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By *amietxx OP   Man
over a year ago

south ayrshire

So there's a married woman I know who over the years has chatted and flirted with me when her hubby isn't around.

I say flirting but nothing heavy , just minor flirting like saying she wished we still worked together.

Last 2 occasions I've seen her , once in supermarket where she obviously doubled back so as to accidentally bump into me and then today where she was out walking and on the phone to her hubby , she seen me walking towards her and ended her call with him and then chatted to me for 10 minutes.

I think about her often now and find her extremely sexy and i did route my walk today so I'd bump into her .

I guess I'm asking how do I find out how much is she into me and what move to make.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'd say leave it alone op,she's married and unless he knows and let's her meet others it's a no go.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

I'm not sure ending a phone call to speak to you or chatting on the supermarket is flirting?

She's married and likely just bring friendly

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By *amietxx OP   Man
over a year ago

south ayrshire


"I'd say leave it alone op,she's married and unless he knows and let's her meet others it's a no go."

I have done just that for a number of years ( left it alone ) I just get feeling now we both want more.


"I'm not sure ending a phone call to speak to you or chatting on the supermarket is flirting?

She's married and likely just bring friendly "

I'm sure it's more than that , she wouldn't say more than a hello if her hubby was likely to be around ,

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'm gathering you're attached also op ,just think of how tits up it could go if she's not interested in anything with you and you insist on pursuing it .

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By *amietxx OP   Man
over a year ago

south ayrshire


"I'm gathering you're attached also op ,just think of how tits up it could go if she's not interested in anything with you and you insist on pursuing it .

"

Yes attached, I'll just nudge it along a bit , it's been simmering for a long time , I just need to know if she does want more .

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"So there's a married woman I know who over the years has chatted and flirted with me when her hubby isn't around.

I say flirting but nothing heavy , just minor flirting like saying she wished we still worked together.

Last 2 occasions I've seen her , once in supermarket where she obviously doubled back so as to accidentally bump into me and then today where she was out walking and on the phone to her hubby , she seen me walking towards her and ended her call with him and then chatted to me for 10 minutes.

I think about her often now and find her extremely sexy and i did route my walk today so I'd bump into her .

I guess I'm asking how do I find out how much is she into me and what move to make.

"

Leave her alone she is Married

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'm gathering you're attached also op ,just think of how tits up it could go if she's not interested in anything with you and you insist on pursuing it .

Yes attached, I'll just nudge it along a bit , it's been simmering for a long time , I just need to know if she does want more .

"

Well you don't need to. You want to

It's possible she does want more but equally likely she's just being friendly. I would end a call to my husband if I saw a friend, it's only polite. A woman wishing she still worked with you is not the same as a woman wanting to have sex with you.

There is one foolproof way to find out if she's interested in taking things further. Ask her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So there's a married woman I know who over the years has chatted and flirted with me when her hubby isn't around.

I say flirting but nothing heavy , just minor flirting like saying she wished we still worked together.

Last 2 occasions I've seen her , once in supermarket where she obviously doubled back so as to accidentally bump into me and then today where she was out walking and on the phone to her hubby , she seen me walking towards her and ended her call with him and then chatted to me for 10 minutes.

I think about her often now and find her extremely sexy and i did route my walk today so I'd bump into her .

I guess I'm asking how do I find out how much is she into me and what move to make.

"

IMHO

She is married so would be cheating.

There are enough single and open relationship couples around so unless she is a hotwife and playing with hubby permission don't be tempted.

Take it that She is just being friendly.

Just my opinion

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By *amietxx OP   Man
over a year ago

south ayrshire

Thanks for replys .

In regards her just being friendly yes I agree but I just get the feeling she feels same about me as I her.

Keeping a lid on this urge isn't easy although I'm not forward enough to come out and ask her .

I'll just carry on being friends .

Incidentally am I wrong about signals like her making an excuse to end call with her hubby so she can chat to me for 10 minutes ?

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England

OP I think you're reading into it what you want to read. If you ask her and you've totally misread the situation then you could end a friendship over nothing.

If you're attached what is it that you're going to offer her anyway?

If someone chatted to me for 10mins I wouldn't automatically assume they want to go to bed with me.

(Mr)

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By *amietxx OP   Man
over a year ago

south ayrshire


"OP I think you're reading into it what you want to read. If you ask her and you've totally misread the situation then you could end a friendship over nothing.

If you're attached what is it that you're going to offer her anyway?

If someone chatted to me for 10mins I wouldn't automatically assume they want to go to bed with me.

(Mr)

"

Ok thanks but what if you could see her going out of her way to accidently bump into you or make an excuse to hang up on her hubby to chat to you ?

Maybe I am seeing what I want to , I don't know.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thanks for replys .

In regards her just being friendly yes I agree but I just get the feeling she feels same about me as I her.

Keeping a lid on this urge isn't easy although I'm not forward enough to come out and ask her .

I'll just carry on being friends .

Incidentally am I wrong about signals like her making an excuse to end call with her hubby so she can chat to me for 10 minutes ? "

What do you think it's a sign of? To me it's a sign of good manners.

