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By *yreGuy99 OP Man
over a year ago

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Hey everyone. How do some of you handle your mental health?

Really been struggling recently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey everyone. How do some of you handle your mental health?

Really been struggling recently."

See friends and family.

If you are feeling really down, maybe get some professional help/therapy.

What's getting you down ?

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By *yreGuy99 OP Man
over a year ago

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"Hey everyone. How do some of you handle your mental health?

Really been struggling recently.

See friends and family.

If you are feeling really down, maybe get some professional help/therapy.

What's getting you down ? "

Yes I think docs/therapy will have to be the way. Friends and family are never around. Like yesterday was my bday and not one person even spoke to me. That hurt a lot to be honest.

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"Hey everyone. How do some of you handle your mental health?

Really been struggling recently.

See friends and family.

If you are feeling really down, maybe get some professional help/therapy.

What's getting you down ?

Yes I think docs/therapy will have to be the way. Friends and family are never around. Like yesterday was my bday and not one person even spoke to me. That hurt a lot to be honest."

Belated happy birthday for yesterday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey everyone. How do some of you handle your mental health?

Really been struggling recently.

See friends and family.

If you are feeling really down, maybe get some professional help/therapy.

What's getting you down ?

Yes I think docs/therapy will have to be the way. Friends and family are never around. Like yesterday was my bday and not one person even spoke to me. That hurt a lot to be honest."

Happy birthday mate.

Hope you get the help you need.

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By *yreGuy99 OP Man
over a year ago

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"Hey everyone. How do some of you handle your mental health?

Really been struggling recently.

See friends and family.

If you are feeling really down, maybe get some professional help/therapy.

What's getting you down ?

Yes I think docs/therapy will have to be the way. Friends and family are never around. Like yesterday was my bday and not one person even spoke to me. That hurt a lot to be honest.

Belated happy birthday for yesterday "

Thank you.

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By *yreGuy99 OP Man
over a year ago

Doesn't matter

"Hey everyone. How do some of you handle your mental health?

Really been struggling recently.

See friends and family.

If you are feeling really down, maybe get some professional help/therapy.

What's getting you down ?

Yes I think docs/therapy will have to be the way. Friends and family are never around. Like yesterday was my bday and not one person even spoke to me. That hurt a lot to be honest.

Happy birthday mate.

Hope you get the help you need. "

Thank you for the suggestion of therapy. I will definitely be doing that. Also thank you for your bday message. Means more than you think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey everyone. How do some of you handle your mental health?

Really been struggling recently.

See friends and family.

If you are feeling really down, maybe get some professional help/therapy.

What's getting you down ?

Yes I think docs/therapy will have to be the way. Friends and family are never around. Like yesterday was my bday and not one person even spoke to me. That hurt a lot to be honest.

Happy birthday mate.

Hope you get the help you need.

Thank you for the suggestion of therapy. I will definitely be doing that. Also thank you for your bday message. Means more than you think"

It's fine we all got things we need to deal with.

Try and see some friends soon, will do you good and celebrate a belated birthday

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By *heoneandonlyEJCouple
over a year ago

Rotherham

Happy Belated birthday.

Have you had your vitamin D level checked? Get referred or self refer to IAPT. Depending on area you may be able to self refer to Mind the mental health charity for 6 sessions of person centred counselling. Hugs x

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By *uckyduck29Man
over a year ago

carlisle

Happy birthday mate for yesterday!

It’s funny as now a birthday on my own would be heaven

but I know how you feel as been there. My social skills aren’t great having autism so been on my own quite a lot but as I’ve got older I’ve done a lot of things on my own, that I wouldn’t normally do before and met people that way.

It’ll get better, as you’ve seen on here with people wishing you a happy birthday- there’s always someone out there with similar interests interested in what you have to say.

Take care

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

Belated happy birthday!

Sorry your struggling, is it anything in particular?

There are a lot of threads about mental health in here with some great, albeit generic general wellbeing tips all of which can have a positive impact

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By *labla79Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Try go to the swinger club, speak with people around. Find time to go to gym, walking or doing any sport do you like.

You looking for professional help and don't be afraid to ask. Good luck

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By *hyguy187Man
over a year ago

Maybe near to you!

Happy belated birthday!

I've also been struggling lately, I find it difficult to open up and tend to internalise feelings, thoughts and struggles.

I've started to go back to the gym recently, after a shoulder injury which is slowly getting better.

Getting fresh air also helps.

Here to listen if you need to talk mate.

