FabSwingers.com forum: blocked after face pic sent

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know there's always a first and I shouldn't take this personally! But after chatting to a guy for 3 hours he asked me for a face pic. He had sent his photograph right at the start of our conversation and I totally forgot that I never sent one back.

So I sent mine and after having received no reply for a long period (and my message was opened) I wrote back that it's ok if he doesn't like my pics, but can just say it. No hard feelings.

Well, that message was opened too but I got blocked by him after.

I know this is just a general moan and it never happened before to me. But it stings a bit.

I just wish I had sent my pic before so I hadn't wasted 3 hours on him

Has this happened to you? I always try my best and take my time to thank for for face pics and tell them in the nicest way possible if they're not my cup of tea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One can change his/her mind about whether he/she wants to pursuit any further with a potential playmate.

If after I have sent a message, with or without pics attached, and do not receive a reply, I take it that the gent is no longer interested in pursuing any further and leave it at that.

I would not message him and enquire about why he has not responded, as that would make me come across as desperate and needy IMHO.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww, I'm sorry to hear that. I am sure it stings but on the other hand, maybe you missed meeting a munter.

It's bad manners, right enough, so if he showed that amount of disrespect for you at this stage, maybe you were lucky?

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I know there's always a first and I shouldn't take this personally! But after chatting to a guy for 3 hours he asked me for a face pic. He had sent his photograph right at the start of our conversation and I totally forgot that I never sent one back.

So I sent mine and after having received no reply for a long period (and my message was opened) I wrote back that it's ok if he doesn't like my pics, but can just say it. No hard feelings.

Well, that message was opened too but I got blocked by him after.

I know this is just a general moan and it never happened before to me. But it stings a bit.

I just wish I had sent my pic before so I hadn't wasted 3 hours on him

Has this happened to you? I always try my best and take my time to thank for for face pics and tell them in the nicest way possible if they're not my cup of tea. "
Not everyone finds everyone else attractive, so what....move on and concentrate on people that do want to meet you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww hugs! I'd be feeling the same. Fair enough we all have different tastes but it's just mean to block you. No harm in saying sorry you're not my type. His loss, plenty of much nicer people out there. Seems there's too many people these days cold as ice with zero tact.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

yes of course I wouldnt' be anyone's type.

It's just a general moan about lack of manners that's all.

And I didn't ask him why, I just wrote that it's ok and there are no hard feelings, but it would have been nice if he would have told me so.

Ok, let's just ignore my post... I was just annoyed and a bit confused about the lack of manners.

Thanks

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

Now you know how the single guys feel

Don't let it get to you..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get that a lot but that's because I am a minger

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Wonder what if the replies would be so understanding if the OP was a single male?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wonder what if the replies would be so understanding if the OP was a single male?

ooh you beat me to it

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"Wonder what if the replies would be so understanding if the OP was a single male?

You psychic mrs?? Just written exactly the same thing but you beat me to it!

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

"Wonder what if the replies would be so understanding if the OP was a single male?

Nope

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

block him back and move on... plenty more to choose from.

I don't think it is his loss tho, no offence to the OP... it was his choice, not loss.

if a guy posted this, I suspect a slightly different type of response.

good luck with your next meet x

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

mmmmmmmmmm lots of beatings going on....anyone else wanna bend over?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wonder what if the replies would be so understanding if the OP was a single male?

The same reply from me, if I can be bothered that is.

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

"block him back and move on... plenty more to choose from.

I don't think it is his loss tho, no offence to the OP... it was his choice, not loss.

if a guy posted this, I suspect a slightly different type of response.

good luck with your next meet x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happened to us last week. A local couple with no pics wrote to us and asked for clear face pics, which I sent.

Next thing we knew we were blocked.

Now as you can see, we've got face pics on our profile, always have had, but they didn't have any pics at all, and as they made first contact, our contention is that they should show. there's first.

We didn't get the chance to ask for there's, lol.

Mind you, me without my shades is enough to put the shits up most people, lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This happened to us last week. A local couple with no pics wrote to us and asked for clear face pics, which I sent.

Next thing we knew we were blocked.

Now as you can see, we've got face pics on our profile, always have had, but they didn't have any pics at all, and as they made first contact, our contention is that they should show. there's first.

We didn't get the chance to ask for there's, lol.

Mind you, me without my shades is enough to put the shits up most people, lol.

it's really not a nice thing to do... Personally, I stay with my decision to treat everyone with respect. And even if people in here make fun of me now... so be it. I continue having manners and make an effort if others do.

