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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Think a lot of men are finding it hard on this app to get a women to talk to not even for a meet I’ve been on and off here for 8 years and i will say I’ve only ever had one meet the whole time I’ve been on here anybody want to shade some light on this subject

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Maybe take a look at the common variable….yourself?

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"Think a lot of men are finding it hard on this app to get a women to talk to not even for a meet I’ve been on and off here for 8 years and i will say I’ve only ever had one meet the whole time I’ve been on here anybody want to shade some light on this subject "
Coming and going will not help you also your only 27 a lot on here think "too young" your profile doesn't stand out that's 3 observations for you to think about for a start

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe take a look at the common variable….yourself?"

I highly agree there are to many men on this but some of the women and couples think there gods gift when talking to you and it’s just not interesting

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Maybe take a look at the common variable….yourself?

I highly agree there are to many men on this but some of the women and couples think there gods gift when talking to you and it’s just not interesting "

Then perhaps this site isn’t for you. Take some accountability, the common variable is you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I agree with the Comeing and going thing age is no problem when you look at there Verys and I know unfortunately I can’t post pictures publicly due to family and work

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By *eus n EuropaCouple
over a year ago

louth

Your profile doesn't exactly inspire for starters OP

Maybe set a picture to public and or avatar too

Think you might have just shot yourself in the foot with this thread lol

Good luck

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Your profile doesn't exactly inspire for starters OP

Maybe set a picture to public and or avatar too

Think you might have just shot yourself in the foot with this thread lol

Good luck "

Yea I can’t see any women/couples being inspired to chat/meet following this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Would love to post a picture of my face on here but I can’t unfortunately and a lot of women’s accounts or couples always say they do not want to see dick pics or see anything like that on a page and I agree I probably have

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

At this point I’m kinda past careing as tinder is probably best place for swingers for men as I’ve found out myself just saying what most men are dealing with on this website

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By *eus n EuropaCouple
over a year ago

louth


"Would love to post a picture of my face on here but I can’t unfortunately and a lot of women’s accounts or couples always say they do not want to see dick pics or see anything like that on a page and I agree I probably have "

Nothing stopping you showing a clothed shot with possibly the torso

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple
over a year ago

Preston


"At this point I’m kinda past careing as tinder is probably best place for swingers for men as I’ve found out myself just saying what most men are dealing with on this website "

Don't you have to post pics on tinder?

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville


"At this point I’m kinda past careing as tinder is probably best place for swingers for men as I’ve found out myself just saying what most men are dealing with on this website "

Not quite sure what the purpose of this thread was then? I personally don't like negative people, maybe that's your problem? What do you send in your initial messages?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I get that but some women men couples want to live a private life why being on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I read full bio always then look at photos if there is a interest I’ll say hey nice pictures wondering if you would be interested in talking and get to know more about each other I do have pictures that I will send privately and hope to hear back from you soon or if they have interests I’ll say I’m also interested in trying this as well

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple
over a year ago

Preston


"I read full bio always then look at photos if there is a interest I’ll say hey nice pictures wondering if you would be interested in talking and get to know more about each other I do have pictures that I will send privately and hope to hear back from you soon or if they have interests I’ll say I’m also interested in trying this as well "

And does exactly the same approach work for you on the other site?

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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"At this point I’m kinda past careing as tinder is probably best place for swingers for men as I’ve found out myself just saying what most men are dealing with on this website "

I actually agree with you. This site doesn’t seem suited to you and you probably are best on tinder. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women have a choice. If they aren't choosing you, that's because there are better options.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes it dose I normally I’m stright forward on there to be honest I’ll ask what are they looking for on here and I’ll ether say sorry I’m looking for fwb and they will say not my thing or they will normally say me to very interested and I’ve meet more women via tinder than I have anywhere else

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Of course women have a choice everyone dose but just a shame that people don’t even reply back saying there not interested or anything

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

I been here for 5 months now and still had no meets yet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Don’t get me wrong Im in contact with 3 women on here that are interested now and have looked at this thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I been here for 5 months now and still had no meets yet"
I’m suprised to be honest because some women on here are looking for different races a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would love to post a picture of my face on here but I can’t unfortunately and a lot of women’s accounts or couples always say they do not want to see dick pics or see anything like that on a page and I agree I probably have "

You don’t need to put a face pic up on you’re profile but if I was you I would change my profile picture and add more pics maybe with a shirt on or something like that?

I’m really but trying to put you down but your profile would not Inspire me to messge back. Also just because it’s not working for you on here now please don’t put women/couples down by saying things like they think they are gods gift.

It really doesn’t come across good and will put alot of potential meets off.

Good luck and hope this helps

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"Of course women have a choice everyone dose but just a shame that people don’t even reply back saying there not interested or anything "

Read the FAQ regarding this, if you were a female on here you would know that replying thanks but no thanks invariably leads to a follow up abusive message!!! Not saying you like that but many are!

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple
over a year ago

Preston


"Don’t get me wrong Im in contact with 3 women on here that are interested now and have looked at this thread "

Sounds like you don't have a problem then!

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London


"I been here for 5 months now and still had no meets yet I’m suprised to be honest because some women on here are looking for different races a lot "
What can I say people don't like me much but love it anyways

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

So your profile picture, the only one you have. You took that and thought ‘yep, that’s me looking as hot and interesting as possible, I’m going with this one’

FFS, you have to market yourself, you are in competition with a mass of other horny available men. Okay so no face shot but

Dress shirt, jacket, look dapper, interesting, like you see the sun sometimes… that you look like you’ll turn up smelling clean.

If you lack the self awareness of understanding the importance of your shopfront, no second chance to make a first impression, profile then you don’t stand a chance on any website let alone Fab

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

How do you think posting this kind of thread has helped you? Some really good advice on here already. Take your time and have a look at well verified male profiles and take notes, work on yours.

Also get yourself out to socialise with likeminded people, let them get to know your personality and charm.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women do not have it easy on this app. We have more choice yes, but we also have the abuse to deal with.

But if fab isn't working for you, with the profile you created, then do something about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe take a look at the common variable….yourself?"

Our thoughts exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please keep it to the thread op not private message me

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By *etterdays2021Man
over a year ago

PETERBOROUGH

Women may have it easy for meets...but mate they are flooded with weird people messages and some insulting ones..so easy???? I don't think so.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Women have different difficulties than men do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Of course women have a choice everyone dose but just a shame that people don’t even reply back saying there not interested or anything

Read the FAQ regarding this, if you were a female on here you would know that replying thanks but no thanks invariably leads to a follow up abusive message!!! Not saying you like that but many are! "
well that’s just out of order if people are geting abuse

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Women have different difficulties than men do."
such as just curious

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Women may have it easy for meets...but mate they are flooded with weird people messages and some insulting ones..so easy???? I don't think so."
yes I agree they probably are but there is a block button for a reason

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Please keep it to the thread op not private message me "
no problem

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Women have different difficulties than men do. such as just curious "

Being bombarded with messages, people being demanding and/ or abusive, people sending messages that are unfit for print (because they contain ideas that should probably not be repeated), people whining when they don't get a reply.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Women do not have it easy on this app. We have more choice yes, but we also have the abuse to deal with.

But if fab isn't working for you, with the profile you created, then do something about it.

