FabSwingers.com forum: Profile help!

By *DM4795 OP Man
2 days ago

Whitley Bay

Would really appreciate some help! I’ve had a profile for a while now, but not had 1 reply, or anything.(have sent face pics on every message and always been respectful)

I’ve set up what I thought was an ok profile, and understand the single mens scene is incredibly competitive, but just wondered what pictures and bio I could use to really make me stand out!

Also any advice on what kind of opening message grabs your attention would be greatly appreciated as I’ve tried a few different approaches with no luck.

Nervous about having face pics on my profile in case I know people on here, and having same thoughts about trying my local club for the first time!

I get told quite a lot that I’m good looking (not trying to brag) so thought I may have had some luck on here!

Just wanna have some funnnnnn

Big thanks to anyone who replies!

J x

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By *olinOfBathMan
2 days ago

Corsham

"Would really appreciate some help!

You can't accommodate, which waves a huge red flag.

Most folks will assume that either, a) you're not really single; or, b) you're still living with parents.

With their Inboxes full of guys who can accommodate, you're making it really easy for people to ignore your approach.

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By *ugarbonkCouple
2 days ago

Cheshire

I've not read the bio or looked at the photos.

You've got zero verifications and you've only been a member for a few weeks.

This says you have no experience so you might be a time waster, you might not show up or you might have no idea what to do if you do meet up with someone (it's not just about sticking your willy into holes)

My advice is

1)get yourself to a local club and speak to people and get verified that way.

2)lots of events listed on Fab get on a guest list and get on the private chat, if they have one, before you go to the event but go to the event.

3)find a social that's local, again on the forums, get on the guest list and go and speak to people.

You are really going to struggle to crack this sat at home on your phone you need to be out there meeting people.

Single men trade on their reliability and you are too much of a gamble just at the moment.

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By *ink vixenCouple
2 days ago

Medway

75% of your pictures are of your dick.

Pass

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By *allySlinkyWoman
2 days ago

Leeds

The devil emoji on your profile pic would prevent me from replying. Plus I don't appreciate being called a "filthy animal"

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By *issmorganWoman
1 day ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op

3 of your 4 pics are your pecker, which will put many off. Try and take some other pics, they don't have to be your face, but you have other body parts like your bum and torso.

Also you're looking for like minded people, but don't actually say what you're into, so how do people know if they're like minded.

Most women will check a profile when they get a message. If it doesn't appeal, they probably won't read the message. So try and make your profile the best it can be, with more about you and what you're offering /looking for & some better pics.

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By *iss DevilWoman
1 day ago

Bedford

Your profile is very generic, you don't say what you're into (maybe because you don't know?), and it also sounds rather immature.

It's great that you want connection first, but I'd be questioning the "so I can perform better for you" part. It tells me you are inexperienced and anxious about meeting new people. And worried you may struggle in the bedroom.

The last line of your profile, I guess you were trying to be funny? Sadly, it can be rather off-putting.

As others have said, too many cock pics. You are probably very proud of him, but not many women or couples want to see your pecker first, even before your body or face (when you're comfortable with that). I'd suggest putting it in your "friends only" photos.

Last but not least, your age range can be quite limiting, there aren't that many women younger than 45 on Fab.

Do get yourself to a club, what's the worst that can happen? You're not going to get dragged into a massive orgy as soon as you get through the door. It's probably going to be more like a pub but with people wearing less.

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By *oxy jWoman
1 day ago

somerset

your a man and men find it very very hard on these sites until someone wants to meet you then nothing will happen ..

profile is about you and what you want not what others tell you to do only you know you

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
1 day ago

Central

It's not an atrocious profile

You're still very new here and it typically can take many months to get established, so realistic expectations will help you.

I'd want as good an understanding of how someone looks, as possible, before I get more certainty that a man is potentially attractive and thus partly compatible. The more your range of photos allow a viewer to get more certainty about how you look, the better. If in doubt, people don't progress things and there will probably be someone equal to you, who does achieve this. (They've probably got a lot of messages that will include supplementary photos, to their profile public pics.

When they get a message, they'll probably look at your pics and read the profile text, before reading the message.

Get the text to give them a cast iron understanding of you, your uniqueness and what you can potentially give them. If they grasp you and move on, it's for the right reasons then.

But it will only be wn infinitesimally small percentage of people who are mutually compatible. Lack of written replies just means that you're in the majority who they missed on.

Experiment with changing your profile pics and text and you might find that combination that works best, based on your experience. The other tips, including getting to socials and clubs are spot on

Good luck!

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By *nytime2023Couple
24 hours ago

Gloucestershire

Why do people ask for advice and do nothing with their profile? This OP has been on at least 3 times since posting and the profile is exactly the same! Block and move on, like we have 🤦🏻‍♂️

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By *iss DevilWoman
24 hours ago

Bedford

"Why do people ask for advice and do nothing with their profile? This OP has been on at least 3 times since posting and the profile is exactly the same! Block and move on, like we have 🤦🏻‍♂️ "

Because, most of the time, people who post those threads are not interested in the actual advice.

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