FabSwingers.com forum: Question for the guys..

By *innamon! OP Woman
over a year ago

no matter

I was talking to someone yesterday who is in a sexless marriage. He is looking for nsa sex.. I mentioned this site . I am surprise to hear that he would rather forgo penetrative sex than wear a condom.

Do other guys feel this way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand why he feels the way he does. I have problems maintaining an erection wearing a condom as to me it feels too clinical, like the passion has been removed.

Plus it's like having a bath with your socks on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was talking to someone yesterday who is in a sexless marriage. He is looking for nsa sex.. I mentioned this site . I am surprise to hear that he would rather forgo penetrative sex than wear a condom.

Do other guys feel this way?

Well it seems to me that he don't need it that badly then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no way would i pass on sex if i had to wear a condom. I grow up in the era of the aids ad campaign so i have always been safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iam also in a sexles marage n would Always wear a condom unless I've known the person a long time n trust thm one hundred percent

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Do other guys feel this way?

Well it seems to me that he don't need it that badly then."

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By *parrow77Man
over a year ago

cheshire

Am happy to wear condoms

So I'll have his share of sex hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy to wear them and would only do so when casual sex is involved. Besides you can make it fun putting one on can't you.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Do other guys feel this way?

Can see why his marriage is "sexless"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are some ladies who prefer bareback, im sure in time he could find a regular playmate who is also in a sexless marrage who would be happy without a rubber, but swinging without is like jumping out of a tree and hoping your dont break anything, might be ok but always a risk. Aids is only one of many that you can catch from un protected sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure everyone would prefer to go bareback, I would much rather have sex without a condom, but It's just not safe with people you don't know. It's that simple surely.

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By *icboyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

As you can get so many different types of condom, you can have fun with different ones...if use to their advantage then they can add lots of fun...and can help with getting horny.

I think op is not using the advantage that they can provide.

Remember think positive...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Safe sex always, their protection as well as mine due to amount cum and sensual pressure lol

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

The sexless mattiage isn't that much of a problem then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Going off topic a little. What condoms do guys find best. Price, sizing, make, feel etc....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do other guys feel this way?

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yes i feel the same....there is a lot more to sex than just penetration

i know that to some it would be helluva frustrating to have lots of play and no penetration.....but there are some of us that are fine with that

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By *orkieMan
over a year ago

Who knows

Do other guys feel this way?

Bareback... No way, use of condoms shows a sensible attitude, and respect both for yourself and your partner... Like theuy say in all the best gunfight movies "Cover me I`m going in "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe ive missed the point of this thread.....ive taken it that its NOT about bareback??

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

there is something else about the opening post that grates me more than the way the topic has gone... but since its the elephant in the room, and i am in a good mood.. i just can't be arsed..

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"there is something else about the opening post that grates me more than the way the topic has gone... but since its the elephant in the room, and i am in a good mood.. i just can't be arsed..

You mean that a married man shouldn't be encouraged to use a swingers site to get his end away uncovered without his other halfs knowledge!!!

My god I've been getting it all so wrong!!

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By *ondafirestormMan
over a year ago

heckington

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Condoms have their uses, but they destroy a lot of the fun for a man, a good bj without a rubber, from a woman who knows how to handle a cock is often better than vaginal sex with a rubber.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do other guys feel this way?

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Have the best of both worlds Doggy style and lie

What's the problem ladies

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

The one thing I do hope people learn from this thread is....... do take some time to think before recommending this site to every Tom, Dickhead and Sally

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By *nytimeadeMan
over a year ago

Skegness

"The one thing I do hope people learn from this thread is....... do take some time to think before recommending this site to every Tom, Dickhead and Sally"

I thought this was a question to the GUYS ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The one thing I do hope people learn from this thread is....... do take some time to think before recommending this site to every Tom, Dickhead and Sally

I thought this was a question to the GUYS ...

And your point is? Anyone can post on any thread as long as it doesn't break the rules!

