FabSwingers.com forum: Why is it so hard to find a fwb?

By *oxic_Temptress OP Woman
19 weeks ago

Dundee

Why is it so hard to find a regular Fwb? I mean, I’ve had offers BUT I have a liking for a certain spice and vanilla just doesn’t do it for me.

Has anyone else had issues finding what they like here too? Any advice?

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Yup I've exactly the same issue people are either too far away or can't accom. Or not my type which is fair enough. Seems almost impossible these days to find a regular fwb. Years ago it was so easy on here.

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By *onnycoxxxMan
19 weeks ago

Sydney

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

"Why is it so hard to find a regular Fwb? I mean, I’ve had offers BUT I have a liking for a certain spice and vanilla just doesn’t do it for me.

Has anyone else had issues finding what they like here too? Any advice?

Everything is about choices and females especially have plenty of choices on here. The elusive FWB is definitely out there, its just finding that one who falls into what you are looking for/desire etc..

Are they into what you like or prepared to experiment to see if you are compatible together, fun wise of course, can they accom or you accom for that matter, where do they live, too far away or even too close etc.. so many things.

Unfortunately in Fab human nature, it can be like a firestick that is chipped, you can get every tv series going but you spend ages going through the lists and trailers cause there is so many and you never have time to sit and watch a tv show as your too busy skipping past the good ones.

A different kind of analogy but thought, feck it, some may get it

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By *oxic_Temptress OP Woman
19 weeks ago

Dundee

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By *oxic_Temptress OP Woman
19 weeks ago

Dundee

"Why is it so hard to find a regular Fwb? I mean, I’ve had offers BUT I have a liking for a certain spice and vanilla just doesn’t do it for me.

Has anyone else had issues finding what they like here too? Any advice?

A different kind of analogy but thought, feck it, some may get it

Great analogy and so true. Too much choice is sometimes bad too.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Maybe cause you're too scared yourself? Which is not a bad thing BTW.

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By *uctifanoWoman
19 weeks ago

Glasgow

Just because people are more open sexually doesn’t mean they fuck randomly and I’m sure you’d agree with that if you really seek a FWB. A FWB for me isn’t a hook up, it’s someone whom I can enjoy sex with but that also means I can laugh with, chat with and as the acronym says is a FRIEND with BENEFITS. That doesn’t happen in two ticks, it takes fun, flirting and a wee bit of magic… hook ups happen too… they’re not a FWB though, well not in my opinion. That’s my tuppence worth anyway OP, oh and hing on in there, it’s worth it when it happens

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Like it's been said many times to men before in the forum , a lack of profile doesn't bode well , In looking at your profile it doesn't tell anyone anything about you .

You get out of fab what you choose to put into it .

Maybe try telling folk what our looking for and hoping to find you might have a little more success in what your seeking .

I get its easier for a woman with a lack of profile to meet as there isn't enough to go around but really that means probably it will be folk looking for a hookup . Most folk men and women needs to be intrigued and there attention grabbed .

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By *assy LassieWoman
19 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

"Why is it so hard to find a regular Fwb? I mean, I’ve had offers BUT I have a liking for a certain spice and vanilla just doesn’t do it for me.

Has anyone else had issues finding what they like here too? Any advice?

Suppose it depends how niche your spice is.

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By *asterMeliodasMan
19 weeks ago

Newmill

The biggest struggle for me hasn't been finding people who want that, but finding people who want that and are close enough to travel to. XD Things have been looking up in that regard recently, though.

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By *wingers4uCouple
19 weeks ago

Scotland

Best way of doing it here is stick to the swinging scenario. You find the person and be very clear it’s for swinging. You will fuck others and no attachment will come of it. Honesty is the best option. xx

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By *eroLondonMan
19 weeks ago

Covent Garden

For me it's usually the geographical disparities. The Fab Curse™ prevails on here, unforgivingly.

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By *octor WhenMan
19 weeks ago

GLASGOW

I've found it near impossible to get a fwb, the most recent fwb I had I met on tinder.

I think my profile is ok?

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By *roplifeMan
19 weeks ago

Perth

Time away from fab, real life getting in the way, distance…..all play a part in preventing me finding a real FWB. A ‘friend’ with benefits is more than a casual hook up, even if there is little social interaction and it becomes regular sex, you still build a connection .

I’ll keep looking!

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By *scobar67Man
19 weeks ago

glasgow

I thought it would have been a lot easier for females to find what they are looking for ...going by this thread it's as hard for them as it is for guys

Keep trying you'll find someone

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By *uffinMan
18 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Too many judgemental people, looking for perfection when they miss the point that it's a bit on the side.

Meet people and see their attraction and learn their kinks instead of seeking an Adonis or glamour gal.

As for time wasters grrrr!

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

"Too many judgemental people, looking for perfection when they miss the point that it's a bit on the side.

Meet people and see their attraction and learn their kinks instead of seeking an Adonis or glamour gal.

As for time wasters grrrr!

