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By *actilenorfolkgent OP   Man
over a year ago

Norwich

So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Wouldn’t even consider it to be real for a second.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Wouldn't even entertain a reply to the 1st message

Mrs

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

You'll find it's very common on here, the Male of the couple sending loads of winks and messages and the Wife has no clue. We've bumped into people in a club and the Wife had no idea they'd messaged us.

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By *actilenorfolkgent OP   Man
over a year ago

Norwich

Your all reinforcing my thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could find he's eating the knickers aswell then going chatroom as underclothed officer..

Waiting to .. ah .. thas is burgerbum

Find the invite

AHhhhh

Did you ask if its solid ? btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You'll find it's very common on here, the Male of the couple sending loads of winks and messages and the Wife has no clue. We've bumped into people in a club and the Wife had no idea they'd messaged us."

So in your case the wife was a real person

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By *ecret-64Couple
over a year ago

Wrexham

I....the male...do tend to make most the contacts. However, once an interest is made and a meet looks like happening we are both fully involved.

She actually prefurs this as dosnt have the patience to message. So long as she is kept in the loop. X

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish


"You'll find it's very common on here, the Male of the couple sending loads of winks and messages and the Wife has no clue. We've bumped into people in a club and the Wife had no idea they'd messaged us.

So in your case the wife was a real person "

I have no chance of remembering those people i've contacted... whats so shocking?

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish


"Wouldn't even entertain a reply to the 1st message

Mrs "

How can both halves of a couple type and send a message? Do they both press each key together? I should think in most couples the guy sends the first message, the woman might have discussed the choice prior to sending you can't possibly know?

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

As above, wouldn’t even entertain it unless a very well verified (by decent men) profile.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

It’s a very common thing on here but to most I think they would be suspicious as to whether it was a genuine couple or not unless the account was well verified .

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Wouldn't even entertain a reply to the 1st message

Mrs

How can both halves of a couple type and send a message? Do they both press each key together? I should think in most couples the guy sends the first message, the woman might have discussed the choice prior to sending you can't possibly know?"

Firstly I (Mrs) usually message, secondly if the message starts with my wife doesn't come on here often - it's a no.

It's easy to sign off who is who and it's easy to arrange a 3/4 way group chat.

It's generally pretty obvious when there's no Mrs around they make excuses within the 1st if not 1st few messages.

We both reply, both use the forums, people can clearly see there's two of us, it's not difficult.

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Wouldn't even entertain a reply to the 1st message

Mrs

How can both halves of a couple type and send a message? Do they both press each key together? I should think in most couples the guy sends the first message, the woman might have discussed the choice prior to sending you can't possibly know?"

Also with the pressing keys together snarky remark we both log in via our own phones we both reply after all there meeting is both and want to know us both.

Mrs

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By *ink vixenCouple
over a year ago

Medway

I (Mr) do the “Fabmin”, responding to messages, winks etc and she gets involved once I’ve filtered down the possibles for the hot list as I know what she likes.

By then I’ve deleted the heys, hi’s, hows yous the meet now’s and the cock pics that she doesn’t have the patience for.

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By *iberatedduoCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne

Put it this way I separate the wheat from the chaff and when I see there is a message worthy of an acknowledgment I then let Kat know who then decides if she’s open to taking things further.

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By *heelerMan
over a year ago

Northants

Yes

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By *iberatedduoCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne


"Put it this way I separate the wheat from the chaff and when I see there is a message worthy of an acknowledgment I then let Kat know who then decides if she’s open to taking things further. Any husband taking responsibility for this is looking out for their wives.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Put it this way I separate the wheat from the chaff and when I see there is a message worthy of an acknowledgment I then let Kat know who then decides if she’s open to taking things further. Any husband taking responsibility for this is looking out for their wives.

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Completely different to what the OP is describing though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have many, many couples profiles contacting me where it’s the male messaging.

It’s usually the same old story, they are wanting to set up a “surprise” for their wife, me being the surprise.

The male would like to meet me first just to make sure I’m right for his wife.

There’s not a hope in hell that I’d ever meet someone I’ve had no contact with.

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By *iberatedduoCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne

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By *iberatedduoCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne

The majority of the site is made up of dreamers, fakes and time wasters. It’s the genuine ones make it worthwhile being here.

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By *winging Sally SeanCouple
over a year ago

Warks / Northants Border


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her"

Sally doesn't use this site to send messages. She reads them, but rarely sends one. I think in almost a decade on here, she's sent about 5 messages. They were sent on my request, usually as we're driving to a neet or similar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first hotel meet was all arranged through the husband. He made a group chat with all 3 of us just before it so we spoke before hand. I just assumed it was vetting to make sure I wasn’t a weirdo.. I did notice a few laps in communication between them tho which has made me doubt a few times. But I try not to look to deeply into it tbh

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By *ustforshow25Couple
over a year ago

Leatherhead


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her"

I have arranged a meet where the wife didn't chat at all, but from her side she knew I was doing it that I know exactly what she would/wouldn't like, and for the person we involved I sent pictures staged as they asked (message, pose, items etc) so they knew she was a genuine person.

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By *lueDressWoman
over a year ago

Bath

Had a lot of "couples" profiles message Me, and the male admitting that he is single. Or that he is trying to get a threesome for his girlfriend who knows nothing about it. It's dangerous, it's very very unwise to do this. I do know somebody who had this happened to them. The husband literally invited an unknown male stranger into the marital home. The poor woman was rapped, she did not give consent.

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By *cnugatugMan
over a year ago

Chatham

Would seem very suspicious to me and I'd want to chat with the female half aswell as the fella I would tread carefully and if there was no contact with the female I'd avoid and block

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By *auradCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Laura does sometimes ask me to message on her behalf but I always make clear in the message that this is the case.

Within our dynamic, with me being Cuckold, part of my duties are to facilitate her fun including making the initial contact.

Having said that she does get involved later in the conversation if she is still interested and we wouldn’t progress to a meet without having done so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Laura does sometimes ask me to message on her behalf but I always make clear in the message that this is the case.

Within our dynamic, with me being Cuckold, part of my duties are to facilitate her fun including making the initial contact.

Having said that she does get involved later in the conversation if she is still interested and we wouldn’t progress to a meet without having done so. "

Exactly the same dynamic I had

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

its the reason i blocked couples got sick rto death of entitled male halfs ... pushy male halfs ... male halfs not wanting there partners knowing ... alot of couples profiles are men fantasising or pushin g the female partners so in the end i just blocked them all same on our couples profile...

some act the same in clubs too ... a real couple will always be a couple both chit chat both 100% involved but its a puzzle to work out whos real or not for sure but they always slip up

and dont dismiss those couples where one wants it and one dont mostly male led again...

lucky for me/us we know 100s of couples from our many years on the scene so meet them private / house party / clubs

and this is just my opinion so dont get pissy but a cuck doing the arranging for his wife is about as non cuckold as it gets and for me its not cuckold but thats just my honest opinion and i know plenty real cuckold couples feel that way to me its basic hotwife or just at best swinging

#justmyopinion

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By *ootnootboopCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her"

In all honesty, wouldn't even entertain a reply. It just screams fake sadly.

In a world where we have to have our eyes peeled for red flags, this unfortunately throws up a big one.

