FabSwingers.com forum: homeowners?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hi peeps i was just wondering if it makes a difference if people you are thinking of meeting with own their own home or not?

I do not own my own home(im council)and get asked this question all the time and strangley enough they dont wanna know? why is this? are we not good enough or what?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Asked by who and who doesn't want to know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone has an issue about whether you own your home or not, would be avoided like the plague. This is supposed to be a swinging site, for fun, sex, completely devoid of any feelings etc. Why would someone even remotely be interested in my financial standing. Afraid people blur the edges and try to make this site into something it is not. Sounds like you had a lucky escape....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strange, I've never asked, or been asked before I've met someone - though usually ask who do u live with...

Really shouldn't matter if you're just meeting for nsa fun...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hi peeps i was just wondering if it makes a difference if people you are thinking of meeting with own their own home or not?

I do not own my own home(im council)and get asked this question all the time and strangley enough they dont wanna know? why is this? are we not good enough or what?!"
I to live in a council house and like you have had people say no thanks on that basis alone, I just put it down to them being snobs and stuck up there own arses

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast

Cant say ive ever come across such a question in all our yrs on scene if someone had asked if we own or rent they be told in no uncertain terms to feck off n mind their own business

cheeky beggers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might be more than just being snobs, might be something more sinister like burglery.

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By *ratsweetkittensWoman
over a year ago

stalybridge

its because they are the "beautifull people " and to good for the likes of us don't you know ! they do say beauty is only skin deep .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never been asked about where I live..

cali

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I can honesly say in all the years on swinging sites... I have never been asked that question.

Are you sure they are not trying to sell you a kitchen or double glazing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't think people would ask this, it seems a strange one to ask. Maybe they just meant do your have your own place as in have you moved out of the parents, do you live alone or have a flat mate kind of question.

I own my own home, but that wouldn't stop me meeting somebody who rents or has a council house, whatever.

I don't see why it matters personally.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

In all the time I have been swinging I have never been asked this either....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hi peeps i was just wondering if it makes a difference if people you are thinking of meeting with own their own home or not?

I do not own my own home(im council)and get asked this question all the time and strangley enough they dont wanna know? why is this? are we not good enough or what?!"

does it matter if you own or rent! dont bother me in in the slightness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its because they are the "beautifull people " and to good for the likes of us don't you know ! they do say beauty is only skin deep ."
well if thats the case some of them were born inside out

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Hijacking your thread on a related. question, I frequently get asked where in the city I live. Since I don't accommodate what difference does it make?

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By *andymanleeds43Man
over a year ago

Leeds

lol maybe they thought u was off butterbowl cpl rita sue n bob too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blimey, that's a bit crappy. I've been asked that before when they arrived, but think that's just making 'chit chat' but to not meet based on house ownership or not... weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

came across the the "what part of the city are you from " myself wtf does it matter i asked the same question back once and got blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hijacking your thread on a related. question, I frequently get asked where in the city I live. Since I don't accommodate what difference does it make?

i only accom for the right people (reg playmate) i get asked alot too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how very bizarre !

as long as a home is clean and tidy, i am not fussed what or where it is, or indeed who owns it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*adds 'homeowner' to profile*

...single guys need all the pros they can find

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

YIt's something I have never and would never ask someone I met or was thinking of meeting...

I've.veen asked by folk I've met at my house stuff like "how long have you lived hete" ... But I dont think anyone's ever asked me.."do you own this place"

Oh and personally it makes no difference to me whether someone else has bought their place or rents.....as long as it's clean

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"In all the time I have been swinging I have never been asked this either...."

Snap

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Hijacking your thread on a related. question, I frequently get asked where in the city I live. Since I don't accommodate what difference does it make?

I always thought it an odd question when asked very early on in a conversation... especially if we are both from the same city.

But then I noticed it was generally the people from the same city who asked.

I'm guessing it's to make sure they are not about to ask next door but one for a jump.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have never been asked if we own our home, can't think why it would make any difference to a meet!

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

I am a sometimes a bit wary about where people live because I once went to meet someone at his home, and when I got there the area was practically derelict, with gangs of lads hanging around and hardly any street lighting.

His flat may have been a show home inside but as a single female I had no intention of running the gauntlet to get to the door, or coming out and finding the wheels gone off my car....

Dont care whether someone rents or owns though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a sometimes a bit wary about where people live because I once went to meet someone at his home, and when I got there the area was practically derelict, with gangs of lads hanging around and hardly any street lighting.

His flat may have been a show home inside but as a single female I had no intention of running the gauntlet to get to the door, or coming out and finding the wheels gone off my car....

Dont care whether someone rents or owns though"

I don't remember us agreeing to meet at mine Jez

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

His flat may have been a show home inside but as a single female I had no intention of running the gauntlet to get to the door, or coming out and finding the wheels gone off my car....

