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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Really struggling to get anyone to meet on here, has anyone got any ideas what I am doing wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've met loads of here so yes, as for what your doing wrong I think you have not got enough cock photos on your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually meet them at mine or their house!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've met loads of here so yes, as for what your doing wrong I think you have not got enough cock photos on your profile "

Last time I joined fab under a different name, I had 4 or 5 cock pics on my profile - I got some messages to say nice cock but too many pics! So left one on main profile and the others in friends only - I was amazed at how many people wanted to be friends! Didn't get any meets though

Just can't win.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo need more cock pics, I love the ones over the toilet seat with your Y fronts around the ankles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you might have better luck at a BDSM/fetish night, at a club.

That way you'll meet people with similar interests, and if they are on FAB you'll build up a circle of friends for future meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe your interest in BDSM is putting some off,

Maybe looking on a BDSM site as well might help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ain't it amazing about the number of talking cocks that don't get a meet! I'd have thought they would be inundated with offers!

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Firstly, you've only been here 8 weeks..

Secondly... Do you really think your profile stands out from all the other people's... Enough to make people contact / reply to you rather than anyone else??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ain't it amazing about the number of talking cocks that don't get a meet! I'd have thought they would be inundated with offers! "
talking cock's ? Whatever next

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They do, though I understand its harder for male singletons. I've met 2 in 4 weeks I've been here, coulda been 5 if it weren't for other commitments and one being too awkward to get to

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"They do, though I understand its harder for male singletons. I've met 2 in 4 weeks I've been here, coulda been 5 if it weren't for other commitments and one being too awkward to get to "

so ask him what he does.....x

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"Really struggling to get anyone to meet on here, has anyone got any ideas what I am doing wrong? "

Your profile tells me nothing..no reason why I should approach you ergo you would have to approach me (not saying you would want to but go with me on this). So you are having to make all the effort

I get a fair few messages and there is nothing on your profile that stands out to make me answer an email you did send, there is nothing for me to respond and start a conversation.

so all in all your profile is doing you no favours and that is before we get to the cannot accommodate...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PMSL

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

Why dont you accommodate?wife not let you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course they do, and its an absolute doddle to get meets if you market yourself correctly to the people who will find the idea of playing with you an appealing one...remember you have to seduce them, excite the part of their brains that flicks their pleasure switches...for women this includes painting scenery and creating little details that will encourage their own imagination to run riot....are you doing enough?

Remember not everyone will find you enticing....personally I get more meets from replying to those who contact me first as I already know there's an ingredient in me that they like....

Good luck mate!

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"Why dont you accommodate?wife not let you?"

Maybe a dog that is allergic to women...Have actually heard that one...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, of course they do, some do so frequently, some do so infrequently.

Some never do, some are in fact, figments of other people's imaginations.

It's just the way it is.

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By *igerstyle2k2Man
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

It seems people like to boast a lot (is it actually boasting?) "I've met 15 people in the 3 weeks I've been here, it's so easy to meet..." rather than really help.

The main advice is go to a social or a your local club which is fair enough.

Just an observation I've had:

If the OP or someone posting is particularly attractive (male) then people seem to fawn over them 'no wonder you get meets, good looking...'

'if only I was closer...' etc

However if the chat isn't so attractive then people seem to rip him apart and simply suggest going to a club/social.

People don't seem to want to share how they meet people on here, it's almost like a secret code or formula that once you've met you will never say how you did it. Sure a lot of it is attraction and how the person looks and sending a first message isn't the easiest thing in the world (especially if the person you're messaging has very little text on the profile).

Personally I think swinging is a lot about where you are in the country, some parts are particularly 'active' and others not so, and seems as if people don't want others to travel to them or want to travel and want to keep things local. All fair enough. Luck of the draw I guess.

Let's all treat everyone equally.

Happy swinging! One love. Be good to yourselves, and each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It seems people like to boast a lot (is it actually boasting?) "I've met 15 people in the 3 weeks I've been here, it's so easy to meet..." rather than really help.

