FabSwingers.com forum: Are we doing something wrong?

By *ose and her beast OP Couple
over a year ago

Watford

We have met lots of people from fab but lately we seem to just have zero luck we get messages then no replys when we answer back any advice on where are profile is going wrong or things we can change would be greatly appreciated x

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By *ice_couple2012Couple
over a year ago

Leicester

I don't think so. You have an interesting and well crafted profile that many people would be attracted to. The fact is though that Fab can be a bit hit and miss and maybe part of the answer is to diversify your approach, for example going to a club or an arranged social meet with a lot of other couples.

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By *phrodite_AdonisCouple
over a year ago

Had a very quick scroll through photos and at first glance I couldn’t see Mr at all.

Pics of him that are easily spotted might help.

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By *ose and her beast OP Couple
over a year ago

Watford

Will change some ordering might help

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Well I love your profile and i think you both look amazing so i don’t think you need to change anything. I really don’t know why anyone wouldn’t want to chat with you and meet you.

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By *hrimper36Couple
over a year ago

Central France dept 36

With out a doubt it’s the rucksack in picture two putting people off.

Obviously it’s not.

To me your profile is fine but maybe take a step back for a bit to let real life catch up with you and don’t let fablife get you down.

If swinging is not fun for you both for any reason regroup chill and go again.

You both look fun so together enjoy your adventure.

Best of luck.

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By *_the_impalerMan
over a year ago

canterbury

You have a great profile

Certainly in the top 4 % of people

Just wait different people are looking at different times

Also if you haven’t been already try socials as different people go to them that don’t go to clubs

Have fun

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By *un4you1978Man
over a year ago

Telford

I can't see anything wrong. Bit I'm a single guy with zero luck.

If you were closer I'd message with the hope of a meet

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"I can't see anything wrong. Bit I'm a single guy with zero luck.

If you were closer I'd message with the hope of a meet "

Your profile says you can travel and theirs says they can accommodate, Watford is only about 2 or 3 hours drive from you. Don’t you think they’re worth driving 2 hours to meet then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's fab for you. Try going to clubs.

If you organise a meet there and they don't turn up. "Ohh well" not like there are no others to talk/play with

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"That's fab for you. Try going to clubs.

If you organise a meet there and they don't turn up. "Ohh well" not like there are no others to talk/play with

How can they organise to meet someone at a club if they aren’t getting any replies from people when they message them? That’s the whole point of the post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's fab for you. Try going to clubs.

If you organise a meet there and they don't turn up. "Ohh well" not like there are no others to talk/play with

How can they organise to meet someone at a club if they aren’t getting any replies from people when they message them? That’s the whole point of the post. "

By bad.

Then just go to a club. Best place to meet people

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

"We have met lots of people from fab but lately we seem to just have zero luck we get messages then no replys when we answer back any advice on where are profile is going wrong or things we can change would be greatly appreciated x"

You're fine don't worry

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By *rDJ40Man
over a year ago

Nuneaton

Your profile and pictures are fantastic, keep at it and I’m sure your luck will change!

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Tamworth

Could be just the time of year...

Schools are ending soon as lots of people are finding there's alot there to deal with.

People going on/booking holidays so free time is limited. It's also festival season.

Maybe some more pics of the Mr but other than that, I think your profile looks great!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Clearly your profile isn't working now you want it to. Sometimes it helps to read it from the point of view of those you'd like to meet. Would you meet you based on what's written? What would entice you to reply or make first contact?

Personally I can't see a problem except a slight negativity.

Good luck

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By *tarkersandcrutchCouple
over a year ago

TELFORD

Nothing wrong with your profile.

Nice pics, lots of veris.open honest.

Just gotta find the right people.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Profile looks good, I think it's already said but I couldn't see the man so that would put me off, but I didn't scroll past the 1st page.

Mrs

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"Profile looks good, I think it's already said but I couldn't see the man so that would put me off, but I didn't scroll past the 1st page.

Mrs "

The first picture is a picture of them both together…

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Profile looks good, I think it's already said but I couldn't see the man so that would put me off, but I didn't scroll past the 1st page.

Mrs

The first picture is a picture of them both together…"

Then I need a lot more coffee to get me through this morning

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"Profile looks good, I think it's already said but I couldn't see the man so that would put me off, but I didn't scroll past the 1st page.

