FabSwingers.com forum: Intimidating and offensive messages

By *portyNE OP Man
17 weeks ago

london

Last night I have received from one account lots of intimidating messages about how they know who I am and how they are going to tell my wife and ruin my marriage!

This Person has not viewed my profile and I have never chatted with them and now they have blocked me and I’ve hidden my profile!!

I asked for some proof they know me or my wife by just asking for my initials or where I live and they avoid this question!

I’ve reported the profile, just wondered if anyone else has experience this?!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
17 weeks ago

East Sussex

It happens. People are nasty.

You did right to report and block.

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By *portyNE OP Man
17 weeks ago

london

But as they could t give any evidence who I am, who wife is and where I live. Am I right to assume it’s just stupid people scamming?!?

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By *assageVirtuosoMan
17 weeks ago

SouthEast

"It happens. People are nasty.

You did right to report and block.

OP, this above .

Don't worry. Nasty people , stupid, scammers, trolls...

If contacted again, tell them to fuck off and tell whoever they want. Don't show you are afraid, because you just give them more ammunition.

BTW, I know who you are and I'm going to tell both your wife and your gf...

And your mother too!

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By *assageVirtuosoMan
17 weeks ago

SouthEast

"It happens. People are nasty.

You did right to report and block.

Nicecouple , you asked a question on the Diabetes forum. I haven't had time to reply, but I'm going to . Keep an eye on that thread.

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By *portyNE OP Man
17 weeks ago

london

Can’t understand what people get out of this!

Why would you threaten to do all of this over 10 messages and then block me!!?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
17 weeks ago

East Sussex

"But as they could t give any evidence who I am, who wife is and where I live. Am I right to assume it’s just stupid people scamming?!?"

I'd say so.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
17 weeks ago

Central

The site is open to everyone until they break site rules. Also report the profile, which you can still do if blocked either way. Without them having given any protected information to you, it sounds more of a scammer/chancer

Be prepared to get the help from the police at any point.

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By *issmorganWoman
17 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

"Can’t understand what people get out of this!

Why would you threaten to do all of this over 10 messages and then block me!!?"

Because some people are just vile and they want you to sit and worry about it.

If counterblock them op, which you can do from a message.

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By *portyNE OP Man
17 weeks ago

london

Thanks all

Most of me thinks it’s a scam but to be honest it has got me worries and anxious

That’s why I’ve hidden my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago

"Thanks all

Most of me thinks it’s a scam but to be honest it has got me worries and anxious

That’s why I’ve hidden my profile"

You should have blocked after the first message rather than waiting for 10.

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By *portyNE OP Man
17 weeks ago

london

"Thanks all

Most of me thinks it’s a scam but to be honest it has got me worries and anxious

That’s why I’ve hidden my profile

You should have blocked after the first message rather than waiting for 10.

I agree but a bit of me thought ‘it what if what they are saying is true’

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By *portyNE OP Man
17 weeks ago

london

Just got a reply from the site to say the problem has been dealt with and it looks like the profile has been deleted or removed!!

Unfortunately so has the messages so no evidence

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By *lym4realCouple
17 weeks ago

plymouth

Just accept the fact that the internet allows people like this to prosper and ignore move on ? the world is full of nasty indivuals though ! but also full of nice people and very nice people at that !

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By *iss DevilWoman
17 weeks ago

Bedford

Sorry you had such bad experience, OP. Just a quick advice though - just because someone is not showing on your "who looked at me" list, it doesn't mean they have not seen your profile. A lot of people, particularly women and couples, look in "ninja" mode and would not show as looked at your profile.

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By *portyNE OP Man
17 weeks ago

london

"Sorry you had such bad experience, OP. Just a quick advice though - just because someone is not showing on your "who looked at me" list, it doesn't mean they have not seen your profile. A lot of people, particularly women and couples, look in "ninja" mode and would not show as looked at your profile. "

Thankyou and noted, looks like they have been kicked off the site!

Can’t understand what people get out of doing that!!!

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By *iker JackMan
17 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Some people are assholes. Plain and simple

That said if you’re on here cheating and show photos that may distinguish you then you run the risk of being caught out

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By *portyNE OP Man
17 weeks ago

london

"Some people are assholes. Plain and simple

That said if you’re on here cheating and show photos that may distinguish you then you run the risk of being caught out

Thankyou

The photos I had on my profile were all neck up so I’d say pretty hard to distinguish me!

But a bit of a shock!!