"
which is shit that women have to go thought and men as well go though abuse on here as I have because I have refused to meet women on here but it is a lot easier for women to get meeting someone on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How do you think posting this kind of thread has helped you? Some really good advice on here already. Take your time and have a look at well verified male profiles and take notes, work on yours.

Also get yourself out to socialise with likeminded people, let them get to know your personality and charm.

Good luck "
been thinking about socials for a while to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women do not have it easy on this app. We have more choice yes, but we also have the abuse to deal with.

But if fab isn't working for you, with the profile you created, then do something about it.

which is shit that women have to go thought and men as well go though abuse on here as I have because I have refused to meet women on here but it is a lot easier for women to get meeting someone on here "

Yet there are so many very successful men on this app

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Women do not have it easy on this app. We have more choice yes, but we also have the abuse to deal with.

But if fab isn't working for you, with the profile you created, then do something about it.

which is shit that women have to go thought and men as well go though abuse on here as I have because I have refused to meet women on here but it is a lot easier for women to get meeting someone on here "

It's easy for women to meet *anyone*.

If a woman has standards, it's not easy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So your profile picture, the only one you have. You took that and thought ‘yep, that’s me looking as hot and interesting as possible, I’m going with this one’

FFS, you have to market yourself, you are in competition with a mass of other horny available men. Okay so no face shot but

Dress shirt, jacket, look dapper, interesting, like you see the sun sometimes… that you look like you’ll turn up smelling clean.

If you lack the self awareness of understanding the importance of your shopfront, no second chance to make a first impression, profile then you don’t stand a chance on any website let alone Fab

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of course I understand that fully I’ve put on weight which is driving me mad and I’m at the gym everyday at work and I get where your Comeing from

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Women have different difficulties than men do. such as just curious

Being bombarded with messages, people being demanding and/ or abusive, people sending messages that are unfit for print (because they contain ideas that should probably not be repeated), people whining when they don't get a reply."
never done any of this myself but I agree it shouldn’t be happen

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Women have different difficulties than men do. such as just curious

Being bombarded with messages, people being demanding and/ or abusive, people sending messages that are unfit for print (because they contain ideas that should probably not be repeated), people whining when they don't get a reply. never done any of this myself but I agree it shouldn’t be happen "

Didn't say you did. But these are problems that women face.

(Let's put it this way. Imagine every horrific thing sexually that you can. Unpleasant, illegal, unethical, the whole nine yards. You've just scratched the surface of some of the awful messages that women here get)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Women have different difficulties than men do. such as just curious

Being bombarded with messages, people being demanding and/ or abusive, people sending messages that are unfit for print (because they contain ideas that should probably not be repeated), people whining when they don't get a reply. never done any of this myself but I agree it shouldn’t be happen

Didn't say you did. But these are problems that women face.

(Let's put it this way. Imagine every horrific thing sexually that you can. Unpleasant, illegal, unethical, the whole nine yards. You've just scratched the surface of some of the awful messages that women here get)"
I have received them as well by men when I was younger

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter


"So your profile picture, the only one you have. You took that and thought ‘yep, that’s me looking as hot and interesting as possible, I’m going with this one’

FFS, you have to market yourself, you are in competition with a mass of other horny available men. Okay so no face shot but

Dress shirt, jacket, look dapper, interesting, like you see the sun sometimes… that you look like you’ll turn up smelling clean.

If you lack the self awareness of understanding the importance of your shopfront, no second chance to make a first impression, profile then you don’t stand a chance on any website let alone Fab

of course I understand that fully I’ve put on weight which is driving me mad and I’m at the gym everyday at work and I get where your Comeing from "

I’m genuinely glad for you that you are motivating yourself to tackle the weight gain - good for buddy but why use that picture. Get on and take a few pictures that are more flattering and interesting - put some stylish clothes on, use lighting, cool backgrounds, even go Black and White. Do better. I know you can.

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

Madness is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Madness is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. "
no I’ve do other stuff to

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So your profile picture, the only one you have. You took that and thought ‘yep, that’s me looking as hot and interesting as possible, I’m going with this one’

FFS, you have to market yourself, you are in competition with a mass of other horny available men. Okay so no face shot but

Dress shirt, jacket, look dapper, interesting, like you see the sun sometimes… that you look like you’ll turn up smelling clean.

If you lack the self awareness of understanding the importance of your shopfront, no second chance to make a first impression, profile then you don’t stand a chance on any website let alone Fab

of course I understand that fully I’ve put on weight which is driving me mad and I’m at the gym everyday at work and I get where your Comeing from

I’m genuinely glad for you that you are motivating yourself to tackle the weight gain - good for buddy but why use that picture. Get on and take a few pictures that are more flattering and interesting - put some stylish clothes on, use lighting, cool backgrounds, even go Black and White. Do better. I know you can.

"
thanks man yeah used to have a six pack and a lot happen in my life so stopped going to the gym as I was very depressed

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By *hors fantasyCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool

As a single male I had my first meet same week I joined, people with something interesting to say and don’t take dreadful pictures do fine

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.


"Madness is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. no I’ve do other stuff to "

You can’t just blame the website, you have to actually try here. Go to socials in your area, take some better pics. Engage with people!

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

OP sounds like you are basically after vanilla one on one hook-ups. That is not really swinging and if that is all you want then other apps quite possibly a lot better. If you want more - threesomes, moresomes, house parties, clubs, socials, maybe something kinky, etc then this is a good place but you've got to put in the effort.

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over

How do you know women have it easy? You're a man.

I'm a woman, it's not easy.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"How do you know women have it easy? You're a man.

I'm a woman, it's not easy. "

................................

This!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

It's different, for sure.

It's not necessarily easier.

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By *anted by NightMan
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"Think a lot of men are finding it hard on this app to get a women to talk to not even for a meet I’ve been on and off here for 8 years and i will say I’ve only ever had one meet the whole time I’ve been on here anybody want to shade some light on this subject "

There are no cock pics on your profile. With one you’ll struggle to get replies. More pics with different angles will result in more replies and meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Male to female ratios on sites like this is stupidly high. If your serious about meeting people it's time and effort that is needed

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Everyone has it easy once you've put the effort in the ratio means nothing unless you live in a very small town or city with only 10 people living there and only two of them are on here

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By *yreGuy99Man
over a year ago

Somewhere in Moria

Using this site strictly for the forums is somewhat worth it. That's what I've taken away from here.

From experience using tinder gives you a higher chance for the most part as the people on there are a lot more realistic..

A lot of men put every ounce of effort into messages and introductions. To most people that's not good enough.

But those that treat you like that aren't worth your time or effort in the first place. They never were.

Good luck with your issue buddy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just here to say the forum is a great filter *carry on*

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling


"Maybe take a look at the common variable….yourself?"

This, most definitely THIS

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England

Yes another woe is me post.

Guess you're upset OP because women haven't been flocking to you and falling at your feet.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

I know how you mean, and I'm a woman lol

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

Yes they do, the can fling their knickers at anybody and get cock like its raining. The don't have to worry about any dangers, liers, being murdered, snalkers or social demonising, finding a match, someone who will respect bounderies, someone who can stimulate them mentaly as well as physicaly, their own preferences, getting harassment and unwanted attention, being confident in their own bodies, matching up to expectations, just to mention a few, so fucking easy. Come on ladies, what you playing at.