The main advice is go to a social or a your local club which is fair enough.

Just an observation I've had:

If the OP or someone posting is particularly attractive (male) then people seem to fawn over them 'no wonder you get meets, good looking...'

'if only I was closer...' etc

However if the chat isn't so attractive then people seem to rip him apart and simply suggest going to a club/social.

People don't seem to want to share how they meet people on here, it's almost like a secret code or formula that once you've met you will never say how you did it. Sure a lot of it is attraction and how the person looks and sending a first message isn't the easiest thing in the world (especially if the person you're messaging has very little text on the profile).

Personally I think swinging is a lot about where you are in the country, some parts are particularly 'active' and others not so, and seems as if people don't want others to travel to them or want to travel and want to keep things local. All fair enough. Luck of the draw I guess.

Let's all treat everyone equally.

Happy swinging! One love. Be good to yourselves, and each other.

"

Im still finding it amusing thinking of the UK divided into the territories of "Happyhumpingland" and "Livelikeamonkland"....

Going off on a tangent perhaps, but can anyone volunteer which areas are in which?....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Huddersfield has got a very active swinging scene!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It seems people like to boast a lot (is it actually boasting?) "I've met 15 people in the 3 weeks I've been here, it's so easy to meet..." rather than really help.

The main advice is go to a social or a your local club which is fair enough.

Just an observation I've had:

If the OP or someone posting is particularly attractive (male) then people seem to fawn over them 'no wonder you get meets, good looking...'

'if only I was closer...' etc

However if the chat isn't so attractive then people seem to rip him apart and simply suggest going to a club/social.

People don't seem to want to share how they meet people on here, it's almost like a secret code or formula that once you've met you will never say how you did it. Sure a lot of it is attraction and how the person looks and sending a first message isn't the easiest thing in the world (especially if the person you're messaging has very little text on the profile).

Personally I think swinging is a lot about where you are in the country, some parts are particularly 'active' and others not so, and seems as if people don't want others to travel to them or want to travel and want to keep things local. All fair enough. Luck of the draw I guess.

Let's all treat everyone equally.

Happy swinging! One love. Be good to yourselves, and each other.

"

I think the perception that there's a secret formula is half the problem!

There isn't!!

People are individuals. With different tastes, preferences and methods of communication/interaction. We're all different - and looking for a 'one size fits all' solution will never work.

Yes - the standard responses will include writing creative initial messages, carefully reading profiles, portraying yourself in a positive way through your profile/pics, and yes - attending socials and perhaps clubs.

The site is very much a 'two dimensional' way of interacting with people - you get a good idea but never a 100% accurate picture of someone. Almost a catch 22 if you can't get an initial meet - but hence the suggestion of socials/clubs will always crop up. People will get to see the real you - whether you play or not. And if individual 1-2-1 meets aren't happening for people this is often the best and easiest way to meet.

As for the geography remark about certain areas being busier than others - not being prepared to travel will always hamper you. Unless you live in the middle of nowhere there's always transport options, clubs within an hour of you - and a wider circle of potential people to meet.

Being flexible, open to suggestions and having a realistic expectancy of what the site can actually do for you ho a long way. It's just another tool - not a solution to not getting anywhere!!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I agree with Obi.

There is no secret formula. There is someone for everyone. People are attracted to different people for different reasons so there is no easy simple straightforward answer.

It's like life where the answer is not 42.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Ok this how i do it. Have you got paper and a pen? *leans forward*

I log in to fab, then wait. Thats all.

Honestly, theres no point in assuming that there is a secret to this. We're all different, and looking for different things. Whats good for anyone else on this thread would probably not work for me, and vice versa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with Obi.

There is no secret formula. There is someone for everyone. People are attracted to different people for different reasons so there is no easy simple straightforward answer.

It's like life where the answer is not 42."