Dont care whether someone rents or owns though

I don't remember us agreeing to meet at mine Jez

Im still waiting to get my tyres back from the last place you took me to

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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago

Dundee/Angus/Blackpool

i cant accommodate due to living with family, but wonder what folk would think of me as i have 4 bedrooms and things hehe...

But whether your living in a council home or whereever - we are still the same person in a way.

Orgy party at mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

His flat may have been a show home inside but as a single female I had no intention of running the gauntlet to get to the door, or coming out and finding the wheels gone off my car....

Dont care whether someone rents or owns though"

+1 on more than one occasion. Had something thrown at car once.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been asked if I own my home and it's not something I would think about asking either.. I'm looking for playmates, not a mortgage partner, tenant or landlady!

I do ask roughly where abouts a potential meet lives if he is local. Purely on safty grounds. There are some very rough estates in Mk I wouldn't be happy visiting after dark on my own. That's just common sense.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Never been asked...and would meet anyone if they did ask.

The only thing that springs to mind is that people may be uncomfortable visiting very rough estates...is this perhaps being asked after you tell them the area of bradford you live in?

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"I do ask roughly where abouts a potential meet lives if he is local. Purely on safty grounds. There are some very rough estates in Mk I wouldn't be happy visiting after dark on my own. That's just common sense.

Yes thats the only reason I would ever ask...

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I went to a house on the edge of Derby once, well I say house, they were all bungalows with little gardens. Something felt odd. There were no gangs or anything like that… it just felt as though something was missing. I found the right number bungalow and pulled up… and that’s when I realised what was missing. Mine was the only car on the street… not another car to be seen on the road or in the gardens, not that any had driveways. Concerned now that I had pulled up in Grannyville, the guy can out to the gate… phewwwwwww, he actually did look like his photos. However next to the front door was a red cored pull switch.

The short remainder of my 20 minutes or so in his home was a mix between pyschoville, wrong turn and a bad comedy. I left before any sexual behaviour started.

Google Earth street view is a blessing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes thats the only reason I would ever ask..."
there are rough areas where ever you go and i understand the safety aspect however not all rough areas are council estates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I went to a house on the edge of Derby once, well I say house, they were all bungalows with little gardens. Something felt odd. There were no gangs or anything like that… it just felt as though something was missing. I found the right number bungalow and pulled up… and that’s when I realised what was missing. Mine was the only car on the street… not another car to be seen on the road or in the gardens, not that any had driveways. Concerned now that I had pulled up in Grannyville, the guy can out to the gate… phewwwwwww, he actually did look like his photos. However next to the front door was a red cored pull switch.

The short remainder of my 20 minutes or so in his home was a mix between pyschoville, wrong turn and a bad comedy. I left before any sexual behaviour started.

Google Earth street view is a blessing."

Ha ha ha i visited his sister next door i think!

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

there are rough areas where ever you go and i understand the safety aspect however not all rough areas are council estates"

I dont agree that there are rough areas wherever you go, but I do agree that not all rough areas are council estates.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I get asked if there are parking meters but never about ownership or the 'roughness' of the area. Is it question particular to some regions of the country?

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

"hi peeps i was just wondering if it makes a difference if people you are thinking of meeting with own their own home or not?

I do not own my own home(im council)and get asked this question all the time and strangley enough they dont wanna know? why is this? are we not good enough or what?!"

Maybe, just maybe, they have been influenced by the film, Rita, Sue and Bob Too? Cracking film though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive never had anyone ask me if i owned my home or not but if they did id tell them to mind their own buisness, whats it got to do with anyone else?

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

I experience a similar effect. When i say i live in a city centre penthouse apartment i often get asked how many floors up and if there is a lft.

Pfffft, it they're not fit enough to walk up a few flights of stairs they're hardly gonna be able to shag all night are they?

Timewasters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what i find most odd is the OP does not accommodate so even more so what does it matter where they live?

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Also, when asked if i own my own home, i reply :

The first 5% i do, best have a word with Finacial Mortgage Compnay PLC about the remainder.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"what i find most odd is the OP does not accommodate so even more so what does it matter where they live?"

oops i will correct that straight away x

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

Have never been asked this question.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"Hijacking your thread on a related. question, I frequently get asked where in the city I live. Since I don't accommodate what difference does it make?

I always thought it an odd question when asked very early on in a conversation... especially if we are both from the same city.

But then I noticed it was generally the people from the same city who asked.

I'm guessing it's to make sure they are not about to ask next door but one for a jump."

We tend to ask it early on, we dont live in Hexham, but in a small village, and we do not play with people from the same village, there are at least 2 couples and one single man we have turned down or mututally agreed not to meet because in the initial messages we discovered they were to close for comfort.

Asking early saves time.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Hijacking your thread on a related. question, I frequently get asked where in the city I live. Since I don't accommodate what difference does it make?

I always thought it an odd question when asked very early on in a conversation... especially if we are both from the same city.

But then I noticed it was generally the people from the same city who asked.

I'm guessing it's to make sure they are not about to ask next door but one for a jump.