Cheesecake anybody?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Think a lot of men are finding it hard on this app to get a women to talk to not even for a meet I’ve been on and off here for 8 years and i will say I’ve only ever had one meet the whole time I’ve been on here anybody want to shade some light on this subject "

Your profile really could use a makeover mate…

Use the search tab to search for men in your area, looking for women in the same age range you are, and compare the profiles of those guys with meet verifications, to yours. Then look at your profile, and ask yourself; if I was a woman, would I be interested in getting to know me?

Fab is mostly about patience

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

OP, women do not have it easy on here. Yes, we do get loads of messages (usually) but it's like shifting through all your junk mail in your mailbox just to find that one piece of mail you need/want/have been looking for. Opposite to the junk mail in your physical mailbox, the junk mail here tends to get impatient if you took your time to reply/may send abuse if you decline/may ask "why" in order to change your mind etc. Block button gets very handy in those situations. Oh, and most of those messaging you have not read your profile or decided they'd try anyway, despite what your profile says.

So no, women don't have it easy on here, OP

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By *atty CoramWoman
over a year ago

Wimbledon

I think that it's more soul destroying to be a man on here than a woman.

That's just my personal opinion though.

Also..you could take every piece of advice going and still get nowhere.

I don't think there's a special formula.

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By *inky and QuirkyCouple
over a year ago

Leighton Buzzard

Also better punctuation in your message may help

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By *inky and QuirkyCouple
over a year ago

Leighton Buzzard


"Maybe take a look at the common variable….yourself?"

Harsh but very fair and wonderfully direct, love it.

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By *yreGuy99Man
over a year ago

Somewhere in Moria


"I think that it's more soul destroying to be a man on here than a woman.

That's just my personal opinion though.

Also..you could take every piece of advice going and still get nowhere.

I don't think there's a special formula.

"
exactly this!

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By *addyRayMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"Would love to post a picture of my face on here but I can’t unfortunately and a lot of women’s accounts or couples always say they do not want to see dick pics or see anything like that on a page and I agree I probably have "

You can have Friends only photos! I get being cautious if you are in a delicate job, but no one is gonna meet a stranger from a sex site not knowing what they look like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Playing the smallest violin in the world for OP.

Seriously if you cannot see the problem with your profile then there is no hope for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually enraged that you think we have it EASY on here?!! The amount of abuse we get for no reason at all is ridiculous…

We ignore, we get abuse. We politely decline, we get abuse…Hell, I get at least two random messages a day from people I’ve never interacted with to tell me I’m obese and stuck up!

Your attitude is probably the reason you’re not getting much luck on here….

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By *he MuffinmanMan
over a year ago

West Gloucestershire


"Think a lot of men are finding it hard on this app to get a women to talk to not even for a meet I’ve been on and off here for 8 years and i will say I’ve only ever had one meet the whole time I’ve been on here anybody want to shade some light on this subject "

I seem to do alright thank you

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By *he MuffinmanMan
over a year ago

West Gloucestershire


"Actually enraged that you think we have it EASY on here?!! The amount of abuse we get for no reason at all is ridiculous…

We ignore, we get abuse. We politely decline, we get abuse…Hell, I get at least two random messages a day from people I’ve never interacted with to tell me I’m obese and stuck up!

Your attitude is probably the reason you’re not getting much luck on here…."

Well, I think you look delicious in my opinion

X

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"Think a lot of men are finding it hard on this app to get a women to talk to not even for a meet I’ve been on and off here for 8 years and i will say I’ve only ever had one meet the whole time I’ve been on here anybody want to shade some light on this subject "

the amount of " Genuine " single females here are "tiny" minuscule .. when you consider overwhelming fraudulent profiles, or men just posting old pictures of their wives ... you ve got more chance chatting to a women in Tesco s , even if it s the self service saying to you ‘unexpected item in the bagging area’?.......

Truth is women think all guys want a shag , they are right !!! that s the husbands job ... and don t rarely meet guys outside of swingers clubs ...

have you considered that most people are not swingers or all that fab !! I think a reality check s n order ...

Hey all the best don t forget to pay your subscripton .........

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Another day and another ‘woe is me’ post from a guy with a quite frankly rubbish profile complaining that they can’t get a response

Two pics and a couple of lines of text is highly unlikely to cut it. Women often have hundreds of guys messaging them. Why wouldn’t they pick the guys that stand out and have put some effort in to impress?

And women don’t have it easy. They may get plenty of messages but about 99% of them won’t be from anyone they may be interested in. We also regularly get vulgar, insulting or abusive messages, endless amounts of dick pics that we haven’t asked for and every bizarre request you could imagine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually enraged that you think we have it EASY on here?!! The amount of abuse we get for no reason at all is ridiculous…

We ignore, we get abuse. We politely decline, we get abuse…Hell, I get at least two random messages a day from people I’ve never interacted with to tell me I’m obese and stuck up!

Your attitude is probably the reason you’re not getting much luck on here….

Well, I think you look delicious in my opinion

X"

Aww you charmer! *blushes*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a tiny penis

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"I think that it's more soul destroying to be a man on here than a woman.

That's just my personal opinion though.

Also..you could take every piece of advice going and still get nowhere.

I don't think there's a special formula.

"

Wouldn't say it was entirely given amount of crap that most women go through by some guys

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

This is turning into a geordie post.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"This is turning into a geordie post."

I also see

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"OP, women do not have it easy on here. Yes, we do get loads of messages (usually) but it's like shifting through all your junk mail in your mailbox just to find that one piece of mail you need/want/have been looking for. Opposite to the junk mail in your physical mailbox, the junk mail here tends to get impatient if you took your time to reply/may send abuse if you decline/may ask "why" in order to change your mind etc. Block button gets very handy in those situations. Oh, and most of those messaging you have not read your profile or decided they'd try anyway, despite what your profile says.

So no, women don't have it easy on here, OP "

The 34 year old woman local to me, who has been in Fab 3 months now, and has 38 meet veris from 29 guys might disagree…..

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By *kjay86Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

For every woman and couple on here there are hundreds of single men. I've not looked at your profile, but judging by the comments I expect you just need to make it stand out a bit. Talk about your experience, what you're looking for, something interesting about yourself. Don't have to show your face, but some creative photos even if it overly revealing will help. Also, if you're easily put out, disheartened or offended then it's not the place for you mate. Everyone has different struggles on a site like this, you just have to persist with it, remain respectful and hope you maybe get a bit lucky too.

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"Don’t get me wrong Im in contact with 3 women on here that are interested now and have looked at this thread "

Bet they are running a mile now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your best bet is to visit a club or clubs. Get talking to people, get yourself some verifications. Get to know the scene. Add some good quality pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just seen your profile. Couple of points.

1) Would you really meet a 99 year old?

2) you mention exploring kinks. Maybe list them

3) No veris

4) Bad pictures

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"For every woman and couple on here there are hundreds of single men. I've not looked at your profile, but judging by the comments I expect you just need to make it stand out a bit. Talk about your experience, what you're looking for, something interesting about yourself. Don't have to show your face, but some creative photos even if it overly revealing will help. Also, if you're easily put out, disheartened or offended then it's not the place for you mate. Everyone has different struggles on a site like this, you just have to persist with it, remain respectful and hope you maybe get a bit lucky too."

