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Separate Room vs Same Room Full Swap

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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

It seems many enjoy same room swap and disregard separate room swap when meeting couples.

We have enjoyed both. What we do find with same room swap is that it can be fun to see your partner but also distracting where you should be giving full attention to the person you’re with. We also find it can become a bit of a competition where “they’ve moved to oral so we better move too”.

Sometimes separate room full swap can allow you to concentrate more and move at your own pace without looking at what someone else is doing.

Anyone else find this or just us

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By *dquestCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

To each their own. The level of trust in the other couple has to be fairly high.

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By *ragon and AthenaCouple
over a year ago

London / romford

We found we only like same room we trust each other as lot but like group sex environment

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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"To each their own. The level of trust in the other couple has to be fairly high. "

Would you play with someone you didn’t trust ? What would the worry be if your partner is in the next door room ?

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By *iberatedduoCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne


"It seems many enjoy same room swap and disregard separate room swap when meeting couples.

We have enjoyed both. What we do find with same room swap is that it can be fun to see your partner but also distracting where you should be giving full attention to the person you’re with. We also find it can become a bit of a competition where “they’ve moved to oral so we better move too”.

Sometimes separate room full swap can allow you to concentrate more and move at your own pace without looking at what someone else is doing.

Anyone else find this or just us "

You’re not alone with this. Cat and I had this very conversation recently and came to the same conclusion for the reasons you’ve given.

We are considering separate rooms too eliminating any distraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have enjoyed both

Same room group fun is great but there have also been instances where we have found that separate room fun can add even more to the excitement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We think we can have our cake (or should that be pie !!! ) in thsi case and eat it....we rather like to start off in the same room (seeing partners enjoying and being enjoyed, hearing and doing the things you can do with more than one other person) before moving off to separate rooms, at least some of the time.....

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By *he MuffinmanMan
over a year ago

West Gloucestershire


"It seems many enjoy same room swap and disregard separate room swap when meeting couples.

We have enjoyed both. What we do find with same room swap is that it can be fun to see your partner but also distracting where you should be giving full attention to the person you’re with. We also find it can become a bit of a competition where “they’ve moved to oral so we better move too”.

Sometimes separate room full swap can allow you to concentrate more and move at your own pace without looking at what someone else is doing.

Anyone else find this or just us "

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By *he MuffinmanMan
over a year ago

West Gloucestershire


"It seems many enjoy same room swap and disregard separate room swap when meeting couples.

We have enjoyed both. What we do find with same room swap is that it can be fun to see your partner but also distracting where you should be giving full attention to the person you’re with. We also find it can become a bit of a competition where “they’ve moved to oral so we better move too”.

Sometimes separate room full swap can allow you to concentrate more and move at your own pace without looking at what someone else is doing.

Anyone else find this or just us "

Yeah I would agree with you…. When my wife and I used to play as a couple found it much better when we played in separate rooms for the very reasons you mentioned

X

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By *asterandGenieCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

Don’t have enough rooms for separate room lol

M

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By *rnmrsrk1Couple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Same room is fun separate room is so much better

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By *implynaughty1Couple
over a year ago

stockport

Same room

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

We started off as same room only but then we had some meets in houses where we had the option of being different rooms and found it just happened. It wasn’t like that for the whole time on any of these occasions, there was always times when we were all together and we found we liked a mixture of both.

It’s hot watching each other with other people and also enjoy when everyone gets involved with each other. However, as others have said it is nice to have time one in one with someone when you can just concentrate on them.

Kx

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Always same room for us. Perhaps the greatest enjoyment is sharing each other's enjoyment.

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By *rK MrsJCouple
over a year ago

Kidderminster


"It seems many enjoy same room swap and disregard separate room swap when meeting couples.

We have enjoyed both. What we do find with same room swap is that it can be fun to see your partner but also distracting where you should be giving full attention to the person you’re with. We also find it can become a bit of a competition where “they’ve moved to oral so we better move too”.

Sometimes separate room full swap can allow you to concentrate more and move at your own pace without looking at what someone else is doing.

