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By *exyass99777 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

Adam and I have been on here for a while now, go on cam as a couple of a night sometimes and have met a couple of guys and moved to snap!

We then have had about 5 or 6 private naughty cam sessions, messages through Adam with them every day, and they seemed obsessed with me and want me…then all of a sudden they both went cold just as I getting the confidence to meet! Happened with two different guys.

We hadn’t shown our faces yet so that might be one thing and I am very very petite with hardly any boobs.

I don’t know what else it could be? Any ideas?

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

Probably dreamers or married guys getting cold feet (or cannot find excuse to slip out) doubt it is you, more likely the guys

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Sometimes the messages back and forth can go on too long and people lose interest. Am I right in thinking it was just the guys interacting via message? Lots of people think that means the woman isn't really that keen.

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By *eliusMan
over a year ago

Henlow

Nothing to do with you. It’s the average fab male. They’re either married and panic at the last minute. They’re either scared but happy to knock one out then go silent.

I really wouldn’t spend any time over thinking this. Things will work out to your satisfaction eventually, patience is a virtue on fab it’s a necessity - and small petite boobs rock, so crack on and don’t fret.

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By *exyass99777 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"Sometimes the messages back and forth can go on too long and people lose interest. Am I right in thinking it was just the guys interacting via message? Lots of people think that means the woman isn't really that keen.

"

Yeah just the guys messaging but Adam does screen shot the messages we have and show them! I can’t have my phone at work so Adam does the leg work….

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"Sometimes the messages back and forth can go on too long and people lose interest. Am I right in thinking it was just the guys interacting via message? Lots of people think that means the woman isn't really that keen.

Yeah just the guys messaging but Adam does screen shot the messages we have and show them! I can’t have my phone at work so Adam does the leg work…."

Well obvs I'm not a guy but if I'm chatting with a couple it makes me feel... uncomfortable? If I only hear from one partner (usually the male). Just my thoughts there.

Deffo isn't you, you're gorgeous and perfectly proportioned

MrsAbz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Adam and I have been on here for a while now, go on cam as a couple of a night sometimes and have met a couple of guys and moved to snap!

We then have had about 5 or 6 private naughty cam sessions, messages through Adam with them every day, and they seemed obsessed with me and want me…then all of a sudden they both went cold just as I getting the confidence to meet! Happened with two different guys.

We hadn’t shown our faces yet so that might be one thing and I am very very petite with hardly any boobs.

I don’t know what else it could be? Any ideas? "

It's certainly not your figure as you look amazing!!

Cold feet or people thinking they won't be of the same standard when you meet? I'd be pretty nervous meeting someone as hot as you!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Sometimes the messages back and forth can go on too long and people lose interest. Am I right in thinking it was just the guys interacting via message? Lots of people think that means the woman isn't really that keen.

Yeah just the guys messaging but Adam does screen shot the messages we have and show them! I can’t have my phone at work so Adam does the leg work…."

This might not be the reason but if a single guy posts and says he only ever talks to the guy in a couple people will say there is no woman. I know you've been on cam with these guys but maybe these guys were thinking you're not keen on actually meeting. Could you message them when you're not at work or suggest meeting just for coffee early on?

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By *ea wangMan
over a year ago

scunthorpe

Cold feet syndrome or they found someone closer and more into their likes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with nicecouple, maybe if you do some chatting rather than just him?

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

This is a difficult one. Male half only chatting perhaps one thing especially with no face pics. But also fine balance being being patient and feeling like there is a realistic chance of meeting. Some men can chat for ages but with many there gets to a point where want to start talking about meeting and fixing something. Lots of couples out there stringing things along and getting a thrill from chat and webcam that may well never meet. That is their right of course but men also have the right to give up after a while.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

PS you said they stopped just as you were getting the confidence to meet? Did you tell them that and start potentially making plans even for a quick hello?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Male half here tends to deal with conversations, though not in a naughty talk kind of way, only to get a feel for one another.

Mrs isn't so keen on chatting, though will do to confirm she's real.

We've had no real issues, other than the odd guy feeling only comfortable talking to a woman, that alone suggests we're not compatible so no problem.

I'm wondering if they're happy getting their thrills via the camera chat.