Thanks all for the constructive and even the not so constructive comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wonder what if the replies would be so understanding if the OP was a single male?

Well, as one of the two sympathetic replies, I can say honestly, that it would be the same reaction. I hate to see anyone hurt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Form personal experience women can be really bad on here in taking rejection. You can get some real hate replays and its not called for. Blocking is pretty much to the point and you know your not getting there. If you dont sometimes you get them asking what's wrong with them etc so where do you end it.

A block is a block live with it as its better than getting a reply that upsets you even more.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"This happened to us last week. A local couple with no pics wrote to us and asked for clear face pics, which I sent.

Next thing we knew we were blocked.

Now as you can see, we've got face pics on our profile, always have had, but they didn't have any pics at all, and as they made first contact, our contention is that they should show. there's first.

We didn't get the chance to ask for there's, lol.

Mind you, me without my shades is enough to put the shits up most people, lol.

Thanks all for the constructive and even the not so constructive comments. "
I wasnt making fun of you i was merely asking a question....its an open forum...

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By *irty_bhamMan
over a year ago

birmingham

So I sent mine and after having received no reply for a long period (and my message was opened) I wrote back that it's ok if he doesn't like my pics, but can just say it. No hard feelings.

Well, that message was opened too but I got blocked by him after.

I know this is just a general moan and it never happened before to me. But it stings a bit.

I just wish I had sent my pic before so I hadn't wasted 3 hours on him

Has this happened to you? I always try my best and take my time to thank for for face pics and tell them in the nicest way possible if they're not my cup of tea. "

welcome to my world,

it's not a nice place but i make the most of it.

ask yourself, if they don't even have the common courtesy to say “no thank you” are they the kind of people you actually want to meet ?

silence in some cases can speak a thousand words.

chin up and never forget, you deserve better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take it personally. Some people are curtious and some are downright rude just as they are in the real world.

We try to act in a way we'd like to be seen to be doing, but not everyone is on the same wavelength.

I prefer to just laugh it off and move on.

We were rejected after sending face pics to one couple, and then we happened to meet them face to face at a party. They were very apologetic and said we looked much "nicer" in the flesh, and tried their best to salvage the situation.

I just told them to "do one", they had their chance and missed it. They don't get another one.

Now some might say I acted in a childish way, and you're entitled to your opinion, but I felt bloody great after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also girls men get conditioned by you that its fine and acceptable to delete and block if you are not interested. I've seen it said a hundred times on threads put up by men complaining that they don't get replys and get blocked. So you could say some of you women spoil it for the rest!

Rule of thumb... smile and move on.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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To the OP...men seem to have the same thing all the time, but sometimes they don't even get to send a pic.

As you say, maybe send a face pic first if you normally swap pics, saves wasting time on mails if you are not suited to someone.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Wonder what if the replies would be so understanding if the OP was a single male?

Well, as one of the two sympathetic replies, I can say honestly, that it would be the same reaction. I hate to see anyone hurt."

And yet you are quite happy suggesting someone is a munter because they blocked someone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to my world too!!!

Can appreciate that not everyone can fancy you but a bit of common decency is all that is required - 'sorry but your not my type', etc

These days when I send a pic I always add the message

You will now either:

A. Block me

B. Say sorry but I'm not your type

C. Like what you see and continue chatting

At least this way I get in there first so it softens the blow!!!

But always keep smiling!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wonder what if the replies would be so understanding if the OP was a single male?

Well, as one of the two sympathetic replies, I can say honestly, that it would be the same reaction. I hate to see anyone hurt.

And yet you are quite happy suggesting someone is a munter because they blocked someone?"

I think you will find there is a wee word 'maybe' in front of munter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To the OP...men seem to have the same thing all the time, but sometimes they don't even get to send a pic.

As you say, maybe send a face pic first if you normally swap pics, saves wasting time on mails if you are not suited to someone."

I forgot that I didn't send him a pic to be honest... but I agree, I make sure the exchange of pics happens earlier (when I feel happy with it) to avoid wasting each other's time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Welcome to my world too!!!

Can appreciate that not everyone can fancy you but a bit of common decency is all that is required - 'sorry but your not my type', etc

These days when I send a pic I always add the message

You will now either:

A. Block me

B. Say sorry but I'm not your type

C. Like what you see and continue chatting

At least this way I get in there first so it softens the blow!!!

But always keep smiling!!

I like your style!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Wonder what if the replies would be so understanding if the OP was a single male?

