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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I often get men, who have no real interest in me apart from trying to get me to write them a verification to meet other people. Is this common behaviour on fab?

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By *r_N_MrsCumslutCouple
over a year ago

Dartford

I'm afraid so

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming


"I often get men, who have no real interest in me apart from trying to get me to write them a verification to meet other people. Is this common behaviour on fab? "

We would love to meet you.

No verifications needed.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I often get men, who have no real interest in me apart from trying to get me to write them a verification to meet other people. Is this common behaviour on fab? "

Personally, I have the opposite situation; people asking not to swap veris as they don’t want their inboxes filled with offers.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had women do it! Chat on cam, sends a friend request, the when I’ve verified them the delete the friend link.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had women do it! Chat on cam, sends a friend request, the when I’ve verified them the delete the friend link. "

Oh and some have even blokes me!

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Am I being dumb. I don’t understand this thread. What other people are they wanting you to meet?

I often get people pretending they have been to the same event as me asking me to verify them although they (if they were even actually there) never came to say hello on the day

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By *lirtymr_mrsCouple
over a year ago

Stockton-on-Tees

Quite a few people will only meet verified people / men. So that drives up the value of a verification to the point where people try to find an easier way to get one. It's a bit chicken-and-egg with verified meets, but CAM is easier to push for.

Of course anyone basing their shopping decisions on reviews isn't going to put much stock in a lackluster CAM verification.

Funny old place is FAB.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I litterly had men chat to me saying they're desperate to get noticed and if I verify them if we meet or cam chat etc. I rather us just meet or cam chat because we interested in eachother, not because they want to meet others.

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By *wice pleaseMan
over a year ago

near Darlington

I dont encourage verifications. dont meet very frequently but always well planned. mostly regulars/friends or introductions by regulars...works for me.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Fortunately not the case for me. All my veris are from meeting in person and quite complimentary...

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

I never see the point of cam verifications, as far as meeting goes, it proves nothing. As for giving a verification it would have to be by genuinely meeting someone. Certainly wouldn't want to give one to someone I hadn't met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often get men, who have no real interest in me apart from trying to get me to write them a verification to meet other people. Is this common behaviour on fab? "

No

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"Am I being dumb. I don’t understand this thread. What other people are they wanting you to meet?

I often get people pretending they have been to the same event as me asking me to verify them although they (if they were even actually there) never came to say hello on the day "

LOOL we had that after arranging a social in Norwich. One guy was quite put out that we wouldn't verify him because he hadn't turned up.

"But I was at the bar trying to pluck up courage" he whined

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I litterly had men chat to me saying they're desperate to get noticed and if I verify them if we meet or cam chat etc. I rather us just meet or cam chat because we interested in eachother, not because they want to meet others. "

I would love to meet you your profile is amazing

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By *ilk_TrayMan
over a year ago

South

I wouldn't say it's common. Not from my knowledge.

I know it can be hard to get verifications but damn.

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By *iddle ManMan
over a year ago

Walsall


"I often get men, who have no real interest in me apart from trying to get me to write them a verification to meet other people. Is this common behaviour on fab? "

So they want to meet you, just to try to be able to meet someone else.

Are they mad, that's like swapping gold for silver.

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By *weety321Woman
over a year ago

nottingham

I remember a few years ago on a different profile I had a guy ask to view his cam and then tell another lady he was the real deal and was bbc? My reply- no clue as I ain’t watching your cam and if the other lady was interested then she’d already be viewing your cam! The room was in fits of laughter to which he then left the room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often get men, who have no real interest in me apart from trying to get me to write them a verification to meet other people. Is this common behaviour on fab? "

I hope not. I've only got a few veris after being here for a while now, but I actually have a connection with the people who have written about me.

What does a verification actually get you, anyway? It's not like anyone's meeting these days..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often get men, who have no real interest in me apart from trying to get me to write them a verification to meet other people. Is this common behaviour on fab? "

We could keep it quiet that we met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I litterly had men chat to me saying they're desperate to get noticed and if I verify them if we meet or cam chat etc. I rather us just meet or cam chat because we interested in eachother, not because they want to meet others. "

Yeah ..I guess you feel a bit used and 2nd best. Don't take it to heart and brush it off. I've met people for coffee and nothing else in the past just so they can get a veri. Move on and hold your head high. Great profile and pics btw OP. You're now on my hot list

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"I litterly had men chat to me saying they're desperate to get noticed and if I verify them if we meet or cam chat etc. I rather us just meet or cam chat because we interested in eachother, not because they want to meet others.

