FabSwingers.com forum: Place for kink?

By *igBeardedDom OP Man
4 weeks ago

Dover

Hey everyone, I'm from Kent and have been looking for fun for a while now, I've met a couple of people but interest is generally quite low. Is my profile too kink based? Is there a place for kinky people like me here or is there anything I can improve on my profile to increase interest?

Kink is a big part of who I am but isn't the only thing I'm after here so input would be greatly appreciated!

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By *ugarbonkCouple
4 weeks ago

Cheshire

Ok not being nasty just saying what I can see to try to help.

Best thing you've got is a veri from someone who appears genuine not a sock puppet account. The more of these you get the better your chances.

Next this is a site for swingers and you are a single male so you need to stand out from the crowd not put them off.

First issue is your bio goes straight into kink not swinging. I gave up reading after the first few words as it's a lot to process then Google to understand what it is you are after. As you already identify way too focused on this, especially the survey at the end.

You are reducing the already small chance of someone being interested in you by being so niche.

Secondly your profile shots just aren't sexy. You look like you may have just finished cleaning the bathroom and then had a sleep on the sofa.

You need sexy photos and close up of dicks and comfy clothing aren't that. People want to shag James Bond not the local plumber, although some porn sites would disagree.

Not saying you have to be ripped, that's definitely not what you see in a club, just that you've made an effort to look sexy.

Best advice is get to clubs, get to events, get to socials, get speaking to people in person, get more verifications.

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
4 weeks ago

Chester

There is a place for kink here - people who are interested in what you offer/want will vibe with your profile text (which I think is fine), people who don’t understand it and need to Google stuff are not your target audience, so, that’s fine too. I wouldn’t rely on Fab alone though - get out to your local munch(es) and meet people in the kink scene.

I do agree with the point about your photos - give them a bit more thought.

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
4 weeks ago

Birmingham

Ad above, your profile text is actually great. Very clear on what you bring to the table and would like to explore.

I don't wish to be rude with this at all how, your pics... think more Dom less fab fuck boy if that makes sense? Be great to see you in more Dom looking attire, perhaps with some of your kit?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
4 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Gosh I hate those bdsm tests. They're almost as much a waste of space to me as the 'legal' disclaimers for Sydney uni.

Echoing the picture comments. Women may be less visually driven than men overall, but if it looks lazy and low effort as well that's often interpreted as how much effort you can be bothered to put in to meeting someone. And if someone is visually driven then there's not enough actually visible to determine actual attraction.

I'd be straight out by poly followed by NSA/FWB only. But that's just because we clearly have very different ideas of poly, and doesn't mean either of us is wrong, simply incompatible.

As to kink. There's plenty of kinksters on here. Personally I only care to engage with people regarding kink when I've met them at a munch or event so I know they're an active part of the scene and also general vetting purposes. People who approach kink first on here are straight in the bin, regardless of how compatible we might be otherwise.

Don't worry so much about your profile putting people off. If someone doesn't match what you actually seek then why do you want to waste time messaging them to find out what could have been clarified in a profile scan?

Worry more about having enough on there to spark an interest and an idea of attraction.

Men are in much higher supply on this site than anyone needs. If your profile aims to be as bland and inoffensive as possible it isn't going to be any different to the other 30 profiles in the inbox and you won't gain any traction 💜

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By *igBeardedDom OP Man
4 weeks ago

Dover

Thank you all for your input it's helped a lot, I've rebuilt it now and added better pictures hopefully it comes across better now. I appreciate all your help.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
4 weeks ago

Leeds

Fem facing ?

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By *igBeardedDom OP Man
4 weeks ago

Dover

People who are outwardly feminine, women, trans women, femboys, etc I don't know another term that covers all that?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
4 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"People who are outwardly feminine, women, trans women, femboys, etc I don't know another term that covers all that?"

Femme presenting might make more sense than facing.

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By *igBeardedDom OP Man
4 weeks ago

Dover

That's perfect thank you!

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By *oxy jWoman
4 weeks ago

taunton somerset

theres loads of kink minded on here i dont think your problen is kink i think your problem is your just another guy kink or not and theres zillions of you and until someone one wants you then nothing will happen sorry its blunt but its the truth ... men no matter what struggle apart from the few who just have the knack some men never get anything just the way the world works...

also kink sites are full of men too so that scene has the same problem maybe not as big but still

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By *layinthetreesCouple
4 weeks ago

New Forest

We love your profile. Hit us up.

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