Well, as one of the two sympathetic replies, I can say honestly, that it would be the same reaction. I hate to see anyone hurt.

And yet you are quite happy suggesting someone is a munter because they blocked someone?

I think you will find there is a wee word 'maybe' in front of munter."

Ah thats ok then eh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Welcome to my world too!!!

Can appreciate that not everyone can fancy you but a bit of common decency is all that is required - 'sorry but your not my type', etc

These days when I send a pic I always add the message

You will now either:

A. Block me

B. Say sorry but I'm not your type

C. Like what you see and continue chatting

At least this way I get in there first so it softens the blow!!!

But always keep smiling!!

like the positive attitude. I'll adopt the ABC rule too.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Did he say he didn't like your pic?

Or is this just one huge tottering pile of assumption.

Maybe he didn't like something you said.

Send me your pic for an honest critique

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did he say he didn't like your pic?

Or is this just one huge tottering pile of assumption.

Maybe he didn't like something you said.

Send me your pic for an honest critique

Send me yours then Gran and we can laugh at each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did he say he didn't like your pic?

Or is this just one huge tottering pile of assumption.

Maybe he didn't like something you said.

Send me your pic for an honest critique

Send me yours then Gran and we can laugh at each other

Oh, forgot, we've already met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Granny and pics do not go together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Granny and pics do not go together.

..... once got a fleeting glimpse of Granny's sandal avatar, once seen never forgotten.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Granny and pics do not go together.

Quite right Pearl xx

I face cam if I fancy em .....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Did he say he didn't like your pic?

Or is this just one huge tottering pile of assumption.

Maybe he didn't like something you said.

Send me your pic for an honest critique

No, he asked me for my face pic (He had sent his before) and he blocked me afterwards. anyway, I guess he didn't fancy me which is fine by me.

I'll send you my pic, but don't block me ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Granny and pics do not go together.

..... once got a fleeting glimpse of Granny's sandal avatar, once seen never forgotten. "

I have seen them for real!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Granny and pics do not go together.

..... once got a fleeting glimpse of Granny's sandal avatar, once seen never forgotten. "

That madam was my floral spring pump ! delightful

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Did he say he didn't like your pic?

Or is this just one huge tottering pile of assumption.

Maybe he didn't like something you said.

Send me your pic for an honest critique

No, he asked me for my face pic (He had sent his before) and he blocked me afterwards. anyway, I guess he didn't fancy me which is fine by me.

I'll send you my pic, but don't block me ffs

I won't block you ! I just want sommat to keep the kids away from the fire place. .......

Send it silly xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont worrie be happy xxx Lifes far to short xxxx

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Did he say he didn't like your pic?

Or is this just one huge tottering pile of assumption.

Maybe he didn't like something you said.

Send me your pic for an honest critique

Send me yours then Gran and we can laugh at each other

Jack. You're sexy and you know it

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By *irty_bhamMan
over a year ago

birmingham

"I get that a lot but that's because I am a minger

i don't know about that but at least you had the decency to let me know that i wasn't your type and that i shouldn't let it bother me when i mailed you a couple of months back.

just a few words like those make a huge difference.

i'm a realist and not for one second take anything for granted but replies like yours have been few and far between, so many thanks for showing a level of decency that sooooo many on here seem not to posses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Granny and pics do not go together.

..... once got a fleeting glimpse of Granny's sandal avatar, once seen never forgotten.

I have seen them for real!

*swoons*

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

To the op. Dont let it get to you. But im afraid if you had been a single guy complaing you would not of got the answers that you did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Granny and pics do not go together.

..... once got a fleeting glimpse of Granny's sandal avatar, once seen never forgotten.

That madam was my floral spring pump ! delightful "

Phwoaaar and what an impression it made.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To the op. Dont let it get to you. But im afraid if you had been a single guy complaing you would not of got the answers that you did. "

thanks! and yes probably I would have been slaughtered if I was a single guy... but that just shows that people are prejudiced because of sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To the op. Dont let it get to you. But im afraid if you had been a single guy complaing you would not of got the answers that you did. "

thanks! and yes probably I would have been slaughtered if I was a single guy... but that just shows that people are prejudiced because of sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or they are kinder and less savage to females than to males.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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"... but that just shows that people are prejudiced because of tits. "

*nods*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you said it yourself, 'I shouldn't take this personally'....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I understand it has hurt you, you will be ok and at least you've learnt a few things from this:

Send your pic at the start of the conversation

If you don't get a reply then forget about it and spend your time messaging any of the gorgeous multitude of guys on this site.

