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By *ifes a peach OP   Couple
over a year ago

Maidstone

We have always attended clubs on Saturdays due to them being couples and females only as we have no interest in single males but there is a club event we want to attend but they are allowing select males to attend but we have always been told to avoid nights that allow them so we are in two minds to attend or not . Any help/advice from couples that have been in a similar situation

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Don’t be in two minds OP; just avoid that event. Nobody wants single guys making the place look untidy….

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

NG 21

To be honest sometimes it's good to have a few lone males.

Even if it's not your thing as long as they are " select" it can add to things.

If, however they let all comers it we would avoid.

A few is OK tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why this drama? You can chat with anyone in clubs but when it comes to playtime you choose who are going to play with. Simply say no if any single guy approach you. Most of us are well mannered and we appreciates what others say.

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By *ucksguy2000Man
over a year ago

aylesbury


"Why this drama? You can chat with anyone in clubs but when it comes to playtime you choose who are going to play with. Simply say no if any single guy approach you. Most of us are well mannered and we appreciates what others say."

Have to agree with the above, unfortunately there are some single males who spoil it for the majority

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By *he Gentleman.Man
over a year ago

Sitlington


"Why this drama? You can chat with anyone in clubs but when it comes to playtime you choose who are going to play with. Simply say no if any single guy approach you. Most of us are well mannered and we appreciates what others say."
Quite right, well said.

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By *ifes a peach OP   Couple
over a year ago

Maidstone


"Why this drama? You can chat with anyone in clubs but when it comes to playtime you choose who are going to play with. Simply say no if any single guy approach you. Most of us are well mannered and we appreciates what others say."

No drama intended,we have been told by people to avoid night that allow males as they can be a pain (not our words ) so it's just a post to see what other couples opinions are as we would like to attend the event but don't want to if we are going to get pestered all night like we have been told , we have no issues with males at all

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By *ifes a peach OP   Couple
over a year ago

Maidstone


"To be honest sometimes it's good to have a few lone males.

Even if it's not your thing as long as they are " select" it can add to things.

If, however they let all comers it we would avoid.

A few is OK tho. "

Apparently these are selected buy the organiser so we would like to think they will all be decent well mannered men , we was just wondering what other couples that have experienced it what their thoughts are on

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"Why this drama? You can chat with anyone in clubs but when it comes to playtime you choose who are going to play with. Simply say no if any single guy approach you. Most of us are well mannered and we appreciates what others say."

The problem is, as you say only most single guys know how to behave and sadly sone of the minority are often more than capable of ruining someone else's night.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why this drama? You can chat with anyone in clubs but when it comes to playtime you choose who are going to play with. Simply say no if any single guy approach you. Most of us are well mannered and we appreciates what others say.

No drama intended,we have been told by people to avoid night that allow males as they can be a pain (not our words ) so it's just a post to see what other couples opinions are as we would like to attend the event but don't want to if we are going to get pestered all night like we have been told , we have no issues with males at all "

This sounds very specific to a certain club you visit.

We have been to clubs where due to the vetting and quality ratio and client management the single males are genuine, respectful and engaging swingers who embrace the scene, it's culture and the rules.

Sadly we have also seen the other end of the spectrum where a club has let in a group of piss heads on a night out who didn't have the first clue about swinging and thought it was like a brothel they had paid for because the club put ££ ahead of anything else.

So it's very dependent on the club.

KJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why this drama? You can chat with anyone in clubs but when it comes to playtime you choose who are going to play with. Simply say no if any single guy approach you. Most of us are well mannered and we appreciates what others say.

No drama intended,we have been told by people to avoid night that allow males as they can be a pain (not our words ) so it's just a post to see what other couples opinions are as we would like to attend the event but don't want to if we are going to get pestered all night like we have been told , we have no issues with males at all

This sounds very specific to a certain club you visit.

We have been to clubs where due to the vetting and quality ratio and client management the single males are genuine, respectful and engaging swingers who embrace the scene, it's culture and the rules.

Sadly we have also seen the other end of the spectrum where a club has let in a group of piss heads on a night out who didn't have the first clue about swinging and thought it was like a brothel they had paid for because the club put ££ ahead of anything else.

So it's very dependent on the club.

KJ"

We've been to a club where the man on the door was telling all the men they would definitely get a fuck that night as it was a greedy girls night.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I only attend club events with single males and it’s never been an issue in my 8 years.

Any decent club will have a very well balanced guest list so should never be over ran with singles or couples (Townhouse is all pre paid tickets so full control of how many of each attend- any decent host at all clubs should be managing their guest list- that’s their job lol)

Find it strange you’ve always been told to avoid those events in the first place really

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Why this drama? You can chat with anyone in clubs but when it comes to playtime you choose who are going to play with. Simply say no if any single guy approach you. Most of us are well mannered and we appreciates what others say.

