FabSwingers.com forum: Slow Libido

By *heeksha OP Man
15 weeks ago

Scotland, All Over sometimes .

Any good suggestions for women's Viagra/treatments . For less sexual libido even in young age . Beautiful healthy attractive body but real Asexual person. What can do ?

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By *ringles0510Woman
15 weeks ago

Central Borders

Maybe it's not her libido and she just doesn't fancy shagging you?

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By *j2015Couple
15 weeks ago

Glasgow

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By *j2015Couple
15 weeks ago

Glasgow

We have an Asexual friend and if this is who someone is its not something fix. Learn other ways to enjoy each others intimacy.

If its a new symptom then medication can have this effect inc. anti depressants or contraception and you should speak to a doctor.

If no medication and still a new symptom then its likely to be lifestyle or stress and you should speak to a doctor for professional advice.

Its my understanding that Sexual enhancement drugs assist with physical issues of mentaining an erection or difficulty self lubricating (get wet) by increasing blood flow. If you have a mental or emotional blocker then its unlikely that any pill will make a difference.

There is medication that can reduce your libido though, that would also solve the problem 😅 kidding obviously 🙄

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By *ellinever70Woman
15 weeks ago

Ayrshire

The default setting for most women isn't raging nympho

I realise that might be a shock to some men

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By *j2015Couple
15 weeks ago

Glasgow

"The default setting for most women isn't raging nympho

I realise that might be a shock to some men "

Absolutely, meet J when we were 16. Learned her ups and downs through teens, 20s and now 30s, as she did mine, The more pressure us men apply to sex the less we promote it as fun. We Learned other ways to connect and I learned to make her laugh enough to wet herself. The rest tends to sort itself out.

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By *asterMeliodasMan
15 weeks ago

Newmill

Is this something she's actually asked you for help with?

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By *WSxoWoman
15 weeks ago

aberdeen

Have a look at- dual control model- of sexual response.

“The sexual excitation system (SES) moves you forward, and the sexual inhibition system (SIS) moves you further away. To put it plainly, one is the gas and the other, the brake.

Individuals’ responsiveness to these systems varies widely and is comprised of your personal physiology, sexual history, and personality preferences. Everybody’s sexual experiences are different, and that’s okay.”

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By *heeksha OP Man
15 weeks ago

Scotland, All Over sometimes .

Thanks for the response. My real question is any good medicine for helpful for sexual drive up . Like viagra ?

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By *assy LassieWoman
15 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

Does she want her sexual drive up. Or is she happy as she is. That's the question

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By *j2015Couple
15 weeks ago

Glasgow

Vagra doesn’t make you horny or get you aroused. It specifically allows you to achieve and maintain an erection (when aroused) though the use of increasing blood flow.

What you are referring to does not exist, anything that advertises this is a ‘snake oil’ banking on placebo effects.

Sorry no crushing up pink pills in the morning coffee. Going to have to do this one the hard way and talk it out like adults. But i assure you the effort will be worth the rewards.

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By *heeksha OP Man
15 weeks ago

Scotland, All Over sometimes .

She doesn't want Doctor or council. Not even want sexdrive up too. A hateromantic ( asexual ) personality. So how can approach these types of people.

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By *assy LassieWoman
15 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

If she is happy as she is then leave her alone

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By *cottishMrsWoman
15 weeks ago

Wishaw

"She doesn't want Doctor or council. Not even want sexdrive up too. A hateromantic ( asexual ) personality. So how can approach these types of people. "

It sounds like she doesn't want any help and is fine as she is. How do you approach these types of people? The same way you approach anyone else, you say hello! If you mean approach for sex, you don't. If she is a heteromantic asexual, then you know her attraction to you isn't sexual, and that's always been the case. Please respect this woman's asexuality and focus on her romantic desires.

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By *ockandjadeCouple
14 weeks ago

glasgow

Very well said

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By *ittyScritchesWoman
14 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Echoing what others have said - being asexual isn't a 'problem' that needs to be 'fixed'. If the person is struggling with it they may want to consider counselling or possibly even approach their GP if they want to explore medical intervention.

Someone else asking how to make them hornier on a swingers forum is deeply questionable though.

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

"Maybe it's not her libido and she just doesn't fancy shagging you?"

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By *erfHerder74Man
14 weeks ago

Greenock

As a demisexual I can sort of understand asexual.

If people fancy you, they have to take your time, to talk, communicate, become a friend and then the person starts to attach to you

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By *uctifanoWoman
14 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Maybe it's not her libido and she just doesn't fancy shagging you?"

This …

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By *uctifanoWoman
14 weeks ago

Glasgow

"The default setting for most women isn't raging nympho

I realise that might be a shock to some men "

This ….

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By *uctifanoWoman
14 weeks ago

Glasgow

"The default setting for most women isn't raging nympho

I realise that might be a shock to some men

THIS… and more of the responses here… sorry, perhaps you are not wording this well but sound like it’s about you not her??? If she’s Asexual there’s nothing to fix, sounds like you want more not her. Apologies if that’s wrong but it’s how it come over initially.