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By *unchalMan
over a year ago

Dartford


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her"

Yes. I've had a couple of these and get blocked as soon as I insist on having some idea what the woman wants out of it all. These men couldn't even lie about that, weirdly enough.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her"

Depends. If they are well verified then fine. With some couples the man arranges things and the lady is happy not to get involved much. Sometimes just checking pics or sometimes not at all. I’ve met couples in the past with no female contact at all beforehand and all been good.

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral

Rach won't speak on here anymore following a creepy/weird chat one time and is happy for me to make initial contact.

If I find that a guy may have something to offer us I then discuss with her and IF SHE AGREES I arrange a 3 way phone chat - just so the guy in question knows that there is a informed woman involved.

If that chat goes well we will then offer to meet socially and if that all goes swimmingly then the next meet would be to play.

It's a system we've used for quite some time and one we will continue to use as it works for us.

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By *ancs married coupleCouple
over a year ago

Silverdale

I (male) usually chat and wife would look at the pic and if she likes the look of him then I'll let him know. If things progress then I ask the wife to get involved. Seeing a few flirty messages is a turn on for both of us

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By *ubmissive Couple4funCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I shortlist meets and the wife goes over the rest

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By *ickedwillyCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

The same here I find them but she has the last say.

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By *DandcurvykittenCouple
over a year ago

Northants and London

I (DD) tend to be the more chatty one out of the two of us, and she prefers me making the first move with others on our behalf. We both have access to, and communicate from our account.

If I ever reach out to people I’ll always inform curvy kitten of this and we’ll discuss what our reply is going to be and who is going to send it. Sometimes it will be me, other times it will be her.

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her"

I've lost count how many men with single profiles have a wife or gf who wants to ride me

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's often wank fodder chat, with no other half.

Move to verify that you have engagement with all parties quickly, such as cams.

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By *enleywoodsCouple
over a year ago

Stourbridge / Oxford

I would want to speak to both partners whoever makes first contact.

We are new and are not ready to make any contact yet but when we do, whoever sends the message, we will both have read the profile and agreed on what we want. We don't do anything here or in clubs without both of us knowing and consenting.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

That’s the only way my wife will have it now as had some bad experiences in the past , depending on if a club meet she will tell me to invite them , if it’s outside of club we are more careful , social with me then with us both, if I chose well she will play straight after , if she has played with them before she’s allowed to go solo when she wants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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If I find that a guy may have something to offer us I then discuss with her and IF SHE AGREES I arrange a 3 way phone chat - just so the guy in question knows that there is a informed woman involved.

If that chat goes well we will then offer to meet socially and if that all goes swimmingly then the next meet would be to play.

It's a system we've used for quite some time and one we will continue to use as it works for us."

Wish everyone could work like that, but we are all different, phone chat and a social in my world should be the norm

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

Cherry hates texting and became utterly fed up of the sea of timewasters and liars on here these days. Hence I Tony handle ALL initial chat, often right up to arranging first meet.... On the other hand there are plenty of couples on here where the male arranging men for the wife is one of their fantasies !. I'd say go for it, if timewasters then report to admin and hope they take note

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


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If I find that a guy may have something to offer us I then discuss with her and IF SHE AGREES I arrange a 3 way phone chat - just so the guy in question knows that there is a informed woman involved.

If that chat goes well we will then offer to meet socially and if that all goes swimmingly then the next meet would be to play.

It's a system we've used for quite some time and one we will continue to use as it works for us.

Wish everyone could work like that, but we are all different, phone chat and a social in my world should be the norm "

That's not the world many people inhabit. They just want to meet and fuck These things work differently for everybody. As I said above verifications can avoid a lot of problems.

Also lots of people don't want to give out phone numbers. These days you've got phone number then you can see WhatsApp and if you can see WhatsApp then you can see Facebook and that opens up somebody's private work potentially. Lots of people I know have had problems over the years from giving out numbers - eg one lady outing another lady to her friends/family on Facebook. There are some vindictive people out there if things don't go to plan.

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By *armandwet50Couple
over a year ago

Far far away


"Had a lot of "couples" profiles message Me, and the male admitting that he is single. Or that he is trying to get a threesome for his girlfriend who knows nothing about it. It's dangerous, it's very very unwise to do this. I do know somebody who had this happened to them. The husband literally invited an unknown male stranger into the marital home. The poor woman was rapped, she did not give consent."

How do you know she didn't give her consent? That's a rather strong accusation when you haven't provided any proof. this could be the way the couple like it done

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

I (Mr) handle pretty much all comms. Wife can’t be bothered with the messaging and the guys trying ‘sexy chat’.

We’re a genuine couple though but wife practically never messages but is at EVERY meet.

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By *reyeyesesMan
over a year ago

Brumtown

The idea is HOT, turning up as a bit of a mystery for the wife. The reality is usually a catfish, and thus significantly less hot

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By *Jones19Man
over a year ago

Evesham, Worcester, Pershore


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her"

I'd continue with caution. I met with a nice couple from here which was entirely organised by the male. But since realised I got extremely lucky and all since have stood me up, bailed or ghosted.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Wouldn't entertain, surely the woman half if is one is able to make her own decisions.

Ive chatted with many whom were a couple, but a genuine one. having a keen eye helps...

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By *andC1000Couple
over a year ago

Ashford

Usually is suspicious although I’d quite like the idea of J arranging a surprise meet for me but would still have a little bit of input

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in touch with a couple just now and when things start you kind of are wary of it maybe being a fraud or a male pretending to be the woman, but this chat is very definitely her. Then an odd message appeared and I immediately thought that's the hubby and obviously he has no idea of my chat with his wife .. so I let him know where I stand in things and leave them to respond .. next really was very confusing and it nearly was all over. I wish couples would make it clear who's chatting at any given time and exactly who knows what .. trying to guess all this is a battle ..

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By *winging Sally SeanCouple
over a year ago

Warks / Northants Border


"I'm in touch with a couple just now and when things start you kind of are wary of it maybe being a fraud or a male pretending to be the woman, but this chat is very definitely her. Then an odd message appeared and I immediately thought that's the hubby and obviously he has no idea of my chat with his wife .. so I let him know where I stand in things and leave them to respond .. next really was very confusing and it nearly was all over. I wish couples would make it clear who's chatting at any given time and exactly who knows what .. trying to guess all this is a battle .. "

We've explained it in our profile... It's quite amusing when those who don't read it assume they are chatting with Sally!

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By *unchalMan
over a year ago

Dartford


"Had a lot of "couples" profiles message Me, and the male admitting that he is single. Or that he is trying to get a threesome for his girlfriend who knows nothing about it. It's dangerous, it's very very unwise to do this. I do know somebody who had this happened to them. The husband literally invited an unknown male stranger into the marital home. The poor woman was rapped, she did not give consent.

How do you know she didn't give her consent? That's a rather strong accusation when you haven't provided any proof. this could be the way the couple like it done"

I so agree. Rapping is the worst. Some sort of freestyling type thing no doubt. Traumatic, I'm sure.

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By *ubwifecoupleCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm the male and arrange most of our private meets and part of our 'thing' is that she knows as little as possible (for some meets anyway but not all).