Maybe you're attracting the kind that after happy with the instant gratification that porn and the likes offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are happy*

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol/ Daventry

It’s not you. Don’t worry. Fab has a high strike out rate, and people often like the idea of something and don’t actually want/need the reality. We have had so many no-shows.

Perhaps try clubs where you can choose to play or not without the admin, pressure and time for them to talk themselves out of it?

Xx K

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By *onicZMan
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

Wouldn't worry about it. Most genuine people on here have had a few let downs, been ghosted, blocked for no reason, etc.

People do get cold feet at the last minute. There's not a awful lot you can do about it. Sometimes it's best to meet in a club, that way if they don't turn up then at least you can still have a good night with other people (if that's your thing)

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Adam and I have been on here for a while now, go on cam as a couple of a night sometimes and have met a couple of guys and moved to snap!

We then have had about 5 or 6 private naughty cam sessions, messages through Adam with them every day, and they seemed obsessed with me and want me…then all of a sudden they both went cold just as I getting the confidence to meet! Happened with two different guys.

We hadn’t shown our faces yet so that might be one thing and I am very very petite with hardly any boobs.

I don’t know what else it could be? Any ideas? "

In my opinion, by camming or swapping sexy messages they're getting what they want... wank material.

I would suggest arranging a social early on.

The other option is clubs.

Nita

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Probably dreamers or married guys getting cold feet (or cannot find excuse to slip out) doubt it is you, more likely the guys "

This. It’s them not you.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

To those commenting about the men in question being no shows, dreamers etc. unless the OP has expressed a concrete desire to actually and meet they are not doing any of that. They perhaps just decided to move on as didn't think a meet was likely which they are entitled to do. Different story if OP had tried to arrange and they had messed them around or run away. Not sure which it was.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

Hi OP, I'm sure it's not you that put them off, you sound and look amazing (I love petite); there could be a whole load of reasons as to why these guys just disappeared, some of which have already be suggested.

From my own experience, I had a lot of couples contact me saying they're interested in meeting me, they all gave me other apps to chat to them on; it was always the male and there was never an actual meeting with any of them, just the promise of one. Maybe these guys have been through the same thing as me and just thought you weren't ever going to meet either? I don't even entertain this approach any more.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I wouldn't say it's you at all, from the little visible you look great.

Fantasy and reality are two different things, a lot of men here will have their wank get bored and move to the next one, that and long messaging can put people off.

Don't blame yourself, it's just the nature of fab I'm afraid.

Mrs

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Well it’s definitely not the way you look, probably a combination of what other people have said, can’t think of a good enough excuse to get out of the house without the wife being suspicious, go cold after having a wank, and of course when it comes to a couple single men are very rarely after the man so can understandably cool off it’s him doing all the chatting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Adam and I have been on here for a while now, go on cam as a couple of a night sometimes and have met a couple of guys and moved to snap!

We then have had about 5 or 6 private naughty cam sessions, messages through Adam with them every day, and they seemed obsessed with me and want me…then all of a sudden they both went cold just as I getting the confidence to meet! Happened with two different guys.

We hadn’t shown our faces yet so that might be one thing and I am very very petite with hardly any boobs.

I don’t know what else it could be? Any ideas? "

What does 'Adam' message them?

If 'Adam' says you are getting the confidence to meet I'd assume you had no intention of meeting and were being coerced into doing more than cam.

They finished their wank.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To those commenting about the men in question being no shows, dreamers etc. unless the OP has expressed a concrete desire to actually and meet they are not doing any of that. They perhaps just decided to move on as didn't think a meet was likely which they are entitled to do. Different story if OP had tried to arrange and they had messed them around or run away. Not sure which it was. "

I would assume from the evidence that the OP/ 'Adam' is the dreamer in this situation. The men see the red flags and get out.

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

There’s a lot of dreamers who think they know how to play with couples but have never been in the situation and panic when it gets real.

If you’re after a MFM experience try a club, or a single verified male.

Best of luck.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"There’s a lot of dreamers who think they know how to play with couples but have never been in the situation and panic when it gets real.

If you’re after a MFM experience try a club, or a single verified male.

Best of luck."

What makes you think it was getting real in this case? We don’t know. Lots of couples and ladies panic when it’s getting real and don’t meet as well.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

It seems like they can't be patient I wouldn't worry too much about it as it's them not you...