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By *heeksha OP Man
14 weeks ago

Scotland, All Over sometimes .

Hi thanks for all the response. Quite lot of people is in Asexual. Better these types only choose Nun type life, Not spoil others real one and only life! Our system very complicated,

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By *eaSlutsCouple
14 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Hi thanks for all the response. Quite lot of people is in Asexual. Better these types only choose Nun type life, Not spoil others real one and only life! Our system very complicated,

Well if this isn't one of the most ridiculous responses ever, I don't know what is...

How does someone being asexual spoil anyone else's life?

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By *cottishMrsWoman
14 weeks ago

Wishaw

"Hi thanks for all the response. Quite lot of people is in Asexual. Better these types only choose Nun type life, Not spoil others real one and only life! Our system very complicated,

Sounds like you're the one spoiling her life! Do her a favour and let her read this thread so she can leave you and go live her life in peace without constantly being told she needs "fixed". Furthermore, if this is a partner and you agreed to this life, knowing she was asexual and you "loved her anyway" you are, categorically, the one who has spoiled her life! She could have been really happy with someone who accepted her for who she is!!

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By *tew008Man
14 weeks ago

edinburgh

"Any good suggestions for women's Viagra/treatments . For less sexual libido even in young age . Beautiful healthy attractive body but real Asexual person. What can do ? "

sounds like you’re heading down the Flunitrazepam route

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By *tew008Man
14 weeks ago

edinburgh

"Any good suggestions for women's Viagra/treatments . For less sexual libido even in young age . Beautiful healthy attractive body but real Asexual person. What can do ? "

sounds like you’re heading down the Flunitrazepam route

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By *lyingscotsman696Man
14 weeks ago

Newbridge

😂😂😂

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By *ittyScritchesWoman
14 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"Hi thanks for all the response. Quite lot of people is in Asexual. Better these types only choose Nun type life, Not spoil others real one and only life! Our system very complicated,

If your life is spoiled because someone isn't interested in having sex with you for *any* reason then maybe it's you who should consider a religious calling, or at least some serious psychotherapy. With that kind of selfishness and intolerance you're well on your way to a life of celibacy yourself!

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By *urd no1Woman
14 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Maybe it's not her libido and she just doesn't fancy shagging you?"

Deffo this!!!

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By *heeksha OP Man
13 weeks ago

Scotland, All Over sometimes .

Hi here I means if anyone wants a life like Nun,Preast,Monk,types etc...better Hateromantic,(Asexual) type people is best (in (LGBTQA.. )

Have lots of experience in real life ( High sexual energy but Suppress and lives in Nun/monk life ,may be their situations leads to that lifestyle)

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By *ubbyandHisHotwifeCouple
13 weeks ago

Glasgowish

is anyone else concerned this dude appears to be looking to drug his partner without her knowledge

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

"is anyone else concerned this dude appears to be looking to drug his partner without her knowledge "

I'm glad someone picked up on that... after reading the thread, it does sound that way. Hoping its a misunderstanding and all, but my spidy sense is tingling.

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By *uffinMan
13 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Hmm the responses don't actually consider the real problems tho. If you are in a commited relationship or married you want a sexual relationship with your partner. When one half goes asexual the other half is left totally isolated. They want a sexual relationship but being denied is very hurtful. Yeah the person gone asexual is entitled to do this but how many do this and then shout cheat or feel abandoned when the person eventually finds a new play mate, and most probably they want their wife/partner but in getting the cold shoulder end up elsewhere.

I kinda see that some women play this self destruct game - they won't fuck any more but their other half has to live by their rules and never have a sex life.

Find a mistress if they don't judge you first, have a sex life and you never know libido might return one day. As for a negotiated open relationship it'll just be the beginning to the end

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By *ub-seekerMan
13 weeks ago

Glasgow

So much wrong with this thread.

Your partner is not yours to be used as and when you feel like it. Shes not yours to drug up so you can do what you want when you want.

So you’re either at the wind up, or severely fucked in the head and deserve a visit to prison. I’m sure you’ll get all the sexual gratification you crave there.

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By *yrshirecurvesWoman
13 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"So much wrong with this thread.

Your partner is not yours to be used as and when you feel like it. Shes not yours to drug up so you can do what you want when you want.

So you’re either at the wind up, or severely fucked in the head and deserve a visit to prison. I’m sure you’ll get all the sexual gratification you crave there. "

This.

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By *nubis282Man
13 weeks ago

Hamilton

"Hi thanks for all the response. Quite lot of people is in Asexual. Better these types only choose Nun type life, Not spoil others real one and only life! Our system very complicated,

Ok, so you've already said this person doesn't want to see a doctor or take any medications. Firstly if that's the case are you planning on spiking or drugging them without their knowledge with whatever female Viagra option you find?

