FabSwingers.com forum: Reading Profiles

By (user no longer on site) OP
24 weeks ago

Do you always read profiles before you send a message?

Do you want members to read your profile before they send a message?

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By *iker JackMan
24 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Yes and yes

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By *izandpaulCouple
24 weeks ago

merseyside

Yes to both.

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By *endalshaggersCouple
24 weeks ago

Lake District

I think it's common sense to read them, no? Or are people so taken in by the public photos/videos they don't bother reading?

It's annoying to receive (multiple) messages from people who clearly haven't read your profile and your're looking for completely different things on here.

Whilst I get some profiles drag on or sound very condensing (especially the "attach pictures" when the profile themselves have zero pictures or pp themselves) a quick scan beforehand, make sure your're what the OP is looking for, you fit the requirements, and you've in theory got something to offer.

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By *inkycatWoman
24 weeks ago

High Wycombe

I never really message tbh. If I did, I would. But I expect someone to read my profile before they message: for example earlier a bi guy messaged me who only wanted daytime meets. I don’t play with bi men and can’t do daytimes… what was the point?! This happens a lot. I look at the profile of most of the people who message me unless they’re a shadow and decide whether to reply.

And then I get jaded with it, hide my profile and vanish.

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple
24 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire

Yes, and hell no. If they all read our profile we'd never get any messages at all...

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By *asterMeliodasMan
24 weeks ago

Newmill

Yes on both counts.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
24 weeks ago

Trowbridge

Yes & yes, but it’s usually yes & hopeful

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By *WANDTGCouple
24 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

Yes and yes,but by the look of some off the messages we receive they haven't viewed our profile. Take note, all you straight under 36 year olds !!!

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By *r-8-BBCMan
24 weeks ago

LONDON

"Do you always read profiles before you send a message?

Do you want members to read your profile before they send a message?

Yes and yes. It's the right thing to do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
24 weeks ago

"I think it's common sense to read them, no? Or are people so taken in by the public photos/videos they don't bother reading?

It's annoying to receive (multiple) messages from people who clearly haven't read your profile and your're looking for completely different things on here.

Yes we agree. I suppose it’s to be expected to get lots of single men not reading profiles and sending out cut and pastes. I get that it’s a numbers game for them xx

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By *bi HaiveMan
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24 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Yes and yes.

And I also view profiles before opening a message.

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By *olfandtazCouple
24 weeks ago

Bristol

Yes and yes

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By *ayRyuMan
24 weeks ago

Harrogate

Another vote for yes and yes.

If there's a write up it's prudent to read it properly. Would save a lot of unwanted messaging often.

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By *andPextraCouple
24 weeks ago

North West

I’d say based on messages we get 95% never get past the pictures

If we are looking we read the lot, no matter how long.

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By *hoenix_1Man
24 weeks ago

richmond

Always read profiles

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By *ucka39Man
24 weeks ago

Newcastle

Always read whether sending a message or not

and it's acceptable to do similar

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By *uliette500Woman
24 weeks ago

Hull

Yes I always read profiles before messaging, and that includes the profiles of those that message me first, I read their's before I reply to them.

I wish people would read mine before messaging but I can tell most haven't.

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By *usSaturdayNightCouple
24 weeks ago

Ipswich

Yes to both questions, it’s so annoying when you get a message from someone who hasn’t read the profile and then gets upset when you ask them why they messaged you, when there profile is the complete opposite

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By *lik and PaulCouple
24 weeks ago

cahoots

Yes and yes but it's obvious when people don't read it and still message.

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By *elboy1978Man
24 weeks ago

Jarrow

Yes to see what there into

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By *ay W. BeauWoman
24 weeks ago

Wolvo

Yes and yes. Whats the point in messaging if youre not compatible?!

I think others do read profiles but disregard them sometimes. When a message starts ‘great pics’ i know theyve not read a word of my bio.

I feel there would be a lot more positive interactions on here if folk read bios and acted accordingly.

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
24 weeks ago

south coast IOW

Yes and yes but the majority of my messages come from people who have just looked at pictures.

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By *ustamanMan
24 weeks ago

weymouth

"Do you always read profiles before you send a message?

Do you want members to read your profile before they send a message?

99% of the time yes, the 1% I slip up on invariably ends up with me being slapped down

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By *ay W. BeauWoman
24 weeks ago

Wolvo

Reading profile bios is important but so is physical attraction. Ive had situations where, the persons matched what I've written in my bio, but i don't feel attracted based on their pics. That in turn has lead to comments like ‘i read your bio and we match so whats the problem’ then said bio has been used to try and push for interaction.