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

"Hey everyone. How do some of you handle your mental health?

Really been struggling recently."

I really struggle in the winter months ,the sun and outdoor helps as well as medication .. music mindfulness it horrible isn't it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exercise, sleep and good nutrition. Stop alcohol.

Yoga, mindfulness, therapy, friends and when v low I've been to GP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Belated happy birthday x

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By *iscreetfuncpl12Couple
over a year ago

Somerset

"Hey everyone. How do some of you handle your mental health?

Really been struggling recently."

Make plans. It could just be a list of things to research towards a goal. It could be a plan to obtain a new qualification, or a new skill, somewhere to visit. I found having something to work towards and starting off on that journey really helps. I ended up with a new career but it doesn’t matter what it is, it’s something to focus on and plan for and you feel a sense of achievement when you cross one of the small steps towards it from the list. Also exercise and human contact even if you have to force yourself to do both. They help.

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By *aconteur69111Man
over a year ago

eastbourne

"Hey everyone. How do some of you handle your mental health?

Really been struggling recently."
counselling counselling counselling. I swear by it. You need to discover what it is that triggers you. We all think we do but you need to dig deeper than that.

It worked for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a MH professional I suggest you contact your GP ir reach out to MIND who can assist you. This is not going to go away and you need the correct support. Well done though for taking the first step .. the hardest part is often acknowledging that we are struggling and need help. X

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By *orthernJayMan
over a year ago

LHR

"Hey everyone. How do some of you handle your mental health?

Really been struggling recently."

Hey, belated happy birthday!

Tried to message you privately but you’ve locked single guys which is cool.

HMU directly if you fancy a chat, problems are always less acute when you talk them through.

Lots of us have (and often still) dealing with metal well-being.

One day at a time mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey everyone. How do some of you handle your mental health?

Really been struggling recently."

I don't.

Mine is shot, it's like washing a car that has been crushed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Exercise, sleep and good nutrition. Stop alcohol.

Yoga, mindfulness, therapy, friends and when v low I've been to GP. "

These are all great practical ways to manage mental health. Physical and mental health are closely connected, as is your gut health.

Cold water exposure is incredible for mental health. It takes some courage to get started but it has an instant impact and reduces stress hormones in your blood stream.

Writing down the positives from your day and you life each day can really help.

Fasting and eating a wide variety of vegetables each week can have a huge impact.

Alcohol and caffeine impact your mood and your sleep.

Regular routine also very important

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By *REEPALESTINEMan
over a year ago

derby

Appreciate your basic senses. Touch smell sight etc

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By *yreGuy99 OP Man
over a year ago

Doesn't matter

Thank you to everyone for your nice messages and your suggestions on what help I should get. It means so much more than you can think.

I think that I have to leave this site as its not helping at all. When your a not so good looking single male that can't travel far or accommodate and can't bring anything to the table you tend to just be ignored or insulted.

Apparently having no verifications makes me fake too.. that being said, I feel there's no point in being on here.

Thanks again to everyone

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By *yes146Man
over a year ago

London

Happy belated birthday. Hope you get through and feel better.

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire

"Hey everyone. How do some of you handle your mental health?

Really been struggling recently."

Hey, Good for you for speaking out about this...it's not easy. Happy Birthday for yesterday too, nice pics on your profile

All you can do is look up Mental Health help line numbers that you can call when ever you want, and get in to with your Doctors for some help maybe medical and definitely some sort of therapy. Always welcome to D'M me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone wants a random person to speak with I'm available (no strings).

Talking helps (or so I have found).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy very belated birthday x

We very much understand your struggle. If you would ever like to chat privately, our inbox is always open x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

R here, I have bipolar 1 with psychotic tendencies , severe anxiety disorder, amongst other mental and physical issues.

It’s been a rough ride with some sectioning thrown in (worst times).

So for me . I have a psychiatrist but he’s more in charge or meds or to take charge if shit hits the fan.

So apart from a handful of med which we don’t need to go into (you didn’t ask about meds)

Here’s how I cope / my coping mechanisms

It sounds cliche but one foot in front of the other, one day at a time!

Talk to people of trust about things, if they are real friends or family you can rely on, don’t be scared to over share.

Talking helps so much then most realise and can be a huge weight off for me.

Music. Uplifting favourites with uplifting words. Not heavy songs with sad stories.

Go out to nature places more. I’m lucky that we live close to beaches and the new forest. But just getting out for a while for a walk, get some fresh air and chill is absolutely beneficial for me.