Yeah ..I guess you feel a bit used and 2nd best. Don't take it to heart and brush it off. I've met people for coffee and nothing else in the past just so they can get a veri. Move on and hold your head high. Great profile and pics btw OP. You're now on my hot list "

Your such a tart nicey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I litterly had men chat to me saying they're desperate to get noticed and if I verify them if we meet or cam chat etc. I rather us just meet or cam chat because we interested in eachother, not because they want to meet others.

Yeah ..I guess you feel a bit used and 2nd best. Don't take it to heart and brush it off. I've met people for coffee and nothing else in the past just so they can get a veri. Move on and hold your head high. Great profile and pics btw OP. You're now on my hot list

Your such a tart nicey "

Hey Sharif . It's been ages since I've seen you . Hope you're doing ok Matey it's nice to be nice.lol

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"I litterly had men chat to me saying they're desperate to get noticed and if I verify them if we meet or cam chat etc. I rather us just meet or cam chat because we interested in eachother, not because they want to meet others.

Yeah ..I guess you feel a bit used and 2nd best. Don't take it to heart and brush it off. I've met people for coffee and nothing else in the past just so they can get a veri. Move on and hold your head high. Great profile and pics btw OP. You're now on my hot list "

I Will happily meet people for coffee and am happy to write them the verification they desire but it really aggravates me when they don’t write them in return x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I litterly had men chat to me saying they're desperate to get noticed and if I verify them if we meet or cam chat etc. I rather us just meet or cam chat because we interested in eachother, not because they want to meet others.

Yeah ..I guess you feel a bit used and 2nd best. Don't take it to heart and brush it off. I've met people for coffee and nothing else in the past just so they can get a veri. Move on and hold your head high. Great profile and pics btw OP. You're now on my hot list

I Will happily meet people for coffee and am happy to write them the verification they desire but it really aggravates me when they don’t write them in return x"

How very dare they? How rude GG

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"I litterly had men chat to me saying they're desperate to get noticed and if I verify them if we meet or cam chat etc. I rather us just meet or cam chat because we interested in eachother, not because they want to meet others.

Yeah ..I guess you feel a bit used and 2nd best. Don't take it to heart and brush it off. I've met people for coffee and nothing else in the past just so they can get a veri. Move on and hold your head high. Great profile and pics btw OP. You're now on my hot list

I Will happily meet people for coffee and am happy to write them the verification they desire but it really aggravates me when they don’t write them in return x

How very dare they? How rude GG "

It’s more for my short term memory loss than anything lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I litterly had men chat to me saying they're desperate to get noticed and if I verify them if we meet or cam chat etc. I rather us just meet or cam chat because we interested in eachother, not because they want to meet others.

Yeah ..I guess you feel a bit used and 2nd best. Don't take it to heart and brush it off. I've met people for coffee and nothing else in the past just so they can get a veri. Move on and hold your head high. Great profile and pics btw OP. You're now on my hot list

I Will happily meet people for coffee and am happy to write them the verification they desire but it really aggravates me when they don’t write them in return x

How very dare they? How rude GG

It’s more for my short term memory loss than anything lol x"

That's an age thing . It comes to us all. Lol x

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I litterly had men chat to me saying they're desperate to get noticed and if I verify them if we meet or cam chat etc. I rather us just meet or cam chat because we interested in eachother, not because they want to meet others.

Yeah ..I guess you feel a bit used and 2nd best. Don't take it to heart and brush it off. I've met people for coffee and nothing else in the past just so they can get a veri. Move on and hold your head high. Great profile and pics btw OP. You're now on my hot list

I Will happily meet people for coffee and am happy to write them the verification they desire but it really aggravates me when they don’t write them in return x"

going for coffee fine if you agreed before hand, all you wanted was that. I'm all about transparency. It when they change the game mid way through, claiming they wanted something different at the start, then in reality after the physical side, they just wanted you to praise how good they were in bed so other women find them more appealing. Usually this is members with no verifications and been on fab for ages with no success

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often get men, who have no real interest in me apart from trying to get me to write them a verification to meet other people. Is this common behaviour on fab?