I get that some people have had their fingers burned and won't trust anything without pretty much a video response from the female half but for us that kills our excitement. Luckily there's enough guys who are prepared to accept that our veris tell their own story without having to kill the vibe!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish! it's always me doing all the hard work

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By *roticknotsMan
over a year ago

Halifax

It’s tough one I would give a couple the benefit of the doubt if they had Beria and came across as genuine about meeting ect but their is so many men creating couples profiles and not actually real about meeting or their wife don’t know about it it makes people have their guard up about the whole thing

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By *nsatiableFunCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Worcestershire

This is certainly a fantasy of ours but not been brave enough yet.

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By *roticknotsMan
over a year ago

Halifax

And you hear a lot of that we are think about it but not sure yet wich is totally fine I don’t mind but with the way the site has gone I can see why a lot of people wouldn’t even bother giving it the time of day as it sounds like it could be just a guy wishing his wife would do this

( not pointing finger at all just saying in general )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is certainly a fantasy of ours but not been brave enough yet. "

Hopefully you'll love it when you're both in the right headspace to try it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like to entertain that set up

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By *lleyCat1969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her"

Yes, very suspicious.

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By *lueDressWoman
over a year ago

Bath

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By *ibLeiMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I once had a very bad experience with a couple whose male-half was arranging the meeting. It was actually the lady that ended up being extremely rude to me because I was making sure she was okay with the whole dynamics - as opposed to me playing a “dominant” role with her.

Imagine being upset at someone who is simply trying to ensure that you’re safe I’ll never go to a meet with the lady not knowing who’s coming or what’s happening.

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By *lueDressWoman
over a year ago

Bath

As a counsellor for women I have had hundreds of sessions with ladies who have been "controlled" by a husband who wishes to swing, she does not. Males turning up to the marital home without Her permission.Her being in danger.

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish


" I (Mr) do the “Fabmin”, responding to messages, winks etc and she gets involved once I’ve filtered down the possibles for the hot list as I know what she likes.

By then I’ve deleted the heys, hi’s, hows yous the meet now’s and the cock pics that she doesn’t have the patience for. "

Exactly this.

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By *s Lola Wand - SocketWoman
over a year ago

leicester


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her"

Yes yes yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a counsellor for women I have had hundreds of sessions with ladies who have been "controlled" by a husband who wishes to swing, she does not. Males turning up to the marital home without Her permission.Her being in danger."

I get that for some it's their dynamic but as this lady says what about the barbaric nature of the abusers who are not roleplaying

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By *lueDressWoman
over a year ago

Bath


"As a counsellor for women I have had hundreds of sessions with ladies who have been "controlled" by a husband who wishes to swing, she does not. Males turning up to the marital home without Her permission.Her being in danger.

I get that for some it's their dynamic but as this lady says what about the barbaric nature of the abusers who are not roleplaying "

Exactly not all couples are mutually consentually agreeing.Its abuse if She is not aware.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we was looking on here we'd both be doing the looking to show each other if we thought we'd found someone suitable and the the wife would 100% have the last say if she was going to fuck someone or not.

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By *lleyCat1969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone


"As a counsellor for women I have had hundreds of sessions with ladies who have been "controlled" by a husband who wishes to swing, she does not. Males turning up to the marital home without Her permission.Her being in danger."

This is exactly my concern.

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By *ibLeiMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I once saw a “couple” (one of the rare instances I’m hoping it’s a fake) who posted an update along the lines of “Wife is sleeping after getting d*unk last night. Who wants to come and fuck her to wake her up?! ”. This is literally r*pe. The lack of awareness from some people is astounding.

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By *lueDressWoman
over a year ago

Bath


"I once saw a “couple” (one of the rare instances I’m hoping it’s a fake) who posted an update along the lines of “Wife is sleeping after getting d*unk last night. Who wants to come and fuck her to wake her up?! ”. This is literally r*pe. The lack of awareness from some people is astounding."

I pray to God that it was just a fantasy, a very sick one at that. But unfortunately I have heard this happen and I have seen the photographs. There are some extremely sick/cruel people in this world.

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By *unBrumCplCouple
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

For us I do most of the deleting / responding to messages etc as she doesn’t have the patience for all the nonsense. I let her know when we find potential meets. When it comes to couples/women then unless they are verified or at the very least photo verified I just automatically assume that they are a hairy arsed bloke. We only really meet at clubs so makes things a bit easier with single guys too as I can check verifications and see if they actually go to clubs. If they don’t then there’s no point.

Perhaps we are in the minority but Lucy does prefer things to be a bit spontaneous. If we are going to a club then I’ll usually post where we are going and then see who chats her up on the night. If she likes them she will play and if not then she will signal to me and we will move on. Seems to work well for us.

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her"

It’s a no from me as well. Happy to chat to me half arranging social meet for three of us and chat to her in neutral env. Won’t come to their home, hotel or invite them over to mine without talking to female part (same if female organising)

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By *armandwet50Couple
over a year ago

Far far away


"I once saw a “couple” (one of the rare instances I’m hoping it’s a fake) who posted an update along the lines of “Wife is sleeping after getting d*unk last night. Who wants to come and fuck her to wake her up?! ”. This is literally r*pe. The lack of awareness from some people is astounding."

Who's at fault (if there is any fault) the husband fulfilling his wife's desires or the guy who responds?

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By *armandwet50Couple
over a year ago

Far far away


"As a counsellor for women I have had hundreds of sessions with ladies who have been "controlled" by a husband who wishes to swing, she does not. Males turning up to the marital home without Her permission.Her being in danger.

This is exactly my concern."

You have a single man profile and find it ok to use a woman on your profile, is that OK?

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By *ibLeiMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I once saw a “couple” (one of the rare instances I’m hoping it’s a fake) who posted an update along the lines of “Wife is sleeping after getting d*unk last night. Who wants to come and fuck her to wake her up?! ”. This is literally r*pe. The lack of awareness from some people is astounding.

Who's at fault (if there is any fault) the husband fulfilling his wife's desires or the guy who responds?"

Is that a trick question? Both would be at fault, because the woman’s consent is clearly absent from the meeting being arranged and the resulting sexual encounter (a textbook r*pe).

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By *armandwet50Couple
over a year ago

Far far away


"I once saw a “couple” (one of the rare instances I’m hoping it’s a fake) who posted an update along the lines of “Wife is sleeping after getting d*unk last night. Who wants to come and fuck her to wake her up?! ”. This is literally r*pe. The lack of awareness from some people is astounding.

Who's at fault (if there is any fault) the husband fulfilling his wife's desires or the guy who responds?

Is that a trick question? Both would be at fault, because the woman’s consent is clearly absent from the meeting being arranged and the resulting sexual encounter (a textbook r*pe)."

How do you know it was missing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a counsellor for women I have had hundreds of sessions with ladies who have been "controlled" by a husband who wishes to swing, she does not. Males turning up to the marital home without Her permission.Her being in danger.

This is exactly my concern.

You have a single man profile and find it ok to use a woman on your profile, is that OK?"

One of the cocks maybe his, and tbh there are no distinguishing marks, tattoos to say who the woman or the other man is, it's also been checked by the mods.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I once saw a “couple” (one of the rare instances I’m hoping it’s a fake) who posted an update along the lines of “Wife is sleeping after getting d*unk last night. Who wants to come and fuck her to wake her up?! ”. This is literally r*pe. The lack of awareness from some people is astounding.

Who's at fault (if there is any fault) the husband fulfilling his wife's desires or the guy who responds?

Is that a trick question? Both would be at fault, because the woman’s consent is clearly absent from the meeting being arranged and the resulting sexual encounter (a textbook r*pe).