If you feel you need to cry then do it, it helps trust me . Just get it out of your system.

Scream therapy, go out in the garden or in the car and scream at the top of your lungs, I tried it after my psychiatrist mentioned it. It’s gives a nice rush and I feel loads better for it.

Exercise can help but it did nothing for me.

Most important for me though- talk all you can to anyone who will listen and understand. If you shut down and don’t talk things get worse.

Shutting down and not talking led me down the rabbit hole to my first section (that’s my story though)

I don’t know if any of that’s helpful at all as it’s just basically things that have helped me out and I’ve been advised by other people in mental health care.

Sorry I waffled on about me there and hope some of it helps as it has me.

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By *yreGuy99 OP Man
over a year ago

Doesn't matter

Thanks again everyone. I'll be leaving fab when my sub runs out. I'm sick and tired of being told I'm worth nothing, or that I'm ugly or treat like Im not good enough. Please don't message me, I feel its pointless. J

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By *archelCouple
over a year ago

A field somewhere

"Hey everyone. How do some of you handle your mental health?

Really been struggling recently."

I find having a really really shit memory helps me (no joke either) or allowing myself to be easily distracted so I can concentrate on something else helps a lot.

I guess I'm what you'd call old school in that I don't talk about my emotions, to anyone, but I have found a pretty good coping mechanism that helps me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op I wish you well with your mental health issues, I myself have been very down a lot lately. The first thing I would say is well done for reaching out, it helps massively. Seek professional help GP/counselling, lots of fresh air and maybe take up a hobby. Don't quit Fab, maybe take a break for a short while. There are some good people on here. You are not ugly, nobody is. We all appeal to somebody. Keep your chin up keep smiling and before long you'll get there. Inbox is always open if you need a sympathetic ear

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By *egoMan
over a year ago

Preston

Talk about your issues with trusted friends. Do not let them jokingly belittle it.

On my FB, I can almost guarantee I am the worst case for MH issues, murdered partner, broken spine causing constant pain since 2015, some military traumas, neurodivergent etc.. I don’t shout about my problems, but when I’m suffering, a select few can decipher my statuses. We talk, I get support if it’s ever available.

Still, it’s not enough. I actually fully committed to suicide on Monday last week. Again, a friend deciphered my cryptic posts, worked with another friend to find my address.

You know what, I resent them saving me. But perhaps something will change. And that’s the benefit of talking about it.

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By *yreGuy99 OP Man
over a year ago

Doesn't matter

What's the point when your always shit on by everyone. I can't even get a social meet or chat with someone that matches my preferences. I give up with women I general tbh.

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By *erald 1999Man
over a year ago

carmarthen

I would say start trying to exercise even if it's walking to begin with then swimming cycling .....then gym I know its easy for people to say I had a friend who was suffering I said let's go to the gym hit the bag ..just get moving .......within months she improved ....its hard but seriously turn that page you'll feel a lot better unfortunately your a long way ...away but if you were closer I'd say join me .. but if you can start on your own you'll find things improve good luck fella

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By *hinyRavensWingMan
over a year ago

Hastings

Happy belated mate. Start small, like take a walk in the early morning. Get up before you normally do, and say, “it’s gonna be alright today”.

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By *egoMan
over a year ago

Preston

"What's the point when your always shit on by everyone. I can't even get a social meet or chat with someone that matches my preferences. I give up with women I general tbh. "

Oh mate, absolutely do not use fab for your ego.

Fab is more like a casino than sound financial investment.

If you have spare, fritter it away on fab, you may get lucky.

But it is a swingers site, you’re a single male. You have to exude confidence if a couple/single fancies you to join them. Just keep true to yourself, don’t fake it.

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By *yreGuy99 OP Man
over a year ago

Doesn't matter

I get what your saying. I just wanted to feel wanted by someone for once. But fuck it, I'm done with humans.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Take up a hobby distract the mind do something that you've either put off or try something new

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By *egoMan
over a year ago

Preston

"I get what your saying. I just wanted to feel wanted by someone for once. But fuck it, I'm done with humans."

I understand completely.

And yeah, Fab probably isn’t the right place for you. At least you tried.

Normal dating sites, actually socialise etc. pursue your own interests and they’ll come, you’ll potentially meet the one if that’s what you want. .

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"What's the point when your always shit on by everyone. I can't even get a social meet or chat with someone that matches my preferences. I give up with women I general tbh. "

It's not always about what matches your preference but theirs also it's a two way streak which many forget.