There may be 100's but that doesn't mean it's any easier. There could be just us and 1000 single guys on the whole site but if there were only 10 we were I terested in it would take a bloody long time going through all the profiles and there'd be no guarantee those 10 would have any interest in us.

The ratios aren't an advantage.

A

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By *kjay86Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"For every woman and couple on here there are hundreds of single men. I've not looked at your profile, but judging by the comments I expect you just need to make it stand out a bit. Talk about your experience, what you're looking for, something interesting about yourself. Don't have to show your face, but some creative photos even if it overly revealing will help. Also, if you're easily put out, disheartened or offended then it's not the place for you mate. Everyone has different struggles on a site like this, you just have to persist with it, remain respectful and hope you maybe get a bit lucky too.

There may be 100's but that doesn't mean it's any easier. There could be just us and 1000 single guys on the whole site but if there were only 10 we were I terested in it would take a bloody long time going through all the profiles and there'd be no guarantee those 10 would have any interest in us.

The ratios aren't an advantage.

A"

Agree, it was more the point that women and couples will be bombarded due to the sheer numbers difference, so a lot of work required to actually find those worth talking to. Also that some work needs to go into a profile for that very reason, it needs to stand out.

I've had a couple's profile before and have a few female friends on here too, so I've seen how crazy the inboxes get.

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By *orthridingMan
over a year ago

Knutsford

Excellent advice and recommendations from all posters...key points to be noted..the bottom line is basically stand out and be noticed.....a d if you don't succeed...try again...

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville


"Think a lot of men are finding it hard on this app to get a women to talk to not even for a meet I’ve been on and off here for 8 years and i will say I’ve only ever had one meet the whole time I’ve been on here anybody want to shade some light on this subject

I seem to do alright thank you "

Probably because you're a positive person who doesn't blame everyone else for being the reason that women aren't meeting them! Some men on here seem to be so self entitled that they deserve a meet just by actually being on here!

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville


"OP, women do not have it easy on here. Yes, we do get loads of messages (usually) but it's like shifting through all your junk mail in your mailbox just to find that one piece of mail you need/want/have been looking for. Opposite to the junk mail in your physical mailbox, the junk mail here tends to get impatient if you took your time to reply/may send abuse if you decline/may ask "why" in order to change your mind etc. Block button gets very handy in those situations. Oh, and most of those messaging you have not read your profile or decided they'd try anyway, despite what your profile says.

So no, women don't have it easy on here, OP

The 34 year old woman local to me, who has been in Fab 3 months now, and has 38 meet veris from 29 guys might disagree….. "

How about the guy near me who has 40 veris in 6 months. It works both ways. His profile is amazing, as are his pics and general outlook on here. He's not a negative nelly though

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By *hogun300Man
over a year ago

Dundee


"Think a lot of men are finding it hard on this app to get a women to talk to not even for a meet I’ve been on and off here for 8 years and i will say I’ve only ever had one meet the whole time I’ve been on here anybody want to shade some light on this subject "

You have been on at various times for 8 years and still have not learnt that your profile is your shop window. Put the effort in. Go to socials, get yourself out there. Drop the attitude and stop blaming women and couples for your lack of success. It's not fool proof but it will help.

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville


"Think a lot of men are finding it hard on this app to get a women to talk to not even for a meet I’ve been on and off here for 8 years and i will say I’ve only ever had one meet the whole time I’ve been on here anybody want to shade some light on this subject

You have been on at various times for 8 years and still have not learnt that your profile is your shop window. Put the effort in. Go to socials, get yourself out there. Drop the attitude and stop blaming women and couples for your lack of success. It's not fool proof but it will help. "

Absolutely

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

First thing all guys think when they get ignored on fab..

A. Not trying hard enough

B. Need to change profile

None of this is true

Swinging is niche activity mostly by couples in clubs ....

Best ignore all above advice , save yourself the pain and torture have people tell you what " they think your doing wrong" or " you need to stand out "

don't renew your subscription , engage with people in the real world.. the real world is a less nastier and better place.. good luck

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"First thing all guys think when they get ignored on fab..

A. Not trying hard enough

B. Need to change profile

None of this is true

Swinging is niche activity mostly by couples in clubs ....

Best ignore all above advice , save yourself the pain and torture have people tell you what " they think your doing wrong" or " you need to stand out "

don't renew your subscription , engage with people in the real world.. the real world is a less nastier and better place.. good luck

Goes without saying anyone who s struggling with their mental health stop using this app...

"

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"Maybe take a look at the common variable….yourself?

I highly agree there are to many men on this but some of the women and couples think there gods gift when talking to you and it’s just not interesting "

If you feel that way then delete your account

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"Don’t get me wrong Im in contact with 3 women on here that are interested now and have looked at this thread

Sounds like you don't have a problem then!

Thread complete "

Can't quite understand what the problem is considering he is in contact with 3 women and meets more women on tinder than anywhere else..seems like a pointless thread to make.

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
over a year ago

Bedale

The reality is it's a numbers game.

When it comes to single females there simply aren't enough of them to go around and standard economics will tell you how that plays out. The sexual marketplace is no different to the financial one. Low supply + high demand = High price. High supply + low demand = low price.

When it comes to couples, they are going to want someone to play with who brings something to the table for them both. For some couples a single guy will do that, given that some actively get off on sharing their wife but for many (like us) the male is indifferent to the sharing itself, he's in it for mutual benefit so he's going to want another couple because ultimately you bring nothing to the table for him.

The biological reality is that single males are always going to offer comparatively little value in the marketplace, almost regardless of their quality; though of course that helps. It's not personal, it's just a fact.

You can either deal with that, keep on buggering on and bide your time, perhaps with some self improvement if there is scope for it. Or you can leave. Those are the options, because it's never going to change

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"The reality is it's a numbers game.

When it comes to single females there simply aren't enough of them to go around and standard economics will tell you how that plays out. The sexual marketplace is no different to the financial one. Low supply + high demand = High price. High supply + low demand = low price.

When it comes to couples, they are going to want someone to play with who brings something to the table for them both. For some couples a single guy will do that, given that some actively get off on sharing their wife but for many (like us) the male is indifferent to the sharing itself, he's in it for mutual benefit so he's going to want another couple because ultimately you bring nothing to the table for him.

The biological reality is that single males are always going to offer comparatively little value in the marketplace, almost regardless of their quality; though of course that helps. It's not personal, it's just a fact.

You can either deal with that, keep on buggering on and bide your time, perhaps with some self improvement if there is scope for it. Or you can leave. Those are the options, because it's never going to change "

Sorry but that's bollocks.

How do uou work out single males 'offer comparatively little value in the marketplace' when there are plenty of couples looking for single guys, plenty of single women looking for single guys and plenty of guys looking for other guys?

Just because some couples only look for other couples doesn't mean that's the majority by any stretch.

There are far more dynamics in swinging than good old fashioned wife swapping.

The attitude that any sector of the swinging community is superior or more in demand than any other is pretty narrow minded and arrogant. It may be a personal view, but it's certainly not 'fact'.

A

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
over a year ago

Bedale

You aren't familiar with what the word "comparatively" means are you?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"You aren't familiar with what the word "comparatively" means are you?"

Oh I am completely.

Just because single guys offer you little doesn't mean that they 'comparitively' offer little to anyone else. You're assuming your dynamic takes priority and is preferable over that of others.