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
24 weeks ago

Bristol

Yes and yes.

But I get so many idiots who don't.

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By *ark n kimCouple
24 weeks ago

Durham

We read the bios and would expect anyone messaging us to read ours.

It's really easy to tell if they have not read our bio. Which makes it easier to delete their message,that usually consists of..hi.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
24 weeks ago

Leeds

Someone told me they had to message 100's of women to get 1 reply so that was too time consuming to read them all 😂 safe to say they wasn't for me nor matched my criteria which they'd have realised if they'd read the profile

Mrs

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By *exxxoMan
24 weeks ago

Solihull

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

If I'm replying to a thread, then no, i don't read any.

If they've written to me, then probably

If I'm writing to them, you bet your bottom dollar I've read + devoured every word

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By *ngelLordCouple
24 weeks ago

Newport

Yes and yes

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By *ARKblondeCouple
24 weeks ago

london

"Do you always read profiles before you send a message?

Do you want members to read your profile before they send a message?

I actually don't mind if people read our profile or not, most of it's nonsense anyway

. I actually enjoy chatting online, to whoever wants to, I find the interaction part entertaining xxx

Mr D.

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By *ilthycouple24Couple
24 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Do you always read profiles before you send a message?

Do you want members to read your profile before they send a message?

ALWAYS YOU THINK OURS IS THIS LONG FOR YIU NOT TO READ IT

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

Depends if it reads like a contract and is as long as one then no. Keep em short!

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By *lack_NoirMan
24 weeks ago

London

Yes and yes, but they don't need to be so lengthy, your just killing the possible conversation before it starts.

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By * and BCouple
24 weeks ago

Durham

It confuses the hell out of us why folk don't read profiles, reading a profile gives all a clue if it is what they are looking for. People make it so clear in messages that they just haven't bothered, then they wonder why they don't get anywhere on fab and then vent their anger. They are getting no where with us as if they can't put the effort into reading a profile then they wouldn't be putting in any effort to meet and would be another no show statistic. The no show people are what we are all trying to avoid

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By *herrybakewellCouple
24 weeks ago

Staffordshire

100%...people not reading profiles just wastes everyone's time.

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By *ifestyle1Man
24 weeks ago

me171

"Do you always read profiles before you send a message?

Do you want members to read your profile before they send a message?

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By *ifestyle1Man
24 weeks ago

me171

Reading proper it's like a newspaper.

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By * and BCouple
24 weeks ago

Durham

"Reading proper it's like a newspaper. "

Yes it is and it gives you all the information you need just like a newspaper article. That is if they can be even bothered to write a profile, how is that going to work? You click onto a profile and nothing there, are you going to message? are you just going to pass by?

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By *eronikapaulCouple
24 weeks ago

Reading

" are you just going to pass by? "

Since this thread is about Reading that is a very moot question? We would say Reading standards are much higher than they used to be.

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By *ifestyle1Man
24 weeks ago

me171

Pass by after reading profiles

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By *iddle ManMan
24 weeks ago

Walsall

If you are going to message someone with the any inclination to engage in conversation or even meet, then the minimum requirement should be to at least read their profile first, and people wonder why they have no success on this site.

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By *eathrow pineappleCouple
24 weeks ago

Hounslow

Yes and most definitely! The amount of people that just look at your photos and don't read the profile is unbelievable.

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By *acavityMan
23 weeks ago

Redditch

Yes and yes.

I don't send many messages, but do get replies occasionally.

And as a single male, I need to stand out, so I've got a profile that explains why people should consider me. Of course I want people to read it.

But still get messages from people who haven't.

One of my 'rule's is that people who contact me should have a message longer than their username.

Latest message "Hi".

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By *ifestyle1Man
23 weeks ago

me171

"Do you always read profiles before you send a message?

Do you want members to read your profile before they send a message?

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By *ifestyle1Man
23 weeks ago

me171

I always read and listen just don't know what they say what they want. I must be to soft

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

Both ways, Common courtesy. If they don’t take the time to read something we have invested our time in crafting so they understand how we work, I ain’t interested in giving anything from me. I mean, yes, we are here for sex and the fun and we are not intending to marry anyone, but doesn’t cost a penny to take a minute before trying to stick it in…

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
23 weeks ago

Pembrokeshire

always to both

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By *ittynzWoman
23 weeks ago

Richmond

Yes I do because I like to have a drink and I’m smoker so need to what there into and how local they are to me and I want them to read mine so they know I smoke and don’t wear heels

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By *issmorganWoman
23 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I always read them, how would I know if we'd be compatible otherwise.