Yeah, but he would say that; its a secret formula, therefore the key ingredients must not be shared at any costs!

For anyone who's interested, I have in my possession a microfilm containing this formula....I keep it in a lead lined box, guarded by two dobermans that I don't feed as often as I should to increase their bloodless for human flesh.

Of course my one weakness in being a guardian of this sacred information is that I am a reasonable man, and pictures of the queen for some reason seem to increase my reasonable qualities.....

(Cold hard cash to be sent to Bliss by mouth, c/o fabswingers.com)

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

You can't accommodate and don't say why....screams of married...

And......

Ya profile is seriously pants. Put some effort into it for god's sake. 3 lines of drivel is enough to put anyone off.

That's as constructive as ya gonna get today cus i feel poorly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why dont you accommodate?wife not let you?"

Why is it when a man can't accommodate some people automatically assume he is married? I can't accommodate but have never been asked by a guy if I am married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

more cock pics on profile omg REALLY lol

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Why do people assume that joining a site like this guarantees them a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not sure ive never thought id be guaranteed a meet and its not for the want of not trying lol

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"Why dont you accommodate?wife not let you?

Why is it when a man can't accommodate some people automatically assume he is married? I can't accommodate but have never been asked by a guy if I am married. "

The question of not accommodation was brought up earlier and he didn't answer, it may be a genuine reason why single women won't meet him. Then again when it came up he didn't answer. It is a fair point. I always ask why if a guy says he cannot accommodate , I choose not to play with attached guys, my prerogative, if he doesn't answer then I do presume he has a significant other, or he would answer..

If someone did ask you, would you answer or ignore it?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I agree with Obi.

There is no secret formula. There is someone for everyone. People are attracted to different people for different reasons so there is no easy simple straightforward answer.

It's like life where the answer is not 42.

Yeah, but he would say that; its a secret formula, therefore the key ingredients must not be shared at any costs!

For anyone who's interested, I have in my possession a microfilm containing this formula....I keep it in a lead lined box, guarded by two dobermans that I don't feed as often as I should to increase their bloodless for human flesh.

Of course my one weakness in being a guardian of this sacred information is that I am a reasonable man, and pictures of the queen for some reason seem to increase my reasonable qualities.....

(Cold hard cash to be sent to Bliss by mouth, c/o fabswingers.com)

"

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Blabbermouth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why dont you accommodate?wife not let you?

Why is it when a man can't accommodate some people automatically assume he is married? I can't accommodate but have never been asked by a guy if I am married.

The question of not accommodation was brought up earlier and he didn't answer, it may be a genuine reason why single women won't meet him. Then again when it came up he didn't answer. It is a fair point. I always ask why if a guy says he cannot accommodate , I choose not to play with attached guys, my prerogative, if he doesn't answer then I do presume he has a significant other, or he would answer..

If someone did ask you, would you answer or ignore it?"

I would answer as have the guys I have asked why they can't , my point being I don't assume that they are married.

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"Why dont you accommodate?wife not let you?

Why is it when a man can't accommodate some people automatically assume he is married? I can't accommodate but have never been asked by a guy if I am married.

The question of not accommodation was brought up earlier and he didn't answer, it may be a genuine reason why single women won't meet him. Then again when it came up he didn't answer. It is a fair point. I always ask why if a guy says he cannot accommodate , I choose not to play with attached guys, my prerogative, if he doesn't answer then I do presume he has a significant other, or he would answer..

If someone did ask you, would you answer or ignore it?

I would answer as have the guys I have asked why they can't , my point being I don't assume that they are married. "

I think (dangerous hobby lol) perhaps the assumption was made by the lack of answer - at least mine was..

apologies if I offended x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why dont you accommodate?wife not let you?

Why is it when a man can't accommodate some people automatically assume he is married? I can't accommodate but have never been asked by a guy if I am married.