No drama intended,we have been told by people to avoid night that allow males as they can be a pain (not our words ) so it's just a post to see what other couples opinions are as we would like to attend the event but don't want to if we are going to get pestered all night like we have been told , we have no issues with males at all "
to be honest I've always found that mixed nightw the atmosphere is much better than couples and single ladies nights. I've had more bad behaviour over my many years from male halves of couples than single guys over the years... and don't even get me started on women touching without asking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have always attended clubs on Saturdays due to them being couples and females only as we have no interest in single males but there is a club event we want to attend but they are allowing select males to attend but we have always been told to avoid nights that allow them so we are in two minds to attend or not . Any help/advice from couples that have been in a similar situation "

How do you deal with the husbands on couples night when they chat to you or look at you?

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Why this drama? You can chat with anyone in clubs but when it comes to playtime you choose who are going to play with. Simply say no if any single guy approach you. Most of us are well mannered and we appreciates what others say.

No drama intended,we have been told by people to avoid night that allow males as they can be a pain (not our words ) so it's just a post to see what other couples opinions are as we would like to attend the event but don't want to if we are going to get pestered all night like we have been told , we have no issues with males at all to be honest I've always found that mixed nightw the atmosphere is much better than couples and single ladies nights. I've had more bad behaviour over my many years from male halves of couples than single guys over the years... and don't even get me started on women touching without asking."

This!!!

Only ever had issues with couples and their automatic presumption you want them be are bi!

Single guys a polite no thanks and never been an issue, and any decent club would remove anyone who caused an issue or was disrespectful

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I go regularly and would say most men are very respectful. And if it’s a decent club they will restrict them anyway

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

OP it might help if you say which club then others can give you there experiences.

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By *ifes a peach OP   Couple
over a year ago

Maidstone


"Why this drama? You can chat with anyone in clubs but when it comes to playtime you choose who are going to play with. Simply say no if any single guy approach you. Most of us are well mannered and we appreciates what others say.

No drama intended,we have been told by people to avoid night that allow males as they can be a pain (not our words ) so it's just a post to see what other couples opinions are as we would like to attend the event but don't want to if we are going to get pestered all night like we have been told , we have no issues with males at all

This sounds very specific to a certain club you visit.

We have been to clubs where due to the vetting and quality ratio and client management the single males are genuine, respectful and engaging swingers who embrace the scene, it's culture and the rules.

Sadly we have also seen the other end of the spectrum where a club has let in a group of piss heads on a night out who didn't have the first clue about swinging and thought it was like a brothel they had paid for because the club put ££ ahead of anything else.

So it's very dependent on the club.

KJ"

We have only been to this club once but it is a highly talked about club and the event holders are also highly spoken about so the males they let in should be well vetted, we are fine with them being there we just don't want to be pestered all night by them and we have been told that there has been times where there couples playing and there are males gathered around them playing with themselves which we could of just been told the bad experiences which has made us question if we should go , we don't get many chances to go to clubs so don't want to risk having our night ruined if we can help it

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By *ifes a peach OP   Couple
over a year ago

Maidstone


"We have always attended clubs on Saturdays due to them being couples and females only as we have no interest in single males but there is a club event we want to attend but they are allowing select males to attend but we have always been told to avoid nights that allow them so we are in two minds to attend or not . Any help/advice from couples that have been in a similar situation

How do you deal with the husbands on couples night when they chat to you or look at you? "

You have clearly got the wrong end of the stick on this , we was Purley asking of others experiences as we have always been told to avoid nights with them , we obviously have no issues with being spoken to it's just we don't want to be pestered or have pushy males that could ruin our night that is all but if it's not like that then we will attend and see and experience it first hand

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By *ifes a peach OP   Couple
over a year ago

Maidstone


"I go regularly and would say most men are very respectful. And if it’s a decent club they will restrict them anyway "

Thank you , we would say it's a decent club as its highly recommend and spoken about and they have said the males will be vetted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have always attended clubs on Saturdays due to them being couples and females only as we have no interest in single males but there is a club event we want to attend but they are allowing select males to attend but we have always been told to avoid nights that allow them so we are in two minds to attend or not . Any help/advice from couples that have been in a similar situation

How do you deal with the husbands on couples night when they chat to you or look at you?

You have clearly got the wrong end of the stick on this , we was Purley asking of others experiences as we have always been told to avoid nights with them , we obviously have no issues with being spoken to it's just we don't want to be pestered or have pushy males that could ruin our night that is all but if it's not like that then we will attend and see and experience it first hand "

You won't know what it's like until you go. My point is, if you're ok telling the husbands to be respectful then you'll be fine.