Times have changed. Swinging isn't just couples meeting other couples and hasn't been for decades. Singles, whether female or male are as welcome as wanted as couples.

A

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
over a year ago

Bedale

Then I'm sure you can explain why there are so many single males complaining of having a hard time finding anyone. Far more than any other demographic from what I can see.

It's not a value judgement on them as people, and you're surprisingly defensive about it for a couple. It's just a fact that on average they bring less to the table for what most people want than a couple or a single female does.

For those looking for single males and single males only of course they bring value, there are just far fewer of those than there are of people looking for females or couples. Like I said, a numbers game.

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By *he James gangCouple
over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY


"So your profile picture, the only one you have. You took that and thought ‘yep, that’s me looking as hot and interesting as possible, I’m going with this one’

FFS, you have to market yourself, you are in competition with a mass of other horny available men. Okay so no face shot but

Dress shirt, jacket, look dapper, interesting, like you see the sun sometimes… that you look like you’ll turn up smelling clean.

If you lack the self awareness of understanding the importance of your shopfront, no second chance to make a first impression, profile then you don’t stand a chance on any website let alone Fab

of course I understand that fully I’ve put on weight which is driving me mad and I’m at the gym everyday at work and I get where your Comeing from "

Gym is a waste of time if you're not eating correctly. Try slimming world, it's a eye opener. It's amazing how much you can eat of the proper food. I went down from 18 10 to 16 St in a few months. To be honest, your pic is the elephant in the room. Sharp suit etc would come across much more pleasing to the eye. Think yourself lucky there's sites like this. Back in the day it was disco's, were the only way to meet girls, never mind swingers! Also, too many guys think fab is a sure fire way to get their Nat king cole, but if you don't put the effort in, zero response is inevitable. What is a female of your age looking for? Have you got it? The competition should be your benchmark and work towards that instead and I'm being brutally honest here, I think your aiming for the bigger girl because you think, if their big, they won't have an issue with your weight. Doesn't necessarily follow, that particular train of thought (if I'm correct in that assumption). Have you got a girlfriend? If not, think of the possible reasons why. If you have, stop your whinging.

All meant as constructive feedback, chin up, look to the future!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think a lot of men are finding it hard on this app to get a women to talk to not even for a meet I’ve been on and off here for 8 years and i will say I’ve only ever had one meet the whole time I’ve been on here anybody want to shade some light on this subject "

You say you've been on and off for 8 years...your current profile is 5 months old, you're "only" 27, and your bio is pretty lacking in effort. Are you just expecting us women to throw ourselves at you? Perhaps make some effort on your profile, and stop being so entitled and perhaps you'll find a bit more success

Mrs

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By *he James gangCouple
over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY


"The reality is it's a numbers game.

When it comes to single females there simply aren't enough of them to go around and standard economics will tell you how that plays out. The sexual marketplace is no different to the financial one. Low supply + high demand = High price. High supply + low demand = low price.

When it comes to couples, they are going to want someone to play with who brings something to the table for them both. For some couples a single guy will do that, given that some actively get off on sharing their wife but for many (like us) the male is indifferent to the sharing itself, he's in it for mutual benefit so he's going to want another couple because ultimately you bring nothing to the table for him.

The biological reality is that single males are always going to offer comparatively little value in the marketplace, almost regardless of their quality; though of course that helps. It's not personal, it's just a fact.

You can either deal with that, keep on buggering on and bide your time, perhaps with some self improvement if there is scope for it. Or you can leave. Those are the options, because it's never going to change

Sorry but that's bollocks.

How do uou work out single males 'offer comparatively little value in the marketplace' when there are plenty of couples looking for single guys, plenty of single women looking for single guys and plenty of guys looking for other guys?

Just because some couples only look for other couples doesn't mean that's the majority by any stretch.

There are far more dynamics in swinging than good old fashioned wife swapping.

The attitude that any sector of the swinging community is superior or more in demand than any other is pretty narrow minded and arrogant. It may be a personal view, but it's certainly not 'fact'.

A"

Quite agree, if it wasn't for single guys at party's, a lot of women would be going home drier than the gobi desert. For some couples the male likes to stand back and watch, if no single guys, not enough todger to go round, simples!

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By *he James gangCouple
over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

My last word and it's a major red flag, you're 27, single and can't accommodate. Living with mammy and daddy perhaps!

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

I didn’t read much beyond the whiney first post. I’m surprised it took so much scrolling down, to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really struggle with the 'can't show face pics due to work' thing.

I mean, anyone who sees you on here and says anything will also be outing themselves.

Think about it 'I saw him on a swinging website'

'Really, you use a swinging website?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think a lot of men are finding it hard on this app to get a women to talk to not even for a meet I’ve been on and off here for 8 years and i will say I’ve only ever had one meet the whole time I’ve been on here anybody want to shade some light on this subject "

Don't listen to the usual fab womens response of you are at fault etc etc. You aren't. This is not a place to meet women, unfortunately. You are way better trying the regular dating apps, plenty kinky women on them with less attitude and power trip nonsense in their heads. I know that's an edgy comment but I'm afraid as many guys will testify it is the truth.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"I really struggle with the 'can't show face pics due to work' thing.

I mean, anyone who sees you on here and says anything will also be outing themselves.

Think about it 'I saw him on a swinging website'

'Really, you use a swinging website?'

"

Agree with this, we couldn't care less who sees us on here because if they do then clearly obv they are to...this face picture nonsense is just a get out clause for being fake or married! If you must be willing to ahow your face on websites like these, folk are not going to meet someone they have never seen..

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Then I'm sure you can explain why there are so many single males complaining of having a hard time finding anyone. Far more than any other demographic from what I can see.

It's not a value judgement on them as people, and you're surprisingly defensive about it for a couple. It's just a fact that on average they bring less to the table for what most people want than a couple or a single female does.

For those looking for single males and single males only of course they bring value, there are just far fewer of those than there are of people looking for females or couples. Like I said, a numbers game. "

Less than 1% of the site use the forums. Men tend to be more vocal when struggling to get meets and trust me - 99% of the time it has little to do with them being men and everything to do with factors such as profile content, message content, attitude and expectancy.

Browse the forums more and you'll see almost as many posts from couples asking why they struggle to meet other couples and frequent posts bemoaning the fact they can't find magical unicorns.

Most of the time it's again down to profile content and attitude/expectancy. As shown here by the simple claim that men bring less to the table than women or couples. They don't. Everyone in the world of swinging is an equal party. Nobody has higher status, nobody is more important and there's no hierarchy or league table.

There are guys on Fab living the life of Riley, meeting frequently, in high demand and having as much fun as any couple or woman.

As for me being 'surprisingly defensive about it for a couple' ?

Why shouldn't I defend other site users? I'd do the same if someone was bemoaning couples, single women or TV's. The attitude shown by some couples that they and women are superior to lowly single men just perpetuates the myth that guys aren't welcome on the scene and that they're an inconvenience.

Which couldn't be further from the truth.