Anyone else find this or just us "

Totally agree, or they've finished and you are still playing.

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By *uv2kissMan
over a year ago

fenland

The only time I have done separate room the husband went to the bedroom with the lady I was with leaving his wife and myself.

We started to kiss and I could tell that she wasn't really into it, so we spent most of it talking.

An hour or so later the hubby and my gf reappeared and he left with his wife

We started to chat and he had made my gf cum numerous times before he fucked her, bare as well.

She could not believe all I got was a couple of kisses.

We never met them again and I've never done separate room since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

same room sex with my husband and a 2nd for a 3some

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"To each their own. The level of trust in the other couple has to be fairly high.

Would you play with someone you didn’t trust ? What would the worry be if your partner is in the next door room ? "

If the guy is getting to rough with her and i cant see it to stop it maybe. Or he is forcing her to do stuff not agreed before hand ect. Its more to protect joanne than lack of trust!

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"The only time I have done separate room the husband went to the bedroom with the lady I was with leaving his wife and myself.

We started to kiss and I could tell that she wasn't really into it, so we spent most of it talking.

An hour or so later the hubby and my gf reappeared and he left with his wife

We started to chat and he had made my gf cum numerous times before he fucked her, bare as well.

She could not believe all I got was a couple of kisses.

We never met them again and I've never done separate room since"

Agree

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"Always same room for us. Perhaps the greatest enjoyment is sharing each other's enjoyment."

Our thoughts also

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By *wesomeLolaCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough and Buckinghamshire

On our profile we just say "prefer same room". If we're meeting as a foursome that's what we like to do, but no real problem if it moves to separate rooms. We went away for a weekend with another couple and it was sort of separate but with a mezzanine floor so not completely separate. It was a case of any of us doing it wherever we felt right. Perfect compromise.

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By *ftereightMan
over a year ago

SouthEast

We enjoy a mixture of same room, seperate room or meeting on our own. I think its important to have balance.. sometimes its great watching each other with different people but in a seperate room or on your own allows getting lost in someome else without worrying about a partner its very enjoyable to - particularly if there are no jealousy issues.

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By *oodvibrations68Couple
over a year ago

Lake Constance

We enjoy both... going with the flow...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a friend who used to do separate room swaps with a regular couple. Unfortunately for him his wife and his male friend ran off off with each other basically destroying two families as they had kids. I know this is rare but it did happen

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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Had a friend who used to do separate room swaps with a regular couple. Unfortunately for him his wife and his male friend ran off off with each other basically destroying two families as they had kids. I know this is rare but it did happen "

To be fair we’ve heard of that happening with same room too but as you say it is rare or at least we think it’s rare.

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By *ohnandLucyCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle


"It seems many enjoy same room swap and disregard separate room swap when meeting couples.

We have enjoyed both. What we do find with same room swap is that it can be fun to see your partner but also distracting where you should be giving full attention to the person you’re with. We also find it can become a bit of a competition where “they’ve moved to oral so we better move too”.

Sometimes separate room full swap can allow you to concentrate more and move at your own pace without looking at what someone else is doing.

Anyone else find this or just us "

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By *akedduo66Couple
over a year ago

Near Bordon


"

We also find it can become a bit of a competition where “they’ve moved to oral so we better move too”.

Anyone else find this or just us

"

Ha ha ,this ...

We rarely do separate room sex but this has made me think .

The times where it becomes obvious that

A, he isn't so keen on giving cunnilingus as becomes obvious by his wife's delight and my wife's annoyance and his sideways glances at his orgasming wife .

B, a condom makes soft ,this becomes apparent when both us guys are going for the final hurdle and he is taking ages .

Then he rolls of my missus , has a little wank then my missus has to try to revive him with a bit of sucking before new condom and off again .

All the time me and his missus have been ticking over as I don't want to be the first to cum ,but normally by then he is broken and dejected and I end up the only one of us two guys to cum and the missus has a pouty bottom lip .

Maybe separate room is worth another go .

