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When is Swinging Not classed as Swinging?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So as the subject says at which point is the barrier when swinging is not classed as Swinging?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

When it's only about one without any consideration for the other party

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think the definition is so broad generally but so narrow in some individual cases that it's impossible to say

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I think when feelings get involved

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"I think when feelings get involved "

Not strictly true, there are throuples where the 3 has real feelings, but they still all swing together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sharings caring

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By *icki jCouple
over a year ago

dumfries

When the spark is gone. Then it's time to stop. It's supposed to be an exciting high. If it's not that. You're better letting go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When the spark is gone. Then it's time to stop. It's supposed to be an exciting high. If it's not that. You're better letting go. "

I agree, when you dont get excited about a meet it's time to call it a day

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

When a proper swinger decides you're not doing it the way they think you should

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By *nvincible ButterflyWoman
over a year ago

LEEDS

When it stops becoming fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When lies are told and secrets kept from partners.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

When its a seesaw?

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

NG 21

Was gonna go with roundabout.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"When a proper swinger decides you're not doing it the way they think you should "

OOF! But true

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"When lies are told and secrets kept from partners."

this

Only pins and financial passwords should be kept secret.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"When lies are told and secrets kept from partners.

this

Only pins and financial passwords should be kept secret."

And where you hid the Christmas presents

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By *ootnootboopCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire


"When lies are told and secrets kept from partners.

this

Only pins and financial passwords should be kept secret.

And where you hid the Christmas presents "

I'd have thought that was responsible for alot of domestic arguments

On a slightly more serious note, swinging is so broad, it's hard to day when it's not. But if a party that is involved in your shenanigans is nonconsensually being ignored, hurt, or otherwise upset, then it's crossed the boundary between swinging and being a bit of a arse...

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By *irtyfuxCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk! NOT

When it’s one on one. Swinging is to involve 3 or more persons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When there's no partner swapping involved.

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

NG 21

When it's done behind a partners back. Then it's just plain old cheating

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By *I TwoCouple
over a year ago

PDI 12-26th Nov 24


"When it's done behind a partners back. Then it's just plain old cheating "

this

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"When it’s one on one. Swinging is to involve 3 or more persons."

Oh right. I'd better leave then

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By *rMrs84Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster


"When it’s one on one. Swinging is to involve 3 or more persons.

Oh right. I'd better leave then "

Honest question (and please take it as such) as we’re still genuinely figuring things out. How would you differentiate what you do as different from casual sex? Not judging the labels but I don’t get where the line is drawn (if it even is!)

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"So as the subject says at which point is the barrier when swinging is not classed as Swinging? "

When it’s a jar?

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"When it’s one on one. Swinging is to involve 3 or more persons.

Oh right. I'd better leave then

Honest question (and please take it as such) as we’re still genuinely figuring things out. How would you differentiate what you do as different from casual sex? Not judging the labels but I don’t get where the line is drawn (if it even is!)"

For me I meet people as part of the Swinging Community on here or in my local club. I get to know them, have a social meet and if there is some chemistry, then it may or may not lead to sex. Majority of my meets are repeats, so we get to know each other over time. Casual sex is fucking for the sake of it. Hope that makes sense and answers your question.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for all you replies, this has made some sense...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

*your replies

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"When it’s one on one. Swinging is to involve 3 or more persons.

Oh right. I'd better leave then

Honest question (and please take it as such) as we’re still genuinely figuring things out. How would you differentiate what you do as different from casual sex? Not judging the labels but I don’t get where the line is drawn (if it even is!)

For me I meet people as part of the Swinging Community on here or in my local club. I get to know them, have a social meet and if there is some chemistry, then it may or may not lead to sex. Majority of my meets are repeats, so we get to know each other over time. Casual sex is fucking for the sake of it. Hope that makes sense and answers your question.

"

Love this reply!

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"When it’s one on one. Swinging is to involve 3 or more persons.

Oh right. I'd better leave then

Honest question (and please take it as such) as we’re still genuinely figuring things out. How would you differentiate what you do as different from casual sex? Not judging the labels but I don’t get where the line is drawn (if it even is!)

For me I meet people as part of the Swinging Community on here or in my local club. I get to know them, have a social meet and if there is some chemistry, then it may or may not lead to sex. Majority of my meets are repeats, so we get to know each other over time. Casual sex is fucking for the sake of it. Hope that makes sense and answers your question.

Love this reply!"

Thankyou.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


" Casual sex is fucking for the sake of it.

"

Or fucking people you've made friends with, do social things with ( other than going to swingers clubs) and perhaps will do it more than once.

It's not that different to what your interpretation of a swinging is really

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By *orthwestbikerxxMan
over a year ago

lancs


"When it’s one on one. Swinging is to involve 3 or more persons.

Oh right. I'd better leave then "
me 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So as the subject says at which point is the barrier when swinging is not classed as Swinging? "

When the council closes the park due to ‘health and safety’ reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When it’s one on one. Swinging is to involve 3 or more persons.

Oh right. I'd better leave then

Honest question (and please take it as such) as we’re still genuinely figuring things out. How would you differentiate what you do as different from casual sex? Not judging the labels but I don’t get where the line is drawn (if it even is!)

For me I meet people as part of the Swinging Community on here or in my local club. I get to know them, have a social meet and if there is some chemistry, then it may or may not lead to sex. Majority of my meets are repeats, so we get to know each other over time. Casual sex is fucking for the sake of it. Hope that makes sense and answers your question.

"

This is such a great answer and your first two words are what make it so, "for me" everyone sees swinging in slightly different ways, the way I see it is, swingers are couples or singles that engage in consensual sexual activities with multiple partners, this can be in group play or 1 on 1 play, it really doesn't matter how you do it, but what I find the most fascinating about it and what really makes it all worth it is the hole community side to it all and the way it brings people from all walks of life together with this amazing one thing in common.

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By *lecom1Couple
over a year ago

Stornoway

Is wife swapping swinging?

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

When you’re on a swinging site for over a year but haven’t met anyone

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By *aked2sumCouple
over a year ago

local

When it’s married guys doing it behind their wife’s back that’s not swinging it’s adultery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When it’s married guys doing it behind their wife’s back that’s not swinging it’s adultery "

Same goes for married women doing it behind their husbands back.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

For us swinging is about sharing each other's sexual enjoyment. If one of us stopped enjoying it, it would no longer be swinging and we would stop.

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By *aked2sumCouple
over a year ago

local


"When it’s married guys doing it behind their wife’s back that’s not swinging it’s adultery

Same goes for married women doing it behind their husbands back."

Yea of course and unicorns

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By *andC1000Couple
over a year ago

Ashford

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By *andC1000Couple
over a year ago

Ashford


"When it’s married guys doing it behind their wife’s back that’s not swinging it’s adultery

Same goes for married women doing it behind their husbands back."

exactly this on both parts. Doesn’t matter which party sneaking around it’s wrong either way especially when meant to be in it together and being open with each other, communication and actually talking to each other is key

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