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Would cut out the cam and sex chat…you’re just providing them with wank fodder. You’ll then find out the ones that do want to meet amongst the dreamers.

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

From a single guy/couple perspective they’re looking at your profile and wondering about the chances of a meeting. Many couples love the attention in photos and webcams but it’s a huge jump for some to meet and they never do. We’ve talked to a few of these people and you can quickly lose interest as there’s a strong indication something might never happen

The OP has been on the site for 7 months without a in person meet. The longer you are on the site without an in person meet then the less patience a potential meet will have with lots of chats.

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden


"There’s a lot of dreamers who think they know how to play with couples but have never been in the situation and panic when it gets real.

If you’re after a MFM experience try a club, or a single verified male.

Best of luck.

What makes you think it was getting real in this case? We don’t know. Lots of couples and ladies panic when it’s getting real and don’t meet as well. "

Because the op mentions ‘just as I was getting the confidence to meet’

I may have read that wrong who knows?

But yes you’re right to my wife and I play as a couple in clubs, we’ve spoke to many couples in the past who, when it comes to it change their mind.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"There’s a lot of dreamers who think they know how to play with couples but have never been in the situation and panic when it gets real.

If you’re after a MFM experience try a club, or a single verified male.

Best of luck.

What makes you think it was getting real in this case? We don’t know. Lots of couples and ladies panic when it’s getting real and don’t meet as well.

Because the op mentions ‘just as I was getting the confidence to meet’

I may have read that wrong who knows?

But yes you’re right to my wife and I play as a couple in clubs, we’ve spoke to many couples in the past who, when it comes to it change their mind.

"

I think that is unclear and I and somebody else asked OP to clarify conversations as that may be rather key to what is going wrong. On balance it read to me as thinking about but not yet mentioned but who knows. So I am on the fence about it and think it touch unfair that the anonymous men get castigated about being dreamers and time wasters without knowing. As I and others have said plenty of couples and ladies are similar and people are entitled to give up. Personally no chance I would do 5-6 cam sessions especially if no concrete discussion about meeting at some point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is heavily weighted towards phone sex / cam sessions so will always attract those who are more into that than actually meeting in person. You're providing them with everything they need to get off so there's no incentive to actually meet you.

On the flip side, those that actually do want to meet may not want to wait indefinitely. And by the time you decide you might have the confidence to meet in person, the notion has worn off them and they've moved on

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Sometimes the messages back and forth can go on too long and people lose interest. Am I right in thinking it was just the guys interacting via message? Lots of people think that means the woman isn't really that keen.

"

Pretty much this.

In my experience people who chat tend not to meet. There is nothing wrong with chatting but this place is for meeting for me.

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By *exyass99777 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

Thanks all for the comments…going to slightly change our profile messages and go from there. Thanks again.

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By *immesomemoreMan
over a year ago

basingstoke

Single guys on here are annoying as hell.

I’ve set up gangbang for the other half.

Literally turn up and fuck a really hot lady.

Week before.

Two are still messaging. 8 have completely disappeared. All verified.

It’s because they use this as a place to get laid, it’s not lifestyle for them.

There are a few diamonds in tel he tough. But I’m not looking forward to arranging anything else with singles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single guys on here are annoying as hell.

I’ve set up gangbang for the other half.

Literally turn up and fuck a really hot lady.

Week before.

Two are still messaging. 8 have completely disappeared. All verified.

It’s because they use this as a place to get laid, it’s not lifestyle for them.

There are a few diamonds in tel he tough. But I’m not looking forward to arranging anything else with singles. "

What is 'lifestyle'?

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

The swinging lifestyle. Encompassing all elements of it, not just hooking up for a quick shag.

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By *abcouple11Couple
over a year ago

Truro

As others said - dreamers who can't face the reality, married men who realise they cannot get away, maybe gay guys who realise you are hetero and that isn't going to change, "wank-fodder" only, etc

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Yeah, as others said, it's definitely not you that's the issue OP.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

You need to leave somethings to the imagination. Don’t let the messaging go on too long. Arrange a social meet up and take it from there.