Everyone has preferences, some are attraction driven (most I'd say) and some are need driven .. then there's some who are driven by attraction and need .

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By *erfHerder74Man
18 weeks ago

Greenock

It’s difficult, I guess it depends on the area you live too.

I’d be happy with starting vanilla then work up over time

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By *assy LassieWoman
18 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

"Too many judgemental people, looking for perfection when they miss the point that it's a bit on the side.

Meet people and see their attraction and learn their kinks instead of seeking an Adonis or glamour gal.

As for time wasters grrrr!

So if it's a bit on the side then any old munter will do.... okay

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By *enelope2UWoman
18 weeks ago

Fife

Because the UK swingers scene for single women isn't a legitimate lifestyle community. It's a sex only site for guys who can't commit to friendship or repeated sex. You just have to either have multiples who make up a set of regulars or not expect anything from the site.

Keep searching blocking and seeking.. eventually those who understand the reward will rise above the shit show of time wasters.

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

"Too many judgemental people, looking for perfection when they miss the point that it's a bit on the side.

Meet people and see their attraction and learn their kinks instead of seeking an Adonis or glamour gal.

As for time wasters grrrr!

Preference not judgement.

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By *omble 69Man
18 weeks ago

Symington

I have found trying to meet anyone almost impossible let alone a lady looking for similar with a view to a FWB relationship.

Just need to keep trying

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By *assy69Man
18 weeks ago

West Sussex and Wales

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Keep searching blocking and seeking.. eventually those who understand the reward will rise above the shit show of time wasters.

This

hang in there OP

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By *ubmissive Couple4funCouple
18 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Ours is more for a regular we can rely on

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By *harmingman_82Man
18 weeks ago

glasgow

It’s not easy,but makes it way more rewarding when you do find someone ..

It’s just the time it takes to get there that’s frustrating ..

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By *asterMeliodasMan
18 weeks ago

Newmill

"I have found trying to meet anyone almost impossible let alone a lady looking for similar with a view to a FWB relationship.

Just need to keep trying

Buddy, if I can do it anyone can.

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By *wiftieeMan
18 weeks ago

near Glasgow

Had the pleasure of it happening twice, courtesy of Fab.

Both times it didn't start out that way, but quite quickly developed.

Would love to find it again.

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By *ruetothisMan
18 weeks ago

It can be and peoples interests change.

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By *quaRegiaMan
18 weeks ago

Glasgow

It's very hard to find that elusive fwb

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

I'm definitely not looking for an adonis cause I am far from perfect myself. But someone I can chill with feel comfortable with and have fun regularly with. I've been lucky over the years to have found this but this time is proving near impossible. Maybe its my age lol

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By *bcplCouple
18 weeks ago

Aberdeenshire

We’ve been looking once January, ideally wanted 2 or 3 fairly reliable guys but we’ve came to realise if we get 1 we will be happy lol

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By *hrisukbishareCouple
18 weeks ago

Edinburgh

As a bi man I did have a lovely 6 months fwb from True other site pre covid. As a bi couple we have not yet found a local bi couple with whom to play long term. We are still hopeful.

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By *aninsuitsMan
18 weeks ago

glasgow

I actually gave up trying to get meets about 2 years ago and only came back on here 6 months ago and now just go to ecclesia for some play x it's much easier x I either live too far away or live too close x I was chatting to someone the other day and I sent a face pic and when I asked for one she blocked me lol

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By *otwifedundeeWoman
18 weeks ago

Dundee

Yes, it’s impossible to find

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By *aninsuitsMan
18 weeks ago

glasgow

I used to go on phone e.chat lines about 20 years ago and met women very easily , I think cos you were actually chatting to the person 121 it was easier to get a rapport than anonymous texting on here

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By *agnar2323Man
18 weeks ago

Valhalla

"Why is it so hard to find a regular Fwb? I mean, I’ve had offers BUT I have a liking for a certain spice and vanilla just doesn’t do it for me.

Has anyone else had issues finding what they like here too? Any advice?

Not had fwb for yrs kinda miss them

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By *aylorMan
18 weeks ago

Fife

It can be difficult to find someone that finds you pleasing on the eye and enjoys your banter, isn't too far away or too near and then you have to find them pleasing on the eye and enjoy their banter also.

(Unless your kink is going with people you are unattractred to)

I've had a few fwb in the past from here but for some reason they've always wanted more. 24/7 isn't for me though.

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By *ippo33Man
18 weeks ago

Dundee

I cant find any fun except from guys lpl m i that ugly

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

"I cant find any fun except from guys lpl m i that ugly "

Uve 2 verifications from females

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By *isstucWoman
18 weeks ago

Glasgow

Just depends what your in to really ?? And the attraction too ... Xxx

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
18 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

So many variables to consider.

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By *eisenberg30Man
18 weeks ago

dundee

Just wanting to meet someone occasionally for some fun.

Not particularly one night stand kinda guy, I like to get to know girls first and see what makes the tick

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