Asking early saves time."

See....... I'm good at guessing

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"hi peeps i was just wondering if it makes a difference if people you are thinking of meeting with own their own home or not?

I do not own my own home(im council)and get asked this question all the time and strangley enough they dont wanna know? why is this? are we not good enough or what?!"

I haven't read all the other replies so Im sorry if im repeating.

I have NEVER been asked in ( too many ) years of using the internet for ( thingy ) if I am a HOMEOWNER....

Never

And never have I asked anyone.

Crazy stuff.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Well that's a new one on me, I've never been asked that question and I've never asked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do ask roughly where abouts a potential meet lives if he is local. Purely on safety grounds. There are some very rough estates in Mk I wouldn't be happy visiting after dark on my own. That's just common sense.

Yes thats the only reason I would ever ask... there are rough areas where ever you go and i understand the safety aspect however not all rough areas are council estates"

Excuse me? "however not all rough areas are council estates" I didn't mention council estates at all in my post!!!

Please don't insinuate otherwise.

Thank you kindly!

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By *araidWoman
over a year ago

the west (ish)

"In all the time I have been swinging I have never been asked this either....

Snap"

nor me.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Google Earth street view is a blessing."

It is the best thing ever for directionally challenged peopel like me.

I've used it to suss out how far up roads houses are so I'm not walking backwards and forwards squinting at people's front door.

And if anyone wants to know, I am a homeowner and I still can't accommodate. Don't know why people would need to know someone's mortgage status. What next? Financial audits?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meets only agreed with production of a satisfactory experian credit report ......lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once received a random email from a rather cheeky chap who’s indicated he wasn’t able to accommodate at his Newcastle based home…….!.

The message went along the lines of……..

Soxy I would have loved to fuk ya, but I wouldn’t lower myself to come over to Sunderland…. …. Pfffft……

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe the question is mis construed ,,, maybe there just askin if you have your own place ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't care, someone I see regularly lives in private, rented, no big deal at all; I am there to have fun with him not compare house prices

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I own my house, however, I choose not to accommodate.

If peeps have issue with that, it is their problem, not mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are rough areas where ever you go and i understand the safety aspect however not all rough areas are council estates

I dont agree that there are rough areas wherever you go, but I do agree that not all rough areas are council estates.

I live on a council estate though I pay a mortgage, I chose to come back here as I suffered some abuse at the last estate I lived on (mostly council too). If anyone condemns the estate I live on, I jump down their throats and I never have any problems with anyone wanting to visit me either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they ask what part of town you're from it could be that they are making sure you're not neighbours. I ended up chatting to someone on the same street once.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"No I don't care, someone I see regularly lives in private, rented, no big deal at all; I am there to have fun with him not compare house prices

Some accommodation can be a big deal. One man I was talking to lived in a bedsit in a converted hotel, sharing a bathroom with people on the floor, mainly men. That was not acceptable to me.

Another worked for a university and lived in the halls of residence with two other men...didn't suit me either.

I like to be comfortable and relaxed when playing.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"hi peeps i was just wondering if it makes a difference if people you are thinking of meeting with own their own home or not?

I do not own my own home(im council)and get asked this question all the time and strangley enough they dont wanna know? why is this? are we not good enough or what?!"

Can't say we have ever been asked this.

Not sure why someone would want to know either, as what difference does it makes whether people own or rent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never been asked about where I live..

cali "
Still waiting on her first meet she is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't matter 1 iota

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By *occosboysCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Manchester

Some on Fab can be quite snobbish

The again I don't want to play in a squat

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

I knew someone (years ago on another site) who used to ask single men if they owned their own home.

Mind you......... she was really looking for a hubby and not NSA sex and she wouldn't meet anyone who lived in rented or council as they wouldn't have enough money to be worth dating!!

Go figure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some on Fab can be quite snobbish

The again I don't want to play in a squat

you can rent and not be a scruff

i would never ask such a personal question, i take people on face value, if i met them and i didnt like something about them, be that their person or how they lived yes id leave but id meet them first so i could choose for myself if i liked them or not

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

"Some on Fab can be quite snobbish

The again I don't want to play in a squat

you can rent and not be a scruff

Even the snetters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nobody has ever asked me, i never asked anyone else either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do not own my own home(im council)and get asked this question all the time and strangley enough they dont wanna know? why is this? are we not good enough or what?!I to live in a council house and like you have had people say no thanks on that basis alone, "

Never ceases to amaze me, some of the judgemental people on Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I don't care, someone I see regularly lives in private, rented, no big deal at all; I am there to have fun with him not compare house prices

Some accommodation can be a big deal. One man I was talking to lived in a bedsit in a converted hotel, sharing a bathroom with people on the floor, mainly men. That was not acceptable to me.

Another worked for a university and lived in the halls of residence with two other men...didn't suit me either.

I like to be comfortable and relaxed when playing."

Under those circumstances I wouldn't either and would bring them back to mine for some privacy

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