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By *p2norfolkngoodMan
17 weeks ago

Norwich

"Some people are assholes. Plain and simple

That said if you’re on here cheating and show photos that may distinguish you then you run the risk of being caught out

Thankyou

The photos I had on my profile were all neck up so I’d say pretty hard to distinguish me!

But a bit of a shock!!

Neck up would be easy as that would be your face assume you mean neck down?

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By *portyNE OP Man
17 weeks ago

london

"Some people are assholes. Plain and simple

That said if you’re on here cheating and show photos that may distinguish you then you run the risk of being caught out

Tops the day I’ve had!!

Yes I meant neck down!

Thankyou

The photos I had on my profile were all neck up so I’d say pretty hard to distinguish me!

But a bit of a shock!!

Neck up would be easy as that would be your face assume you mean neck down?

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By *ickerladMan
16 weeks ago

wem

What is ‘ninja’ mode?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
16 weeks ago

East Sussex

"What is ‘ninja’ mode?"

When people enable 'hide on looked at me' they can look at people's profiles without them knowing...ninja mode 😀

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By *asterMeliodasMan
16 weeks ago

Newmill

My wife got a message yesterday from someone addressing her by real name and saying that she and I are both unhygienic, ugly losers and that they hope we've cleaned up "since our last meet".

We know for a fact it can't be any of the people we've actually met from here, because none of them know my wife's real name. We heavily suspect it's a former friend who's sent one of his flying monkeys to harass us.

Blocked and had a laugh about the desperation. Anyone who messages you anything abusive/threatening loses any power they might have had by virtue of also being on the site; who would they be able to tell without outing themselves?

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By *yreGuy99Man
16 weeks ago

Doesn't matter

I've had something similar happen to me and they're just pathetic.

Most of my negative messages are from women on how ugly and usless I am because I fail meet their criteria. Some people are just shitty.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

Hopefully it never again OP but just in case, always screen shot nasty messages in case you need them.

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By *portyNE OP Man
16 weeks ago

london

As an update

I reported them to admin and they had their profile deleted along with all the

Messages, luckily I had screen shorted them

a day later they reappeared with a status similar to “snowflakes tried to get me

Kicked off and now I’m back”

My profile is still hidden, I want to look in their profile but worried they will know it’s me!!

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

"As an update

I reported them to admin and they had their profile deleted along with all the

Messages, luckily I had screen shorted them

a day later they reappeared with a status similar to “snowflakes tried to get me

Kicked off and now I’m back”

My profile is still hidden, I want to look in their profile but worried they will know it’s me!!"

Use stealth mode and they won't know you've looked at them. .

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By *naswingdressWoman
16 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"As an update

I reported them to admin and they had their profile deleted along with all the

Messages, luckily I had screen shorted them

a day later they reappeared with a status similar to “snowflakes tried to get me

Kicked off and now I’m back”

My profile is still hidden, I want to look in their profile but worried they will know it’s me!!"

I'd report the profile again. The status is evidence

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
16 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Unfortunately email addresses are free so new profiles are easy to set up.

Keep reporting OP.

It does make me sometimes wonder if there should be an ID verification requirement upon signing up, as is required at most swingers clubs. That would prevent those booted from returning, but I'm fully aware this wouldn't be popular with some and would create huge amounts of work for admin.

It's a shame people can't be adults.

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By *izandpaulCouple
16 weeks ago

merseyside

"Last night I have received from one account lots of intimidating messages about how they know who I am and how they are going to tell my wife and ruin my marriage!

This Person has not viewed my profile and I have never chatted with them and now they have blocked me and I’ve hidden my profile!!

I asked for some proof they know me or my wife by just asking for my initials or where I live and they avoid this question!

I’ve reported the profile, just wondered if anyone else has experience this?!"

Just ignore and report them.

The worst thing is to engage with these sad people, don't give them the oxygen of response.

They will soon scuttle back under the stone they came from.

Just view them as sad, lonely outcasts from society, a great night for them is sat in front of a laptop with pot noodle and porn.

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By *portyNE OP Man
16 weeks ago

london

I checked the profile with the stealth mode (don’t even know that was a thing!) it’s definitely the same person so I’ve reported them again!!!

Some

People are just odd! Shame

For the nice genuine people on here!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

It rubs the lotion on its skin or else it gets the hose again.

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By *hatsWhatCoupleCouple
16 weeks ago

Northampton

You’ve done the right thing.

Report, block, move on

Don’t engage in conversation/ messages. These people feed off it.

If they have got evidence etc, deal with it IF it comes about. It’s completely out of your control so don’t dwell on it.

This is supposed to be a fun part of our lives. Go enjoy it

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