at all.

I wonder which single guy that was. 🤣

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By *he Old School Rockers OP Couple
3 days ago

Gloucester

"Kindly keep replies on the post. No need to inbox us tearing us apart, if you can’t say it publicly then you know you shouldn’t be saying it at all.

I wonder which single guy that was. 🤣"

Wasn’t a single guy as we have them blocked

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By *herrybakewellCouple
3 days ago

Staffordshire

You seem a lovely couple and profile is well written and clear.

Pictures of you both as well, so thats good.

Age would be the reason we wouldn't message, Mrs prefers men younger rather than older.

We limit our audience by only wanting separate room play. Were ok with that though, 3 years into our journey and we've had some lovely experiences and no reap regrets.

Its to easy to rush in and regret things.

I hope you guys find what you're looking for.

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By *rDuracell88Man
2 days ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Great profile.

Been in a couples relationship on here before. Four-way attraction is hard to find on here and with all the time wasters too.

Try more clubs I would say.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
2 days ago

Bristol/ Daventry

"Thanks for the advice all. Had a tweek of our profile and will look into getting more pics of us together.

X "

It’s amazing to see people ask for advice and take action on it. Your profile looks great. Try clubs like Chameleons/Abfab(Ignite) heathrow where it’s more of an alternative crowd/chill vibe. There is also a rock munch in Bristol but it is for a kinky crowd but you never know.

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By *oxy jWoman
2 days ago

somerset

no its not you its most couples now days with less couples on the scene than ever i can remember over the last 30 +++ years add in 4 way attraction being hard too its just making online a little harder as we all have preferences and no one want to play with just anyone there has to be a connection this applies to all ..

add in the fake couples profiles and the couples profiles where the wife has no clue her hubs is parading her pics for wanks ....

more and more couples are club / private invite parties now and dont meet via on line.. also find some couples have a good friends group and stay within ..

for me/us via our joint account we stopped meeting couples and women as it was so much easier offline we only use fab for men and nowdays im finding that easier elsewhere... not knocking fab as its still the best online platform just zillions of guys are making the site more wanky rather that swingy

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
2 days ago

near Putney Heath

"We're looking for folk who full swap and are here to full swap. Looking at your profile we get the impression, rightly or wrongly, you're more for the social side than we would be.

We like a social yes but we are a full swap couple. But thanks I’ll take another look at our profile "

Ah The full swap will be harder... I live in London and it's hard to get an equal match for most people.

Most full swap people I known each other for a while.

They usually commit to attending the same parties and club nights/events at least once a month so that's how they get to know each other and be comfortable with each other.

A one-off full swap will be harder off of Fab to be honest.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
2 days ago

near Putney Heath

"I can't see anything wrong in your profile guys, you have pics of both and a decent write up too.

It's just incredibly hard to meet other couples and get the attraction between all people.

Then you have to factor in 4 people's availability and if all are not free for a good while, interest can wain and conversations tail off.

I'm half a couple and we have had more luck at socials than just from here.

Factor in I'm straight and my other half can be orally bi and our chances get even lower on fab. "

As a single straight lady ( not bi-anything at all) I have more luck with clubs and socials and I go to a fantastic social in a club every month at Heathrow Ignite. I've met so many people there, it's great. Single men, couples, etc.

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By *trueceltMan
2 days ago

Brynamman

hi there. I've seen you both about at fests and gigs, back when I lived in Bristol. you've always seemed to be in such demand and making friends I'm really shocked you're not able to convert that popularity into play

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By *he Old School Rockers OP Couple
2 days ago

Gloucester

"hi there. I've seen you both about at fests and gigs, back when I lived in Bristol. you've always seemed to be in such demand and making friends I'm really shocked you're not able to convert that popularity into play "

Not sure we are who you think we are, we're not from Bristol. And depends which gigs or festivals; if we are with people, they are probably vanilla friends.

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By *ewhorizonsCouple
1 day ago

Leicestershire

"I can't see anything wrong in your profile guys, you have pics of both and a decent write up too.

It's just incredibly hard to meet other couples and get the attraction between all people.

Then you have to factor in 4 people's availability and if all are not free for a good while, interest can wain and conversations tail off.

I'm half a couple and we have had more luck at socials than just from here.

Factor in I'm straight and my other half can be orally bi and our chances get even lower on fab. "

I think this is very accurate. It’s why we pretty much gave up on meeting couples. So much hard work.

The fact you’ve got face pics and can accommodate means there’s not much more you can do. You have my sympathy

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By *exymarvelMan
1 day ago

cardiff

"Not sure whether it's the age gap, the beard, or what, but we struggle with Fab, meets, chats.

We try clubs, we wink and message, but rarely get much interest.

Is it us, is it Fab, or just people?

Looking for feedback, advice etc "

I see no issue. You have had 20 veris, better than most tbf

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By *exymarvelMan
1 day ago

cardiff

"We don't include single guys, because we don't want single guys. It's nothing to do with restricting the field."

Maybe a few choice local guys that you dm might be the way forward

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By *elonBreadCouple
1 day ago

stafford

You've had more fun than us by the looks of it.

So I think you're doing it right. It's just maximum effort to find mutual attraction 4 ways, plus the confidence, plus switches in mood ect.

Just keep going. One day xx Try arranging club meets. X

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By *ommy2125Man
24 hours ago

newport

Would say you're doing everything right, good profile, right activities. I suspect that it's just down to attraction and availability not saying your not attractive just maybe people who you and they mutually find attractive may not be in your area or looking for same things. Overall I'd say you guys are nailing it, so good luck for more of what you want.

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By *he Old School Rockers OP Couple
17 hours ago

Gloucester

"We don't include single guys, because we don't want single guys. It's nothing to do with restricting the field.

Maybe a few choice local guys that you dm might be the way forward"

How would that help with couples and females??

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