A

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By *awty_TwoCouple
over a year ago

Near Maidstone


"At this point I’m kinda past careing as tinder is probably best place for swingers for men as I’ve found out myself just saying what most men are dealing with on this website "

Not really sure you’re a swinger to be honest, more a guy wanting to get laid, in which case plenty of fish would be our suggestion

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By *awty_TwoCouple
over a year ago

Near Maidstone


"Think a lot of men are finding it hard on this app to get a women to talk to not even for a meet I’ve been on and off here for 8 years and i will say I’ve only ever had one meet the whole time I’ve been on here anybody want to shade some light on this subject

Don't listen to the usual fab womens response of you are at fault etc etc. You aren't. This is not a place to meet women, unfortunately. You are way better trying the regular dating apps, plenty kinky women on them with less attitude and power trip nonsense in their heads. I know that's an edgy comment but I'm afraid as many guys will testify it is the truth. "

So why are you here?

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

.


"I have a tiny penis "

It's ok bud, so do I

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP sounds like you are basically after vanilla one on one hook-ups. That is not really swinging and if that is all you want then other apps quite possibly a lot better. If you want more - threesomes, moresomes, house parties, clubs, socials, maybe something kinky, etc then this is a good place but you've got to put in the effort. "
nope looking for other stuff to as vanilla is okay but I’m in to other things and don’t mind hook ups but like fwb and more

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think a lot of men are finding it hard on this app to get a women to talk to not even for a meet I’ve been on and off here for 8 years and i will say I’ve only ever had one meet the whole time I’ve been on here anybody want to shade some light on this subject

Don't listen to the usual fab womens response of you are at fault etc etc. You aren't. This is not a place to meet women, unfortunately. You are way better trying the regular dating apps, plenty kinky women on them with less attitude and power trip nonsense in their heads. I know that's an edgy comment but I'm afraid as many guys will testify it is the truth. "
a man that talks sense at last

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think a lot of men are finding it hard on this app to get a women to talk to not even for a meet I’ve been on and off here for 8 years and i will say I’ve only ever had one meet the whole time I’ve been on here anybody want to shade some light on this subject

Don't listen to the usual fab womens response of you are at fault etc etc. You aren't. This is not a place to meet women, unfortunately. You are way better trying the regular dating apps, plenty kinky women on them with less attitude and power trip nonsense in their heads. I know that's an edgy comment but I'm afraid as many guys will testify it is the truth. "

This is exactly the kind of guy that ruins women’s experience on here. Why be on here if that’s how you feel? Just awful attitude!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think a lot of men are finding it hard on this app to get a women to talk to not even for a meet I’ve been on and off here for 8 years and i will say I’ve only ever had one meet the whole time I’ve been on here anybody want to shade some light on this subject

You say you've been on and off for 8 years...your current profile is 5 months old, you're "only" 27, and your bio is pretty lacking in effort. Are you just expecting us women to throw ourselves at you? Perhaps make some effort on your profile, and stop being so entitled and perhaps you'll find a bit more success

Mrs"
wouldn’t say I want women to throw themselfs at me been there worn the T-shirt and no need to had a lot of positive mails via this thread

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

.


"I really struggle with the 'can't show face pics due to work' thing.

I mean, anyone who sees you on here and says anything will also be outing themselves.

Think about it 'I saw him on a swinging website'

'Really, you use a swinging website?'

"

In a lot of cases work is wife spelled incorrectly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My last word and it's a major red flag, you're 27, single and can't accommodate. Living with mammy and daddy perhaps!"
haha I don’t acom due to nosey nebours and I met a girl on fet life that I took home and she stalked me for 4 mouths and had to get a restraining order as she keep trying to break in to my home so yeah single though choice and don’t like people in my home due to being a single father so grow up will you honestly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So your profile picture, the only one you have. You took that and thought ‘yep, that’s me looking as hot and interesting as possible, I’m going with this one’

FFS, you have to market yourself, you are in competition with a mass of other horny available men. Okay so no face shot but

Dress shirt, jacket, look dapper, interesting, like you see the sun sometimes… that you look like you’ll turn up smelling clean.

If you lack the self awareness of understanding the importance of your shopfront, no second chance to make a first impression, profile then you don’t stand a chance on any website let alone Fab

of course I understand that fully I’ve put on weight which is driving me mad and I’m at the gym everyday at work and I get where your Comeing from

Gym is a waste of time if you're not eating correctly. Try slimming world, it's a eye opener. It's amazing how much you can eat of the proper food. I went down from 18 10 to 16 St in a few months. To be honest, your pic is the elephant in the room. Sharp suit etc would come across much more pleasing to the eye. Think yourself lucky there's sites like this. Back in the day it was disco's, were the only way to meet girls, never mind swingers! Also, too many guys think fab is a sure fire way to get their Nat king cole, but if you don't put the effort in, zero response is inevitable. What is a female of your age looking for? Have you got it? The competition should be your benchmark and work towards that instead and I'm being brutally honest here, I think your aiming for the bigger girl because you think, if their big, they won't have an issue with your weight. Doesn't necessarily follow, that particular train of thought (if I'm correct in that assumption). Have you got a girlfriend? If not, think of the possible reasons why. If you have, stop your whinging.

All meant as constructive feedback, chin up, look to the future!

"
to be fair I’m not even that big I eat better than most and no I honesty like bigger women it’s a preference always has been

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

I think that negativity is an unattractive trait.

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By *straeus and AthenaCouple
over a year ago

Canterbury

So a fair bit to unpack here we think!

Firstly profile, if you want to do better your profile needs a lot of work. You need at a minimum some pictures of you looking smart. Try and get a full body pic in as well ( nice underwear is fine).

Then you need to talk about you succinctly and explain what you are about and what you are looking for.

You also need to change your written "voice". You mostly write in one long stream of words with no punctuation and poor grammar. At best you come across as not willing to put the effort in to your time here, at worst you come across as a bit thick. Neither are attractive qualities so improving your written communication is important.

Lastly your attitude needs a bit of a tweak. In giving the old woe is me, men have it so hard treatment, you come across as bitter, resentful and a bit of an incel. Noone will pick that over smart, charming and funny. Change your attitude and outlook.

Were sure you are probably a great guy, but your profile and forum posts are that of someone we would pass over.

Hope that helps

A&A

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I think its the men that actually like women, and not just see them as a shag that do well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand why after 8 years here and little success, you blame women and don't look to yourself?

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By *ucifer And MazikeenCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Hi op same as most have said above one thing we would point out the opening message you say you send. To us we are sure that opening line must be on Google search for first message to send on a dating site as it is word for word to lots of messages we get off single males. So would not get a response as very copy and paste style then you just add a bit at the end

Hope this helps

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By *he James gangCouple
over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY


"My last word and it's a major red flag, you're 27, single and can't accommodate. Living with mammy and daddy perhaps! haha I don’t acom due to nosey nebours and I met a girl on fet life that I took home and she stalked me for 4 mouths and had to get a restraining order as she keep trying to break in to my home so yeah single though choice and don’t like people in my home due to being a single father so grow up will you honestly "

Well, why don't you say you can't accommodate for xyz reasons, or people will think you're married or living at mums house. With all of the above comments, you still haven't changed your pic or bio. Your going to have to totally re-brand yourself, new handle, better pics and bio. As it is, nothing will change and I would suggest, probably get worse. Reason being, you haven't been successful so far and this post isn't doing you any favours. Don't think it's me that has to grow up, I'm not the one complaining about lack of attention!

