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What's the more important part of a profile.

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By *ickie_Ranking OP   Man
9 weeks ago

London

So between pictures or the write up, what's most important to you?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Central

It's the part seen first. If you're potentially still in the running, after they've seen that first bit, then the other part gets a chance to do the right things for you.

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
9 weeks ago

Chester

Write up. If we’re not compatible, they could be the most beautiful perfect specimen the world has ever seen (from my point of view) but it’d still be a no.

Saying that, terrible photos can then turn an ‘ooh, maybe’ into an ‘no thank you’.

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By *ugarbonkCouple
9 weeks ago

Cheshire

Doing GCSE'S which was the most important, your course work or the final exam?

Photos or write up are both equally as important. If they don't score highly on both then we aren't interested, no matter how strong one part is.

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By *a1970Man
9 weeks ago

East cork

It's difficult to find that perfect combination

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By *ucka39Man
9 weeks ago

Newcastle

Mixture of both, like you can't have one without the other

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By *herrybakewellCouple
9 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Words initially.

Then we look at the pics.

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By *lifordWoman
9 weeks ago

Goole

People don't tend to bother reading profiles as I put clear want I don't want but still they message me

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By *oxy jWoman
9 weeks ago

somerset

whats important to me is that you do your profile your way that way its a much easier filter as it shows the real you good or bad

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By *obert 323Man
9 weeks ago

Birmingham

The write up, you need to know the person you've connecting with!

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By *eronikapaulCouple
9 weeks ago

Reading

You can never really know till you meet? 5 minutes face to face beats 50 chats.

But both profiles must at least intruige enough to engage a conversation. In regard of pics there is a conflict between;

"I must flaunt to attract because then I can choose from the best people",

and "I must be coy enough that only those who like my words will respond, because although few they will be the best people for me".

A quick glance will tell you where we sit. It works just fine😊.

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By *ysonfuryMan
9 weeks ago

Stockport

Well if I go what I look for it tends to be pictures first and then I read the profile. I guess that's natural as it probably the profile pic that draws you in initially

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By *iss DevilWoman
9 weeks ago

Bedford

Write up for me as most men have zero imagination and just fill up their photos with their dick photographed from 120 different angles, some of them over the toilet, too. And no, it's not enough to have "looking for fun"/"looking for women and couples"/"meet now" or similar nuggets of eternal wisdom in your bio either.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
9 weeks ago

Leeds

I think profile pic is most important as if I don't like it, I won't bother looking at the profile

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
9 weeks ago

Coventry

The "looking for" box. Because if you're not what they're looking for what's the point of reading/looking onwards

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
9 weeks ago

Coventry


"Words initially.

Then we look at the pics. "

Normally the opposite for us. However the two go hand in hand and its the sum of the parts. So doesn't really matter what order.

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By *hitetornadoMan
9 weeks ago

Rotherham

Both hold some sway with me … you need pics because regardless of what anyone says that first impression is what we all do but also if pics aren’t done well then it can be detrimental v

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By *hitetornadoMan
9 weeks ago

Rotherham


"The "looking for" box. Because if you're not what they're looking for what's the point of reading/looking onwards "

So why do us gay men get lots of views from straight men .. make it make sense

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By *artfordBlokeMan
9 weeks ago

Dartford

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By *xelciscoMan
9 weeks ago

Reading/bracknell

.. on what day.. ??.....

Outcome of either is pretty random from what I can see, and mostly luck.

Common variables on the part of the visitor will include:

Time of day

Sleep quality

Coffee taste

Availability of attention

Laziness

Time of month

Last experience from any chat or meet

General drive

Hoarding behaviour with "friends"

Mood

Etc etc..

Axel

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By *WANDTGCouple
9 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

I suppose it's the age first, if not within our range it's not going any further, then distance. This is assuming there's no pic or only one pic , then we'd ask for a face pic somewhere along the line.

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By *reudian_slipsMan
9 weeks ago

Bristol

Classy photos that don’t look like a gynaecology text book, combined with a well written profile do it for me…

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By *renzMan
9 weeks ago

Between Chichester and Havant

First thing I look at, for a couple is whether the male is bi. Being straight I imagine they would rather play with another bi male, so I pass them by.

Other than that I will read the profile, see if we're compatible before looking at the photos.

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By *rmrs95Couple
9 weeks ago

Chester

The tick box for safe sex xx

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By *nkymikeyMan
8 weeks ago

Andover

I struggle writing, having spell check is good and all but not being to understand grammar is a massive disadvantage.

So jealous of people who can spell and write and put there word to paper.