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By *amietxx OP   Man
over a year ago

south ayrshire


"Thanks for replys .

In regards her just being friendly yes I agree but I just get the feeling she feels same about me as I her.

Keeping a lid on this urge isn't easy although I'm not forward enough to come out and ask her .

I'll just carry on being friends .

Incidentally am I wrong about signals like her making an excuse to end call with her hubby so she can chat to me for 10 minutes ?

What do you think it's a sign of? To me it's a sign of good manners."

Doubt her husband thought it good manners her cutting him short , you know that feeling where you just know ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thanks for replys .

In regards her just being friendly yes I agree but I just get the feeling she feels same about me as I her.

Keeping a lid on this urge isn't easy although I'm not forward enough to come out and ask her .

I'll just carry on being friends .

Incidentally am I wrong about signals like her making an excuse to end call with her hubby so she can chat to me for 10 minutes ?

What do you think it's a sign of? To me it's a sign of good manners.

Doubt her husband thought it good manners her cutting him short , you know that feeling where you just know ?

"

I've never been 100% sure until someone has outright said something to me.

Obviously I haven't been there during your interactions but all I will say is be careful. You can make a sign mean anything if you think about it long enough.

A male friend of mine hugs and kisses me every time he sees me, he regularly messages me and although he's not married would absolutely cut a phone call short if he saw me in order to chat. What would that mean to you?

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By *amietxx OP   Man
over a year ago

south ayrshire


"Thanks for replys .

In regards her just being friendly yes I agree but I just get the feeling she feels same about me as I her.

Keeping a lid on this urge isn't easy although I'm not forward enough to come out and ask her .

I'll just carry on being friends .

Incidentally am I wrong about signals like her making an excuse to end call with her hubby so she can chat to me for 10 minutes ?

What do you think it's a sign of? To me it's a sign of good manners.

Doubt her husband thought it good manners her cutting him short , you know that feeling where you just know ?

I've never been 100% sure until someone has outright said something to me.

Obviously I haven't been there during your interactions but all I will say is be careful. You can make a sign mean anything if you think about it long enough.

A male friend of mine hugs and kisses me every time he sees me, he regularly messages me and although he's not married would absolutely cut a phone call short if he saw me in order to chat. What would that mean to you?"

What would you think if he didn't act this way when his partner ( if he had one ) was present ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thanks for replys .

In regards her just being friendly yes I agree but I just get the feeling she feels same about me as I her.

Keeping a lid on this urge isn't easy although I'm not forward enough to come out and ask her .

I'll just carry on being friends .

Incidentally am I wrong about signals like her making an excuse to end call with her hubby so she can chat to me for 10 minutes ?

What do you think it's a sign of? To me it's a sign of good manners.

Doubt her husband thought it good manners her cutting him short , you know that feeling where you just know ?

I've never been 100% sure until someone has outright said something to me.

Obviously I haven't been there during your interactions but all I will say is be careful. You can make a sign mean anything if you think about it long enough.

A male friend of mine hugs and kisses me every time he sees me, he regularly messages me and although he's not married would absolutely cut a phone call short if he saw me in order to chat. What would that mean to you?

What would you think if he didn't act this way when his partner ( if he had one ) was present ? "

That he felt constrained by his partners presence and didn't want to hurt her feelings. I guess it's something only the people in the situation can decide. Whatever happens I hope it turns out well for the four people involved.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

^^ mind you I behave exactly the same towards him when I'm alone with him or when my partner is there too.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Some people are naturally outgoing OP which can seem like flirting so she may be like this with everyone. If you are friends best to keep it this way.

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

It sounds like you're definitely reading too much into it.

I would always end a call if I bumped into someone I know.

As for doing back in the supermarket, never forgot to pick something up ?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Also think your reading too much into it, I'd hang up the phone to speak to a friend, never means I want sex with them though.

Plus she's married, saying she wish she still worked with you isn't flirting I've loads of male colleagues I used to have great banter with and a laugh and would be good to work with again, but again I don't want to sleep with them.

Mrs

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By *rodigalMan
over a year ago

sunderland

Flirt to see if u get a reaction and say aw if only we were both single see what reaction is

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Most people have good relationships with those who they work with and value them. It seems very typical to invest effort into not ignoring them in public, without any sexual motive.as there are swingers clubs and fab with lots of people, it would be much more appropriate to invest effort into people there

Many women don't appreciate men introducing sexual elements into relationships, where boundaries exist. It's better to retain professional conduct and hold on to good people, without aiding them losing faith in people they respect and trust.

If anyone ever gives a very clear message, it's still advisable to retain professional distance. She doesn't seem to have done anything that suggests sexual advances.

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness

Next time you meet her(try to engineer it) slip into the conversation if she fancies a drink. If she agrees, get her to take a few,that will loosen her up a bit and hopefully your in luck,or a least get more of an idea of your chances.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"Next time you meet her(try to engineer it) slip into the conversation if she fancies a drink. If she agrees, get her to take a few,that will loosen her up a bit and hopefully your in luck,or a least get more of an idea of your chances."