How do you know it was missing?"

Sleeping and d*unk is clearly missing consent.

It seems like you are only here to be clickbait so I'll leave you to pick at shit by yourself

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By *armandwet50Couple
over a year ago

Far far away


"As a counsellor for women I have had hundreds of sessions with ladies who have been "controlled" by a husband who wishes to swing, she does not. Males turning up to the marital home without Her permission.Her being in danger.

This is exactly my concern.

You have a single man profile and find it ok to use a woman on your profile, is that OK?

One of the cocks maybe his, and tbh there are no distinguishing marks, tattoos to say who the woman or the other man is, it's also been checked by the mods. "

He is still using a woman to get what he wants

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By *armandwet50Couple
over a year ago

Far far away


"I once saw a “couple” (one of the rare instances I’m hoping it’s a fake) who posted an update along the lines of “Wife is sleeping after getting d*unk last night. Who wants to come and fuck her to wake her up?! ”. This is literally r*pe. The lack of awareness from some people is astounding.

Who's at fault (if there is any fault) the husband fulfilling his wife's desires or the guy who responds?

Is that a trick question? Both would be at fault, because the woman’s consent is clearly absent from the meeting being arranged and the resulting sexual encounter (a textbook r*pe).

How do you know it was missing?

Sleeping and d*unk is clearly missing consent.

It seems like you are only here to be clickbait so I'll leave you to pick at shit by yourself "

CNC is also taboo it doesn't mean people don't enjoy it. Some women enjoy the stranger encounter and her consent may have been given prior to getting d*unk, you don't know.

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By *lleyCat1969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone


"As a counsellor for women I have had hundreds of sessions with ladies who have been "controlled" by a husband who wishes to swing, she does not. Males turning up to the marital home without Her permission.Her being in danger.

This is exactly my concern.

You have a single man profile and find it ok to use a woman on your profile, is that OK?"

Yes it is because it is the same lady in both pictures and she consented to them being on my profile. I have also given my consent to being in the pics on her profile.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her"

Chances are it will be me (the male half) you speak to first, I wouldn’t arrange any meets for her (us) though, she would have to have to be involved in that.

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By *elsbells2011Couple
over a year ago

fife

We are fairly mixed. We use the hotlist as a list of who we are interested in. Depending on who is online either one of us sends messages to people from within the hotlist. Once initial contact is made it’s only really Helen who messages and once she gives the not she’s happy then move from fab to another form. We have a pay as you go burner phone so as not to give real numbers and from this point onwards it’s purely Helen and hubby is just kept in the loop. As to the plan. Works well for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont see what the fuss is about if they arrange a meet then no show he`s fake. Karan

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.


"I....the male...do tend to make most the contacts. However, once an interest is made and a meet looks like happening we are both fully involved.

She actually prefurs this as dosnt have the patience to message. So long as she is kept in the loop. X "

Same for us, luckily we have a fair few verifications to prove we are genuine.

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By *lleyCat1969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone

@_armandwet50

Thanks for the mention - I've had a dozen fabs on my photos today

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By *azzler2Man
over a year ago

halifax

Icons out most of the time it just a fantasy of the husband who like to see his wife fucked but when you ask when and where he get cold feet happen to be few times but after a few chats you can see which ones are genuine and which ones are just here to wank thinking of it happening

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By *ung nine inchMan
over a year ago

leeds

I love to arrange a meet for mrs it turns her on

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By *armandwet50Couple
over a year ago

Far far away


"@_armandwet50

Thanks for the mention - I've had a dozen fabs on my photos today "

Awww that's sad ?? sorry about that

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By *an de LyonMan
over a year ago

welling


"@_armandwet50

Thanks for the mention - I've had a dozen fabs on my photos today

Awww that's sad ?? sorry about that "

Sounds like a good thing no?

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By *armandwet50Couple
over a year ago

Far far away


"@_armandwet50

Thanks for the mention - I've had a dozen fabs on my photos today

Awww that's sad ?? sorry about that

Sounds like a good thing no?"

It really depends on how many of those views converted to meets or whether it made people think why is he using a woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her"

Men usually don't care if the woman is aware or even exists.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her

Men usually don't care if the woman is aware or even exists. "

Sweeping statement, maybe its the men you know because I and the guys I know won't entertain such a thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her

Men usually don't care if the woman is aware or even exists.

Sweeping statement, maybe its the men you know because I and the guys I know won't entertain such a thing. "

I didn't say all.

It's a statement of absolute knowledge and fact, from reading threads such as these.

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By *randMrsLPCouple
over a year ago

london


"You'll find it's very common on here, the Male of the couple sending loads of winks and messages and the Wife has no clue. We've bumped into people in a club and the Wife had no idea they'd messaged us.

So in your case the wife was a real person "

lol, what I was goig to say but you said it.

I post on our account and just show Mrs potential meets for a yes/no but we both know what we are comfy with and what no.

If you are a couple, ask questions, many questions and if the potential meet gets a bit angry, you've saved yourself wasted time.

The way to find out if one is a genuine couple, speak to the wife before a meet - we do that ie wife says hi to any potentials

If you are meeting a single man, ask them to send you a pic of their face holding your user name against it - we do that and a few have fallen at this hurdel even though their face pic is posted all over their profile.

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no problem chatting to either person of the couple but I will always want to speak to the lady to ensure all is well.

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By *randMrsLPCouple
over a year ago

london


"I have no problem chatting to either person of the couple but I will always want to speak to the lady to ensure all is well. "

At what point would you want to speak to the lasy to enaure "all is well"" Not sure what you mean?

We as per my previous post, Mrs will say hi and talk a bit as we are nearing a possible meet and that has never been a problem.

I'm not sure what you meant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her"

Initially I always do the chatting and messaging, and if we ever get to a point where we find someone who we feel understands and respects what we are looking for then my wife will then chat to them, and sometimes set up a group chat on another platform, where we can all talk independently. If that doesn’t suit some people then they obviously aren’t the right person for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have no problem chatting to either person of the couple but I will always want to speak to the lady to ensure all is well. "

Same. Half to prove that I'm real, aware and consent, and half the same for her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a counsellor for women I have had hundreds of sessions with ladies who have been "controlled" by a husband who wishes to swing, she does not. Males turning up to the marital home without Her permission.Her being in danger."

This company is why I hold back until I've had a social meet with both of them or proof the Mrs is genuinely interested. I prefer to meet both and happy after that for mr to arrange 'encounters'

In this day and age guys need to be very very careful..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does happen - but 9 times out of 10 it’s a man having a wank and there’s no partner involved.

Best to stick to verified couples profiles.

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By *randMrsLPCouple
over a year ago

london


"It does happen - but 9 times out of 10 it’s a man having a wank and there’s no partner involved.

Best to stick to verified couples profiles."

Exactly why we insist on varified only.

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By *ub-seekerMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her"

From a single male account?

Absofuckinglutely

From a couples account?

Maybe not so much

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her"

We wouldn't ever consider this, it's wrong in our eyes, and also you just don't know what goes on behind cloed doors, me personally (mrs) feels like this lifestyle is forced on some of these women, a form of domestic A**se! Maybe not..maybe it is ligit but we won't be a part of it just incase, but all of that aside, everyone should have a choice who they have sex with!