If some men are abusive then speak to the club and they should sort it.

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By *ifes a peach OP   Couple
over a year ago

Maidstone


"I only attend club events with single males and it’s never been an issue in my 8 years.

Any decent club will have a very well balanced guest list so should never be over ran with singles or couples (Townhouse is all pre paid tickets so full control of how many of each attend- any decent host at all clubs should be managing their guest list- that’s their job lol)

Find it strange you’ve always been told to avoid those events in the first place really "

There will only be around 20-25 males with around 200 attendance so it won't be over run by males and all tickets for males are pre sold before hand

Maybe we have just spoken to people that have had a bad experience then , which has stopped us from attending while males are there

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"I only attend club events with single males and it’s never been an issue in my 8 years.

Any decent club will have a very well balanced guest list so should never be over ran with singles or couples (Townhouse is all pre paid tickets so full control of how many of each attend- any decent host at all clubs should be managing their guest list- that’s their job lol)

Find it strange you’ve always been told to avoid those events in the first place really

There will only be around 20-25 males with around 200 attendance so it won't be over run by males and all tickets for males are pre sold before hand

Maybe we have just spoken to people that have had a bad experience then , which has stopped us from attending while males are there "

Definitely sounds like this don’t let a couple of bad experiences put you off xx

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

Here we go again! Couples knocking single guys which comes up on here every day!

It's not rocket science if you don't want to talk to them don't talk to them FFS

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By *ifes a peach OP   Couple
over a year ago

Maidstone


"We have always attended clubs on Saturdays due to them being couples and females only as we have no interest in single males but there is a club event we want to attend but they are allowing select males to attend but we have always been told to avoid nights that allow them so we are in two minds to attend or not . Any help/advice from couples that have been in a similar situation

How do you deal with the husbands on couples night when they chat to you or look at you?

You have clearly got the wrong end of the stick on this , we was Purley asking of others experiences as we have always been told to avoid nights with them , we obviously have no issues with being spoken to it's just we don't want to be pestered or have pushy males that could ruin our night that is all but if it's not like that then we will attend and see and experience it first hand

You won't know what it's like until you go. My point is, if you're ok telling the husbands to be respectful then you'll be fine.

If some men are abusive then speak to the club and they should sort it. "

Yes we understand that but if we are being told to avoid then it makes us curious about going it's not different to if people tell you to avoid a restaurant or holiday destination your obviously going to stay away hence this post trying to get others options and experiences

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

It kinda depends where. Some clubs properly vet them through verifications and limit how many but some unfortunately allow them to run wild.

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By *ifes a peach OP   Couple
over a year ago

Maidstone


"Here we go again! Couples knocking single guys which comes up on here every day!

It's not rocket science if you don't want to talk to them don't talk to them FFS "

Not knocking single guys at all we have Purley asked for couples experiences as we have been told to avoid events where they are aloud , it's not that simple is it tho as from what we are told they can be a pain and pester but obviously we haven't had the experience to know what it's like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean yeah if it's not your thing, ideally go and only chat to people that may float your boat if their respectful no harm in chatting

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"We have always attended clubs on Saturdays due to them being couples and females only as we have no interest in single males but there is a club event we want to attend but they are allowing select males to attend but we have always been told to avoid nights that allow them so we are in two minds to attend or not . Any help/advice from couples that have been in a similar situation "
. You have used the words select males.By coincidence OP4F also use the words select males.If the club you are referring is OP4F then they stick to the 5-6 select males on a Saturday night from 11.00 pm I believe off the top of my head.The select males send a request that they would like to attend between 12.00 pm to 5.00 pm all names go into a electronic hat and the 5-6 select guys then receive a txt at about 7.00pm - 8.00pm.I have attended a couple of times on a Saturday and the guys are respectful.If it is not OP4F you are referring to then please accept my apologies.

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By *ifes a peach OP   Couple
over a year ago

Maidstone


"I mean yeah if it's not your thing, ideally go and only chat to people that may float your boat if their respectful no harm in chatting "

That's exactly what we would do , obviously if we get approached we would say we are not interested but we don't mind talking to males as you say there is no harm in chatting , we just don't want them to be pushy and constantly pestered but I suppose until we experience it we won't know what it's actually like

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"We have always attended clubs on Saturdays due to them being couples and females only as we have no interest in single males but there is a club event we want to attend but they are allowing select males to attend but we have always been told to avoid nights that allow them so we are in two minds to attend or not . Any help/advice from couples that have been in a similar situation . You have used the words select males.By coincidence OP4F also use the words select males.If the club you are referring is OP4F then they stick to the 5-6 select males on a Saturday night from 11.00 pm I believe off the top of my head.The select males send a request that they would like to attend between 12.00 pm to 5.00 pm all names go into a electronic hat and the 5-6 select guys then receive a txt at about 7.00pm - 8.00pm.I have attended a couple of times on a Saturday and the guys are respectful.If it is not OP4F you are referring to then please accept my apologies."