The question of not accommodation was brought up earlier and he didn't answer, it may be a genuine reason why single women won't meet him. Then again when it came up he didn't answer. It is a fair point. I always ask why if a guy says he cannot accommodate , I choose not to play with attached guys, my prerogative, if he doesn't answer then I do presume he has a significant other, or he would answer..

If someone did ask you, would you answer or ignore it?

I would answer as have the guys I have asked why they can't , my point being I don't assume that they are married.

I think (dangerous hobby lol) perhaps the assumption was made by the lack of answer - at least mine was..

apologies if I offended x"

No offence taken x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why dont you accommodate?wife not let you?

Why is it when a man can't accommodate some people automatically assume he is married? I can't accommodate but have never been asked by a guy if I am married. "

Because its normal for a woman not to be ablevto accom. Women are smaller and more vulnerable than guys and get scared a lot more easily.

Therefore the majority of women are understandably very nervous about inviting anyone into their home. Whereas for a bloke any such fears would be ridiculous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep , with some great people too !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why dont you accommodate?wife not let you?

Why is it when a man can't accommodate some people automatically assume he is married? I can't accommodate but have never been asked by a guy if I am married.

Because its normal for a woman not to be ablevto accom. Women are smaller and more vulnerable than guys and get scared a lot more easily.

Therefore the majority of women are understandably very nervous about inviting anyone into their home. Whereas for a bloke any such fears would be ridiculous."

Unless you're the size of Ronnie Corbett!

*or Verne Troyer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why dont you accommodate?wife not let you?

Why is it when a man can't accommodate some people automatically assume he is married? I can't accommodate but have never been asked by a guy if I am married.

Because its normal for a woman not to be ablevto accom. Women are smaller and more vulnerable than guys and get scared a lot more easily.

Therefore the majority of women are understandably very nervous about inviting anyone into their home. Whereas for a bloke any such fears would be ridiculous."

See I don't see that , maybe because I am very careful who I meet. If I could accom I would as more comfortable at home. And why should it be the guys who open their homes for swinging. Aren't they at as much risk of meeting someone shall we say dangerous as a female ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why dont you accommodate?wife not let you?

Why is it when a man can't accommodate some people automatically assume he is married? I can't accommodate but have never been asked by a guy if I am married.

Because its normal for a woman not to be ablevto accom. Women are smaller and more vulnerable than guys and get scared a lot more easily.

Therefore the majority of women are understandably very nervous about inviting anyone into their home. Whereas for a bloke any such fears would be ridiculous.

See I don't see that , maybe because I am very careful who I meet. If I could accom I would as more comfortable at home. And why should it be the guys who open their homes for swinging. Aren't they at as much risk of meeting someone shall we say dangerous as a female ? "

They'll never be as much at risk, unless they're 8 stone gay lads wanting to attract some big musclebound bullhead. (Or unless they're Verne Troyer, ha that tickled me)

True, a woman if nuts enough could bring a handgun or such to a meet, but physical violence has no fears. If a man snapped and started to say strangle a woman then obviously its a life or death situation, but if a woman did the same after a second or two to recover his wits he would simply throw her across the room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why dont you accommodate?wife not let you?

Why is it when a man can't accommodate some people automatically assume he is married? I can't accommodate but have never been asked by a guy if I am married.

Because its normal for a woman not to be ablevto accom. Women are smaller and more vulnerable than guys and get scared a lot more easily.

Therefore the majority of women are understandably very nervous about inviting anyone into their home. Whereas for a bloke any such fears would be ridiculous.

See I don't see that , maybe because I am very careful who I meet. If I could accom I would as more comfortable at home. And why should it be the guys who open their homes for swinging. Aren't they at as much risk of meeting someone shall we say dangerous as a female ?

They'll never be as much at risk, unless they're 8 stone gay lads wanting to attract some big musclebound bullhead. (Or unless they're Verne Troyer, ha that tickled me)

True, a woman if nuts enough could bring a handgun or such to a meet, but physical violence has no fears. If a man snapped and started to say strangle a woman then obviously its a life or death situation, but if a woman did the same after a second or two to recover his wits he would simply throw her across the room."