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By *armandwet50Couple
over a year ago

Far far away


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her

We wouldn't ever consider this, it's wrong in our eyes, and also you just don't know what goes on behind cloed doors, me personally (mrs) feels like this lifestyle is forced on some of these women, a form of domestic A**se! Maybe not..maybe it is ligit but we won't be a part of it just incase, but all of that aside, everyone should have a choice who they have sex with! "

In most of the genuine couples cases where the husband arranges the meets the wife has a choice and she has consented

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her

We wouldn't ever consider this, it's wrong in our eyes, and also you just don't know what goes on behind cloed doors, me personally (mrs) feels like this lifestyle is forced on some of these women, a form of domestic A**se! Maybe not..maybe it is ligit but we won't be a part of it just incase, but all of that aside, everyone should have a choice who they have sex with!

In most of the genuine couples cases where the husband arranges the meets the wife has a choice and she has consented "

Most?

It's not worth the risk. I guess that confirming consent just isn't important to some people.

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By *oriarty99Man
over a year ago

London


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her"

This is the situation for 98% of meets on here. It’s normal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husband has arranged meets for us before I find it really hot not knowing sometimes.

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By *inojCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I (Vinny) manage 95% of the admin of our profile. Why? Because initially Jo got involved and the messages just turned awful and relentless as soon as the guy knew it was Jo, " what you wearing?", " i wanna fuck you till you scream", " can you meet me without Vinny?" And then came the abuse if they were turned down. It very nearly killed the lifestyle before it started for us. So now I do the initial filtering in terms of what she likes and the limp messages, Jo reviews the ones I haven't deleted and picks her hotlist, who I then start to communicate with.

I am always clear from the start how we manage our profile and we are well verified so it does work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems to be happening more on here recently

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow


"I (Vinny) manage 95% of the admin of our profile. Why? Because initially Jo got involved and the messages just turned awful and relentless as soon as the guy knew it was Jo, " what you wearing?", " i wanna fuck you till you scream", " can you meet me without Vinny?" And then came the abuse if they were turned down. It very nearly killed the lifestyle before it started for us. So now I do the initial filtering in terms of what she likes and the limp messages, Jo reviews the ones I haven't deleted and picks her hotlist, who I then start to communicate with.

I am always clear from the start how we manage our profile and we are well verified so it does work"

Whose idea was it to continue despite the relentlessly awful men looking for sex ?

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By *inojCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her

We wouldn't ever consider this, it's wrong in our eyes, and also you just don't know what goes on behind cloed doors, me personally (mrs) feels like this lifestyle is forced on some of these women, a form of domestic A**se! Maybe not..maybe it is ligit but we won't be a part of it just incase, but all of that aside, everyone should have a choice who they have sex with!

In most of the genuine couples cases where the husband arranges the meets the wife has a choice and she has consented

Most?

It's not worth the risk. I guess that confirming consent just isn't important to some people. "

We found a way for Debs to confirm consent without being directly involved in arranging the meet.

It works for us

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By *inojCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"I (Vinny) manage 95% of the admin of our profile. Why? Because initially Jo got involved and the messages just turned awful and relentless as soon as the guy knew it was Jo, " what you wearing?", " i wanna fuck you till you scream", " can you meet me without Vinny?" And then came the abuse if they were turned down. It very nearly killed the lifestyle before it started for us. So now I do the initial filtering in terms of what she likes and the limp messages, Jo reviews the ones I haven't deleted and picks her hotlist, who I then start to communicate with.

I am always clear from the start how we manage our profile and we are well verified so it does work

Whose idea was it to continue despite the relentlessly awful men looking for sex ? "

Both because we got into the lifestyle via a different route, so we both knew we wanted to enjoy the lifestyle. To be clear there were some nice guys, not that I have to justify that, but why would anyone put up with being called a stag, whore, bitch and worse because they declined you. If you think that doesn't happen you're dreaming and if you think it's par for the course then you are part of the problem. You can't judge it if you haven't experienced it.

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By *aintscoupleCouple
over a year ago

st helens


"I (Vinny) manage 95% of the admin of our profile. Why? Because initially Jo got involved and the messages just turned awful and relentless as soon as the guy knew it was Jo, " what you wearing?", " i wanna fuck you till you scream", " can you meet me without Vinny?" And then came the abuse if they were turned down. It very nearly killed the lifestyle before it started for us. So now I do the initial filtering in terms of what she likes and the limp messages, Jo reviews the ones I haven't deleted and picks her hotlist, who I then start to communicate with.

I am always clear from the start how we manage our profile and we are well verified so it does work

Whose idea was it to continue despite the relentlessly awful men looking for sex ?

Both because we got into the lifestyle via a different route, so we both knew we wanted to enjoy the lifestyle. To be clear there were some nice guys, not that I have to justify that, but why would anyone put up with being called a stag, whore, bitch and worse because they declined you. If you think that doesn't happen you're dreaming and if you think it's par for the course then you are part of the problem. You can't judge it if you haven't experienced it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I (Vinny) manage 95% of the admin of our profile. Why? Because initially Jo got involved and the messages just turned awful and relentless as soon as the guy knew it was Jo, " what you wearing?", " i wanna fuck you till you scream", " can you meet me without Vinny?" And then came the abuse if they were turned down. It very nearly killed the lifestyle before it started for us. So now I do the initial filtering in terms of what she likes and the limp messages, Jo reviews the ones I haven't deleted and picks her hotlist, who I then start to communicate with.

I am always clear from the start how we manage our profile and we are well verified so it does work

Whose idea was it to continue despite the relentlessly awful men looking for sex ? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her

We wouldn't ever consider this, it's wrong in our eyes, and also you just don't know what goes on behind cloed doors, me personally (mrs) feels like this lifestyle is forced on some of these women, a form of domestic A**se! Maybe not..maybe it is ligit but we won't be a part of it just incase, but all of that aside, everyone should have a choice who they have sex with!

In most of the genuine couples cases where the husband arranges the meets the wife has a choice and she has consented

Most?

It's not worth the risk. I guess that confirming consent just isn't important to some people.

We found a way for Debs to confirm consent without being directly involved in arranging the meet.

It works for us

"

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By *aintscoupleCouple
over a year ago

st helens

Claire knows that I know exactly what she likes and she's MORE than happy for for me to arrange meets. It's beyond me why people would have an issue with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Claire knows that I know exactly what she likes and she's MORE than happy for for me to arrange meets. It's beyond me why people would have an issue with it. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Claire knows that I know exactly what she likes and she's MORE than happy for for me to arrange meets. It's beyond me why people would have an issue with it. "

How often do men check that she consents and is aware?

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By *ickedwillyCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

It should be about the ladies pleasure.

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By *aintscoupleCouple
over a year ago

st helens


"Claire knows that I know exactly what she likes and she's MORE than happy for for me to arrange meets. It's beyond me why people would have an issue with it.

How often do men check that she consents and is aware?"
because we have a social and chat first to make sure there is a connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It should be about the ladies pleasure. "

It’s about both our pleasure. Feel you should only do what the other is comfortable and happy with

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

No man will be arranging my meets, I'm perfectly able to do this myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Claire knows that I know exactly what she likes and she's MORE than happy for for me to arrange meets. It's beyond me why people would have an issue with it.

How often do men check that she consents and is aware?

because we have a social and chat first to make sure there is a connection."

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By *archelCouple
over a year ago

A field somewhere

I will be arranging Mrs _archels 1st solo meet. We have met the guy before and have played as 2 couples previously.