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By *im RoyleCouple
over a year ago

chester


"Adam and I have been on here for a while now, go on cam as a couple of a night sometimes and have met a couple of guys and moved to snap!

We then have had about 5 or 6 private naughty cam sessions, messages through Adam with them every day, and they seemed obsessed with me and want me…then all of a sudden they both went cold just as I getting the confidence to meet! Happened with two different guys.

We hadn’t shown our faces yet so that might be one thing and I am very very petite with hardly any boobs.

I don’t know what else it could be? Any ideas? "

They would be mad to turn you down!!!!

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By *jay9092Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Some guys like the idea of it! But when it's starts to become a reality,the less confident step away. ??

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By *otguy555Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Any guy who got the chance to meet you guys would be insane to let you down. If they do you are probably dodging a bullet.

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By *archelCouple
over a year ago

A field somewhere


"Any guy who got the chance to meet you guys would be insane to let you down. If they do you are probably dodging a bullet. "

definitely this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally ignore any couples profile that isn’t photo verified so maybe that x

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

I think I speak for every genuine person and couple here, it's not you.

We get to Manchester occasionally to see family and would stay in a hotel. If we arranged a meet with you we would be there, no ifs, buts or maybes. The only caveat would be if we decided to meet in a club instead of a hotel.

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By *otguy555Man
over a year ago

Bristol


"Any guy who got the chance to meet you guys would be insane to let you down. If they do you are probably dodging a bullet.

definitely this!"

Glad you think the same. Some people are crazy turning down the beautiful woman and couples on here x

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

You're smoking, I'm sad i dont qualify....

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By *urge72Man
over a year ago

oxfordshire & Hull

I agree with the above post. Those that messed you about have missed out.

I also am unfortunatley out of yoru age band (just) and your postcode(by a looooong way lol). I wish you every success going forward - happy fabbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are fools! Don’t give them a second thought! I struggle as a single guy to get meets and definitely wouldnt past the opportunity to meet go to waste especially with a sexy bodied women like you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, they probably just got fed up of being teased and always talking to the male half. Most straight blokes after sex don't want to spend ages talking to another man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Adam and I have been on here for a while now, go on cam as a couple of a night sometimes and have met a couple of guys and moved to snap!

We then have had about 5 or 6 private naughty cam sessions, messages through Adam with them every day, and they seemed obsessed with me and want me…then all of a sudden they both went cold just as I getting the confidence to meet! Happened with two different guys.

We hadn’t shown our faces yet so that might be one thing and I am very very petite with hardly any boobs.

I don’t know what else it could be? Any ideas? "

Most of the fabites on here are dreamers, timewasters and really just don’t have the bottle to follow anything through.

Most guys will just chat and want wank material for themselves.

I would suggest you go to clubs, it’s the only way to meet genuine people

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

Still the comments heaping the blame on the men for being timewasters, dreamers, messing them around etc. Why are people so judgemental when really not at all clear that is what happened. Perhaps read some of the comments in the thread. No sense that the OP suggested a meet, fixed a date etc. and was let down. Perhaps that is what happened but we don't know as OP hasn't explained clearly. Also possible men saw the OPs as time wasters and got bored with webcams thinking there was no chance of meeting.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester


"Still the comments heaping the blame on the men for being timewasters, dreamers, messing them around etc. Why are people so judgemental when really not at all clear that is what happened. Perhaps read some of the comments in the thread. No sense that the OP suggested a meet, fixed a date etc. and was let down. Perhaps that is what happened but we don't know as OP hasn't explained clearly. Also possible men saw the OPs as time wasters and got bored with webcams thinking there was no chance of meeting. "

It's a numbers game, you for example may be a reliable guy that always turns up and if you get an offer from a subjectively more attractive person you would stick with the original meet. But, on the balance of probability from bitter experience, the majority of time wasters are single men.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


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I would suggest you go to clubs, it’s the only way to meet genuine people "

Well it is one way. Certainly not the only way as thousands of people here manage to meet people without going to club. For some going to clubs is very hard (distance, time, cost) and just not for them.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"Still the comments heaping the blame on the men for being timewasters, dreamers, messing them around etc. Why are people so judgemental when really not at all clear that is what happened. Perhaps read some of the comments in the thread. No sense that the OP suggested a meet, fixed a date etc. and was let down. Perhaps that is what happened but we don't know as OP hasn't explained clearly. Also possible men saw the OPs as time wasters and got bored with webcams thinking there was no chance of meeting.

