FabSwingers.com forum: Brat kink

By *lowalker OP Man
over a year ago

abergele

Hi everyone, currently seeing a woman (not on fab) and she likes to be bratty.. obviously it’s different for everyone and I do intend on having a conversation with her about it, the do’s and don’ts etc.. the more information the better pls, whats enjoyable about it, different kinds punishments and rewards, how far should I take something if she’s being disobedient..

She enjoys pain and the rough side of things, saying no to things just to be bratty..

Thanks

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By *rystaldenisonWoman
over a year ago

salisbury

have a safe word that means stop is my only bit of advice x

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By *ory xWoman
over a year ago

Seaside

Safe words are a must. Negotiate what you and her want out of this dynamic. Search for a local munch (kinksters social) and you will be able to meet a lot of people who can advise you.

Unfortunately since 50 shades and 365 days, everyone has jumped on the bandwagon without realising how much damage they can do with rope, restraints and impact play. Find a mentor to help you both.

Bratty is playful not obnoxious.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"have a safe word that means stop is my only bit of advice x "

I use a traffic light system...so amber is getting closer to limit...red immediate stop.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

For me the D/s relationship is like cat and mouse, a bratty sub plays on their brattiness at times to manipulate the Dom. The Dom needs to decide how they are going to respond. This could be by prolonging an activity, denying doing something they enjoy or by doing something that they enjoy.

Personally I’m into sensual and sensory play and the build up was often already set by messaging each other and me being bratty in my responses. You’ll build up your own responses to your subs bratty behaviour. You can punish them but that doesn’t always mean inflicting pain unless that’s something they like in which case you’re giving them what they want.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I'm a brat because I like being a sassy bitch. I don't care for people who want to "punish" me for it.

My sadist hurts me because he enjoys it and I enjoy it, not for some silly manipulation or control game.

But I appreciate that I'm a weirdo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"have a safe word that means stop is my only bit of advice x

I use a traffic light system...so amber is getting closer to limit...red immediate stop.

I second this

Red is stop (but if you use yellow / amber correctly you won't get to red unless you want to)

Yellow as above means I'm close to my limit (for spanking etc)

But I also tell my sub's to use yellow for anything

Need to catch your breath? Yellow

Cramp? Yellow

Need to pee? Yellow

Yellow is pause. Find out what's wrong. Adjust. Check your sub is happy and then continue playing

As for bratty punishments, aside from obvious things like impact, edging etc you could have her sit in a naughty step etc. Try things. Have fun. Communicate and you'll both be fine

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By *ory xWoman
over a year ago

Seaside

Lines! I fricking hate lines as a punishment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lines! I fricking hate lines as a punishment "

Write 'I will NOT stamp my feet' 20 time's

You'll get a cane stripe for every time I hear you mutter under your breath

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By *oulkissMan
over a year ago

Croydon

Encouraging Bratting makes no sense.

Think about it.

The "Brat" enjoys a spanking/caning/whatever so how is doing those things going to do anything but encourage - you are rewarding the bad behaviour...

So if someone brats with m, and doesn't stop when told, then there are better punishments.

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By *rab74Man
over a year ago

Huntingdon

I had a play partner last year who was a brat. Her thing though was particularly about saying no and being forced to take whatever I chose to give her anyway. Basically consensual non-consent spankings. She intentionally asked not to have a safeword, because she knew she would use it and then feel short-changed when they stopped.

This isn't for everyone. You need to be able to do that. You also need to be able to read her reactions, and really pay attention. I took the intensity up gradually, but I stopped it early until I knew I could tell the difference between "my bum hurts" and "something's wrong". And if she mentioned something specific like a tie hurting, that got immediate attention - no need to safeword, because I was always listening to her.

The one essential skill, it turned out, was the ability to hold her over my knee so she couldn't escape, even if she really tried. Apparently I was the first person she genuinely couldn't get away from

and that made her incredibly wet.

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By *lowalker OP Man
over a year ago

abergele

Thanks for all the advice guys and gals.. happy fabbing..xxx

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