How is that "select" single males? They are literally picking names out of a hat!

It's as laughable as a club 'vetting' it's members by asking fir pictures and deciding if they look attractive or not

Non of this makes any guarantees about how people behave

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"We have always attended clubs on Saturdays due to them being couples and females only as we have no interest in single males but there is a club event we want to attend but they are allowing select males to attend but we have always been told to avoid nights that allow them so we are in two minds to attend or not . Any help/advice from couples that have been in a similar situation . You have used the words select males.By coincidence OP4F also use the words select males.If the club you are referring is OP4F then they stick to the 5-6 select males on a Saturday night from 11.00 pm I believe off the top of my head.The select males send a request that they would like to attend between 12.00 pm to 5.00 pm all names go into a electronic hat and the 5-6 select guys then receive a txt at about 7.00pm - 8.00pm.I have attended a couple of times on a Saturday and the guys are respectful.If it is not OP4F you are referring to then please accept my apologies.

How is that "select" single males? They are literally picking names out of a hat!

It's as laughable as a club 'vetting' it's members by asking fir pictures and deciding if they look attractive or not

Non of this makes any guarantees about how people behave "
. I can understand what you are saying but Saturdays at OP4F were £70 for a single guy before lockdown now I believe have gone up to £80 for a single guy if 20 guys are willing to pay the price to attend what is the fairest way to select them.Also with OP4F they are a members only club so you could say the guys that are going into the hat have proved they are well behaved on their previous visits on Tuesdays and Fridays as if they weren’t well behaved chances are they would no longer be members.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"We have always attended clubs on Saturdays due to them being couples and females only as we have no interest in single males but there is a club event we want to attend but they are allowing select males to attend but we have always been told to avoid nights that allow them so we are in two minds to attend or not . Any help/advice from couples that have been in a similar situation . You have used the words select males.By coincidence OP4F also use the words select males.If the club you are referring is OP4F then they stick to the 5-6 select males on a Saturday night from 11.00 pm I believe off the top of my head.The select males send a request that they would like to attend between 12.00 pm to 5.00 pm all names go into a electronic hat and the 5-6 select guys then receive a txt at about 7.00pm - 8.00pm.I have attended a couple of times on a Saturday and the guys are respectful.If it is not OP4F you are referring to then please accept my apologies.

How is that "select" single males? They are literally picking names out of a hat!

It's as laughable as a club 'vetting' it's members by asking fir pictures and deciding if they look attractive or not

Non of this makes any guarantees about how people behave . I can understand what you are saying but Saturdays at OP4F were £70 for a single guy before lockdown now I believe have gone up to £80 for a single guy if 20 guys are willing to pay the price to attend what is the fairest way to select them.Also with OP4F they are a members only club so you could say the guys that are going into the hat have proved they are well behaved on their previous visits on Tuesdays and Fridays as if they weren’t well behaved chances are they would no longer be members."

How much!!!! Surprised any single guys would go at that price!

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There


"Why this drama? You can chat with anyone in clubs but when it comes to playtime you choose who are going to play with. Simply say no if any single guy approach you. Most of us are well mannered and we appreciates what others say.

No drama intended,we have been told by people to avoid night that allow males as they can be a pain (not our words ) so it's just a post to see what other couples opinions are as we would like to attend the event but don't want to if we are going to get pestered all night like we have been told , we have no issues with males at all

This sounds very specific to a certain club you visit.

We have been to clubs where due to the vetting and quality ratio and client management the single males are genuine, respectful and engaging swingers who embrace the scene, it's culture and the rules.

Sadly we have also seen the other end of the spectrum where a club has let in a group of piss heads on a night out who didn't have the first clue about swinging and thought it was like a brothel they had paid for because the club put ££ ahead of anything else.

So it's very dependent on the club.

KJ

We have only been to this club once but it is a highly talked about club and the event holders are also highly spoken about so the males they let in should be well vetted, we are fine with them being there we just don't want to be pestered all night by them and we have been told that there has been times where there couples playing and there are males gathered around them playing with themselves which we could of just been told the bad experiences which has made us question if we should go , we don't get many chances to go to clubs so don't want to risk having our night ruined if we can help it "

Tbh my experience is that males (single or otherwise) are often playing with themselves in the open play areas, watching and hoping to be invited in on the action. This has been the case at every party I’ve been to.

I don’t consider it ‘pestering’ although some do that too.