Yes I wish more people read them, but it's usually a good filter when they haven't as you can tell strayght away.

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

"Do you always read profiles before you send a message?

Do you want members to read your profile before they send a message?

Yes… what’s the point of messaging if we’re not right for them.

Yes we do! We are fussy with certain desires… if you message and don’t match our wants we just delete

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By *eathrow pineappleCouple
23 weeks ago

Hounslow

"Yes I do because I like to have a drink and I’m smoker so need to what there into and how local they are to me and I want them to read mine so they know I smoke and don’t wear heels "
your profile is clear and concise. Very straightforward (if you read it of course) x

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By *ilthycouple24Couple
23 weeks ago

Glasgow

Always read everyone profile

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By *amanthabWoman
23 weeks ago

Somewhere

It’s frustrating when you take the time to write a clear profile and people (mostly guys) just see a pair of tits and send random one liners and a dick pic 🫣

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By *ipsforlipsMan
23 weeks ago

Midlands

Yes, I always read profiles.

If someone reads mine before messaging it's nice, but not essential.

There's the odd message I get when someone hasn't even bothered to check my gender, leave alone read my profile - those ammuse me more than anything else... maybe once or twice some may have been wound up, or had an unexpected shock part way through a conversation

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
23 weeks ago

Coventry

Yes. Genrally goes in the order of pictures, profile. Although the bio, intrests and stats are important it goes hand in hand with the pictures because our attraction is the sum of the parts. We don't need war and peace, just an indication of personality and what they're down for.

I can't understand why anyone would approach someone with intent without reading the profile?

Likewise although we don't say much we'd like to think people have at least read our profile. The intrested in section to see what we're down for. The stats to at least see our sexuallity preferences. And of course our small bio to get a flavour for us.

We don't go into huge detail about what we like and what we're looking for. One because it's quite a broad spectrum. Two because if you do some people will tailor their response to give you what they think you want to hear rather than their ture self.

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By *w1styWoman
23 weeks ago

MiddleofMyStreet

"Do you always read profiles before you send a message?

Do you want members to read your profile before they send a message?

Yes, I will read a profile before I message someone to make sure I am what they are looking for (if interested in meeting).

Yes, most messages I got the answer was in my profile. Right now I am not meeting (summer holidays) yet i was still getting messages to meet up. Would save a lot of time if my profile was read.

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
23 weeks ago

Leeds

Yes & yes.

Although couples that message rarely read mine.

Mrs

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
23 weeks ago

Cambs

Yes to both xxx

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By *ezandCCouple
23 weeks ago

Telford

Yes to both, we blocked men because most don’t read. But we find the same with some couples, messaging asking what we are looking for, we didn’t our profile was cryptic.

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By *ineapple_turnoverCouple
23 weeks ago

London

Yeh we read and we expect people to read ours. Never really understood how people would choose to message without seeing anything about us!

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By *.T.Man
23 weeks ago

Jordanhill / Scotstoun

I think there is about 4 people on fab who have read my profile.

I'm on a mission to read every profile. Still working on A to C...

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By *riel13Woman
23 weeks ago

Northampton

I always read profiles... It pisses me off when someone doesn't read mine before messaging... What's the point of writing one otherwise... I don't understand people that have a well written one that don't bother reading them!

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

"Yeh we read and we expect people to read ours. Never really understood how people would choose to message without seeing anything about us!"

Absolutely agree!

You have a great detailed profile… I would know from reading it that we’re not for you!

So we wouldn’t waste our time, wasting yours!

I hate it when people message asking a question that’s answered in our profile (which I know is long and detailed

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We usually answer ‘it’s in our profile’ and delete!

Wife

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By *olinOfBathMan
23 weeks ago

Corsham

Yes, always. I don't want to waste anyone's time, especially my own, by sending unwanted messages.

And...

Yes, I'd prefer folks to read my ramblings before messaging. As a realist, I don't expect it.

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By *econdtimelucky101Man
23 weeks ago

Oldbury

Yes and yes.

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
23 weeks ago

Stoke

The very top line of ours says no dick pics, yet we receive loads everyday, so people definitely just look at the pictures.

We however will always read your profile if you've sparked our interest to check we're compatible.

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By *arriedwelshcoupleCouple
23 weeks ago

Cardiff

We always read a profile before messaging and would prefer people read ours too

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By *x cplCouple
23 weeks ago

North of Oxford

Always read the profile before responding. As ours says what we can see what they like and if they tempt us. If not sadly don't always reply which I know annoys some but if they read our profile would see they aren't what we seek.

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