She knows and is fully aware that I'm arranging for her, this just adds to her excitement.

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By *ewbfbcplCouple
over a year ago

Newbury

I, male, do all the arranging on here for us. Mostly because of our personal situations (both in other relationships) She vets all pics and has the day plus looks in and sees chats or I screeen shot them for her to see it all.

As for verifications, we’ve had many verified guys let’s us down as much as none, we take them all with a pinch of salt now on her tbh

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over a year ago

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish


"I once saw a “couple” (one of the rare instances I’m hoping it’s a fake) who posted an update along the lines of “Wife is sleeping after getting d*unk last night. Who wants to come and fuck her to wake her up?! ”. This is literally r*pe. The lack of awareness from some people is astounding.

Who's at fault (if there is any fault) the husband fulfilling his wife's desires or the guy who responds?

Is that a trick question? Both would be at fault, because the woman’s consent is clearly absent from the meeting being arranged and the resulting sexual encounter (a textbook r*pe).

How do you know it was missing?

Sleeping and d*unk is clearly missing consent.

It seems like you are only here to be clickbait so I'll leave you to pick at shit by yourself "

No, she might have agreed while being commpas mentos, for the best wakeup surprise. In reality i don't know and nor does anybody else apart from the man and women mentioned (if actually real)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I once saw a “couple” (one of the rare instances I’m hoping it’s a fake) who posted an update along the lines of “Wife is sleeping after getting d*unk last night. Who wants to come and fuck her to wake her up?! ”. This is literally r*pe. The lack of awareness from some people is astounding.

Who's at fault (if there is any fault) the husband fulfilling his wife's desires or the guy who responds?

Is that a trick question? Both would be at fault, because the woman’s consent is clearly absent from the meeting being arranged and the resulting sexual encounter (a textbook r*pe).

How do you know it was missing?

Sleeping and d*unk is clearly missing consent.

It seems like you are only here to be clickbait so I'll leave you to pick at shit by yourself

No, she might have agreed while being commpas mentos, for the best wakeup surprise. In reality i don't know and nor does anybody else apart from the man and women mentioned (if actually real)"

It's not to hard to know how law works surely, if someone consents at the time it's consent, if they consent to something then gets d*unk and falls asleep no lawyer will keep you out of jail and the hatred you'll get in jail will be deserved for the crime you commited

Not you but "they"

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By *armandwet50Couple
over a year ago

Far far away


"I once saw a “couple” (one of the rare instances I’m hoping it’s a fake) who posted an update along the lines of “Wife is sleeping after getting d*unk last night. Who wants to come and fuck her to wake her up?! ”. This is literally r*pe. The lack of awareness from some people is astounding.

Who's at fault (if there is any fault) the husband fulfilling his wife's desires or the guy who responds?

Is that a trick question? Both would be at fault, because the woman’s consent is clearly absent from the meeting being arranged and the resulting sexual encounter (a textbook r*pe).

How do you know it was missing?

Sleeping and d*unk is clearly missing consent.

It seems like you are only here to be clickbait so I'll leave you to pick at shit by yourself

No, she might have agreed while being commpas mentos, for the best wakeup surprise. In reality i don't know and nor does anybody else apart from the man and women mentioned (if actually real)

It's not to hard to know how law works surely, if someone consents at the time it's consent, if they consent to something then gets d*unk and falls asleep no lawyer will keep you out of jail and the hatred you'll get in jail will be deserved for the crime you commited

Not you but "they" "

And when the wife stands up in front of the court and says "yes I did consent"? Then nobody is going to jail as no crime was committed

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish


".....

How do you know it was missing?

Sleeping and d*unk is clearly missing consent.

It seems like you are only here to be clickbait so I'll leave you to pick at shit by yourself

No, she might have agreed while being commpas mentos, for the best wakeup surprise. In reality i don't know and nor does anybody else apart from the man and women mentioned (if actually real)

It's not to hard to know how law works surely, if someone consents at the time it's consent, if they consent to something then gets d*unk and falls asleep no lawyer will keep you out of jail and the hatred you'll get in jail will be deserved for the crime you commited

Not you but "they"

And when the wife stands up in front of the court and says "yes I did consent"? Then nobody is going to jail as no crime was committed"

Yes this! none of us know and can't know if there was or wasn't consent. Yes if a law is broken then punishment should follow, but not based on other peoples assumptions.

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her"

Yes, and no.

Yes, as especially in recent years, I've had many messages from single male profiles (usually) wanting me to fuck/fill their wife/gf, who, it often transpires, either needs "persuading", or is unaware, or, in some instances, likely doesn't even exist...

No, as on numerous occasions over the years, I've exchanged messages/texts/calls solely with the male half of a couple, and subsequently enjoyed visiting and playing with their wives!

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By *ilf and old fartCouple
over a year ago

Between Ely and Mildenhall


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her"

.

Definitely, does she even exist if that is the case ?

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By *inge61Couple
over a year ago

n/wales

maybe the wife cant be botherd with all the messages that come through and leaves the husband to sort and arrange meets as the husband knows what she likes and doesnt like etc messages like wana fuck ,fancy a shag,meet now ,im passing etc etc and others you wouldnt belive ,hence husbands tend to sort out meets then in a lot of meets and plus your meeting a couple not just the fem ,meets are getting more diff on here as a lot just treet it as tinder etc and are not willing to wait or make the effort ,but the ones that are get too meet ,

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By *rmrs95Couple
over a year ago

Chester


"maybe the wife cant be botherd with all the messages that come through and leaves the husband to sort and arrange meets as the husband knows what she likes and doesnt like etc messages like wana fuck ,fancy a shag,meet now ,im passing etc etc and others you wouldnt belive ,hence husbands tend to sort out meets then in a lot of meets and plus your meeting a couple not just the fem ,meets are getting more diff on here as a lot just treet it as tinder etc and are not willing to wait or make the effort ,but the ones that are get too meet ,"

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe the wife cant be botherd with all the messages that come through and leaves the husband to sort and arrange meets as the husband knows what she likes and doesnt like etc messages like wana fuck ,fancy a shag,meet now ,im passing etc etc and others you wouldnt belive ,hence husbands tend to sort out meets then in a lot of meets and plus your meeting a couple not just the fem ,meets are getting more diff on here as a lot just treet it as tinder etc and are not willing to wait or make the effort ,but the ones that are get too meet ,

Agreed "

Have to say the male does most of the communication on here as it does my head in but if we were interested in a meet from here then I (fem) would get involved. I would expect the same the other end. I would expect a video or phone call with the fem before a meet was arranged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I (Vinny) manage 95% of the admin of our profile. Why? Because initially Jo got involved and the messages just turned awful and relentless as soon as the guy knew it was Jo, " what you wearing?", " i wanna fuck you till you scream", " can you meet me without Vinny?" And then came the abuse if they were turned down. It very nearly killed the lifestyle before it started for us. So now I do the initial filtering in terms of what she likes and the limp messages, Jo reviews the ones I haven't deleted and picks her hotlist, who I then start to communicate with.

I am always clear from the start how we manage our profile and we are well verified so it does work"

Sounds a smart way to go about it. The guys, certainly me anyway do need to feel that the Mrs is 'in' on the process at least. I think there needs to be that bit of respect given to the guys as they do have justifiable apprehension. I appreciate its delicate and speaking to the Mrs could well ruin the kink.