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

As a single male who attends clubs as long at the numbers are limited it’s normally fine. My rule is if I’m in the smoking area and there is a group chat I’ll join in but if I see a woman with a guy i won’t approach her directly. It’s served me well so far.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Couples can be just as badly behaved as single men.

Single women can also be a fucking nightmare.

Deciding not to go to a club because they allow a few single males in? Priceless.

Do they vet couples the same way as they do single men or do you get in automatically because there's two of you?

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean yeah if it's not your thing, ideally go and only chat to people that may float your boat if their respectful no harm in chatting

That's exactly what we would do , obviously if we get approached we would say we are not interested but we don't mind talking to males as you say there is no harm in chatting , we just don't want them to be pushy and constantly pestered but I suppose until we experience it we won't know what it's actually like "

Well if the guys that are going are like myself non pushy easy to chat too I'm sure you will have a great night also if it's ok could you pm me the club please

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


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Do they vet couples the same way as they do single men or do you get in automatically because there's two of you?

"

Not at all, because one half of a couple has a vagina, and as anyone will tell you, there's never enough vagina in a club.....

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By *ifes a peach OP   Couple
over a year ago

Maidstone


"As a single male who attends clubs as long at the numbers are limited it’s normally fine. My rule is if I’m in the smoking area and there is a group chat I’ll join in but if I see a woman with a guy i won’t approach her directly. It’s served me well so far. "

If they similar and respectful in that way then I don't see any problem , obviously there may be the odd bad one that slips through the net but I suppose that can happen with anything

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By *ifes a peach OP   Couple
over a year ago

Maidstone


"I mean yeah if it's not your thing, ideally go and only chat to people that may float your boat if their respectful no harm in chatting

That's exactly what we would do , obviously if we get approached we would say we are not interested but we don't mind talking to males as you say there is no harm in chatting , we just don't want them to be pushy and constantly pestered but I suppose until we experience it we won't know what it's actually like

Well if the guys that are going are like myself non pushy easy to chat too I'm sure you will have a great night also if it's ok could you pm me the club please "

Pm sent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had more bad behaviour over my many years from male halves of couples than single guys over the years... and don't even get me started on women touching without asking."

This. Women’s partners following me to the toilet or waiting outside to make a move.

I’ve experienced more problems with couples than I ever have with single men.

The staff are on hand to deal with any unwanted advances.

Go to the club OP and make up your own minds. Everyone will have their own opinion on this one. You might be pleasantly surprised.

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By *rgrey14Man
over a year ago

london


"We have always attended clubs on Saturdays due to them being couples and females only as we have no interest in single males but there is a club event we want to attend but they are allowing select males to attend but we have always been told to avoid nights that allow them so we are in two minds to attend or not . Any help/advice from couples that have been in a similar situation . You have used the words select males.By coincidence OP4F also use the words select males.If the club you are referring is OP4F then they stick to the 5-6 select males on a Saturday night from 11.00 pm I believe off the top of my head.The select males send a request that they would like to attend between 12.00 pm to 5.00 pm all names go into a electronic hat and the 5-6 select guys then receive a txt at about 7.00pm - 8.00pm.I have attended a couple of times on a Saturday and the guys are respectful.If it is not OP4F you are referring to then please accept my apologies.

How is that "select" single males? They are literally picking names out of a hat!

It's as laughable as a club 'vetting' it's members by asking fir pictures and deciding if they look attractive or not

Non of this makes any guarantees about how people behave "

Well said. Certainly not selecting anyone by that way. Been before and do not think it’s that great a club anyway but many people o know do enjoy it there. I just find it so small… literally smallest place I have been and the lack of private space

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh is it time to bash single males again?

You could always use your words?

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

As a couple and a single ...I've seen more inappropriate behaviour from over enthusiastic approaches from the male half of couples loads of times , doing things the vast majority of single guys wouldn't dream of.

And in terms of social skills , at a nice club , the nice guys will be far more engaging and sociable ...they have to be.

Chameleons on a Friday has a few couples go that don't play with single guys just because it's great fun...