I actually find that rather discrimatery and generalised but hey I'm going to shut up before I get myself into trouble other than to say I've never heard of a battered husband or male partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

iv had quite a few good meets of fab and all been great

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Why dont you accommodate?wife not let you?

Why is it when a man can't accommodate some people automatically assume he is married? I can't accommodate but have never been asked by a guy if I am married.

Because its normal for a woman not to be ablevto accom. Women are smaller and more vulnerable than guys and get scared a lot more easily.

Therefore the majority of women are understandably very nervous about inviting anyone into their home. Whereas for a bloke any such fears would be ridiculous.

See I don't see that , maybe because I am very careful who I meet. If I could accom I would as more comfortable at home. And why should it be the guys who open their homes for swinging. Aren't they at as much risk of meeting someone shall we say dangerous as a female ?

They'll never be as much at risk, unless they're 8 stone gay lads wanting to attract some big musclebound bullhead. (Or unless they're Verne Troyer, ha that tickled me)

True, a woman if nuts enough could bring a handgun or such to a meet, but physical violence has no fears. If a man snapped and started to say strangle a woman then obviously its a life or death situation, but if a woman did the same after a second or two to recover his wits he would simply throw her across the room.

I actually find that rather discrimatery and generalised but hey I'm going to shut up before I get myself into trouble other than to say I've never heard of a battered husband or male partner.

"

He's having you on. I've met him and know I could take him in a fight. After some prolonged and oily wrestling of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why dont you accommodate?wife not let you?

Why is it when a man can't accommodate some people automatically assume uhe is married? I can't accommodate but have never been asked by a guy if I am married.

Because its normal for a woman not to be ablevto accom. Women are smaller and more vulnerable than guys and get scared a lot more easily.

Therefore the majority of women are understandably very nervous about inviting anyone into their home. Whereas for a bloke any such fears would be ridiculous.

See I don't see that , maybe because I am very careful who I meet. If I could accom I would as more comfortable at home. And why should it be the guys who open their homes for swinging. Aren't they at as much risk of meeting someone shall we say dangerous as a female ?

They'll never be as much at risk, unless they're 8 stone gay lads wanting to attract some big musclebound bullhead. (Or unless they're Verne Troyer, ha that tickled me)

True, a woman if nuts enough could bring a handgun or such to a meet, but physical violence has no fears. If a man snapped and started to say strangle a woman then obviously its a life or death situation, but if a woman did the same after a second or two to recover his wits he would simply throw her across the room.

I actually find that rather discrimatery and generalised but hey I'm going to shut up before I get myself into trouble other than to say I've never heard of a battered husband or male partner.

"

That's not the sense I meant it in and Im sorry if I caused offence.

Im just stating a fact, the majority of men are a lot stronger than the majority of women. Not only biologically but men take more interest in sports and competitiveness with their peers plus the fact that men who are muscular defined appeal to more women on average all means more men deliberately do strength increasing activities making the average difference more marked.

With most battered partner cases the victim is female and when the victim is male its usually because he didn't hit back due to being programmed not to hit a woman. There's nothing wrong with that, Id never dream of hitting a woman in fact the only occasion in my life a d*unk woman did actually attack me I grabbed her boyfriend by the throat and told her firmly that I wasn't going to relax my grip till she packed it in which worked without my having to lay a finger on her.

However if a female meet did flip and start trying to strangle me unless she were a female weighylifting champion Id push her off, carry her downstairs and put her down outside my front door. Whereas a woman in such a predicament wouldn't be likely to have that option?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why dont you accommodate?wife not let you?

Why is it when a man can't accommodate some people automatically assume he is married? I can't accommodate but have never been asked by a guy if I am married.

Because its normal for a woman not to be ablevto accom. Women are smaller and more vulnerable than guys and get scared a lot more easily.