It's a numbers game, you for example may be a reliable guy that always turns up and if you get an offer from a subjectively more attractive person you would stick with the original meet. But, on the balance of probability from bitter experience, the majority of time wasters are single men. "

There are also lots of time wasting couples and ladies too. That aside in this case it is really is not clear what happened and OP themselves has popped up to say perhaps they need to change profile/message.

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By *ottodot123Couple
over a year ago

Gillingham

It's a fine line between wanting to make sure there is at least a spark or connection with the person (I'm reading that's what you want, not everyone does and that's also fine ) to letting the chat go on too long and then they will think there is no chance of actual meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I would suggest you go to clubs, it’s the only way to meet genuine people

Well it is one way. Certainly not the only way as thousands of people here manage to meet people without going to club. For some going to clubs is very hard (distance, time, cost) and just not for them. "

We have been in the lifestyle on and off for ten years, I can say we have never had a meet on here. If you have then I’m very pleased for you but the majority of people you chat to say the same.

It’s too easy to hide behind a screen and lead people on and basically waste their time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Still the comments heaping the blame on the men for being timewasters, dreamers, messing them around etc. Why are people so judgemental when really not at all clear that is what happened. Perhaps read some of the comments in the thread. No sense that the OP suggested a meet, fixed a date etc. and was let down. Perhaps that is what happened but we don't know as OP hasn't explained clearly. Also possible men saw the OPs as time wasters and got bored with webcams thinking there was no chance of meeting. "

And just for the record, the women on here can be worse than the men!

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester


"Still the comments heaping the blame on the men for being timewasters, dreamers, messing them around etc. Why are people so judgemental when really not at all clear that is what happened. Perhaps read some of the comments in the thread. No sense that the OP suggested a meet, fixed a date etc. and was let down. Perhaps that is what happened but we don't know as OP hasn't explained clearly. Also possible men saw the OPs as time wasters and got bored with webcams thinking there was no chance of meeting.

It's a numbers game, you for example may be a reliable guy that always turns up and if you get an offer from a subjectively more attractive person you would stick with the original meet. But, on the balance of probability from bitter experience, the majority of time wasters are single men.

There are also lots of time wasting couples and ladies too. That aside in this case it is really is not clear what happened and OP themselves has popped up to say perhaps they need to change profile/message. "

I'm not denying it, but single men outnumber couples by several orders of magnitude, so the chances compound. Generally speaking if it's a couples night, in a club, big bed, mass of writhing bodies, it's not a waste of time. But waiting in a pub like a lemon for Mr Silhouette to arrive, if he's able to slip away from his wife, you start to think the hotel you booked might have been a waste of money.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

sorry to say this but yes its you ... your giving them what they want via cam ...a wank .....your attracting the wrong audience your attracting the wankers and not the swingers..

also alot of people will not bother with a male run/led profile its red flags for many.. stop the cams and sexy chat and maybe you'll start to get the guys who want to swing rather than the wankers that dominate the site..

wankers = men that are wanking

not as in anything else just to clear that up ..

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Thanks all for the comments…going to slightly change our profile messages and go from there. Thanks again. "

Would suggest giving a Club a go, it is much more real, more intimate and worth a visit at the very least - nice pic’s by the way

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"Still the comments heaping the blame on the men for being timewasters, dreamers, messing them around etc. Why are people so judgemental when really not at all clear that is what happened. Perhaps read some of the comments in the thread. No sense that the OP suggested a meet, fixed a date etc. and was let down. Perhaps that is what happened but we don't know as OP hasn't explained clearly. Also possible men saw the OPs as time wasters and got bored with webcams thinking there was no chance of meeting.

It's a numbers game, you for example may be a reliable guy that always turns up and if you get an offer from a subjectively more attractive person you would stick with the original meet. But, on the balance of probability from bitter experience, the majority of time wasters are single men.

There are also lots of time wasting couples and ladies too. That aside in this case it is really is not clear what happened and OP themselves has popped up to say perhaps they need to change profile/message.

