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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it so wrong to be on thus site while married.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Its your life and your risk to take.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

A lot of people on here are married. Some have couples profiles and are on here together , some have individual ones but their spouse knows & is fine with it, some have individual profiles & their spouse doesn't know but they are honest about being married on their profile & then there are the ones who are on here pretending they aren't married.

Ultimately it is up to the individual what they do.

Personally the only circumstances I'd be willing to chat or meet a married or attached guy would be if it was in a situation where the wife or partner was either a participant or had directly given me her consent to me. Again that is my choice and is based on personal experience of having been cheated on & not being prepared to do that to another woman.

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By *bostCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

We are. As a couple though so both fully aware of what is going on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has their reasons for being here and I try (with gritted teeth sometimes) not to judge.

Only time I think "what an utter c*nt!" is when someone wears their married status like a badge of honour..."looking for women who loves fucking married men"..."be my dirty little secret". Seen this kind of shit on statuses before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's probably not wise to draw attention to that on a forum thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's probably not wise to draw attention to that on a forum thread "

Maybe he's looking for someone who is into that....stranger things happen round here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not my worry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's probably not wise to draw attention to that on a forum thread

Maybe he's looking for someone who is into that....stranger things happen round here!"

I doubt he's looking for a forum virtual kicking which is often what happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's probably not wise to draw attention to that on a forum thread

Maybe he's looking for someone who is into that....stranger things happen round here!

I doubt he's looking for a forum virtual kicking which is often what happens "

My boots are rarely out the cupboard this weather

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not my worry "

Ya mad tart!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not my worry

Ya mad tart! "
and your point is caller?lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for your comments. Was just looking to gauge opinion. Obviously no one knows my personal circumstance so you cant make a educated opinion but thanks for letting me know your thoughts. Its refreshing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How people use this site is up to them but you can’t expect everyone to want the same

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Is it so wrong to be on thus site while married. "
some will think it is some will think its not.

The only people it should concern are the ones cheating and those who meet them because at the end of the day its them that have to live with the consequences if they get caught .

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By *xybumWoman
over a year ago

East Kilbride


"Thanks for your comments. Was just looking to gauge opinion. Obviously no one knows my personal circumstance so you cant make a educated opinion but thanks for letting me know your thoughts. Its refreshing."

Personal circumstance? Pfffft Gies peace mate, if you ain’t happy then leave! Cheaters that come on here and try and justify what they are doing really do my head in! No excuses cheaters are cowards in my opinion! No exceptions!

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By *s12345theeMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

Some people have open marriages and some don't. What is better. Have an affair, or meet someone with no expectations other than mutual pleasure on a site like this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its good to hear different peoples opinions. Everyone has their own reason for being on here. There seems to be a fair amount of people who want to have fun and plenty who are just here for the chat. Each to their own. I am not here to judge anyone. I was only looking for some opinions on the subject matter. Thanks for all the replies....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for your comments. Was just looking to gauge opinion. Obviously no one knows my personal circumstance so you cant make a educated opinion but thanks for letting me know your thoughts. Its refreshing.

Personal circumstance? Pfffft Gies peace mate, if you ain’t happy then leave! Cheaters that come on here and try and justify what they are doing really do my head in! No excuses cheaters are cowards in my opinion! No exceptions!"

Wee bit severe i think even tho i respect pples own prefrences in who they will meet or not meet but saying cowards is rather harsh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its fine. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. How they express it is their concern.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All il say is it you are married and want "discreetness"

1) don't expect that women will want to be discreet

2) dont think friends of ur missus isnt in here also being discreet..and shel no tell ur mrs

3) dont think ul even get sex...

People are here for whatever reason but dont think cos its a swingers site wev somehow lost our morals, self respect and honesty....

Me personally wouldnt put up wi ur shite of married, nae matter how shite n dire your marriage is...fuckin talk dont cheat

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Again thanks for your opinion. I did ask for peoples opinion and thats what you have given. Again you dont know my personal circumstance. I was just asking a question on the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I happen to like married men . They don't get clingy.

However they are usually unavailable at weekends so it rules them out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You have a good point. I would mainly look at midweek for any meets and as its more the company part I am looking for I wouldnt be pestering anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on circumstances, I know a lot of relationship where there’s no love there anymore and both want to keep up appearances till the kids leave school, some partners have health problems and the partner is no longer a lover but a carer and they still love their partners but it’s a different kind of love and they want and need intimacy, some people are rejected by their partners and are held to ransom by kids,finances etc others just plain and simple love to cheat cause they get a thrill from it and get away with it !

I won’t ever judge another person on their behaviour doesn’t mean I like it or necessarily agree with it just the same as many of my vanilla friends don’t agree with me being on fab full stop.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just for the record it is one of the above. Thanks for your opinion.

