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"Hi all. Just asking for a bit of advice as how to get the wife more adventurous... We have been trying to swing for a few years now...had kids so things were put on hold. Now looking at giving it another go But one minute the wife is up for it the next it's a no no. She is stunning and likes the cock so can't see what's holding us back... Cheers all " Maybe she just doesn’t want to anymore | |||
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"Hi all. Just asking for a bit of advice as how to get the wife more adventurous... We have been trying to swing for a few years now...had kids so things were put on hold. Now looking at giving it another go But one minute the wife is up for it the next it's a no no. She is stunning and likes the cock so can't see what's holding us back... Cheers all " Non of us can or should be convincing her. You shouldn't be convincing her The far more pertinent question would be what are her concerns or anxieties when she says no which I suspect people might be able to offer more advice around. Though that assumes she means it when she says yes and the no is down to nerves rather than a refusal to consider it The more pertone | |||
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"She is really up for it after a few drinks... But the next morning she isn't so... That's why I have never pushed her into it We are looking at going benidorm just the 2 of us and she says she would like to find people to play with there. Think it might just be a fantasy of hers" Sounds like a fantasy tbh | |||
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"Sounds like it's something you want and she doesn't and you're trying to twist her arm. Doesn't make for a very good relationship. " This! | |||
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"Sounds like it's something you want and she doesn't and you're trying to twist her arm. Doesn't make for a very good relationship. " Bang on .sounds a fantasy only | |||
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"When we first started going to Clubs, we had lots of rules as we were scared of hurting each other. So we used to go, loved getting dressed up, looking at people and then playing with each other. We discovered over time what we were and weren’t comfortable with, and we have relaxed our rules completely now. For some people it takes time. Just remember you are there for each other & not just yourself. The most important bit is talk to each other & don’t rush into anything." Fantastic Advice! Definitely communicate regularly and when you are clear headed! I'm partial to a bit of psychobabble/psychotherapy and the worst thing you could do is force her when she's not ready. I've seen people forced into therapy when they are not ready and it's a disaster! And that's therapy with a professional not getting completely naked with strangers with a higher physical and psychological risk! | |||
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"She is really up for it after a few drinks... But the next morning she isn't so... That's why I have never pushed her into it We are looking at going benidorm just the 2 of us and she says she would like to find people to play with there. Think it might just be a fantasy of hers" If I was you I'd be respecting your wife's position in this, your relationship/marriage is the most important thing in this, especially if you have kids Convincing her is not the right path. If she did go ahead with it after a few drink she could end up really regretting it and blaming you. | |||
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"Would love to no my self " Monthly weekends away. I used to do this with my ex. Obviously we broke up when we stopped doing it. Nothing too fancy. We didn't have kids so we'd go to a day spa or an overnight spa. about 100 quid per person. If you have kids, you'd have to either arrange for the kids to be looked after for the whole day or you would have to take on the child care yourself and send her to the spa/salon, so she is happy and relaxed once the kids are in bed. If you do this on a regular basis, she will relax and not feel like a drudgery maid. Also watch sex documentaries or read sex books together. Sorry Porn is not going to work. | |||
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