F

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Think a lot of men are finding it hard on this app to get a women to talk to not even for a meet I’ve been on and off here for 8 years and i will say I’ve only ever had one meet the whole time I’ve been on here anybody want to shade some light on this subject

Don't listen to the usual fab womens response of you are at fault etc etc. You aren't. This is not a place to meet women, unfortunately. You are way better trying the regular dating apps, plenty kinky women on them with less attitude and power trip nonsense in their heads. I know that's an edgy comment but I'm afraid as many guys will testify it is the truth. "

I agree,a lot of guys will testify what you said is the truth. They are the ones who make almost no effort on here,look down on the women on here and think it's dial a ride and moan about it constantly on the forums that they also look down on.

And yes also, SOME women have inflated egos on here but blame the ones who put them on a pedestal for that.

My opinion not that it counts for much is everyone is equal on here no one has power over anyone else.No one else is to blame for anyone else's lack of success. Especially when zero effort is made and moaning is never attractive.

I don't give advice on here anymore because it is completely pointless because usually it's ignored anyhow,and what I look for is not want others look for.

There are plenty of men who have great success on here. If you're not one then maybe look at yourself and why it might be the case. If ye have more luck on dating sites then why not concentrate on those why would you waste your time on here if that's the case.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter


"Think a lot of men are finding it hard on this app to get a women to talk to not even for a meet I’ve been on and off here for 8 years and i will say I’ve only ever had one meet the whole time I’ve been on here anybody want to shade some light on this subject

Don't listen to the usual fab womens response of you are at fault etc etc. You aren't. This is not a place to meet women, unfortunately. You are way better trying the regular dating apps, plenty kinky women on them with less attitude and power trip nonsense in their heads. I know that's an edgy comment but I'm afraid as many guys will testify it is the truth. "

Utter Bollox, I’m on Fab ONLY to meet women and couples for interesting, kinky and exciting sex, I don’t want a vanilla monogamous relationship. I’ve used dating apps so I know how they compare and they don’t. Show me one Tinder date where you’ve turned up and your date is at the door wearing just lingerie, a smile and twirling a pair of handcuffs. I suspect the complaints about “attitude” and “power trips” are simply women exercising their right to choose… and they’re not choosing you. 8 years and one meet? If you bothered to fine tune and improve your profile, go to a social event or two, network and connect… but you don’t… instead you have your little forum tantrums and blame the women. Check your attitude and examine yourself.

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By *iking-VixenCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

This! ????

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By *iking-VixenCouple
over a year ago

plymouth


"This! ????"

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"OP, women do not have it easy on here. Yes, we do get loads of messages (usually) but it's like shifting through all your junk mail in your mailbox just to find that one piece of mail you need/want/have been looking for. Opposite to the junk mail in your physical mailbox, the junk mail here tends to get impatient if you took your time to reply/may send abuse if you decline/may ask "why" in order to change your mind etc. Block button gets very handy in those situations. Oh, and most of those messaging you have not read your profile or decided they'd try anyway, despite what your profile says.

So no, women don't have it easy on here, OP

The 34 year old woman local to me, who has been in Fab 3 months now, and has 38 meet veris from 29 guys might disagree…..

How about the guy near me who has 40 veris in 6 months. It works both ways. His profile is amazing, as are his pics and general outlook on here. He's not a negative nelly though "

Perhaps you could share this profile’s name here, so the OP and other single guys could compare their profiles against his? All positive help works for the greater good of all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think a lot of men are finding it hard on this app to get a women to talk to not even for a meet I’ve been on and off here for 8 years and i will say I’ve only ever had one meet the whole time I’ve been on here anybody want to shade some light on this subject

Don't listen to the usual fab womens response of you are at fault etc etc. You aren't. This is not a place to meet women, unfortunately. You are way better trying the regular dating apps, plenty kinky women on them with less attitude and power trip nonsense in their heads. I know that's an edgy comment but I'm afraid as many guys will testify it is the truth. "

It is exactly the place to meet women...however guys need to realise that they need to make some effort, instead of lazy profiles, with no pics. You're in a crowded pool, lads - make yourselves stand out!

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think a lot of men are finding it hard on this app to get a women to talk to not even for a meet I’ve been on and off here for 8 years and i will say I’ve only ever had one meet the whole time I’ve been on here anybody want to shade some light on this subject

Don't listen to the usual fab womens response of you are at fault etc etc. You aren't. This is not a place to meet women, unfortunately. You are way better trying the regular dating apps, plenty kinky women on them with less attitude and power trip nonsense in their heads. I know that's an edgy comment but I'm afraid as many guys will testify it is the truth.

Utter Bollox, I’m on Fab ONLY to meet women and couples for interesting, kinky and exciting sex, I don’t want a vanilla monogamous relationship. I’ve used dating apps so I know how they compare and they don’t. Show me one Tinder date where you’ve turned up and your date is at the door wearing just lingerie, a smile and twirling a pair of handcuffs. I suspect the complaints about “attitude” and “power trips” are simply women exercising their right to choose… and they’re not choosing you. 8 years and one meet? If you bothered to fine tune and improve your profile, go to a social event or two, network and connect… but you don’t… instead you have your little forum tantrums and blame the women. Check your attitude and examine yourself.

"

Mantrums

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By *hogun300Man
over a year ago

Dundee


"I really struggle with the 'can't show face pics due to work' thing.

I mean, anyone who sees you on here and says anything will also be outing themselves.

Think about it 'I saw him on a swinging website'

'Really, you use a swinging website?'

"

Yea it's nonsense. We all have jobs and other things going on. It's an excuse.

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By *hogun300Man
over a year ago

Dundee


"Think a lot of men are finding it hard on this app to get a women to talk to not even for a meet I’ve been on and off here for 8 years and i will say I’ve only ever had one meet the whole time I’ve been on here anybody want to shade some light on this subject

Don't listen to the usual fab womens response of you are at fault etc etc. You aren't. This is not a place to meet women, unfortunately. You are way better trying the regular dating apps, plenty kinky women on them with less attitude and power trip nonsense in their heads. I know that's an edgy comment but I'm afraid as many guys will testify it is the truth. "

This is laughable. Why is it always those that perhaps struggle on here have this chip on their shoulder. It couldn't possibly be you. Yes other apps are available. Perhaps should check your own attitude.

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By *hogun300Man
over a year ago

Dundee


"My last word and it's a major red flag, you're 27, single and can't accommodate. Living with mammy and daddy perhaps! haha I don’t acom due to nosey nebours and I met a girl on fet life that I took home and she stalked me for 4 mouths and had to get a restraining order as she keep trying to break in to my home so yeah single though choice and don’t like people in my home due to being a single father so grow up will you honestly "

Think you live in fantasy land

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever


"I think its the men that actually like women, and not just see them as a shag that do well."

Absolutely on point. Also those men who simply like themselves.

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Hmm, so we are new here and this kind of rant is really off putting to the site and to the individual making it.

No one is owed a meet and the attitude coming off here would make me nervous, even with my partner with me. I love having fun and enjoy sharing our sex life but there is always the option to say stop or no, change your mind (for any party involved) etc. This post comes across as "this is what I want. I deserve it. I dont care about you and what you want"

It isnt a positive read at all.

Just the opinion of a newbie and it doesnt matter what i think but really doesnt paint a positive opinion at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmm, so we are new here and this kind of rant is really off putting to the site and to the individual making it.