To the OP some men struggle with condoms and use the lack of feeling etc as an excuse for not using. He may have other issues he would rather not mention to you.

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By *nytimeadeMan
over a year ago

Skegness

"The one thing I do hope people learn from this thread is....... do take some time to think before recommending this site to every Tom, Dickhead and Sally

I thought this was a question to the GUYS ...

And your point is? Anyone can post on any thread as long as it doesn't break the rules!

To the OP some men struggle with condoms and use the lack of feeling etc as an excuse for not using. He may have other issues he would rather not mention to you. "

Exactly thats the point , other peeps that may or may not be allowed to use this forum is not the issue here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i ALWAYS play safe with a new partner! in this day and age of std's and hiv you never know who has been there before you!

on a related item! whats the guys cut off point before the comdoms stop being used and you go bareback? mine is about 3month! too long/short?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"The one thing I do hope people learn from this thread is....... do take some time to think before recommending this site to every Tom, Dickhead and Sally

I thought this was a question to the GUYS ...

You should point that out to the other women in the thread...... or did you just want my attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The one thing I do hope people learn from this thread is....... do take some time to think before recommending this site to every Tom, Dickhead and Sally

I thought this was a question to the GUYS ...

And your point is? Anyone can post on any thread as long as it doesn't break the rules!

To the OP some men struggle with condoms and use the lack of feeling etc as an excuse for not using. He may have other issues he would rather not mention to you.

Exactly thats the point , other peeps that may or may not be allowed to use this forum is not the issue here

So why point out GUYS in capitals? Hidden agenda have we?

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By *nytimeadeMan
over a year ago

Skegness

"The one thing I do hope people learn from this thread is....... do take some time to think before recommending this site to every Tom, Dickhead and Sally

I thought this was a question to the GUYS ...

You should point that out to the other women in the thread...... or did you just want my attention

No i wanted you to know what it feels like to have a monkjey on your back , and commenting on your imput to threads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The one thing I do hope people learn from this thread is....... do take some time to think before recommending this site to every Tom, Dickhead and Sally"

Roger, wilco and out

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"The one thing I do hope people learn from this thread is....... do take some time to think before recommending this site to every Tom, Dickhead and Sally

I thought this was a question to the GUYS ...

You should point that out to the other women in the thread...... or did you just want my attention

No i wanted you to know what it feels like to have a monkjey on your back , and commenting on your imput to threads

Nice of yu to say..... but you're not my type

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By *innamon! OP Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Well I seem to have got myself into deep water here..

I did not recommend the site I mentioned it. I realise that most people here would not concider sex without a condom hence the question.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Well I seem to have got myself into deep water here..

I did not recommend the site I mentioned it. I realise that most people here would not concider sex without a condom hence the question. "

Oh I think you are still safely paddling in the shallow end.

But it is a good reminder that 'the site is what you make it' also includes those we point in its direction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The one thing I do hope people learn from this thread is....... do take some time to think before recommending this site to every Tom, Dickhead and Sally

Roger, wilco and out

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Their already on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The one thing I do hope people learn from this thread is....... do take some time to think before recommending this site to every Tom, Dickhead and Sally"
Moany Mint

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I seem to have got myself into deep water here..

I did not recommend the site I mentioned it. I realise that most people here would not concider sex without a condom hence the question. "

There are many who say they won't but will. If you think he is a nice guy who isn't aggressive I see no problem in recommending the site to him its open to all. He may like he may not and he may decide protection is the sensible way to go. You can only give advice to a nice site which fab in general.

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"i ALWAYS play safe with a new partner! in this day and age of std's and hiv you never know who has been there before you!

on a related item! whats the guys cut off point before the comdoms stop being used and you go bareback? mine is about 3month! too long/short?"

I wouldnt set a time limit... It would be when things became more than cadual fun... And we'd both had an all clear from a sexual health check up... And then had another all clear 3 months on... But thats,just me

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By *innamon! OP Woman
over a year ago

no matter

He is a nice guy.