I'm not denying it, but single men outnumber couples by several orders of magnitude, so the chances compound. Generally speaking if it's a couples night, in a club, big bed, mass of writhing bodies, it's not a waste of time. But waiting in a pub like a lemon for Mr Silhouette to arrive, if he's able to slip away from his wife, you start to think the hotel you booked might have been a waste of money."

Not really sure how that is relevant to the situation OP is describing. It is not even clear they are ready to meet and somehow doubt they are ready for the mass of writhing bodies.

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

We have had many guys who are picture collectors wank fodder they also have wanted phone chat again wank fodder.it could be they just wanted really porn ie on webcam!

It is frustrating & can erode confidence sadly.

They are just big wankers and haven't the balls to meet or do anything more.

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By *immesomemoreMan
over a year ago

basingstoke

Because it’s everyone on here’s repeated experience mate.

Having arranged multiple things on here with multiple guys I now do a rule of expect 60% drop out.

When I was single guy. Yeah I turned up. But if there were meant to be four of us, there’s be me and the couple.

It’s just how this place goes.

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By *immesomemoreMan
over a year ago

basingstoke

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By *immesomemoreMan
over a year ago

basingstoke

Third attempt. My last was a reply to this.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"We have had many guys who are picture collectors wank fodder they also have wanted phone chat again wank fodder.it could be they just wanted really porn ie on webcam!

It is frustrating & can erode confidence sadly.

They are just big wankers and haven't the balls to meet or do anything more. "

Perhaps those men had met people and had veris? In this case the OP couple has yet to meet anyone and seems to like webcam. Perhaps the men wanted meets but no sign OP was ready and they lost patience after several webcams?

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By *estinysswingersCouple
over a year ago

Worsley

Nah not you - just flaky people.

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By *ilthyParamedicMan
over a year ago

Lancaster

I've had no-shows before. Think it's just a numbers game. Unfortunately, you will always get them.

I've also heard from couples that I have met with on here that they too have experienced this.

As others have said too, for many it's 'the fantasy' and they have no intention of meeting. However, t does make it harder for those of us that are genuine.

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON


"Adam and I have been on here for a while now, go on cam as a couple of a night sometimes and have met a couple of guys and moved to snap!

We then have had about 5 or 6 private naughty cam sessions, messages through Adam with them every day, and they seemed obsessed with me and want me…then all of a sudden they both went cold just as I getting the confidence to meet! Happened with two different guys.

We hadn’t shown our faces yet so that might be one thing and I am very very petite with hardly any boobs.

I don’t know what else it could be? Any ideas? "

Your taking too long in building up your confidence. They've gotten bored and have moved on.

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire


"Adam and I have been on here for a while now, go on cam as a couple of a night sometimes and have met a couple of guys and moved to snap!

We then have had about 5 or 6 private naughty cam sessions, messages through Adam with them every day, and they seemed obsessed with me and want me…then all of a sudden they both went cold just as I getting the confidence to meet! Happened with two different guys.

We hadn’t shown our faces yet so that might be one thing and I am very very petite with hardly any boobs.

I don’t know what else it could be? Any ideas? "

It's not you, it's just the majority here !. Fantasists, pic collectors and timewasters. Genuine folk like us who are waiting to meet others are sadly a rarity these days...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Adam and I have been on here for a while now, go on cam as a couple of a night sometimes and have met a couple of guys and moved to snap!

We then have had about 5 or 6 private naughty cam sessions, messages through Adam with them every day, and they seemed obsessed with me and want me…then all of a sudden they both went cold just as I getting the confidence to meet! Happened with two different guys.

We hadn’t shown our faces yet so that might be one thing and I am very very petite with hardly any boobs.

I don’t know what else it could be? Any ideas? "

We've only been on here just over 2 weeks. We do both exchange messages on our account. I'm generally the chatter of the 2 so it's usually me that messages. We've done 1 video chat via WhatsApp with a couple and I found it awkward enough as its something I've not done b4.... long since my days of MSN messenger doing Web cam chats with friends from a chat room. (Before I met current partner)

We're still trying to find our footing... its all a learning curve... Hopefully now with access to the forum. We can be making ourselves known a bit more.

