FabSwingers.com forum: No shows

By *oodies OP Couple
7 weeks ago

reading

Been looking for FWBs on here some time as getting into the hotwife dynamic.

Get to chatting for weeks and THEY bring up meeting and seem really eager then ghost at the last minute. I'm a big girl and would much rather be told that I'm not their cup of tea than go through the effort of showing up for a now show. It is just a lack of courtesy and respect for other people that really annoys me.

It messes with your head too because you start thinking what did I do or did they think I look gross?

How do you these people out as it is not very kind to my ego 🤣

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By *edheadAliceWoman
6 weeks ago

Ceredigion

Hi. I’m sorry to hear you’ve experienced that. I have no advice other than to say it’s happened to me too, and I have felt the same questioning thoughts. I had even met one person for a social (so he’d seen what I looked like in real life), we then messaged for weeks after, he’d booked the hotel for us to take it further, then he just didn’t show up on the day. What the hell? I did the same thing - wondered what did I do wrong? Then realised, I did nothing wrong. He was just a twat, with no respect and no manners. I could see he’d logged into Fab just before and after our meeting time - so not like he’d had an accident en route or something. Grrr.

I know this doesn’t help you them out - i don’t know how to do that I’m afraid. But hope it helps give you peace of mind and restore your confidence that it’s not you, or your shape, or your appearance. It’s all on them being so rude and not well brought up. So please do try not to take it personally. Hope you find someone who will show you the respect and you have fun 😀

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By *lik and PaulCouple
6 weeks ago

cahoots

Before discovering fab we were club regulars but thought this would add to our dynamic but quickly found out that there's a lot of talk on here but very little action. Other than a spontaneous who's near encounter we've managed to arrange just one meet and due to continuous no shows we no longer use fab to meet.

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By *aomilatteCouple
6 weeks ago

Midlands

If you're chatting for weeks it's very likely to lead to nothing. As mentioned above many people on here are all talk. We would advise you interact with well verified profiles, and/or arrange to meet at a club. If you arrange to meet at a club and they don't turn up (very common!) you can still have a good night and hopefully find what you're looking for.

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By *ouple4voyeurCouple
6 weeks ago

Birmingham

Over the last 6 months or so it's turned into all talk and bottlers. Maybe it's because out of all the people who have messaged us have had unknowing g/f or wives apart from 2. 🤔

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

we've found guy's like to talk about it and want to meet up then no show and disappear from the site or block you..(obviously just enjoy wanking as you were talking to them)

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By *umagain58Man
6 weeks ago

London

Afraid it’s the downside of here. Also had the time wasters unfortunately and it’s frustrating when you have set time aside for them. At least have the decency to let you know as can understand we all might have hesitation or other commitments come up. Anyway the good thing is there are lots of lovely people I have met. They more than make up for the rude ones for me

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By *iguymatureMan
6 weeks ago

Glasgow

I think it is such an ignorance sign of the personality not turning up

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By *ellhungvweMan
6 weeks ago

Cheltenham

"If you're chatting for weeks it's very likely to lead to nothing. "

This is the key for me - in my experience people who meet tend to meet quite quickly. Those who chat a lot don’t.

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By *obert 323Man
6 weeks ago

Birmingham

It's just disrespectful and bad manners not to show up! You should clearly know what you're getting into from your chat. Just ignore these lossers and keep going on. I'm sure you'll have some fun times with the right people 😊

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By *oxy jWoman
6 weeks ago

somerset

it has nothing to do with you as in body size or other its everything to do with the guys id say at least 80% of guys on this scene are dreamers/messers/wanting wanks they spin the oh i like you lets meet rubbish..

i find it easy to spot because of the way i communicate and select playmates but then ive been on this scene a long time ive not had a messer/no show for quite a few years ... maybe you need to change the selection process be tuffer trust me the genuine guys will and do understand ...

from your pics id say 100% its not you and how you look all i see is smoking hot

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By *ysonfuryMan
6 weeks ago

Stockport

I've been very lucky and only had one no show after travelling a fair distance.

Other than that everyone has shown up as have I and I have met some great folks

I suspect it may be a different story for single ladies and couples though

Happy fabbing everyone

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By *arne affamattaMan
6 weeks ago

Chesterfield

Unfortunately this seems to be a common occurrence on here of late and is giving genuine people a bad name.

Your profile is great OP and as someone else has said, it's nothing to do with size or anything else, people are just idiots I'm afraid. Your pictures are hot and indicate that you have a lot of sex appeal.

I hope you manage to find some genuine people soon, they are out there.

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By *carlettxWoman
6 weeks ago

Essex

"Been looking for FWBs on here some time as getting into the hotwife dynamic.

It messes with your head too because you start thinking what did I do or did they think I look gross?

