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Advice for a Young new guy

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By *oungGingerD OP   Man
over a year ago

Cambridge

New to swinging, would love to chat to people about it and learn about getting more involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Type in profile advice or similar and read the hundreds of threads and posts with advice

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Welcome!

What kind of thing would you like to know?

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By *oungGingerD OP   Man
over a year ago

Cambridge

Where do you start ?? i feel like i might be too young for the clubs and socials

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Where do you start ?? i feel like i might be too young for the clubs and socials "

Some might think you are but I reckon if you're respectful and don't have unrealistic expectations you'd be ok.

The fact is that it's difficult for men on fab and even more difficult outside the 30 to 45 age bracket.

Realistically you probably need to network on the forum and in the chat rooms, to to a club if you can and h st be patient

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By *oungGingerD OP   Man
over a year ago

Cambridge

Yea i thought it might be, ill try to network on the forums any good ones to go to?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yea i thought it might be, ill try to network on the forums any good ones to go to?"

The late night thread if ones running in the lounge or just generally chat to people.

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By *oungGingerD OP   Man
over a year ago

Cambridge

Alright, ill keep an eye out for them thank you, so if you dont mind me asking what got you into swinging

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Alright, ill keep an eye out for them thank you, so if you dont mind me asking what got you into swinging"

I don't mind. We'd talked about a lot between ourselves and decided to give it a go. Life is very short why not have adventures .

What are you hoping for, what are your expectations?

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By *oungGingerD OP   Man
over a year ago

Cambridge

Oh lovely, im just hoping to meet some amazing people on here that can help me explore swinging and have fun along the way and also to explore some kinks maybe as well

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Oh lovely, im just hoping to meet some amazing people on here that can help me explore swinging and have fun along the way and also to explore some kinks maybe as well"

Hi op

Remember the age bracket starts at 18 so you still have a great choice and many have different types of preferences whom they are interested in which can also be a bonus for you as mentioned above get involved with the forums explore the FAQ and explore the site and use the tools available giving you every opportunity

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By *rab74Man
over a year ago

Huntingdon

You're hardly too young at 23. Younger than most, sure, but not too young.

I see you're in Cambridge. You've got both Jaydees and the Vanilla Alternative about half an hour away towards Bedford, and the Annex about 45 minutes away past Ely. I prefer Jaydees because for me there's a bit more of a party vibe, but they're all good.

You can certainly chat in the forums, but it isn't going to make you friends. Only meeting people does that. Get out to clubs, get a feel for the scene, and go from there.

Just do expect that as a single guy you probably won't get to play. If you see it as a sex-positive night out, it's all good. The more you talk to people though, the more likely you are to get to play, so just be sociable and go with whatever happens.

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By *ucknutMan
over a year ago

durham

It's virtually impossible for a single male on here.

I have much more luck on nights out.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"It's virtually impossible for a single male on here.

I have much more luck on nights out."

The difference is this is a swingers site outside it's like a dating app

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"It's virtually impossible for a single male on here.

I have much more luck on nights out."

I and other women have made more effort on their profile than you have.

Also a lot of us women online in our homes are a lot more sober than some of the women on a night out. Lol!

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Where do you start ?? i feel like i might be too young for the clubs and socials "

You are not too young! I went to a club and there was a young man of 21 and he thoroughly enjoyed himself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say come back in 20 years.

That might sound harsh, and, to be honest, I'm only semi serious, but the reason I say it is that most people on fab have children around your age - or older and for many, that is a no go area.

Yes, there are some younger people on here, but you're probably far better off and more likely to get what you're looking for by just going out to places.

I grant you that's probably not what you want to hear, but I'm saying it so that you can realistically manage your expectations

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields


"Where do you start ?? i feel like i might be too young for the clubs and socials "

Some of the best fun we've had in clubs have been with guys 19-30. There's plenty of 20-30 year olds in our local club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prepare for rejection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maintain your standrds, know your worth and don't just settle for something.

Plus try another site!

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