I just think his expectations of NSA unprotected sex unrealistic ..after our convo yesterday I wanted to know if other men would rather go without than use protection..Personally I feel he should at least try condoms concidering there seem to be so many varieties..hardly like the marigolds he thinks ... . people here are moralistic with married people playing away.. but to be honest I would prefer not to know ..its not important.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

".... people here are moralistic with married people playing away..."

That may be because it's a swinging site and not a married and cheating site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well, if a gal said to me 'no condom' i'd walk away! theres always my trusted right hand, (after iv sat on it for half an hour, lol)

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By *innamon! OP Woman
over a year ago

no matter

".... people here are moralistic with married people playing away...

That may be because it's a swinging site and not a married and cheating site.

Am I allowed to stay if I remain a non cheater.. just for the social side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

".... people here are moralistic with married people playing away...

That may be because it's a swinging site and not a married and cheating site.

Damn wheres the "like" button ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes id rather just have oral sex than use a condom

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

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Damn wheres the "like" button ...."

This one?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

".... people here are moralistic with married people playing away...

That may be because it's a swinging site and not a married and cheating site.

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

".... people here are moralistic with married people playing away...

That may be because it's a swinging site and not a married and cheating site.

Am I allowed to stay if I remain a non cheater.. just for the social side "

Just this once

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By *exki11enWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

".... people here are moralistic with married people playing away...

That may be because it's a swinging site and not a married and cheating site.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Yes id rather just have oral sex than use a condom"

and i hope you have success finding women who are happy not to have penetration...

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By *innamon! OP Woman
over a year ago

no matter

".... people here are moralistic with married people playing away...

That may be because it's a swinging site and not a married and cheating site.

Am I allowed to stay if I remain a non cheater.. just for the social side

Just this once

Thank you .. you know you would miss me if i went ..

Miserable load of pious beggers here anyway..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

".... people here are moralistic with married people playing away...

That may be because it's a swinging site and not a married and cheating site.

Is that in the rules or just your opinion?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

condom all the way for me...yes it does take some of the sensation away, but I'd rather play safe than not at all! I like my sex too much to go with out...talking of which...

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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".... people here are moralistic with married people playing away...

That may be because it's a swinging site and not a married and cheating site.

Is that in the rules or just your opinion? "

I thought it was in the web addy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As in definition of swinger?

If you play with someone in a club, do you know whether they're cheating? Maybe you do, but I'd imagine someone being gangbanged wouldn't.

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By *amBiUKMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Happy to wear a nodder !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No glove no love!

Always covered safest way.

Otherwise just irresponsible and shows no respect

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

You can get condoms that are pretty thin these days - you can still tell they're there of course but it's not that bad surely? Strange.

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By *innamon! OP Woman
over a year ago

no matter

"You can get condoms that are pretty thin these days - you can still tell they're there of course but it's not that bad surely? Strange."

I told him that .. still its not my problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Selfishness springs to mind, and I would not touch him with a barge pole!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

actually surprised at how many seem to not like sex with condom so to op it seems your guy is fa from alone x

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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"As in definition of swinger?

If you play with someone in a club, do you know whether they're cheating? Maybe you do, but I'd imagine someone being gangbanged wouldn't. "

And that means they can't have an opinion on cheating does it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well, if a gal said to me 'no condom' i'd walk away! theres always my trusted right hand, (after iv sat on it for half an hour, lol)

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I thought you would of walked down the garage for condoms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As in definition of swinger?

If you play with someone in a club, do you know whether they're cheating? Maybe you do, but I'd imagine someone being gangbanged wouldn't.

And that means they can't have an opinion on cheating does it? "

You said that this wasn't a cheating site. Statement of fact, not a "IMO" in sight. That's only true if the people involved are not cheating.

Not saying this is you but I just find it a little inconsistent that people who enjoy piss and scat are greeted by a "well it's a free world or similar" whilst people playing away are verbally hung from the neck until pronounced dead.