How do you these people out as it is not very kind to my ego 🤣

I’ve had no shows when arranging MFM fun

They talk the talk but can’t walk the walk !! It’s very annoying but don’t take it personally they just bottle it

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By *herryEatersCouple
6 weeks ago

East Cheshire

We've had so many ghosting and no-shows you wouldn't believe it. Last no-show just a few weeks ago, they didn't message on the day either. We reported them and hopefully something happened to them other than blocking us from each other behind the scenes. We drive for over an hour each way for nothing and it's sickening... Much more ghost though, just here for dirty chat and photo collecting even though they claim great interest. Last chat we had, a single girl looked and talked so genuine !, then sent a message suggesting 'friends' with an attached photo taken from several foreign porn sites attached

. Longest chat weve had for nothing was around three to four months (never again), greatest number of letdowns by ONE couple, THREE ! (you wouldnt believe the excuses)... Timewasters are often so hard to spot, even those with full profiles and all flags like ours, recent veris etc can still disrespect and mess you around !

It is certainly MUCH worse on here now than it was when we first joined ten years ago

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By *ugarbonkCouple
6 weeks ago

Cheshire

There's a few things to look out for to filter out some time wasters.

Verifications are your friend.

Not showing veris is an instant red flag for us. Yes we understand some people don't like showing them and their reasoning, but the chances they will flake are increased.

We also check each of their verifications and it's surprising how many with only a few verifications have also been verified by people with only one or two verifications and they all seem linked. It's almost like it's one person with several accounts.

Finally if they've not been verified more recently that say 2004, then they clearly aren't active and it points to a male remembering past glories. Same goes for no recent photos.

Also non supporter. We don't engage with them because if they are so cheap they won't pay, the success rate is lowered. We pay, you pay or we don't meet that's absolutely minimum skin in the game and represents balance.

When we do meet it's a vanilla social only, no chance of play. It's midweek at a quiet pub halfway between (we won't travel more than half an hour) and it's for an hour only, so we can all make our excuses and leave.

This gets rid of most of the time wasters and if it doesn't, well we've burt up a Wednesday evening not a weekend and had a drink in a pub we probably wouldn't have been to before so our loss is minimal.

The alternative is meet in a club. We are there anyway and meeting someone becomes secondary so if they don't show we aren't too concerned.

Admittedly this is a couples perspective but a lot of what I have said can be used if you are single.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

No shows don't bother me!!!

But iv had a few women tell me too bring a condom to the meet lol then you look at her profile and it seems you need protection from her soo why don't they bring the condom lol I'm a no show to these people lol

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Central

Always reporting the no shows, helps to keep the site standards up for everyone. Certainly, filtering for verified people only can help, as can having them confirm at periodic intervals that they are still meeting you. If they fail to communicate, you get advanced notice of their unreliability. There's nothing worse than being stood up. Vary your selection process and avoid any sexual chat or pressure to go off site.

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By *luffyrabitCouple
5 weeks ago

Catterick Garrison/ Stockton

I had a number of no shows before I met rabbit.

Yes, I always worried that it was my fault, as each and every one ghosted me afterwards.

Try not to take it personally. I now think that it's their loss, not mine.

Mrs

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By *ormal guy 38Man
5 weeks ago

Liverpool

I know a few males on here and all of them have wives, they arrange to meet then don't show up instead of just being honest! I think they like the fact women agree to meet them and that's how they get thier kicks!!

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By *nytime2023Couple
5 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

Sadly this is the reason we no longer meet off Fab. We had at least 6 meets over a period of months where the single guy disappeared last minute. Some of those had financial repercussions because we’d paid for hotel etc.

Now we only meet at clubs or organised socials and if they don’t turn up, so what. There will be plenty of other people to chat with to try and make a connection.

It’s a shame really because our interest is single males and there is an abundance of them on here! But the time wasters ruin it for the genuine ones unfortunately.

Stay positive and move on, as others have said, it’s not you…it’s them

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By *harAndBryCouple
5 weeks ago

Peterborough / Stamford

We feel your pain. We've kept a log this year of meets and no-shows and unfortunately it's hit 75% no-show. Most of them just stop responding the day before a meet, never get back in touch. A few have messaged a few weeks later asking to arrange something else.

We sometimes report but have a feeling that all it does is put a block between us and them and nothing else is done.

People say to us to just meet in clubs (we hate clubs) or to improve our selection process - naively we assume that anyone here wants to meet, and we don't arrange anything with guys that have no verifications within the past twelve months.

There's really no pattern to it, so we now just assume they're not going to turn up and if they do then it's a bonus. We certainly won't ever pay for a hotel or even travel to a hotel or other address now for a first meet. It's our place or not at all.

Bry (and Char)

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