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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

How far into the future do you plan. Do you have your house in order incase anything happens? Do people know your future wishes.

Im abit obsessive about certain things and then really dont think about other important stuff. Have you planned and you thought things through carefully or are you a very much live today dont think about tomorrow kind of person

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

Strange or what. Today has been spent sorting my will and life insurance policies. I have letters to everyone I care about thanking them for love friendship etc. letters for my daughter at every big and special time in her life just in case. Think it important to let people know what you want and take the pressure off people you leave behind.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

i dont think living in the moment means you dont care about tomorrow, for me it means an acceptance that you can nver know what lies around the corner, so detailed planning is a waste of energy.

i have career plans that cover the next couple of years, as that will be how long it takes to be qualified...but havnt planned further than tomorrow in terms of my day to day life.

Tomorrow is looking very good though

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"i dont think living in the moment means you dont care about tomorrow, for me it means an acceptance that you can nver know what lies around the corner, so detailed planning is a waste of energy.

i have career plans that cover the next couple of years, as that will be how long it takes to be qualified...but havnt planned further than tomorrow in terms of my day to day life.

Tomorrow is looking very good though "

I didnt say anything about not caring. Off cause we dont know what lies ahead thats why some do plan for the unexpected. Im not saying either is right or wrong.

IF i was to drop dead tomorrow or become seriously ill everything is in place

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


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IF i was to drop dead tomorrow or become seriously ill everything is in place"

That is really sensible and something that I need to deal with myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never plan as in the past it always seems to go asd over tit....so just go with it......altho i have a will as after divorce got advised to do one....other than that..nope dont plan.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i do keep worryig abou the fact that i havent got a pension yet!!

am trying to work out a change of career so that i have a decent future

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

All I have expensive wise is my tv and straightners so whoever gets them first when I peg it can have them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Strange or what. Today has been spent sorting my will and life insurance policies. I have letters to everyone I care about thanking them for love friendship etc. letters for my daughter at every big and special time in her life just in case. Think it important to let people know what you want and take the pressure off people you leave behind. "

shit dude, your only young and thats some heavy planning going on there!

reminds me of my grandad in a round a bout way, the whole family (which is massive by the way!) always goes to my nans for sunday lunch (mmmm roast diamond ) and my grandad took it upon himself to announce as everyone was eating, that we shouldnt worry about his or nans funeral as he had been out the day before and arranged everything, from the plot to the coffins, all paid for, even chose the finest materials for inside for my nan, seriously morbid but strangley heart moving at the same time!

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Strange or what. Today has been spent sorting my will and life insurance policies. I have letters to everyone I care about thanking them for love friendship etc. letters for my daughter at every big and special time in her life just in case. Think it important to let people know what you want and take the pressure off people you leave behind.

shit dude, your only young and thats some heavy planning going on there!

reminds me of my grandad in a round a bout way, the whole family (which is massive by the way!) always goes to my nans for sunday lunch (mmmm roast diamond ) and my grandad took it upon himself to announce as everyone was eating, that we shouldnt worry about his or nans funeral as he had been out the day before and arranged everything, from the plot to the coffins, all paid for, even chose the finest materials for inside for my nan, seriously morbid but strangley heart moving at the same time!"

My great aunt was exactly the same, when she died my mum was her closest relation. When the read the piece out all about her i said to my mum they couldnt have got it all spot on, my mum said well who do you think wrote it. Yes she had even written out what she wanted read about her lol

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

They say "If you fail to plan, then you plan to fail"

But I believe if you make no plans, they can't go wrong.

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"Strange or what. Today has been spent sorting my will and life insurance policies. I have letters to everyone I care about thanking them for love friendship etc. letters for my daughter at every big and special time in her life just in case. Think it important to let people know what you want and take the pressure off people you leave behind.

shit dude, your only young and thats some heavy planning going on there!

reminds me of my grandad in a round a bout way, the whole family (which is massive by the way!) always goes to my nans for sunday lunch (mmmm roast diamond ) and my grandad took it upon himself to announce as everyone was eating, that we shouldnt worry about his or nans funeral as he had been out the day before and arranged everything, from the plot to the coffins, all paid for, even chose the finest materials for inside for my nan, seriously morbid but strangley heart moving at the same time!"