No one is owed a meet and the attitude coming off here would make me nervous, even with my partner with me. I love having fun and enjoy sharing our sex life but there is always the option to say stop or no, change your mind (for any party involved) etc. This post comes across as "this is what I want. I deserve it. I dont care about you and what you want"

It isnt a positive read at all.

Just the opinion of a newbie and it doesnt matter what i think but really doesnt paint a positive opinion at all. "

^^this right here! As a single woman I find it very unnerving as well.

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Im sorry it makes you feel nervous too. Completely understand why single women would be very cautious about meets etc, posts/attitudes like this really dont help at all.

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By *he James gangCouple
over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

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By *he James gangCouple
over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

I think the line in 'a few good men' by Col Nathan R Jessup

"You can't handle the truth" is apt here!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Hmm, so we are new here and this kind of rant is really off putting to the site and to the individual making it.

No one is owed a meet and the attitude coming off here would make me nervous, even with my partner with me. I love having fun and enjoy sharing our sex life but there is always the option to say stop or no, change your mind (for any party involved) etc. This post comes across as "this is what I want. I deserve it. I dont care about you and what you want"

It isnt a positive read at all.

Just the opinion of a newbie and it doesnt matter what i think but really doesnt paint a positive opinion at all.

^^this right here! As a single woman I find it very unnerving as well. "

Don’t take this the wrong way, but your verifications show you to be a very confident lady. I need to find a Friday to get over and try Shhh soon

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

There is a lot of helpful advice here and I hope the OP takes heed.

Coming onto the forum and complaining that people turning down a message because either they don't find the person attractive or because the profile is poor is not being up their own arse. Everyone has standards, if you make no effort then why should people bother?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"There is a lot of helpful advice here and I hope the OP takes heed.

Coming onto the forum and complaining that people turning down a message because either they don't find the person attractive or because the profile is poor is not being up their own arse. Everyone has standards, if you make no effort then why should people bother?"

To be fair to the OP, he came on to the forum looking for advice, and some people have given him positive responses about making improvements to his profile, so hopefully he will take these onboard, and go on to enjoy a more ‘fabulous’ experience in here than he has so far

The difficulty with this site is the lack of responses to messages. You can see your messages have either been unopened, or read then no reply. I appreciate how the ladies in here have an altogether Polar opposite experience, but there’s nothing more frustrating than silence….

I hope the OP can take something from this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmm, so we are new here and this kind of rant is really off putting to the site and to the individual making it.

No one is owed a meet and the attitude coming off here would make me nervous, even with my partner with me. I love having fun and enjoy sharing our sex life but there is always the option to say stop or no, change your mind (for any party involved) etc. This post comes across as "this is what I want. I deserve it. I dont care about you and what you want"

It isnt a positive read at all.

Just the opinion of a newbie and it doesnt matter what i think but really doesnt paint a positive opinion at all.

^^this right here! As a single woman I find it very unnerving as well.

Don’t take this the wrong way, but your verifications show you to be a very confident lady. I need to find a Friday to get over and try Shhh soon "

Thank you if you notice though, my verifications are mostly from the club where I feel safe and people are genuine. I’ve only met a handful of men from fab itself. I go on Saturdays so if you’re ever going feel free to message and come say hi xx

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee


"There is a lot of helpful advice here and I hope the OP takes heed.

Coming onto the forum and complaining that people turning down a message because either they don't find the person attractive or because the profile is poor is not being up their own arse. Everyone has standards, if you make no effort then why should people bother?

To be fair to the OP, he came on to the forum looking for advice, and some people have given him positive responses about making improvements to his profile, so hopefully he will take these onboard, and go on to enjoy a more ‘fabulous’ experience in here than he has so far

The difficulty with this site is the lack of responses to messages. You can see your messages have either been unopened, or read then no reply. I appreciate how the ladies in here have an altogether Polar opposite experience, but there’s nothing more frustrating than silence….

I hope the OP can take something from this thread "

Yet the FAQs clearly state that no response is a no thanks, so why do people get frustrated over something that we are all told will happen? Do they think they're special so should get treated differently?

People who demand a response grind my gears because they clearly haven't bothered to read the FAQs.

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By *hogun300Man
over a year ago

Dundee


"There is a lot of helpful advice here and I hope the OP takes heed.

Coming onto the forum and complaining that people turning down a message because either they don't find the person attractive or because the profile is poor is not being up their own arse. Everyone has standards, if you make no effort then why should people bother?

To be fair to the OP, he came on to the forum looking for advice, and some people have given him positive responses about making improvements to his profile, so hopefully he will take these onboard, and go on to enjoy a more ‘fabulous’ experience in here than he has so far

The difficulty with this site is the lack of responses to messages. You can see your messages have either been unopened, or read then no reply. I appreciate how the ladies in here have an altogether Polar opposite experience, but there’s nothing more frustrating than silence….

I hope the OP can take something from this thread "

You are owed nothing. No one Is due a response of any description. A no response means not interested wether message is read or not. It can be frustrating but that's the way it is for all. Moaning about it isn't going to change it or the fact that it's clearly stated in the f.a.qs

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By *BW.EvaWoman
over a year ago

Carrington, Manchester

OK, so having read through this, OP needs to realise

1) age matters - most people want the experience that age brings. I won't go under 30 and that's at a push!

2) Location matters - I won't do private meets or socials anymore due to the number of no shows in the past 6 months (17) and having had one fwb develop an emotional attachment as we met privately. So my rule is club meets only. That means it narrows the field, and I get abuse and guys still try to push their luck over it

3) what you are into matters - vanilla is not what this game is about. And if you are in it just for mff, you are gona struggle aswell. You are more likely to end up in an mmf situation.

4) opening message counts - "nice tits" or "fancy a fuck" are useless. You need a good header with a well spelled and punctuated message. We get so many crap ones that something that grabs our attention and makes us want to reply is what you need to do

5) add a face pic to your first message - you may not have them on your profile, either openly or as friends pics, but you can have them in your private folder and send so that they disappear once read.

I speak to many gents in their 40s and 50s who are professionals who use this site, and it is all about how you make a good first impression, like in real life

As a BBW, I get abuse in the street, as well as in here, am used to it, but also have my admirers. But I am able to chose the ones that are actually worth the time of day and are not just "I wana fuck a fat bird!"

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Hmm, so we are new here and this kind of rant is really off putting to the site and to the individual making it.

No one is owed a meet and the attitude coming off here would make me nervous, even with my partner with me. I love having fun and enjoy sharing our sex life but there is always the option to say stop or no, change your mind (for any party involved) etc. This post comes across as "this is what I want. I deserve it. I dont care about you and what you want"

It isnt a positive read at all.

Just the opinion of a newbie and it doesnt matter what i think but really doesnt paint a positive opinion at all.

^^this right here! As a single woman I find it very unnerving as well.

Don’t take this the wrong way, but your verifications show you to be a very confident lady. I need to find a Friday to get over and try Shhh soon

Thank you if you notice though, my verifications are mostly from the club where I feel safe and people are genuine. I’ve only met a handful of men from fab itself. I go on Saturdays so if you’re ever going feel free to message and come say hi xx "

Are solo guys allowed in Shhh on a Saturday night? It’s usually couples and solo fems on Saturdays for clubs I thought? x

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

Lol why do you sound surprised

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