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By *ctionman10Man
over a year ago

London


"We have always attended clubs on Saturdays due to them being couples and females only as we have no interest in single males but there is a club event we want to attend but they are allowing select males to attend but we have always been told to avoid nights that allow them so we are in two minds to attend or not . Any help/advice from couples that have been in a similar situation "

OP. Majority of clubs I know what allow the single guys on Saturdays do only invite the members they really do trust after all they do not want to lose the regular couples that attend…. Many times I have been asked to attend clubs on Saturdays by couples I know - however I like to leave it for the couples and single women as I find they are attending for that reason. I am always free on Fridays so it’s easy for me. Maybe some single guys are only free Saturday nights. I hope you have a great night either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have always attended clubs on Saturdays due to them being couples and females only as we have no interest in single males but there is a club event we want to attend but they are allowing select males to attend but we have always been told to avoid nights that allow them so we are in two minds to attend or not . Any help/advice from couples that have been in a similar situation "

We normally take a crucifix and holy water to fend off single males in clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have always attended clubs on Saturdays due to them being couples and females only as we have no interest in single males but there is a club event we want to attend but they are allowing select males to attend but we have always been told to avoid nights that allow them so we are in two minds to attend or not . Any help/advice from couples that have been in a similar situation "

my first club experience was with my wife as a couple we or rather I probably had the same concerns as you did but once inside and settled we soon realised the single guys were probably the friendliest and respectful out of every one there yes there was the odd one hanging around the play rooms hoping to be invited in but as soon as you said no they just leave you to it, obviously I can't speak for all clubs, but the one I go to don't tolerate any miss behaviour and really do a really good job looking after everyone and single guys are allowed in both Fridays and Saturdays we just have to pre book so as they don't have too many of us turning up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahhh also as it's selected single males I have a guess it very much friends of Thiers and little in number and they are usually ultra well built dream boy types, likely hood of "average guy" will be selected is minimal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the best way. I don't see what the problem is with select single males, they have to have a chance as well. I've had mostly good experiences with single males. It's because of the sheer number on the site that yes you will talk to lots of assholes, but don't tar ask with the same brush.. I think most are polite and just a simple no thanks is all that's needed if not interested.. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ahhh also as it's selected single males I have a guess it very much friends of Thiers and little in number and they are usually ultra well built dream boy types, likely hood of "average guy" will be selected is minimal "

I know of some clubs that want to see your Fab profile and have a quick scan of your verifications.

Plenty of good verifications serve them as a form of reference.

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Didn't twig on to the use of veri's, obvious really in hindsight..

However Op, in our experience find a busier night with single guys and it's absolutely no problem, as opposed to catching a quieter one as we experienced in a well verified club..

We had 4 single guys in the club with minimal couple's or ladies for their attention.

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Also agreed on some previous post's, entitled couple's and single ladies can be just as reluctant to 'read the room'

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

We started our swinging by just going to clubs on 'couples only' nights, but soon progressed to those evenings when any number of single guys can attend. We found the latter to be much more enjoyable, particularly as I love to play with multiple guys. We have never ever (in seven or eight clubs and hundreds of visits) encountered any problems with single guys except once when a bi guy who promised to play straight made a grab for my totally straight husband's cock.

Most single guys are respectful and some have become friends. It's far easier to find a decent guy or two to join us than it is to find a couple who both appeal to each of us.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Ahhh also as it's selected single males I have a guess it very much friends of Thiers and little in number and they are usually ultra well built dream boy types, likely hood of "average guy" will be selected is minimal

I know of some clubs that want to see your Fab profile and have a quick scan of your verifications.

Plenty of good verifications serve them as a form of reference. "

I doubt that's the perfect solution though. Some don't show veris.

There was a great system in play at Xtasia on Friday. Couples and single women were given a blue token that, if they met a single guy that was great company and the kind of guy a club would benefit from then they could give it to him. He could then at the end of the night (or when he left) hand it in at reception and he'd be contacted for 'VIP membership'. Given its based on feedback from existing club members rather than random on the Internet this seemed a great way to identify the guys that really understood the club scene and etiquette.

We met a guy (and forgot to give him our token!) That has zero visible pics on here and just a handful of veris, but was exactly the kind of guy any club would benefit from.

References are good but it helps if they're from club goers themselves.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why this drama? You can chat with anyone in clubs but when it comes to playtime you choose who are going to play with. Simply say no if any single guy approach you. Most of us are well mannered and we appreciates what others say.

Have to agree with the above, unfortunately there are some single males who spoil it for the majority "

Yeah they can be a few like that unfortunately but the majority of men we have met have been really nice and respectful

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Yup, minority spoil for...

I (Mr) have been a single male within the lifestyle.

Understand the juxtaposition they find themselves in and they do get pigeonholed here with for the most part a negative mindset.

I will always be friendly to the (for the most part) great guys Y attracts (justifiably and yes, biased ).

Those overstepping her boundaries are quickly aware of it, but we don't hold grudges if they reengage mindful of that.

The only ones who have ever pissed us off are the rare 'stealth' or over persistent few that try to involve themselves uninvited during play..

Op, honestly don't be put off by the presence, enjoy your night together and with whomever you care to invite. But discuss and be clear of YOUR boundaries as a couple and have each other's back's as you do in life itself.