Therefore the majority of women are understandably very nervous about inviting anyone into their home. Whereas for a bloke any such fears would be ridiculous.

See I don't see that , maybe because I am very careful who I meet. If I could accom I would as more comfortable at home. And why should it be the guys who open their homes for swinging. Aren't they at as much risk of meeting someone shall we say dangerous as a female ?

They'll never be as much at risk, unless they're 8 stone gay lads wanting to attract some big musclebound bullhead. (Or unless they're Verne Troyer, ha that tickled me)

True, a woman if nuts enough could bring a handgun or such to a meet, but physical violence has no fears. If a man snapped and started to say strangle a woman then obviously its a life or death situation, but if a woman did the same after a second or two to recover his wits he would simply throw her across the room.

I actually find that rather discrimatery and generalised but hey I'm going to shut up before I get myself into trouble other than to say I've never heard of a battered husband or male partner.

He's having you on. I've met him and know I could take him in a fight. After some prolonged and oily wrestling of course. "

I'll fetch the oil...

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By *s_4_uCouple
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

Try clubs / socials ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can't accommodate and don't say why....screams of married...

And......

Ya profile is seriously pants. Put some effort into it for god's sake. 3 lines of drivel is enough to put anyone off.

That's as constructive as ya gonna get today cus i feel poorly"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to add to the male female debate earlier. Abused male partners of females and males do exist but generally tend to keep quiet because of feeling ashamed. As someone said above, some men are brought up to believe that hitting a female is wrong regardless of circumstance hence not hitting back when under attack. Aggressive women don't usually go for methods of attack such as strangulation as it involves physically overpowering someone. Stabbing is more common. ps that scraping sound is me putting the soapbox away! Ms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to add to the male female debate earlier. Abused male partners of females and males do exist but generally tend to keep quiet because of feeling ashamed. As someone said above, some men are brought up to believe that hitting a female is wrong regardless of circumstance hence not hitting back when under attack. Aggressive women don't usually go for methods of attack such as strangulation as it involves physically overpowering someone. Stabbing is more common. ps that scraping sound is me putting the soapbox away! Ms"

Phew, i thought it was the knife sharpener!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to add to the male female debate earlier. Abused male partners of females and males do exist but generally tend to keep quiet because of feeling ashamed. As someone said above, some men are brought up to believe that hitting a female is wrong regardless of circumstance hence not hitting back when under attack. Aggressive women don't usually go for methods of attack such as strangulation as it involves physically overpowering someone. Stabbing is more common. ps that scraping sound is me putting the soapbox away! Ms"

I did state earlier that a weapon would have to be involved with this occurrence which makes it a huge amount more unlikely as the mad lady would either have to premeditate such an attack or have a weapon lying to hand when she flipped. And she'd only get a short window of e to use it before being overpowered and her advantage reversed.

Consider this; have you seen any profiles stating "I will not accommodate due to a bad experience"... I have, probably around a dozen, almost all single females, perhaps the odd couple but no single guys whatsoever.

This implies, given that men also probably outnumber women by 50 to 1 that a woman is around 600 times more likely to face this than a single guy.

To be honest though its still unlikely for a meet to turn out to be a nut job, though just likely enough for a lot of women to be scared of it happening, which is why a lot expect the man to accommodate.

It also means that though its not impossible for a woman to attack a man on such a meet he's more likely to get a meet with identical Swedish twins in his first week on site. With nowt on his profile but the legal blocks and a blurred shot of his wrinkly bell end being dwarfed by a sky remote.

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over a year ago

Just want to say that people use fab in different ways. The way I use fab has changed over time (this is the 3rd time ive been on here). When I first joined I used to meet people via fab, then started going to clubs instead. Since then ive built up a circle of swinging friends and rarely use fab to meet anyone new now. More for the chat and banter and keeping an eye on any parties/socials/club nights that are being arranged.

I would say to make an effort to get to clubs or socials and get known that way.

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