C x

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By *uddy laneMan
over a year ago

dudley


"Adam and I have been on here for a while now, go on cam as a couple of a night sometimes and have met a couple of guys and moved to snap!

We then have had about 5 or 6 private naughty cam sessions, messages through Adam with them every day, and they seemed obsessed with me and want me…then all of a sudden they both went cold just as I getting the confidence to meet! Happened with two different guys.

We hadn’t shown our faces yet so that might be one thing and I am very very petite with hardly any boobs.

I don’t know what else it could be? Any ideas? "

They have probably pulled a few off over the cam sessions. Job done and they moved on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably dreamers or married guys getting cold feet (or cannot find excuse to slip out) doubt it is you, more likely the guys "

It is definitely this and not you!

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By *ankShandyMan
over a year ago

West Midlands

I think a fair few people love the fantasy of the chase/negotiation but it isn't actually a realistic idea for them to complete the experience. So when you get closer to the moment of contact, they bail (bail? bale?) And scurryback to their reality. For them, that was as far as they could take it.

They kind of took advantage of you in the same way that supermarkets offer little tasters of string cheese on cocktail sticks, in the hope you'll purchase the product. But some people just circle the aisle 20 times and fill their faves with free samples instead.

Disclaimer 1:

I am not speaking from experience on this site specifically, but I do know this is quite common across sex dating sites generally.

Disclaimer 2:

I do not personally circle the aisle 20 times filling my boots with tiny 3mm cubes of extra strong cheese. I have seen others doing it though, so I know my data is robust.

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By *ankShandyMan
over a year ago

West Midlands


"I think a fair few people love the fantasy of the chase/negotiation but it isn't actually a realistic idea for them to complete the experience. So when you get closer to the moment of contact, they bail (bail? bale?) And scurryback to their reality. For them, that was as far as they could take it.

They kind of took advantage of you in the same way that supermarkets offer little tasters of string cheese on cocktail sticks, in the hope you'll purchase the product. But some people just circle the aisle 20 times and fill their faves with free samples instead.

Disclaimer 1:

I am not speaking from experience on this site specifically, but I do know this is quite common across sex dating sites generally.

Disclaimer 2:

I do not personally circle the aisle 20 times filling my boots with tiny 3mm cubes of extra strong cheese. I have seen others doing it though, so I know my data is robust."

Oh and hey, you look bloody gorgeous by the way. Unless that's Adam in your profile pics WHICH I SOMEHOW DOUBT.

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By *ankShandyMan
over a year ago

West Midlands

Ugh, typos ^

String = strong

Fave = face

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By *estinysswingersCouple
over a year ago

Worsley


"Adam and I have been on here for a while now, go on cam as a couple of a night sometimes and have met a couple of guys and moved to snap!

We then have had about 5 or 6 private naughty cam sessions, messages through Adam with them every day, and they seemed obsessed with me and want me…then all of a sudden they both went cold just as I getting the confidence to meet! Happened with two different guys.

We hadn’t shown our faces yet so that might be one thing and I am very very petite with hardly any boobs.

I don’t know what else it could be? Any ideas? "

Mrs here. I’d say messages have gone on too long. They’ve lost interest. I’d be a bit about people gaining confidence. You wanna meet or you don’t. I’m very black and white though.

Also I wanna see face pics, I’m attracted to mainly your face as likely it’s what’s in my face as we are fucking

That’s my take on it though.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

With it going on for a while as I’m my experience with chatting to the male side is that they think the female doesn’t exists so they stop chatting. But as you say you have crammed with them so all I can say is they must be mad for giving up to early

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"With it going on for a while as I’m my experience with chatting to the male side is that they think the female doesn’t exists so they stop chatting. But as you say you have crammed with them so all I can say is they must be mad for giving up to early "

Well not sure 5-6 cam sessions is ealry. How many would suggest before moving on?

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"With it going on for a while as I’m my experience with chatting to the male side is that they think the female doesn’t exists so they stop chatting. But as you say you have crammed with them so all I can say is they must be mad for giving up to early "

We’ve found something similar. From our experience the more chat there is then the less likely they are to meet. You get wise to the various types of couples on Fab.

There’s the ‘I’m still trying to talk the wife into doing this’ couple. There’s the ‘Isn’t she gorgeous. Please Fab our pics but I’d never share her’ couples. Amongst many other types.

