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By *ingcobra OP   Man
over a year ago

Almondsbury

I'm trying to understand where I'm going wrong with the messages I'm sending.

I only ever message someone if I fit all of their criteria (and they fit mine) and try to write a meaningful message - not too short and not too long, however they invariably get deleted.

I realise, that as a single male, I am just one in a large crowd. I've had some success in the past, but nothing recently.

Thanks for any advice, especially from women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me there’s a couple of things.

You’re 62 and would meet an 18yo. Totally your choice but would put me off

Also

Photos with others especially unprotected is a big no. I would be worried any photos would appear on your profile and I really don’t want to see a potential partner with others on a profile

Jut my thoughts

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

Ok when I get a message I look at the profile first. I see action shots. Instant delete. Doesn’t matter what you wrote

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Do you send current pictures with your message?

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By *ingcobra OP   Man
over a year ago

Almondsbury

OK - thanks, that's useful information, however none of my pictures show unprotected sex, I always use a condom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK - thanks, that's useful information, however none of my pictures show unprotected sex, I always use a condom."

20th July?

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By *ingcobra OP   Man
over a year ago

Almondsbury

I used to send current pictures, but since not getting any replies, I've stopped doing that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to send current pictures, but since not getting any replies, I've stopped doing that."

So your pics are 12 years out of date

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West


"OK - thanks, that's useful information, however none of my pictures show unprotected sex, I always use a condom."

Well it looks like it from your photos. Women just don’t want to see action shots

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

And your most recent photo is 12 years ago

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By *ingcobra OP   Man
over a year ago

Almondsbury

What's happening on 20th July?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK - thanks, that's useful information, however none of my pictures show unprotected sex, I always use a condom.

Well it looks like it from your photos. Women just don’t want to see action shots

Added to which, the newest photos are 12 years old ?

I’d say that you could definitely use something more up to date that gives a prospective partner an idea of who you are and why you’d be someone worth replying to anymore than than the masses of other single males who message "

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West


"What's happening on 20th July?"

Don’t you look at your old photos?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to see recent photos and dislike full sex pictures.

I wouldn't meet an older guy who is looking for 18 year olds either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's happening on 20th July?"

Looks unprotected and if you are you definitely can’t tell hence my comment on unprotected sex

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"What's happening on 20th July?"

You have your dick in some lady looks unprotected to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ingcobra OP   Man
over a year ago

Almondsbury

I'm beginning to understand the problem - thanks.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

Honestly the name and profile picture alone suggest you think a big cock is enough. The pictures and profile text reinforce that.

Sometimes might be drawn on that basis, most won't

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"I'm beginning to understand the problem - thanks."

You need to get rid of the old photos and get new ones of yourself

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op

You definitely need some up to date pics and some that's aren't cock/action based.

Most women will check a profile before a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't respond to someone who's last picture was 12 years ago and I'm sure if a woman messaged you and had not updated her pics since 2010 you wouldn't respond either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any chance on some construction feedback on my profile ladies

I normally send a message with a recent photo (3months old)

And I try and make my message about things in there profile but I get left uread, read and ignored or deleted

I know I'm not everyone cup of tea but (apart from the ones I've chatted too) I've only had 2 women reply with a polite "no thank you"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, your pictures are 12yrs old. Thats fraud by any reasonable standards, smh.

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman
over a year ago

The place where fairies live


"Any chance on some construction feedback on my profile ladies

I normally send a message with a recent photo (3months old)

And I try and make my message about things in there profile but I get left uread, read and ignored or deleted

I know I'm not everyone cup of tea but (apart from the ones I've chatted too) I've only had 2 women reply with a polite "no thank you""

You need to make your own forum post

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman
over a year ago

The place where fairies live


"I'm trying to understand where I'm going wrong with the messages I'm sending.

I only ever message someone if I fit all of their criteria (and they fit mine) and try to write a meaningful message - not too short and not too long, however they invariably get deleted.

I realise, that as a single male, I am just one in a large crowd. I've had some success in the past, but nothing recently.

Thanks for any advice, especially from women."

You have super old pictures.

You say you'd have sex with an 18 year old.. And you're 62.. That's creepy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any chance on some construction feedback on my profile ladies

I normally send a message with a recent photo (3months old)

And I try and make my message about things in there profile but I get left uread, read and ignored or deleted

I know I'm not everyone cup of tea but (apart from the ones I've chatted too) I've only had 2 women reply with a polite "no thank you"

You need to make your own forum post"

Yeah I know, I just didn't want to clutter the place up with a pity post lol and this one's done now I though I would jump in

I'll look for a better section to post in

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London


"Any chance on some construction feedback on my profile ladies

I normally send a message with a recent photo (3months old)

And I try and make my message about things in there profile but I get left uread, read and ignored or deleted

I know I'm not everyone cup of tea but (apart from the ones I've chatted too) I've only had 2 women reply with a polite "no thank you"

You need to make your own forum post

Yeah I know, I just didn't want to clutter the place up with a pity post lol and this one's done now I though I would jump in

I'll look for a better section to post in"

You are in the right section, just post your own thread

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