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Just for the record it is one of the above. Thanks for your opinion."

Lol. If your referring to noshrinking’s synopsis and you agree with the options, you’ve covered most of your bases by agreeing in such a vague way. Not that I’m bothered what you’re up to.

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

At least if you are open about it, on here anyway, you give prospective partners the choice whether they wish to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has reasons for being on here. It's not always black and white. We won't always agree with everyone's reasons that's a fact especially here. There are so many people who judge that if the shoe was on other foot wouldn't like to be judged themselves.

There are married people out there that are pressured into staying in a loveless MARRIAGES. Abusive, narsastic men who deprive women of a happy life, . I know a few woman who are toxic and use kids to keep men, malicious mother syndrome.

Some people regardless of sex need to feel good, important, have their needs met. Sometimes just feeling good for a day or even a wee compliment, some need to know there's more out there for them to help someone get Unstuck in a dead end marriage . Sometimes people just need to make mistakes in order to realise what they got and help them make different choices in life and yes there are some who just sleep around for the excitement. Many reasons

It's not always easy to talk to the other half or get them to understand what you want and need and well you will find them here for whatever reason. So best not to judge.

It is always best to communicate any issues in a marriage but I get that's it's not always possible but if it is talk to the other half, you might discover that that missing something in your life can be fixed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for your thoughts. I was never really looking to share too much about myself but Ive been married for a long time and we have grew apart. Maybe forever maybe not. Only time will tell. Just for the record. I have never been unfaithful to my wife. Yes I looked but is that any different from checking out a passing stranger......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate...if your on here thats your business no one elses.

If you are looking to meet then maybe state on your profile your married that way your upfront and those that meet you know what's what.good luck with whatever you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mate...if your on here thats your business no one elses.

If you are looking to meet then maybe state on your profile your married that way your upfront and those that meet you know what's what.good luck with whatever you do."

Totally agree with this and put it on your profile then ppl are aware before chatting ..plus dont think you need to explain about your marrige on an open forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *evilsAdvocate94Woman
over a year ago

edinburgh

What you do is your business but I think being honest about it on your profile is important

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have been. Its been interesting hearing some peoples opinions. Very different thoughts. Each to their own......

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By *evilsAdvocate94Woman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"I have been. Its been interesting hearing some peoples opinions. Very different thoughts. Each to their own......"

Well that’s all you can do, then it’s up to people if they interact or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has their own reasons for being here. Whether you feel it right or wrong is on your head. No one else’s. Also not for others to judge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody’s opinion is right or wrong; it’s just a blessing we are all entitled to them

With that in mind, honesty starts at home, not on a swingers/sex site. If you can’t tell your partner, it’s cheating - in my opinion lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If any other guys are married on here I would recommend keeping it to yourself. Boris Johnstone has a better chance of getting his leg over than me now...lol

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"If any other guys are married on here I would recommend keeping it to yourself. Boris Johnstone has a better chance of getting his leg over than me now...lol "

Noooo, tell the truth! When making choices it’s best to have all the correct information to arrive at the best decision. Something your pal Boris knows nothing about!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

He is no pal of mine....

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"He is no pal of mine...."

There you go, your shaggability has improved right there!

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"He is no pal of mine....

There you go, your shaggability has improved right there!"

Leave poor BoJo out of this

John

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"He is no pal of mine....

There you go, your shaggability has improved right there!

Leave poor BoJo out of this

John "

He was never getting shagged anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He is no pal of mine....

There you go, your shaggability has improved right there!

Leave poor BoJo out of this

John

He was never getting shagged anyway!"

Is that coz you already had him

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"He is no pal of mine....

There you go, your shaggability has improved right there!

Leave poor BoJo out of this

John

He was never getting shagged anyway!

Is that coz you already had him "

I’d rather gouge my eyes out with your toenails!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He is no pal of mine....

There you go, your shaggability has improved right there!

Leave poor BoJo out of this

John

He was never getting shagged anyway!

Is that coz you already had him

I’d rather gouge my eyes out with your toenails!"

"grabbing my coat.. Ive pulled"

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By *andlingswingersCouple
over a year ago

Woodbridge


"Thanks for your comments. Was just looking to gauge opinion. Obviously no one knows my personal circumstance so you cant make a educated opinion but thanks for letting me know your thoughts. Its refreshing.

Personal circumstance? Pfffft Gies peace mate, if you ain’t happy then leave! Cheaters that come on here and try and justify what they are doing really do my head in! No excuses cheaters are cowards in my opinion! No exceptions!"

Exactly right. For us, the whole point of this is being honest so you don't cheat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I hope you appreciate how lucky you are to have that option.

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