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By *tevebackagainMan
over a year ago

near horrabridge

I can’t even get the ones that don’t bother lol

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Tamworth

Honestly I'd love this.

However...

1. I wouldn't expect anyone to want to meet us without speaking to both of us

2. I don't think the Mr would have the confidence to approach this idea and I wouldn't want him to feel pressured

So it sits on my fantasy list

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By *ibLeiMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I once saw a “couple” (one of the rare instances I’m hoping it’s a fake) who posted an update along the lines of “Wife is sleeping after getting d*unk last night. Who wants to come and fuck her to wake her up?! ”. This is literally r*pe. The lack of awareness from some people is astounding.

Who's at fault (if there is any fault) the husband fulfilling his wife's desires or the guy who responds?

Is that a trick question? Both would be at fault, because the woman’s consent is clearly absent from the meeting being arranged and the resulting sexual encounter (a textbook r*pe).

How do you know it was missing?

Sleeping and d*unk is clearly missing consent.

It seems like you are only here to be clickbait so I'll leave you to pick at shit by yourself

No, she might have agreed while being commpas mentos, for the best wakeup surprise. In reality i don't know and nor does anybody else apart from the man and women mentioned (if actually real)

It's not to hard to know how law works surely, if someone consents at the time it's consent, if they consent to something then gets d*unk and falls asleep no lawyer will keep you out of jail and the hatred you'll get in jail will be deserved for the crime you commited

Not you but "they"

And when the wife stands up in front of the court and says "yes I did consent"? Then nobody is going to jail as no crime was committed"

I don’t think anyone in their right mind would consider sex with someone d*unk and asleep to be somehow acceptable, just because they have the word from their partner that she consented. It’s not just ethically terrible but a catastrophically bad decision to roll the dice on something that could realistically land you in prison.

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By *urious-couple33Couple
over a year ago

Wales/ Tenerife

Reading the comments.. for us.. I, the female does all the messaging. I’ve tried sharing the profile but he can’t be trusted. He’d make arrangements with everyone and anyone, even with no photo. So banned I get lots of messages from guys addressing it to the other half.

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

I remember one time my hubby was talking to a male on here and arranged for him to chat me up

he told him what pub we would be in and messaged him on the night to tell him what I was wearing

He told him to start talking to me when I went outside for a ciggie

Good job he knows my taste in men

Ha ha

I went back inside the pub after a hour

Yes we did disappear and had fun

Hubby was not surprised at all

Totally loved that so yes it can happen

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

It's so horny to imagine a woman inviting f/m, singles, TV, Ts, CD round. To play with her partner.

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44 weeks ago

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
44 weeks ago

Weymouth


"You'll find it's very common on here, the Male of the couple sending loads of winks and messages and the Wife has no clue. We've bumped into people in a club and the Wife had no idea they'd messaged us.

So in your case the wife was a real person

I have no chance of remembering those people i've contacted... whats so shocking?"

It's a shame they're not memorable

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
44 weeks ago

Cap d'Agde


"Who's at fault (if there is any fault) the husband fulfilling his wife's desires or the guy who responds?"

The single guy has no way of knowing whether the wife has consented or not. - it's not enough to rely on the word of the husband. So he deserves all he gets.

The husband is more complicated because she may have given him explicit written consent in advance, but the thing about consent is that you have the right to withdraw it at any time, for any reason.

So it's a risky game for the husband, because if she wakes up and doesn't like the guy, she'd surely have no problem convincing a court it was non-consensual, because she didn't have the opportunity to withdraw her consent.

In all our games, we should have a way for someone to withdraw consent. Playing without "safe words" may be a sexy fantasy for the person not in control, but we should keep it as a fantasy.

But IANL...

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By *r_LickCouple
44 weeks ago

aberdeen

Same with us

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
44 weeks ago

All over the place

Been messaged like this, and was only sent why seemed generic pics of the "wife" didn't meet the person in question as I found it all very odd

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By *utterypopcornCouple
44 weeks ago

oxford

I Mr do at least 99% of the messaging and arranging for M. So not all couples with mostly male contact are fake

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By *orny-DJMan
44 weeks ago

Leigh-on-Sea

Very suspect

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By *ig and MangoCouple
44 weeks ago

Burnley

Wait a minute guys.. my Mrs is sick of all the time wasters, professional masturbators, fake accounts and messages like "wanna fuck?" From mordor lookalike creatures.. she had anough of it!

Thankfully I have a little more patience than her.

We both know exactly what we're looking for and we always speak behalf of both.

We are genuine, verified and had a few meets.

Just because I (the male half) spent more time answering to messages we are now suspects of a fake account??

What the hell? Lol

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By *orny-DJMan
44 weeks ago

Leigh-on-Sea


"Wait a minute guys.. my Mrs is sick of all the time wasters, professional masturbators, fake accounts and messages like "wanna fuck?" From mordor lookalike creatures.. she had anough of it!

Thankfully I have a little more patience than her.

We both know exactly what we're looking for and we always speak behalf of both.

We are genuine, verified and had a few meets.

Just because I (the male half) spent more time answering to messages we are now suspects of a fake account??

What the hell? Lol

"

So, are you saying is that it's OK for couples to have red flags but how dare we single blokes have any and that we should be grateful for any attention because there are so many of us?

I'm sorry but many of us have come across 'couples' profiles that are nothing of the sort and very clearly a bloke posing as a couple - they're easy to spot as the wife is always conveniently 'unavailable' or at work.

It's also rather unsettling in that we only have hubbys word that she has consented to this setup.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
44 weeks ago

Great Dunmow


"Wait a minute guys.. my Mrs is sick of all the time wasters, professional masturbators, fake accounts and messages like "wanna fuck?" From mordor lookalike creatures.. she had anough of it!

Thankfully I have a little more patience than her.

We both know exactly what we're looking for and we always speak behalf of both.

We are genuine, verified and had a few meets.

Just because I (the male half) spent more time answering to messages we are now suspects of a fake account??

What the hell? Lol

So, are you saying is that it's OK for couples to have red flags but how dare we single blokes have any and that we should be grateful for any attention because there are so many of us?

I'm sorry but many of us have come across 'couples' profiles that are nothing of the sort and very clearly a bloke posing as a couple - they're easy to spot as the wife is always conveniently 'unavailable' or at work.

It's also rather unsettling in that we only have hubbys word that she has consented to this setup."

Out of interest what if quite a few recent veris and they openly say female half just doesn’t come on Fab to message, hardly ever, but approves and wants to meet?

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By *ig and MangoCouple
44 weeks ago

Burnley


"Wait a minute guys.. my Mrs is sick of all the time wasters, professional masturbators, fake accounts and messages like "wanna fuck?" From mordor lookalike creatures.. she had anough of it!

Thankfully I have a little more patience than her.

We both know exactly what we're looking for and we always speak behalf of both.

We are genuine, verified and had a few meets.

Just because I (the male half) spent more time answering to messages we are now suspects of a fake account??

What the hell? Lol

So, are you saying is that it's OK for couples to have red flags but how dare we single blokes have any and that we should be grateful for any attention because there are so many of us?

I'm sorry but many of us have come across 'couples' profiles that are nothing of the sort and very clearly a bloke posing as a couple - they're easy to spot as the wife is always conveniently 'unavailable' or at work.