Get her d*unk to loosen her up a bit

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England


"OP I think you're reading into it what you want to read. If you ask her and you've totally misread the situation then you could end a friendship over nothing.

If you're attached what is it that you're going to offer her anyway?

If someone chatted to me for 10mins I wouldn't automatically assume they want to go to bed with me.

(Mr)

Ok thanks but what if you could see her going out of her way to accidently bump into you or make an excuse to hang up on her hubby to chat to you ?

Maybe I am seeing what I want to , I don't know.

"

If I was in that situation I'd probably tell my partner I'd seen someone and that I'd call them back. She maybe sees you once in a blue moon and yes good to catch up. Once she's spoken to you she probably calls her husband back and says she just saw a some one she knew etc. Not sure why this isn't patently obvious to you.

If you think she's that into you and only has eyes for you why don't you just ask her instead of all the messing around.

But from what you've said I'd say prepare to crash and burn, but wish you well.

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness


"Next time you meet her(try to engineer it) slip into the conversation if she fancies a drink. If she agrees, get her to take a few,that will loosen her up a bit and hopefully your in luck,or a least get more of an idea of your chances.

Get her d*unk to loosen her up a bit "
yeh,why not?

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I would think you are reading more into these interactions than is meant because quite simply you find her attractive and want to have sex with her.

Between this and another thread

recently I actually find it very strange how people read things into what are innocent conversations just because they want to fuck the other person. And how no matter what anyone else says are determined they are right and ignore any advice that doesn't reinforce what they want to hear.

So yes op go make a move and when it most likely goes completely tits up I hope you can deal with the consequences all round.

And as for the suggestion to get her d*unk to loosen her up.Well that's just creepy as fuck not to mention a bit lacking in the whole consent department if that's the intention behind it. So I wouldn't go that route if you have any integrity at all.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"Next time you meet her(try to engineer it) slip into the conversation if she fancies a drink. If she agrees, get her to take a few,that will loosen her up a bit and hopefully your in luck,or a least get more of an idea of your chances.

Get her d*unk to loosen her up a bit yeh,why not?"

Wait, what? You need it explaining to you why getting people d*unk in the hope they'll consent to something they wouldn't when sober is not okay?

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"Thanks for replys .

In regards her just being friendly yes I agree but I just get the feeling she feels same about me as I her.

Keeping a lid on this urge isn't easy although I'm not forward enough to come out and ask her .

I'll just carry on being friends .

Incidentally am I wrong about signals like her making an excuse to end call with her hubby so she can chat to me for 10 minutes ? "

Seems a bit odd that you would take this ending her call as a sign she is flirting with you. She perhaps didn't want to come across rude and walk past you without stopping to say hi...how did you meet her? If your attached and your one of these guys who say "they are not getting what they need from their parnter" you are going to think that just because a woman speaks to you, or is being nice to you that she has to fancy you because what else could it be...it can't possibly be that she is just being friendly.

OP, one...if your not happy in your relationship then you need to do something about that, don't drag other people into that!

And two...she is a married woman, leave her and her husband well alone and move on. I don't know her situation but If she has children then thats even more of a reason to leave her alone.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"Next time you meet her(try to engineer it) slip into the conversation if she fancies a drink. If she agrees, get her to take a few,that will loosen her up a bit and hopefully your in luck,or a least get more of an idea of your chances."

You Do realise that you sound like quite a dangerous person qith this comment?

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Next time you meet her(try to engineer it) slip into the conversation if she fancies a drink. If she agrees, get her to take a few,that will loosen her up a bit and hopefully your in luck,or a least get more of an idea of your chances."

I might be Xeno but this is giving Predator vibes

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness


"Next time you meet her(try to engineer it) slip into the conversation if she fancies a drink. If she agrees, get her to take a few,that will loosen her up a bit and hopefully your in luck,or a least get more of an idea of your chances.

You Do realise that you sound like quite a dangerous person qith this comment? "
Dangerous? Rubbish.

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"Next time you meet her(try to engineer it) slip into the conversation if she fancies a drink. If she agrees, get her to take a few,that will loosen her up a bit and hopefully your in luck,or a least get more of an idea of your chances.

You Do realise that you sound like quite a dangerous person qith this comment? Dangerous? Rubbish."

It definitely comes across super creepy the way you said it. Perhaps that wasn't the intention but I definitely wouldn't trust you near any woman with that comment.

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England


"Next time you meet her(try to engineer it) slip into the conversation if she fancies a drink. If she agrees, get her to take a few,that will loosen her up a bit and hopefully your in luck,or a least get more of an idea of your chances.

You Do realise that you sound like quite a dangerous person qith this comment? Dangerous? Rubbish."

Hard to believe someone would think this is appropriate. Again an example of entitlement, just get what you want by any available means. So disrespectful.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

Yea why not go the full Jeff Dahmer and slip a sedative into her drink?!!

Once she’s comatose she’ll be yours to do with as you wish

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Next time you meet her(try to engineer it) slip into the conversation if she fancies a drink. If she agrees, get her to take a few,that will loosen her up a bit and hopefully your in luck,or a least get more of an idea of your chances."

WTF

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