Use the meet section keep putting out social meets without any expectations and stick with that if it leads anywhere a bonus use the chat rooms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey everyone. How do some of you handle your mental health?

Really been struggling recently."

I have Cyclothymia (it's a mood disorder) and taking just one day at a time , if you need to just step back for a moment then chill .

There's no rules or instructions it's far to overwhelming to think to far in the future it can be to much.

Luckily I'm rarely in a depression low mood but when it comes it's horrible

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By *yreGuy99 OP Man
over a year ago

Doesn't matter

"What's the point when your always shit on by everyone. I can't even get a social meet or chat with someone that matches my preferences. I give up with women I general tbh.

It's not always about what matches your preference but theirs also it's a two way streak which many forget.

Use the meet section keep putting out social meets without any expectations and stick with that if it leads anywhere a bonus use the chat rooms "

The problem there is that I can't accommodate 99% of the time and I don't drive, so there's always a catch of sorts.. I get you're saying though.

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By *yreGuy99 OP Man
over a year ago

Doesn't matter

"Hey everyone. How do some of you handle your mental health?

Really been struggling recently.

I have Cyclothymia (it's a mood disorder) and taking just one day at a time , if you need to just step back for a moment then chill .

There's no rules or instructions it's far to overwhelming to think to far in the future it can be to much.

Luckily I'm rarely in a depression low mood but when it comes it's horrible"

I'm sorry to hear that. Thank you for your comment.

That's kind of what I'm like. When it hits, it hits hard and makes everything look bleak.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"What's the point when your always shit on by everyone. I can't even get a social meet or chat with someone that matches my preferences. I give up with women I general tbh.

It's not always about what matches your preference but theirs also it's a two way streak which many forget.

Use the meet section keep putting out social meets without any expectations and stick with that if it leads anywhere a bonus use the chat rooms

The problem there is that I can't accommodate 99% of the time and I don't drive, so there's always a catch of sorts.. I get you're saying though."

Many do accommodate and is public transport or opinions going Dutch on hotel

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By *yreGuy99 OP Man
over a year ago

Doesn't matter

"What's the point when your always shit on by everyone. I can't even get a social meet or chat with someone that matches my preferences. I give up with women I general tbh.

It's not always about what matches your preference but theirs also it's a two way streak which many forget.

Use the meet section keep putting out social meets without any expectations and stick with that if it leads anywhere a bonus use the chat rooms

The problem there is that I can't accommodate 99% of the time and I don't drive, so there's always a catch of sorts.. I get you're saying though.

Many do accommodate and is public transport or opinions going Dutch on hotel "

Yes that's true. Well I'll most probably give everything a break and work on my head before anything else.

I may try your suggestions on that subject if I decide to stay here or come back in future. Thank you.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"What's the point when your always shit on by everyone. I can't even get a social meet or chat with someone that matches my preferences. I give up with women I general tbh.

It's not always about what matches your preference but theirs also it's a two way streak which many forget.

Use the meet section keep putting out social meets without any expectations and stick with that if it leads anywhere a bonus use the chat rooms

The problem there is that I can't accommodate 99% of the time and I don't drive, so there's always a catch of sorts.. I get you're saying though.

Many do accommodate and is public transport or opinions going Dutch on hotel

Yes that's true. Well I'll most probably give everything a break and work on my head before anything else.

I may try your suggestions on that subject if I decide to stay here or come back in future. Thank you."

Should never let any online stuff over take the mind as it can bring on stress, depression also having too much expectations

You're welcome and be mindful too yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey everyone. How do some of you handle your mental health?

Really been struggling recently."

Try and complete one single task daily even if it is just tidying a room, go for a walk or cycle, read a good book. Go shopping. Make sure you eat properly and try and maintain a routine. Please do talk to a doctor and either get counselling ot referred to Rethink or other mental health charity. If you get really down talk to the Samaritans.

I volunteered in Mental Health for 5 years. It can get better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's the point when your always shit on by everyone. I can't even get a social meet or chat with someone that matches my preferences. I give up with women I general tbh. "

Fab is not the place to be, I am in good health and do not get meets. Join meetup and go on social meets and make friends. I did.

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By *ommyTighMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Sorry I can’t reply privately

Sounds like a lot of good advice but happy to chat, if you’d like to

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By *yreGuy99 OP Man
over a year ago

Doesn't matter

Thanks again everyone, knowing that even random people care has helped quite a bit. I don't need to toxicity or ignorance in my life and I plan on doing a 180.

Thanks again you legends.

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