People assess which type you are as they try to figure you out. Lots of cams and no meets suggest lower chance of a physical meet so people can give up on you.

OP should perhaps get a social to at least show they are on a journey to meeting in person. Having said that it’s equally fine to just be a cam couple as long as you’re straight in setting expectations for anyone you’re talking to.

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By *untimes wantedMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield


"Adam and I have been on here for a while now, go on cam as a couple of a night sometimes and have met a couple of guys and moved to snap!

We then have had about 5 or 6 private naughty cam sessions, messages through Adam with them every day, and they seemed obsessed with me and want me…then all of a sudden they both went cold just as I getting the confidence to meet! Happened with two different guys.

We hadn’t shown our faces yet so that might be one thing and I am very very petite with hardly any boobs.

I don’t know what else it could be? Any ideas? "

If its you they are interested in then its probably you they want to chat to,Not sure why Adam is chatting to them while your not there, Maybe keep chat to a night when your both there either over cam or messaging.

Or it could be they just wanted wank material and moved on to the next once it looked like you was close to agreeing to meet.

Doubt its very little to do with your body or looks because they would not have come back for more cam sessions or kept chatting as long as they did.

Good luck going forward and don't let yourself feel pressured into meeting anyone until you are comfortable with it

Taking time to build up confidence can be a good thing because it stops you making a hasty decision you might regret later.

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By *aughtynice78Man
over a year ago

Telford


"Adam and I have been on here for a while now, go on cam as a couple of a night sometimes and have met a couple of guys and moved to snap!

We then have had about 5 or 6 private naughty cam sessions, messages through Adam with them every day, and they seemed obsessed with me and want me…then all of a sudden they both went cold just as I getting the confidence to meet! Happened with two different guys.

We hadn’t shown our faces yet so that might be one thing and I am very very petite with hardly any boobs.

I don’t know what else it could be? Any ideas? "

Same sort of experience for me... girls seem really keen in messages and eventually we arrange something, then they vanish lol

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling


"Adam and I have been on here for a while now, go on cam as a couple of a night sometimes and have met a couple of guys and moved to snap!

We then have had about 5 or 6 private naughty cam sessions, messages through Adam with them every day, and they seemed obsessed with me and want me…then all of a sudden they both went cold just as I getting the confidence to meet! Happened with two different guys.

We hadn’t shown our faces yet so that might be one thing and I am very very petite with hardly any boobs.

I don’t know what else it could be? Any ideas? "

Nothing wrong with you but the audience you are working with. Most guys on cam because they are either attached or lazy cyber wankers with no intentions or appetite for real meet.

Secondly, genuine guy who is up for real meet would want to see the face he is chatting too after exchange of few messages. If he isn’t interested in your face, he isn’t interested in you and real meet. It’s that simple. Try to fish in another pond .

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"Most guys on cam because they are either attached or lazy cyber wankers with no intentions or appetite for real meet"

But seems like the ones wanting cam were the OP couple.

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling


"Most guys on cam because they are either attached or lazy cyber wankers with no intentions or appetite for real meet

But seems like the ones wanting cam were the OP couple. "

That’s exactly my point and suggestion to OP. Looking for real meet with guys on cam channels isn’t the best idea

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"Most guys on cam because they are either attached or lazy cyber wankers with no intentions or appetite for real meet

But seems like the ones wanting cam were the OP couple.

That’s exactly my point and suggestion to OP. Looking for real meet with guys on cam channels isn’t the best idea "

Ok but that supposes OP couple were looking for real meets rather than mainly cam fun. Perhaps they weren't ready and had no real intention of meeting - or at least appeared that way. Perhaps the men were but got bored.

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By *inkyKellyCDTV/TS
over a year ago

Coventry


"Most guys on cam because they are either attached or lazy cyber wankers with no intentions or appetite for real meet

But seems like the ones wanting cam were the OP couple.

That’s exactly my point and suggestion to OP. Looking for real meet with guys on cam channels isn’t the best idea "
My thoughts exactly, most of the people in the cam room are just there for a wank, they'll happily play along 'setting up' a meet as it's more for them to wank to, but it wears off once they have to take their hands off their dick and onto their car keys eh

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