Don't message again asking for a reason, the reason may not be a 'sorry you're not my type', it might be a rude nasty reply because the person is irritated you're asking for a reason. Don't give them the chance to hurt you.

Remember that when the boot is on the other foot and a guy sends you a pic and you're not keen, then treat him the way you want and expect to be treated.

Don't get paranoid about your pic, it matters little what others think of it, as long as you like it.

Keep smiling and confident and enjoy. Too much time has been spent wondering about this guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP I understand it has hurt you, you will be ok and at least you've learnt a few things from this:

Send your pic at the start of the conversation

If you don't get a reply then forget about it and spend your time messaging any of the gorgeous multitude of guys on this site.

Remember that when the boot is on the other foot and a guy sends you a pic and you're not keen, then treat him the way you want and expect to be treated.

Don't get paranoid about your pic, it matters little what others think of it, as long as you like it.

Keep smiling and confident and enjoy. Too much time has been spent wondering about this guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... but that just shows that people are prejudiced because of tits.

*nods*"

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By *irty_bhamMan
over a year ago

birmingham

i just wonder, seeing as the op has been on here for over a year, if she has shown the same consideration to the many single males that i have no doubt have mailed her than she expects herself ?

from experience, i would think not but please correct me if i'm wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i just wonder, seeing as the op has been on here for over a year, if she has shown the same consideration to the many single males that i have no doubt have mailed her than she expects herself ?

from experience, i would think not but please correct me if i'm wrong"

Write to her and see

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP I understand it has hurt you, you will be ok and at least you've learnt a few things from this:

Send your pic at the start of the conversation

If you don't get a reply then forget about it and spend your time messaging any of the gorgeous multitude of guys on this site.

Remember that when the boot is on the other foot and a guy sends you a pic and you're not keen, then treat him the way you want and expect to be treated.

Don't get paranoid about your pic, it matters little what others think of it, as long as you like it.

Keep smiling and confident and enjoy. Too much time has been spent wondering about this guy

Thanks very much for your kind words. I agree, too much time has been spent on this guy... that's why I wrote earlier on to ignore my post. I was just angry and needed a rant that's all.

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By *irty_bhamMan
over a year ago

birmingham

"i just wonder, seeing as the op has been on here for over a year, if she has shown the same consideration to the many single males that i have no doubt have mailed her than she expects herself ?

from experience, i would think not but please correct me if i'm wrong

Write to her and see"

i would but i don't want to be deleted and blocked.

again

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i just wonder, seeing as the op has been on here for over a year, if she has shown the same consideration to the many single males that i have no doubt have mailed her than she expects herself ?

from experience, i would think not but please correct me if i'm wrong"

You can ask the op yourself lol

and yes, I always made the effort to reply to all emails if they have sent face pics and/or made a good effort in their email. I treat people the way I want to be treated.

But also consider that I didn't send my pic with an unsolicited email. I was chatting to him for 3 hours before that.

Anyway, as previously said. I was angry and confused and shoudl have not posted this. I'm probably a bit too naive for this site sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I sent mine and after having received no reply for a long period (and my message was opened) I wrote back that it's ok if he doesn't like my pics, but can just say it. No hard feelings.

Well, that message was opened too but I got blocked by him after.

I know this is just a general moan and it never happened before to me. But it stings a bit.

I just wish I had sent my pic before so I hadn't wasted 3 hours on him

Has this happened to you? I always try my best and take my time to thank for for face pics and tell them in the nicest way possible if they're not my cup of tea. "
Yep exactly the same - he asked to be a friend sent the invite, I accepted and he then blocked me lol and it does sting a bit lol but hey he wasnt worth it - chin up chuck xx

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Ok don't start posting to abuse the man, he only blocked someone, which is his choice...he doesn't deserve abuse.

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By *nsatiable firebirdWoman
over a year ago

LEEDS

I always say request a face pic first and if theres a mutual attraction then start chatting and hope for a meet for some fun times. I bet he felt gutted too after chatting for 3 hours then seeing no attraction when seeing face pic. Dont feel low. You werent his type thats all but you maybe somebody elses type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All very one sided IMHO, as the said gent has not come forward to air his side of the story.

If one wants to know why name and shame is not allowed on FAB, here is a good example, IMHO!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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"I always say request a face pic first and if theres a mutual attraction then start chatting and hope for a meet for some fun times. I bet he felt gutted too after chatting for 3 hours then seeing no attraction when seeing face pic. Dont feel low. You werent his type thats all but you maybe somebody elses type

And if that fails there's always the ones who aren't fussy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All very one sided IMHO, as the said gent has not come forward to air his side of the story.