Secondly all of what you are describing is a you problem not a them problem. If they are happy in their situation and in their life then you have no right to demand they change for you. If you are not happy then you need to asses if it is a situation you want to continue in as it is.

Your options are to adapt yourself to the situation or to leave it.

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By *assy LassieWoman
13 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

"Hi thanks for all the response. Quite lot of people is in Asexual. Better these types only choose Nun type life, Not spoil others real one and only life! Our system very complicated,

Your options are to adapt yourself to the situation or to leave it."

Spot on!!!

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By *ittyScritchesWoman
13 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"Hmm the responses don't actually consider the real problems tho. If you are in a commited relationship or married you want a sexual relationship with your partner. When one half goes asexual the other half is left totally isolated. They want a sexual relationship but being denied is very hurtful. Yeah the person gone asexual is entitled to do this but how many do this and then shout cheat or feel abandoned when the person eventually finds a new play mate, and most probably they want their wife/partner but in getting the cold shoulder end up elsewhere.

I kinda see that some women play this self destruct game - they won't fuck any more but their other half has to live by their rules and never have a sex life.

Find a mistress if they don't judge you first, have a sex life and you never know libido might return one day. As for a negotiated open relationship it'll just be the beginning to the end

Bullshit.

If a relationship isn't working, sexually or otherwise, the grown up thing is to honestly address whether it can be fixed or whether it's better to end it. Being hurt is not an excuse to hurt back by cheating and lying, especially if it hasn't been communicated there's a problem.

Lastly, it's not always / only women that lose interest in sex, it's not always sex they've lost interest in and if a fraction of the scientific study was put into understanding women's sex lives as marketing viagra to men it might be a very different situation (all of which is completely different to being asexual, btw)

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By *ollyRoxxxWoman
13 weeks ago

Wishaw

"is anyone else concerned this dude appears to be looking to drug his partner without her knowledge "

100% the vibe I'm getting.

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By *ollyRoxxxWoman
13 weeks ago

Wishaw

"Hi thanks for all the response. Quite lot of people is in Asexual. Better these types only choose Nun type life, Not spoil others real one and only life! Our system very complicated,

Your options are to adapt yourself to the situation or to leave it."

This!! 100%

Really hoping this guy is at the wind up, very concerned for the woman he is talking in regards to

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By *heeksha OP Man
13 weeks ago

Scotland, All Over sometimes .

HI sorry for missunderstanding what I means , ( English is not my 1st language )

Just like to know any good medicine for slow LIbido for womens . I don't have any problem with my partner now. But generally lots of my friends have experience in less sexlife. That's I love to share actually. Few years living experience with ( Nun/ Monk / non sex Spiritual life etc... ) people but notice almost lots have holding high sex energy (because mnegority of their family or poor background leads to these kind of life )

These people inner level really want sexlife but situation cant allows. Just my thoughts If they are low sexual feeling type people ( Hateromantic/ Asexual ) then how do they feel . Any good suggestion solution for this .

I accept all types of people in real life .

Thanks for reading

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By *ub-seekerMan
12 weeks ago

Glasgow

The solution is talk to your partner. And if she still doesn’t want to fuck you, don’t drug her.

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By *assy LassieWoman
12 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

"Just my thoughts If they are low sexual feeling type people ( Hateromantic/ Asexual ) then how do they feel . Any good suggestion solution for this .

I accept all types of people in real life .

Thanks for reading "

Why do they need a solution. If they are happy being asexual then let them be.

You're really not doing yourself any favours with this thread. Like a few have said on the thread you are coming across as a creepy walking major 🚩🚩🚩

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By *alcon43Woman
12 weeks ago

Paisley

"Any good suggestions for women's Viagra/treatments . For less sexual libido even in young age . Beautiful healthy attractive body but real Asexual person. What can do ? "

Get your testosterone levels checked. Low levels in women can affect libido. You can get it in cream form. Maybe also get checked for perimenopause.

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By *alcon43Woman
12 weeks ago

Paisley

"Any good suggestions for women's Viagra/treatments . For less sexual libido even in young age . Beautiful healthy attractive body but real Asexual person. What can do ?

Get your testosterone levels checked. Low levels in women can affect libido. You can get it in cream form. Maybe also get checked for perimenopause. "

Sorry thought it was a female who was posting.

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By *ubbyandHisHotwifeCouple
12 weeks ago

Glasgowish

"The solution is talk to your partner. And if she still doesn’t want to fuck you, don’t drug her. "

ha ha ha ha straight to the point SS as ever

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By *hagira ShagiraWoman
12 weeks ago

Glasgowish

"She doesn't want Doctor or council. Not even want sexdrive up too. A hateromantic ( asexual ) personality. So how can approach these types of people. "

So what do you plan to do with said pills should you find them ,crush them up in her dinner or hide them in cold meat or just pap then straight down her throat . seems the person who has the problem is you alone and not her ! maybe just maybe this could be the reason she doesnt want to sleep with you , instead of trying to fix her you try and understand her !

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