It's also rather unsettling in that we only have hubbys word that she has consented to this setup.

Out of interest what if quite a few recent veris and they openly say female half just doesn’t come on Fab to message, hardly ever, but approves and wants to meet?

"

Let me get this straight..

You're suggesting that someone should verify the fact that this is what the wife wants? Wtf

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By *ig and MangoCouple
44 weeks ago

Burnley


"

So, are you saying is that it's OK for couples to have red flags but how dare we single blokes have any and that we should be grateful for any attention because there are so many of us?

I'm sorry but many of us have come across 'couples' profiles that are nothing of the sort and very clearly a bloke posing as a couple - they're easy to spot as the wife is always conveniently 'unavailable' or at work.

It's also rather unsettling in that we only have hubbys word that she has consented to this setup."

It's upsetting for my Mrs to be approached in the rudest ape like way from people who feel entitled to the right to consider that they'd have a chance even though their effort was an absolute 0 physically and mentally.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
44 weeks ago

Great Dunmow


"Wait a minute guys.. my Mrs is sick of all the time wasters, professional masturbators, fake accounts and messages like "wanna fuck?" From mordor lookalike creatures.. she had anough of it!

Thankfully I have a little more patience than her.

We both know exactly what we're looking for and we always speak behalf of both.

We are genuine, verified and had a few meets.

Just because I (the male half) spent more time answering to messages we are now suspects of a fake account??

What the hell? Lol

So, are you saying is that it's OK for couples to have red flags but how dare we single blokes have any and that we should be grateful for any attention because there are so many of us?

I'm sorry but many of us have come across 'couples' profiles that are nothing of the sort and very clearly a bloke posing as a couple - they're easy to spot as the wife is always conveniently 'unavailable' or at work.

It's also rather unsettling in that we only have hubbys word that she has consented to this setup.

Out of interest what if quite a few recent veris and they openly say female half just doesn’t come on Fab to message, hardly ever, but approves and wants to meet?

Let me get this straight..

You're suggesting that someone should verify the fact that this is what the wife wants? Wtf"

No i wasn't but think Horny DJ might have been. I also have a couples profile like you and do the vast majority of the arranging. I get why people can be skeptical and i am of others sometimes. For me one of the key things is relatively recent veris.

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By *illen5Man
44 weeks ago

Bath

Had this once before. All the veris referred to the Mr's expert skills with his mouth and the way he was pleasuring them the moment they were through the front door. Reality was that their was no Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

Pm to see my wife

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

If it's because they aren't available right there and then, no we wouldn't be suspicious. However, we would expect a time for a phone call to be provided in the near future.

If you can't speak to the wife or female half at all stop wasting your time. They're won't talk on a phone but will meet for sex? Nah, don't think so.

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By *esparate danMan
44 weeks ago

glasgow


"Pm to see my wife "

Why if you are a single lad

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
44 weeks ago

Middle England

I (Mr) deal with messages and anything we arrange. Mrs is aware of anything interesting.

We meet guys at clubs; rather than arranging specific meets. We always update our events on our profile so the guys know what/when we are going to a club.

It works for us.

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By *electableicecreamMan
44 weeks ago

The West

I wouldn't see the Mr being the main point of contact as a red flag in and off itself but it certainly demands that at some point there will have to be signs of life from Mrs.

But equally I wouldn't meet a couple would without having met and spoken to both Mr and Mrs first anyway. No matter who is doing the talking.

Fab is rife with fake couple accounts.Usually pretty easy spot in fairness but it can be easy to get caught out if, for example, a couple seperate and the guy is still operating the account and there's relatively recent verifications.

Caution is standard, it's not in the slightest bit dramatic.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
44 weeks ago

Great Dunmow


"If it's because they aren't available right there and then, no we wouldn't be suspicious. However, we would expect a time for a phone call to be provided in the near future.

If you can't speak to the wife or female half at all stop wasting your time. They're won't talk on a phone but will meet for sex? Nah, don't think so."

This describe me and my partner . To be fair hardly anyone even asks for a phone call - we have lots of veris and they seem to be enough for most. If somebody did we might say yes but we don’t like giving out numbers as so many problems over the years.

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

Sub wife doesn't like to get involved till meet here

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By *antasysoulsCouple
43 weeks ago

Dumfries


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her"
1st of all around 80% of single males on here are weirdos why would any guy in a couple expose her to these creeps unless she so desired which my half most certainly doesnt now it clearly states on our profile what one says goes for the other and this really pisses off guys because they have control issues and they believe women on fab cam be manipulated so when they can't chat to them it really gets to them which is good because it helps show their character those same 80% also seem to be illiterate and can't read a profile before messaging most women have zero patience for this and if she was the main one having to filter through the idiots almost every guy would get blocked instantly and we would be as well deleting the fab account then it depends on the dynamics of the couple in question for us like a lot of couples not all but a lot single males are literally just human dildos she has no desire to talk to yous meet yous on her own have a social or anything else yous can think of so there's no need for her to chat to single guys at all and she is more than happy for me to arrange meets the fact is if you don't like a couples dynamic block and move on couldn't be any simpler

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By *oth0fusCouple
43 weeks ago

Dartford


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her"

This seems to come up alot! I Tom do all the admin, Sarah would just be freaked out if she saw 90% of awful messages we get sent through, if you cant speak to me we are not going to be compatible anyway.

So far our meets have been very succesfull and none of them have questioned me running and arranging the meets on our behalf.

The same thing applies to everyone on here if you dont like the way someone does things move on and find a better match.

Not doing something theway you want it doesnt mean fake.

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By *un couple 2Couple
43 weeks ago

Tynemouth.

I arrange all of our meets, not that were looking for any. Never met any new guys for quite some time now. Our choice. Sam doesnt like coming on here.

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By *rMrs84Couple
43 weeks ago

Doncaster


"I....the male...do tend to make most the contacts. However, once an interest is made and a meet looks like happening we are both fully involved.

She actually prefurs this as dosnt have the patience to message. So long as she is kept in the loop. X "

Yeah this is us too. Mr does most of the initial winks and introducing messages. If there’s any plans for a meet we’ll both be aware but it can take a lot of work to arrange a good meet so he puts in that initial legwork first.

I’m not saying this is always the case but it works well for us.

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By *iscreetfuncpl12Couple
43 weeks ago

Somerset


"So would you be suspicious of male half arranging "wife's" meets and not being able chat direct to her"
I, the male arrange our meets, not ‘the wife’s’ meets. She is obviously involved and decides whether she wants to progress things whether we or they instigate the meet. She has zero interest in speaking to anyone online or offline prior to a social, the way nearly all our meets with couples begin. We will have plenty of time to talk then. It may sound awful, and someone said as much earlier, but our rare meets with single males are to scratch an itch, normally at short notice. We don’t want conversation. That said, we have tried our best to select nice people when we have scratched that itch. We have never had anyone even ask for a phone call with either of us prior to a meet, they have just accepted we are genuine or have been prepared to risk we are. Neither have we ever asked.

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By *aguely CanadianWoman
43 weeks ago

Somewhere

A particular favourite of mine is the female half arranging meets for her fella because she's "out of town"

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By *J_SpiceyCouple
43 weeks ago

Kinky Kings Lynn

If it’s a MFM threesome, then it’s horny when your man chooses, so when I feel the need he gets the nod to organise this for me.

If it’s FFM then I like to choose.

4some we both decide.

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