If one wants to know why name and shame is not allowed on FAB, here is a good example, IMHO!

A voice of wisdom there Pearl. xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok don't start posting to abuse the man, he only blocked someone, which is his choice...he doesn't deserve abuse."

in what way have I abused him?

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By *nsatiable firebirdWoman
over a year ago

LEEDS

Even animals choose attraction and are fussy. If people werent fussy or didnt want mutual attraction we would be dragging anyone of the street for sexual gratification....alas people are fussy

And if that fails there's always the ones who aren't fussy."

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Even animals choose attraction and are fussy. If people werent fussy or didnt want mutual attraction we would be dragging anyone of the street for sexual gratification....alas people are fussy

And if that fails there's always the ones who aren't fussy."

It was a joke, but still I beg to differ.

Just as there are people who need to feel attracted, there are those who don't.... good grief enough profiles state "looks, age, size are not important".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*Sticks bag over her head and renames herself ...... Gloria Hole*

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

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over a year ago

So what if one has chatted with another person for 3h before deciding to change his/her mind about pursuing further?

I do not believe that is a crime.

There are ways to let someone down gently and kindly.

However, the gentle approach does not always work, especially with those who are needy or have too high a opinion of themselves.

Blocking is a short, sharp and sure way that works, IMHO.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Ok don't start posting to abuse the man, he only blocked someone, which is his choice...he doesn't deserve abuse.

in what way have I abused him? "

You didn't ...posts were removed.

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By *nsatiable firebirdWoman
over a year ago

LEEDS

Even animals choose attraction and are fussy. If people werent fussy or didnt want mutual attraction we would be dragging anyone of the street for sexual gratification....alas people are fussy

And if that fails there's always the ones who aren't fussy.

It was a joke, but still I beg to differ.

Just as there are people who need to feel attracted, there are those who don't.... good grief enough profiles state "looks, age, size are not important"."

Those people that say looks, age etc etc unimportant are just hunting for anyone that will send them mail. Those that have sent these people mail with no response will know im right. Im not shallow and love chatting but im not going to have meets with people im not physically attracted to. I think aslong as you are truthful in your profile and say clearly what you are wanting then no hard feelings.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Those people that say looks, age etc etc unimportant are just hunting for anyone that will send them mail. Those that have sent these people mail with no response will know im right."

Hmmm, I wonder how come so many get actual meet verifications.

I don't think anyone who wants to be attracted to a sexual bed buddy is shallow, nor those who want to feel their buddy is attracted to them.... but there's a big difference between stating our own preferences and saying all people need the same.

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By *nsatiable firebirdWoman
over a year ago

LEEDS

Those people that say looks, age etc etc unimportant are just hunting for anyone that will send them mail. Those that have sent these people mail with no response will know im right.

Hmmm, I wonder how come so many get actual meet verifications.

I would agree with you totally that not all people are the same. However, thats why we have profiles to state the preferences of what we are in search of. Indeed we do not always state every preference hence some people get in contact and if they dont get a reply take it to heart sometimes. I do understand your point of _iew and we could go on forever on the point. There are flaws on both sides of the scale.

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By *ooneyCouple
over a year ago

Chester

grow a thick skin and move on life is so short

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"grow a thick skin and move on life is so short "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, as I have learnt, here is just the same as any other social group; some people are just scum.

If he doesn't have the social skills to politely let you down etc, then you have dodged a bullet. In al likelihood, if he can't deal with that, there would never have ben anything in it anyway.

The only irksome thing is that there is not a 'rude list' to alert others to people like this.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Well, as I have learnt, here is just the same as any other social group; some people are just scum.

If he doesn't have the social skills to politely let you down etc, then you have dodged a bullet. In al likelihood, if he can't deal with that, there would never have ben anything in it anyway.

The only irksome thing is that there is not a 'rude list' to alert others to people like this. "

Kinda lucky there isn't

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

don't you think scum is a tad over harsh...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say 80% of my conversations end at the exchange of pic stage

As a result, I tend to get it outta the way sooner rather than later

I would sooner it be that way

I am rarely offended by a lack of response or a 'no thanks'

What both do is allow me additional time to concentrate on those that ARE interested, rather than wasting time on someone who may not be attracted to me (or me to them for that matter).