My pennies worth

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By *ingeandTCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

We have never had an issue with single males, we have chatted to quite a few on our visits to our local club. We aren’t looking to add a single male into the mix at all but that doesn’t mean we can’t have a conversation and a laugh with them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have never had an issue with single males, we have chatted to quite a few on our visits to our local club. We aren’t looking to add a single male into the mix at all but that doesn’t mean we can’t have a conversation and a laugh with them! "

And a dance you mustn't forget to have a dance with them

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Just stick to attending clubs where you feel that they vet the single men appropriately so the people who are going to be there will be people who might add to the conversation and the ambience of the night rather, people that you feel are going to take away from your enjoyment.

To be fair, this can apply to any gender and couples too.

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands


"We have never had an issue with single males, we have chatted to quite a few on our visits to our local club. We aren’t looking to add a single male into the mix at all but that doesn’t mean we can’t have a conversation and a laugh with them! "

Exactly this

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By *ingeandTCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

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By *ingeandTCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"We have never had an issue with single males, we have chatted to quite a few on our visits to our local club. We aren’t looking to add a single male into the mix at all but that doesn’t mean we can’t have a conversation and a laugh with them!

And a dance you mustn't forget to have a dance with them "

Haha well we’ve only danced with you so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have never had an issue with single males, we have chatted to quite a few on our visits to our local club. We aren’t looking to add a single male into the mix at all but that doesn’t mean we can’t have a conversation and a laugh with them!

And a dance you mustn't forget to have a dance with them

Haha well we’ve only danced with you so far "

Well I'm flattered, I must be doing something right

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By *e and him 2021Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

We’ve been to club parties where select males have been invited/selected(and think this is the key word”invite/selected)

He the people running the event know them or know of them and most of all probably trust them in the environment on the said night. Most will probably approach you has you’ve said you’ve never been to that sort of event and they will see you has new people. They will probably just want a chat( must be more scary for them been alone than a couple who have each other) once chat they might ask if you play with single guys. At this point you can say NO, they will probably carry on chat but soon move on and chat to others, guy normally remember who say no so won’t bother you again.

Yes an open night is completely different some guys do think everyone is game has you are there on a single guys night we’ve had good and not so good encounters. One we was playing with a single guy on a open bed and another guy walked up no chat and no eye contact and just thrust his cost in her face(no a good idea) she got up off the bed give he a few choice word and then the other single we were playing with gave him a few choice words and told him that’s not what happens. The guy soon left the club afterwards.

Unfortunately the nice guy didn’t get to carry on playing has it put her off the rest of the night. But really the good guys out number the bad ones

Xx

Go and enjoy you might even be tempted

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have always attended clubs on Saturdays due to them being couples and females only as we have no interest in single males but there is a club event we want to attend but they are allowing select males to attend but we have always been told to avoid nights that allow them so we are in two minds to attend or not . Any help/advice from couples that have been in a similar situation . You have used the words select males.By coincidence OP4F also use the words select males.If the club you are referring is OP4F then they stick to the 5-6 select males on a Saturday night from 11.00 pm I believe off the top of my head.The select males send a request that they would like to attend between 12.00 pm to 5.00 pm all names go into a electronic hat and the 5-6 select guys then receive a txt at about 7.00pm - 8.00pm.I have attended a couple of times on a Saturday and the guys are respectful.If it is not OP4F you are referring to then please accept my apologies.

How is that "select" single males? They are literally picking names out of a hat!

It's as laughable as a club 'vetting' it's members by asking fir pictures and deciding if they look attractive or not

Non of this makes any guarantees about how people behave . I can understand what you are saying but Saturdays at OP4F were £70 for a single guy before lockdown now I believe have gone up to £80 for a single guy if 20 guys are willing to pay the price to attend what is the fairest way to select them.Also with OP4F they are a members only club so you could say the guys that are going into the hat have proved they are well behaved on their previous visits on Tuesdays and Fridays as if they weren’t well behaved chances are they would no longer be members.

How much!!!! Surprised any single guys would go at that price!"

That's London and southern clubs for you. Up in the North East a single male usually pays the same as couples (when I Mr go solo) which tends to be £20-25 which compared to other areas of the UK it's much better value.

KJ

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By *.T.Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

When single men are wanted:

To pay 3 times the entry fee to subsidise the couples.

To be a stunt cock for mmf's

When single men are not wanted:

When it's time for the couples to go unicorn hunting.

On the nights of the week when attendance is better.

If you don't want to meet single males, don't go to a club when single males are there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When single men are wanted:

To pay 3 times the entry fee to subsidise the couples.

To be a stunt cock for mmf's

When single men are not wanted:

When it's time for the couples to go unicorn hunting.

On the nights of the week when attendance is better.

If you don't want to meet single males, don't go to a club when single males are there.