Mrs

The first picture is a picture of them both together…

Then I need a lot more coffee to get me through this morning

Haha, well to be honest the reason I knew that is because since reading the OP and looking at their profile for the first time I’ve lost track of how many times I’ve come back and looked through their pictures again because I think Rose is absolutely incredible looking and i can’t stop myself admiring her. She has the most beautiful and pretty face and the sexiest body with a perfect round ass and unbelievably big and sexy boobs. I’m in shock that they’re struggling to find anyone to meet because I’d have thought there would be a 10 mile long queue of people wanting to meet Rose.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Have you two tried going to a social. There is often the Surrey social or one of the London ones. It will give you the chance to mingle without the pressure or meeting to play.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Profile looks good, I think it's already said but I couldn't see the man so that would put me off, but I didn't scroll past the 1st page.

Mrs

The first picture is a picture of them both together…

Then I need a lot more coffee to get me through this morning

Yes but they aren’t looking for somebody to meet Rose. They are a couple looking for somebody to meet both of them. Actually says they aren’t looking to meet single men so guess looking for a couple to meet them as a couple. Of course there would be a long line of single men but harder to find a couple.

OP nothing wrong with your profile apart from more pics of male half as others have said. Of course we don’t know how your messages go so can’t comment. Maybe something there you are saying? Maybe just a case of being patient and finding the right people. I’m a couple here and know that not everybody is for everybody. Yes clubs and socials can help but no reason why you can’t find other couples without that.

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"Profile looks good, I think it's already said but I couldn't see the man so that would put me off, but I didn't scroll past the 1st page.

Mrs

The first picture is a picture of them both together…

Then I need a lot more coffee to get me through this morning

Im going to find myself a girlfriend as soon as possible just so that i can meet Rose as part of a couple-couple meet.

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We feel the whole scene is moving more towards clubs. I think couples especially are growing tired of the no shows and the ghosting. We love the club scene x

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"We feel the whole scene is moving more towards clubs. I think couples especially are growing tired of the no shows and the ghosting. We love the club scene x"

I’d love to be in a club at the same time as Rose is there just to be able to admire her body in person if nothing else

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"We feel the whole scene is moving more towards clubs. I think couples especially are growing tired of the no shows and the ghosting. We love the club scene x"

Interesting. We don’t find that at all. Well of course clubs/parties great but equally meet lots privately. Also we know quite a few couples who used to go to clubs but rarely go anymore as they have become much more “social” than they were with lots not playing or only playing in limited way. Nothing wrong with that of course but sometimes easier to find compatible people for sex privately.

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"We feel the whole scene is moving more towards clubs. I think couples especially are growing tired of the no shows and the ghosting. We love the club scene x

Are you part of a couple? Why don’t you meet up with Rose and her beast if you are?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is nothing wrong with your profile at all.

You have a lot of photos and your verified. I find that fab can be really hit n miss sometimes. Good luck

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"There is nothing wrong with your profile at all.

You have a lot of photos and your verified. I find that fab can be really hit n miss sometimes. Good luck

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I agree, a lot of photos to admire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4 way attraction is very very hard to find as a couple.

Get to some clubs and socials. There will be plenty of lovely couples to talk to there

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

Being brutal. The male isn't the sexiest of men (subjective) and generally the blokes will just wanna get messy with Rose.

I think Fab gives some couples the impression that they going to get anyone they have their eyes on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being brutal. The male isn't the sexiest of men (subjective) and generally the blokes will just wanna get messy with Rose.

I think Fab gives some couples the impression that they going to get anyone they have their eyes on"

They are not looking for single men.

They are looking for couples and single women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also couples don't think that way. (Most don't anyway)

Maybe alot of single women think they can get anyone they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope you look great

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

"Being brutal. The male isn't the sexiest of men (subjective) and generally the blokes will just wanna get messy with Rose.

I think Fab gives some couples the impression that they going to get anyone they have their eyes on

They are not looking for single men.

They are looking for couples and single women.

Yeah I know. Same principle

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By *ose and her beast OP Couple
over a year ago

Watford

"Profile looks good, I think it's already said but I couldn't see the man so that would put me off, but I didn't scroll past the 1st page.