Personally, I have the opposite situation; people asking not to swap veris as they don’t want their inboxes filled with offers....."

^ this.

I don't display my veris , and I don't verify others unless they specifically ask, in order to keep my mail to a minimum.

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork


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I Will happily meet people for coffee and am happy to write them the verification they desire but it really aggravates me when they don’t write them in return x"

I had that the other week.

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By *iddle ManMan
over a year ago

Walsall


"I litterly had men chat to me saying they're desperate to get noticed and if I verify them if we meet or cam chat etc. I rather us just meet or cam chat because we interested in eachother, not because they want to meet others.

Yeah ..I guess you feel a bit used and 2nd best. Don't take it to heart and brush it off. I've met people for coffee and nothing else in the past just so they can get a veri. Move on and hold your head high. Great profile and pics btw OP. You're now on my hot list "

I guess it would make you feel that way, try not the take it to heart and know that it's their loss big time. You have a great profile and an even better presence and forum personality, your posts always bring out people for involvement and fun.

_______________________________

Now if anyone wants to 'use me' for verifications then I'd be more than willing to help you out

I know, shameless

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I litterly had men chat to me saying they're desperate to get noticed and if I verify them if we meet or cam chat etc. I rather us just meet or cam chat because we interested in eachother, not because they want to meet others.

Yeah ..I guess you feel a bit used and 2nd best. Don't take it to heart and brush it off. I've met people for coffee and nothing else in the past just so they can get a veri. Move on and hold your head high. Great profile and pics btw OP. You're now on my hot list

I guess it would make you feel that way, try not the take it to heart and know that it's their loss big time. You have a great profile and an even better presence and forum personality, your posts always bring out people for involvement and fun.

_______________________________

Now if anyone wants to 'use me' for verifications then I'd be more than willing to help you out

I know, shameless "

Gota add a shameless plug in, why not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been on here for 2 or more years and have never had a meet. I would rather just chat to you with out a veri.

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"I often get men, who have no real interest in me... "

Seriously? WTAF?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, Only get tramps after a site supporter pass, After free drugs, Place to stop at so they can save on a hotel etc etc

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By *o Trash in My TrailerMan
over a year ago

Daytona Beach


"I often get men, who have no real interest in me apart from trying to get me to write them a verification to meet other people. Is this common behaviour on fab? "

That might be your typical British man but over here we have more respect for women

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By *heEvilWithinWoman
over a year ago

Barnsley


"I often get men, who have no real interest in me apart from trying to get me to write them a verification to meet other people. Is this common behaviour on fab? "

I've never had this. You are gorgeous though so I wouldn't doubt yourself. Just idiots on fab unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fab has a policy against false versifications dont fall into that trap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this post legit? Or just made up o get a bit of attention and tlc???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds like a bit of attention seeking to me

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Is this post legit? Or just made up o get a bit of attention and tlc??? "

No just wondering if other people report members for no show. I'm just asking a question, surely that's what forums are used for that?

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Is this post legit? Or just made up o get a bit of attention and tlc??? "

I like how people enjoy saying negative comments and think blocking people is safe way to troll.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this post legit? Or just made up o get a bit of attention and tlc???

I like how people enjoy saying negative comments and think blocking people is safe way to troll. "

Not a troll.

Blocked, Never knew you was on my blocklist, I only block to filer out the ones that I have messaged that aint replying back, Not interested in etc etc,Nothing personal. Neither a troll, I asked because you get Alot of attention seekers with fake sob stories on here.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

I’ve often had guys messaging whining that they just want help getting verified, is that the sort of thing you mean? I just delete them tbh.

The most annoying thing for me was a guy I met last year. He deleted his profile the next day and never spoke to me again, then earlier this year suddenly messaged out of the blue saying he’d rejoined and asking me to veri him. I did, he couldn’t be arsed to return it, and has hardly spoken to me since. So yeah I felt pretty used by that.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I’ve often had guys messaging whining that they just want help getting verified, is that the sort of thing you mean? I just delete them tbh.