I am fourty two widowed once divorced once. Want best for daughter everyday of my life as I would have thought every parent does so sorted few years back. Had a accident that left me blind so wanted to up date things to be sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I am a research and planning type of person.

I saved for both boys to buy cars when they were old enough, still saving for the youngest. Ill have to start wedding funds at some point no doubt.

I have a Will so my property and assets are taken care of in the event of my death.

Its a little early yet but I will plan my own funeral and pay for it so that my kids don't have too much to think about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep meaning to write a will, not that I have much, more to eliminate my family as next of kin and to ensure that I am not taken back to Brum for the funeral, but for some reason I never seem to get round to it. My close friends all know my wishes but I realise it's all a bit pointless without a will...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have a letter in my top drawer ,only to be opened when i hav poped off.one for each of my three daughters out lining a few wisdoms HA i hear them say ,one for mum,who after all theise years is more than able to pick up the peices,the only real stip is i am planted not cremated ,my monie bike and other interests the can devide in which way they like ,dont care i am dead ,and if i get a little notice before i go i will draw all my monie close my interests and share it out ,i hate the thought of the gready lawers and the tax man getting a share of my cash any more than they have already had ,wish my old mother had done so because the fees and tax on her estates cost her and us her children dearly,but she was so straight she did not want to do anything ileagal i say fk everyone ells look after your own

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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I would ask everyone to make a will. A family member died without doing so and because of one greedy son a third of the estate, a substantial amount, went to solicitors

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am trying to reduce my mortgage costs, it's the most important thing right now. I'm getting close to 50 and I really don't want a mortgage for much longer just in case anything happens to my job.

Apart from that the only thing I have in place is that if I die, my best mate has to remove my pc so that my mother never sees it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go to Afghanistan in a few months so starting to think about all that. Letters to the people that matter, a will, extra life insurance and making sure all my docs are together so if anything does happen it's all there organised for people to sort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont plan at all

i never know what im doing one week to the next

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


"I go to Afghanistan in a few months so starting to think about all that. Letters to the people that matter, a will, extra life insurance and making sure all my docs are together so if anything does happen it's all there organised for people to sort. "

I started writing mine and couldn't stop crying........ I'll get mine done when I can stop blubbering like a baby.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

6 weeks for me its my monthly cycle on repeats. When working i have little time do do much apart from shit sleep and shower.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

before my mum got seriously ill and passed away the answer would have been no...

now.. just because i see what happens I am more up to date with things....

it the things that you don't think about rather than just possesions... such as funeral expenses and the what not.. last thing i would ever want is for some to incurr expenses in that want...

so proud that mum basically didn't leave any stone unturned.. in that we knew exactly what would happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have started to think about how to celebrate my 50thh birthday in 2015.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I have made a will, i did that ages ago....as for owt else...i take each day as it comes, i prefer it that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"before my mum got seriously ill and passed away the answer would have been no...

now.. just because i see what happens I am more up to date with things....

it the things that you don't think about rather than just possesions... such as funeral expenses and the what not.. last thing i would ever want is for some to incurr expenses in that want...

so proud that mum basically didn't leave any stone unturned.. in that we knew exactly what would happen "

That was exactly what my mum did, she chose and paid for everything. It may sound a little morbid sitting in a funeral directors choosing coffins, shrouds etc, but its far easier doing that when you don't have the stress of a bereavement. I am grateful that I didn't have to think about hymns or anything like that. I will certainly do that myself.

I would never do a home made Will either, they are not worth the money you pay, even though its cheaper than a solicitor. If it was ever contested then the cost of contentious probate will wipe away a good chunk of assets. Easier to pay out now and be covered by the Law Society

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

I'm stocking up on ammo and dried food for the inevitable collapse of western civilisation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How far into the future do you plan. Do you have your house in order incase anything happens? Do people know your future wishes.

Im abit obsessive about certain things and then really dont think about other important stuff. Have you planned and you thought things through carefully or are you a very much live today dont think about tomorrow kind of person"

We have lots of things planned out for the next year or so but not in detail. When it gets to a month in the future then there is more detail for what we are doing and when Kev is home or away no a job. I think you need to have some idea long term though or things can get all mixed up time scale wise.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

i'm sorted til friday, after that, who knows lol

seriously, though, i dont, mainly cuz i cba, but generally i have nothing to leave anyone anyway.

have sorted our flights to see each other until the end of june, so thats good, but otherwise i just wait for things to come

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