Mrs

The first picture is a picture of them both together…

Then I need a lot more coffee to get me through this morning

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By *ose and her beast OP Couple
over a year ago

Watford

Thank you everyone for the kind words I think we just have to accept that going to clubs is going to be the best way going forward not driving sucks but we will work something out x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you everyone for the kind words I think we just have to accept that going to clubs is going to be the best way going forward not driving sucks but we will work something out x"

Where is your nearest club?

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Down the Rabbit Hole and Round the Corner

We agree, get out to some clubs or house parties, your be fine :

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
over a year ago

Bedale

Your profile and pics are very good. Substantially better than most. There is a distinct lack of the classic "Instagram angle" and filters which plague some profiles these days.

Your content also appears very straightforward and pleasingly frank.

The only change I would really suggest is that there is some inconsistent naming. In the body you refer to the male as Khaos but in the details its simply B. Not a huge problem but probably a minor correction you could consider.

Your experiences here will wax and wane, they always do for everyone. Not least because people come in and out of the lifestyle all the time so the picture is never exactly the same month to month.

Keep on buggering on and you'll get back into the groove

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By *ose and her beast OP Couple
over a year ago

Watford

"Thank you everyone for the kind words I think we just have to accept that going to clubs is going to be the best way going forward not driving sucks but we will work something out x

Where is your nearest club?"

Abfabs I think

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By *ustforshow25Couple
over a year ago

Leatherhead

"Thank you everyone for the kind words I think we just have to accept that going to clubs is going to be the best way going forward not driving sucks but we will work something out x

Where is your nearest club?

Abfabs I think"

There is the social at AbFabs in a couple of weeks, so could be a good chance to meet people. There's also a hotel right next door, so at least you wouldn't have to travel there and back in one night (if that's an option).

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By *ose and her beast OP Couple
over a year ago

Watford

"Thank you everyone for the kind words I think we just have to accept that going to clubs is going to be the best way going forward not driving sucks but we will work something out x

Where is your nearest club?

Abfabs I think

Thanks for the info xx

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By *ustforshow25Couple
over a year ago

Leatherhead

"Thank you everyone for the kind words I think we just have to accept that going to clubs is going to be the best way going forward not driving sucks but we will work something out x

Where is your nearest club?

Abfabs I think

Thanks for the info xx"

No problem. We're down to go, so if you do end up attending then come say hi! X

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

Your profile is really good I'm surprised you're not having any luck. Shame you're the other end of the country

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same as us, since we've come back, we not met anyone, the chat starts OK, the the exchange of face pics then the yes we'd love to meet. We say great send us dates. And we never hear again! Or they suddenly become the guy just playing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Same as us, since we've come back, we not met anyone, the chat starts OK, the the exchange of face pics then the yes we'd love to meet. We say great send us dates. And we never hear again! Or they suddenly become the guy just playing "

That's why we stick with clubs. Meet loads of lovely people. Don't have to pingpong message for weeks or even months on end.

If people don't show up to the club, ohhh well sure there are others.

Clubs are the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why we stick with clubs. Meet loads of lovely people. Don't have to pingpong message for weeks or even months on end.

If people don't show up to the club, ohhh well sure there are others.

Clubs are the way

We've thought that, just wish the clubs were nearer

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Hopefully you guys find what you're looking for soon, for what it's worth we adore your profile! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if you’re doing anything wrong I certainly can’t see it and if you aren’t getting any interest then what hope is there for the rest of us ?

Hope you have better luck soon x

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Your a cute couple and I'm not sure if your doing any wrong per se (obviously not being privy to your private messages). No red flags as far as we can see from your profile and some lovely pictures including ones that give us a flavour as you together as a couple (which we like to see).

So if its not your pictures, your bio, your verifications and assuming your not prone to disastrous messages I don't think it's you. Obviously same as any of us we can not be everyones cup of tea. However I think a lot of people have unrealistic expectations on here regarding the ease to find people online and arrange something. The online world on fab is just very flaky and in addition in real life for busy people like yourselves it makes it difficult to practically arrange. This is why we just don't really do the arranging meets on fab thing. People are flaky and it's a huge risk to dedicate time and expense to strangers online. So sometimes we are approached by individuals/couples who look and sound great but we're just not looking engage in the online world. And I'm sure we're not the only one. So there will be people out there who you have approach and who do like what they see but are just not (for whatever reasons) looking to chase up new things online.