"
That’s not what all couples are looking for. We specifically are just looking for single straight men .

Not interested in couples or single women. Are happy to chat amd socialise with them though.

The clubs we have been too the entry fee for men of the same as couples. We have met some really nice guys and some that are creeps but to be fare you can get that with single women and couples too. I like a club that has a mix of everything makes it a more interesting night.

Sorry I’m not sure what a stunt cock Is lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're males, not lepers

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By *ingeandTCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Also I wouldn’t go off what others have said, you need to find out for yourselves as everyone’s experiences will be different!

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By *etro manMan
over a year ago

manchester

As s single Male I do agree some men spoil the fun but most are good because if you complain then the owner will ask them to leave plus single guys can offer a little bit more fun if you tell them what you want to happen plus they just might like to watch plus you might like to see something a bit different bigger plus if you’re on a bed with 10 + people playing with each other how do you know if single or not ps have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why this drama? You can chat with anyone in clubs but when it comes to playtime you choose who are going to play with. Simply say no if any single guy approach you. Most of us are well mannered and we appreciates what others say."

Absolutely, think it’s a crazy thing to suggest not attending somewhere you’d like to, just because single males maybe present. No means no! Don’t be out off by males, if your looking for couples or single females or just like to watch…then enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been to club nights for couples only and a mixed night with guys and we only go to couples only nights now we find we enjoy the night better as we have zero interest in single guys

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

Have you had any bad experiences? We have been to lots of mixed events and never had a problem, most single guys pay a premium to get in, so are highly unlikely to jeopardise getting kicked out and barred.

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By *eiled VixenCouple
over a year ago

Bath

I avoid couples nights specifically because I don't want to meet women, but I know some women will be there and we still have a good chat and a laugh.

That said in my experience far more women won't take 'no' for an answer than single guys, including putting hands on me without asking and continuing after being told no.

Women also try to convince Matt to sleep with them (in front of me) when we have repeatedly said that only I play...no guy has ever tried that the other way round!

Like any public place there will be people you would prefer weren't there, there will be people who would prefer you weren't there. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I avoid couples nights specifically because I don't want to meet women, but I know some women will be there and we still have a good chat and a laugh.

That said in my experience far more women won't take 'no' for an answer than single guys, including putting hands on me without asking and continuing after being told no.

Women also try to convince Matt to sleep with them (in front of me) when we have repeatedly said that only I play...no guy has ever tried that the other way round!

Like any public place there will be people you would prefer weren't there, there will be people who would prefer you weren't there. X"
we are the same avoid couples nights because I’m the same only looking for single men as my hubby only likes to play/watch with me.

We’ve never had women or couples do that once we say that’s not what we are looking for they understand . If a women tried to convince my husband to sleep with her she’s be getting a polite but stern no from him as I dragged him of to a private room away from her haha.

But luckily for us we have only ever met nice and respectful women and couples to chat with.

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By *illynillyCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire


"We have always attended clubs on Saturdays due to them being couples and females only as we have no interest in single males but there is a club event we want to attend but they are allowing select males to attend but we have always been told to avoid nights that allow them so we are in two minds to attend or not . Any help/advice from couples that have been in a similar situation "

Hi there,

We did a few clubs for a few years a decade ago (and 1 more recently), we've never had any trouble or problems from single males.

If a man chatted to us in the hope and he wasn't for us we'd politely say thank you but no thanks...all been very civilised

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By *r and Mrs B xxCouple
over a year ago

Chippenham


"I avoid couples nights specifically because I don't want to meet women, but I know some women will be there and we still have a good chat and a laugh.

That said in my experience far more women won't take 'no' for an answer than single guys, including putting hands on me without asking and continuing after being told no.

Women also try to convince Matt to sleep with them (in front of me) when we have repeatedly said that only I play...no guy has ever tried that the other way round!

Like any public place there will be people you would prefer weren't there, there will be people who would prefer you weren't there. X"

Totally agree with this, particularly the women that seem to think that it's ok for them to touch without asking. We much prefer a mixed night as we aren't interested in couples or single women. We have always found single guys polite but I do feel that different people have different interpretations of pushy. How is a guy to know if there is any interest unless he approaches a couple and chats? If we aren't interested in the guy we just politely say no thank you. Good manners are rewarded with good manners.

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By *anted by NightMan
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"We have always attended clubs on Saturdays due to them being couples and females only as we have no interest in single males but there is a club event we want to attend but they are allowing select males to attend but we have always been told to avoid nights that allow them so we are in two minds to attend or not . Any help/advice from couples that have been in a similar situation "

Tbh you are more likely to be pestered on couple’s night from other couples. I have seen more drama, disagreements, arguments and tears on couples only nights.

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