The most annoying thing for me was a guy I met last year. He deleted his profile the next day and never spoke to me again, then earlier this year suddenly messaged out of the blue saying he’d rejoined and asking me to veri him. I did, he couldn’t be arsed to return it, and has hardly spoken to me since. So yeah I felt pretty used by that."

yes that behaviour is also what I am referring to. basically their aim is to get a verification, do or say anything to get it then ghost you.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"I’ve often had guys messaging whining that they just want help getting verified, is that the sort of thing you mean? I just delete them tbh.

The most annoying thing for me was a guy I met last year. He deleted his profile the next day and never spoke to me again, then earlier this year suddenly messaged out of the blue saying he’d rejoined and asking me to veri him. I did, he couldn’t be arsed to return it, and has hardly spoken to me since. So yeah I felt pretty used by that.

yes that behaviour is also what I am referring to. basically their aim is to get a verification, do or say anything to get it then ghost you. "

Why let yourself be treated like this? They are nobody to you and you to them, they are clearly users and you are better off without them, block them, forget them and move on, stick with people who show you respect, you will be much happier.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I don't put much stock in verifications but if someone I met or wanted to meet for a verification because they think it'll help them out I wouldn’t have an issue verifying them. But everyones different I suppose

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I’ve often had guys messaging whining that they just want help getting verified, is that the sort of thing you mean? I just delete them tbh.

The most annoying thing for me was a guy I met last year. He deleted his profile the next day and never spoke to me again, then earlier this year suddenly messaged out of the blue saying he’d rejoined and asking me to veri him. I did, he couldn’t be arsed to return it, and has hardly spoken to me since. So yeah I felt pretty used by that.

yes that behaviour is also what I am referring to. basically their aim is to get a verification, do or say anything to get it then ghost you.

Why let yourself be treated like this? They are nobody to you and you to them, they are clearly users and you are better off without them, block them, forget them and move on, stick with people who show you respect, you will be much happier."

have you ever experienced a con artist? lol you think they are respecting you etc then things just change all of a sudden when they get what they want.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I don't put much stock in verifications but if someone I met or wanted to meet for a verification because they think it'll help them out I wouldn’t have an issue verifying them. But everyones different I suppose "

It's ok if from the word go, they say that's all they want from you. But to lie to get it is another thing

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole


"Am I being dumb. I don’t understand this thread. What other people are they wanting you to meet?

I often get people pretending they have been to the same event as me asking me to verify them although they (if they were even actually there) never came to say hello on the day "

We've had this. We always ask them what I was wearing. Strange they never reply.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"I don't put much stock in verifications but if someone I met or wanted to meet for a verification because they think it'll help them out I wouldn’t have an issue verifying them. But everyones different I suppose "

You would verify someone just because you wanted to meet them?

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"I’ve often had guys messaging whining that they just want help getting verified, is that the sort of thing you mean? I just delete them tbh.

The most annoying thing for me was a guy I met last year. He deleted his profile the next day and never spoke to me again, then earlier this year suddenly messaged out of the blue saying he’d rejoined and asking me to veri him. I did, he couldn’t be arsed to return it, and has hardly spoken to me since. So yeah I felt pretty used by that.

yes that behaviour is also what I am referring to. basically their aim is to get a verification, do or say anything to get it then ghost you.

Why let yourself be treated like this? They are nobody to you and you to them, they are clearly users and you are better off without them, block them, forget them and move on, stick with people who show you respect, you will be much happier.

have you ever experienced a con artist? lol you think they are respecting you etc then things just change all of a sudden when they get what they want. "

So maybe try them giving ‘you’ what you want first instead of you pleasing people you don’t know.

Don’t understand why people would give a verification to someone they haven’t met unless it’s a webcam veri of course.

Obviously if you have met them previously and they come back and ask for a veri fair enough but if they don’t return one there’s no point getting upset by it as I’m sure they won’t be by the sound of it.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


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So maybe try them giving ‘you’ what you want first instead of you pleasing people you don’t know.

Don’t understand why people would give a verification to someone they haven’t met unless it’s a webcam veri of course.

Obviously if you have met them previously and they come back and ask for a veri fair enough but if they don’t return one there’s no point getting upset by it as I’m sure they won’t be by the sound of it."

OP isn’t giving veris to people she hasn’t met, I think it’s stuff like guys messaging begging for “anything, even just a quick hello in a public place so you can verify me” (actual request I’ve received) - they’re obviously not interested in the person they’re asking, they just want a veri even if it’s a completely meaningless one.

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