Cheers for that .

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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"

We also find it can become a bit of a competition where “they’ve moved to oral so we better move too”.

Anyone else find this or just us

Ha ha ,this ...

We rarely do separate room sex but this has made me think .

The times where it becomes obvious that

A, he isn't so keen on giving cunnilingus as becomes obvious by his wife's delight and my wife's annoyance and his sideways glances at his orgasming wife .

B, a condom makes soft ,this becomes apparent when both us guys are going for the final hurdle and he is taking ages .

Then he rolls of my missus , has a little wank then my missus has to try to revive him with a bit of sucking before new condom and off again .

All the time me and his missus have been ticking over as I don't want to be the first to cum ,but normally by then he is broken and dejected and I end up the only one of us two guys to cum and the missus has a pouty bottom lip .

Maybe separate room is worth another go .

Cheers for that ."

Yes you can have visions of both guys in same room holding off on cumming as no one wants to be the first to cum to prove who’s the most virile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It seems many enjoy same room swap and disregard separate room swap when meeting couples.

We have enjoyed both. What we do find with same room swap is that it can be fun to see your partner but also distracting where you should be giving full attention to the person you’re with. We also find it can become a bit of a competition where “they’ve moved to oral so we better move too”.

Sometimes separate room full swap can allow you to concentrate more and move at your own pace without looking at what someone else is doing.

Anyone else find this or just us

You’re not alone with this. Cat and I had this very conversation recently and came to the same conclusion for the reasons you’ve given.

We are considering separate rooms too eliminating any distraction.

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#Us Too

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By *weetHotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

A few years ago we did a separate parts of the county swap and at some point during the night did a video call to watch each others action and chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same room

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a same room sex for a three some for me and my husband

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By *otts PervsCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

We had a separate room meet last time we played, we just agreed an approximate time to meet up again as a foursome, then went off to our separate hotel rooms. All enjoyed it very much, definitely something we’re happy with.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

We like both (and even play separately) but appreciate that not every other couple is comfy with playing separately from their partners. to be fair we've been swinging together since our 20s so we've had many years to get comfy with a lot of aspects of swinging.

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By *imixedkinkcplCouple
over a year ago

Reading

Love this topic. We've not yet played with couples but as a solo poly couple I suspect that we'd enjoy a mix of both.

If it's a bi couple same room fun would probably be preferred though.

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

We would never do separate room swap with new people. There has to be a trust built up over time.

It has happened where one of us has wandered off with a trusted friend in a club but usually, we like all to be together as we are bi and want everyone to be involved.

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By *tmmCouple
over a year ago

harlow

yes sep room is the best ,, and we have done sep place brill.

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By *ebootCouple
over a year ago

Telford

We’re very much go with the flow, both have their merits though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer same room fun as we like seeing each other being pleasured but others. Huge turn on for us.

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By *orkcoastguyMan
over a year ago

Bridlington.


"We found we only like same room we trust each other as lot but like group sex environment "

It combines the physical with the visual.

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By *entative_steps7781Couple
over a year ago

Home

We have done same room, separate room and solo meets, all of which have been great. Each has their own positive and (potential) negative aspects.

As with all of this lifestyle so long as everyone is communicating and enjoying themselves there is no right or wrong way to swing!

MJ x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have tried both and have had great fun with same room swap, group play and separate room swaps. But as mentioned in the post, every type of play has its benefits and draw backs. As for same room play, it sometimes feels like no-one wants to “fall behind “ with the play and therefor could be more rushed or become like a competition (mostly between the lads) or too much comparison that some seems to have more fun then oneself…

It is about enjoying a great time. And separate room play can feel more intimate with great sex.

It all depends who we meet and where and when. But instead of where, the sexual attraction between people is probably much more important to have a great time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We enjoy both. As long as everyone's happy and Comfortable.

Nikki x

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Watching each other is a big part of swinging for us, so we only do same room.

However, we don't tend to simply swap partners, wr prefer a more flexible approach with all four involved. Or everyone in the case of larger groups.

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