So for me I won't judge anyone until I'm face to face as you can get on so well over text but face it dies.

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By *orelloCouple
8 weeks ago

Hitchin

Photos. Then we move to the words

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By *enelope2UWoman
8 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

The write up the interest the location... Looks etc don't matter if there's no other compatibility for actual physical interactions..if I want a penpal I can chat to prisoners or soldiers

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By *itygamesMan
8 weeks ago

UK

majority of pictures arent true to life i find , so i tend to read the profile.

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By *reudian_slipsMan
8 weeks ago

Bristol

In many ways for me it’s the style of writing, and how things are said that are the most important. That said, I have to fancy you too. The hard bit is that when meeting people, fancying them is so much more than the way they look, and hard to tell that from the photos.

I have an unapologetically long profile text, but that screens out people… had a guy offering to suck my dick yesterday, I said please read y profile and he said ‘fuck that’s long’ good example!

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

My brain tends to go in the order of:

Username, location, status, tagline, profile text, photos.

The style of the profile text helps find like minded people.

Some people enjoy waffling for hours over a glass of wine, others prefer the DTF? approach.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
8 weeks ago

cahoots

For us it's the bio and also the status as if it's negative it's a turn off.

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
8 weeks ago

Leeds

Pics are what gets my attention, the bio is what keeps it or makes me cringe.

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By *oughmanMan
8 weeks ago

Sunderland

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By *oughmanMan
8 weeks ago

Sunderland

Well I think it has to be a mix of pic and profile. I try to pay attention to the details. However I am bad with the written words and I can't take a decent pic worth a damn, I'm in a bit of trouble here.

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By *rdere OpusCouple
8 weeks ago

Brum - ish

Combination of both.

Pictures to gauge physical attraction. Good text to get a glimpse if personality and approach are similar to ours.

It's rare to find a profile that succeeds on both counts.

S

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By *ean directMan
8 weeks ago

havant

I tend to read the profile text and if it interests me then I look at the pics. But a bad text or disturbing pic would put me off.

But what one feels is a bad profile could not be the case for another

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By *apio51Man
8 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Ugh. I’m terrible at taking my own pictures. Perhaps why I only have one. Maybe a professional photographer (discreet obvs) is in order if they are so important.

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By *uzzleMan
7 weeks ago

Hastings

Pictures for sure, although both are important.

To me no pictures is like someone advertising a car for sale without pictures, I go no further.

For me, I am more likely to contact someone who has pictures but whose profile is poorly written. I wouldn't make contact the other way round.

There is no excuse not to have pictures, the privacy excuse doesn't cut it with me, you can have pictures that don't show your face as I have done on my profile.

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By * and BCouple
7 weeks ago

Durham


"So between pictures or the write up, what's most important to you?"

The most important part of our profile is the text but seems not many these days can be arsed to read peoples profile text. This part is where all the info is, why oh why would anyone not read it?

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

When I did my GCSEs there was no such thing as course work, all your points came from the final exam. So you might have been the best student all year and shite at exams and fail the last hurdle.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

My last meeting was purely pics for her as soon as she saw my pics , she sent me her WhatsApp and we video chatted. Shed only been on the site for five minutes and we met the next day, we then met regularly for over a year.

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By *lanenakedMan
7 weeks ago

near you

Thee most important thing is the collective vibe that you get from the text and the pictures... It's a window into their mind(s) .. not pictures or the bio but the general feeling of compatibility with me that I feel after looking and reading it all. So I would say the overall 'vibe' .. lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
7 weeks ago

East Sussex

Pictures. If they don't appeal nothing else will

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By *lan157Man
7 weeks ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

As a starting point any negative reference to availability . I am not wasting my time with a profile of someone that's never going to have time to meet. Always keywords that can indicate this. Also any profile that has a " look at me,look at me "feel to it. Once again it will go nowhere .Best left to others.

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By *ean directMan
7 weeks ago

havant

Physical attraction is the first id guess

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By *ILFpleaser100Man
7 weeks ago

York

Pics are always an exciting starting point but if there’s no spark in the text, it rarely seems worth bothering. For me, imagination and eroticism are important, so someone who can’t be bothered with their profile text isn’t that exciting, unless they’re straight to the point with exactly what they want.

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By *iss KinkWoman
7 weeks ago

North West

Pics then bio. Both need to be right

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By *iking_WitchWoman
6 weeks ago

Hinckley

I like a good bio that shows personality and is very clear in expectations, limits and likes/dislikes.

It's also then really nice if that personality comes across in the messages. I also want a face pic shared too because call me old fashioned but I like to be attracted to whom it is I decide to fuckadoodledoo with.

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