I strongly believe the "free world" attitude should extend to everyone, including the ladies on here who play away as well as the men.

Of course, it doesn't mean you should endorse it or have anything to do with them

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"Personally I feel he should at least try condoms concidering there seem to be so many varieties.."

Personally, I'd be recommending a visit to the doctors or marriage guidance or trying to talk to his wife, or even deciding if his marriage is worth it if he's prepared to cheat..... rather than if he should wear condoms.

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By *innamon! OP Woman
over a year ago

no matter

His marriage is fine .. he doesnt want to make changes. she just no longer wants sex at 45 it seems extreme but as my sex life ended at 43 I know it happens.

Not everyone wants to leave their partner just because they no longer fancy you... some people want sex some dont. Its pretty simple to those that are married and go without.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

Thats because piss and scat are normally used between consenting adults.

Cheating is where one person can have their life destroyed by mistrust and dishonesty. Where learning to trust again is an up hill battle. Where humiliation is a way of life.

Swinging is (for most people) about trust and honesty. If someone says they like piss and scat.... they are being honest.

If someone has a partner and said partner doesn't know, it's dishonest, something that rankles with a massive percentage of swingers.

So......... I may be pious but I will never lean to those that say cheating isn't hurting anyone!

It always hurts someone.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"His marriage is fine .. he doesnt want to make changes. "

Surely, if he is prepared to cheat........ his marriage isn't fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you still have to wear a condom to shag a blow up doll? surley rubber on rubber could cause some form of friction and she could go down on ya for good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone is cheating don't see them. Another person who is cheating might appreciate them.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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You said that this wasn't a cheating site. Statement of fact, not a "IMO" in sight. That's only true if the people involved are not cheating.

It is a swingers site (fact) based on it's called 'Fabswingers'... not 'FabCheaters' or 'FabAffairs' or 'FabAnythingElse'... it's 'Fabswingers, thus a swinging site.

If I joined Cine8FanClub.dull and said I had chucked all my super8 home movies out after getting them transferred to digital format, do you think the common ground of home movies would be enough to avoid criticism from the traditionalists?

If I joined WeLoveDrivingVWBeatles.car and said I'd sold my VW Beatle years ago as it was a nail, but I do drive a Honda, do you think the driving a car theme would be enough to win them all over?

Why on earth would anyone be surprised that looking for a shag regardless of relationship status would be enough for all and sundry on a swinging site to welcome with open arms.... and foregt all about their values and beliefs. Unless you don't expect people on swinging sites to have any moral values.

People have opinions about genuine singles on swinging sites, about bareback on swinging sites ... so why not cheating?

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

The main reason so many attached people are on here is because, unlike the affair sites, this one is free.

And the misconception that we all say yes to everyone...

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"He is a nice guy.

he is a nice guy ...we have very different defintions of nice

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Thats because piss and scat are normally used between consenting adults.

Cheating is where one person can have their life destroyed by mistrust and dishonesty. Where learning to trust again is an up hill battle. Where humiliation is a way of life.

Swinging is (for most people) about trust and honesty. If someone says they like piss and scat.... they are being honest.

If someone has a partner and said partner doesn't know, it's dishonest, something that rankles with a massive percentage of swingers.

So......... I may be pious but I will never lean to those that say cheating isn't hurting anyone!

It always hurts someone."

so going to miss you when u go...

from wikki...

"Swinging or (rarely) partner swapping is a non-monogamous behavior, in which singles or partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity.[1] Swinging can take place in a number of contexts, ranging from spontaneous sexual activity at informal gatherings of friends to planned regular social meetings to hooking up with like-minded people at a swingers' club. It can also involve Internet-based swinger social networking services online."

Where does that say swinging involves cheating on your partner

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over a year ago

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

I hardly notice that I'm wearing a condom.

The only time I find it a pain is when you are swapping from a bit of shafting to a bit of head and back again. Not everyone likes sucking a condom.

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