This is why for us we are very much club/party swingers. We simply go when the timing suits us. No back and forth messaging, making complex arrangements or risk. Just go. We over these years as a couple have yet to have arrange one successful meet online from fab. All our adventures with others have been from clubs, parties and pulling on vanilla nights outs. All the people we know on the scene or are swinger freinds of ours we've meet in clubs/parties or via swinger freinds. Everyone does what works for them but this works for us.

Hope you get some success soon x

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By *amieLDN22Man
over a year ago

London

Your profile is fine. My only guess is your target audience maybe be small. No single guys, bisexual who's into strap play and likes both of you. On the other hand, Fab is very unpredictable: some weeks I'm getting loads of messages other times you get none. But then again I don't really message people as I'm very busy with other stuff. Maybe I'm not proactive enough. Good luck guys. You'll get way more action soon than all of us.

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

We Have found since COVID there is a lot of time wasters on fab now we only meet in clubs now because we are sick of no shows

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By *LACKED4ALLMan
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

Though you aren't looking for single guys

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

You can do everything right and still have things go wrong, because you have to factor in other people.

You look great, any couple would be lucky to spend time with you.

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By *innerforthreeMan
over a year ago

London/herts

My only thought is that you are showing your faces on a fairly public website, so would equate that with risk taking, not caring about discretion etc....

It may not be a big issue but....

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By *ootnootboopCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

We'd definitely meet you both if you were closer! Think your profile is very original, but maybe try to change up the order of the photos so the guy is more visible.

Fab is a finicky world, so don't always assume it's something that you are both doing

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By *urreypair1Couple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

We don't think anything needs changing, lovely profile we'll written and outlining what you enjoy.

Your pics denote a lovely happy bubbly couple and are a pleasure to browse.

Fab does come in waves and can be unpredictable.

Not driving restricts you a little as we guess clubs are restrictive due to distance but maybe ask a couple of you could share going together.

We are sure your luck will change maybe even just from your post here.

Keep those happy smiles !! Xx

Good luck

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By *awty_TwoCouple
over a year ago

Near Maidstone

We are very much the same, so either fab has less genuine people now, or we are just getting too old to attract any replies now lol

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By *awty_TwoCouple
over a year ago

Near Maidstone

"We Have found since COVID there is a lot of time wasters on fab now we only meet in clubs now because we are sick of no shows"

Agree with the since covid point

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By *leasureseekers123Couple
over a year ago

Hythe

"We Have found since COVID there is a lot of time wasters on fab now we only meet in clubs now because we are sick of no shows"

Same here. Definitely things have changed here since Covid

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By *awty_TwoCouple
over a year ago

Near Maidstone

"We Have found since COVID there is a lot of time wasters on fab now we only meet in clubs now because we are sick of no shows

Same here. Definitely things have changed here since Covid "

Wow, looking at your profile and pics you should have couples queuing up to meet you x

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

Simple. They don't fancy both of you. Just because you're a couple. Doesn't automatically grant you instat shag status.

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By *uttercup and BeauCouple
over a year ago

kent

There has to be a 4 way attraction and that’s very difficult to find…. Especially from just photos. If that initial attraction isn’t there it doesn’t matter what’s on your profile, as lots of people have said clubs may be the way forward. But even with transport it’s not for everyone.

We wouldn’t respond to a message from you purely because far too many public face pics which is a massive red flag for lots of people.

Also… please don’t shoot the messenger. A lot of your sexy pics have lots of mess, dirty washing and clutter in the background. Lots of people are very quick to judge single men for that… so why not us couples.

Jules x

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By *leasureseekers123Couple
over a year ago

Hythe

"We Have found since COVID there is a lot of time wasters on fab now we only meet in clubs now because we are sick of no shows

Same here. Definitely things have changed here since Covid

Wow, looking at your profile and pics you should have couples queuing up to meet you x "

Thanks but that’s definitely not the case

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By *awty_TwoCouple
over a year ago

Near Maidstone

"We Have found since COVID there is a lot of time wasters on fab now we only meet in clubs now because we are sick of no shows

Same here. Definitely things have changed here since Covid

Wow, looking at your profile and pics you should have couples queuing up to meet you x

Thanks but that’s definitely not the case

Pm us if you fancy a drink and seeing if we can change our fate together lol x

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