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

So I sent mine and after having received no reply for a long period (and my message was opened) I wrote back that it's ok if he doesn't like my pics, but can just say it. No hard feelings.

Well, that message was opened too but I got blocked by him after.

I know this is just a general moan and it never happened before to me. But it stings a bit.

I just wish I had sent my pic before so I hadn't wasted 3 hours on him

Has this happened to you? I always try my best and take my time to thank for for face pics and tell them in the nicest way possible if they're not my cup of tea.

welcome to my world,

it's not a nice place but i make the most of it.

ask yourself, if they don't even have the common courtesy to say “no thank you” are they the kind of people you actually want to meet ?

silence in some cases can speak a thousand words.

chin up and never forget, you deserve better

Why should people say 'no thank you' when the torrent of abuse you can get back is ridiculous.

The owners of the site have decided it's not rude to block people, THEY installed the block button.

So what if people block others, so what if some don't like the look of some, so what if some don't reply.

Surely it is people's choice when, who and why they use the block button. Sod all to do with manners, rudeness etc..... pure choice!

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"Well, as I have learnt, here is just the same as any other social group; some people are just scum.

If he doesn't have the social skills to politely let you down etc, then you have dodged a bullet. In al likelihood, if he can't deal with that, there would never have ben anything in it anyway.

The only irksome thing is that there is not a 'rude list' to alert others to people like this. "

So.......I'm scum now am I?

Please add me to the 'rude' list. I block when I feel like it...... i'm a bad, bad person..

my rules

my choice

my comfort zone

No one else's business..........

If others don't like it........ THEY need to get over it.

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By *nsatiable firebirdWoman
over a year ago

LEEDS

"Well, as I have learnt, here is just the same as any other social group; some people are just scum.

If he doesn't have the social skills to politely let you down etc, then you have dodged a bullet. In al likelihood, if he can't deal with that, there would never have ben anything in it anyway.

The only irksome thing is that there is not a 'rude list' to alert others to people like this. "

I wouldnt class it as rude though. You have to distinguish n the first place as to whether the guy was up for a meet or just playing flirt fun to get selfish needs of being wanted by someone when nobody else did at that time. The bubble burst because once seeing a pic that lovely fantasy of chatting nicely and having a nice old flirt suddenly burst because there was no attarction. The debate could go on forever whetehr she was right or he was. I feel whats important is that there are people at the keyboard with lives and feelings and go with that when messaging each other continually.

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over a year ago

So I sent mine and after having received no reply for a long period (and my message was opened) I wrote back that it's ok if he doesn't like my pics, but can just say it. No hard feelings.

Well, that message was opened too but I got blocked by him after.

I know this is just a general moan and it never happened before to me. But it stings a bit.

I just wish I had sent my pic before so I hadn't wasted 3 hours on him

Has this happened to you? I always try my best and take my time to thank for for face pics and tell them in the nicest way possible if they're not my cup of tea. "

This is a good reason to have face pics on profile, that way people can decline without even contacting us......it's less painful.

XXXX

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Well, as I have learnt, here is just the same as any other social group; some people are just scum.

If he doesn't have the social skills to politely let you down etc, then you have dodged a bullet. In al likelihood, if he can't deal with that, there would never have ben anything in it anyway.

The only irksome thing is that there is not a 'rude list' to alert others to people like this. "
No the only irksome thing is people who cant take rejection...IMHO of course

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Let’s be clear about this… people have every right to stop sending messages to someone… without giving any reason why.

May be it was the face pic, may be it wasn’t. May be he was busy doing something else and alarm bells rang when he was being questioned about not replying, may be he knew her…….. we don’t know why. He has no obligation to message her again, no matter how long they have been talking for. For a lot of people not getting a reply is a clear sign to move on…. the OP decided to ignore the hint and pursue the matter further… this resulted in her being blocked. I would have likely done the same as him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well theres a pretty high probability he didnt like ur pics and blocked cuz he lost interest.

still a shitty way to handle things after 3 hours of chat.

course u questioned it lol who wouldnt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys face this problem everyday! Fact! Not nice whatsoever! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I sent mine and after having received no reply for a long period (and my message was opened) I wrote back that it's ok if he doesn't like my pics, but can just say it. No hard feelings.

Well, that message was opened too but I got blocked by him after.

I know this is just a general moan and it never happened before to me. But it stings a bit.

I just wish I had sent my pic before so I hadn't wasted 3 hours on him

Has this happened to you? I always try my best and take my time to thank for for face pics and tell them in the nicest way possible if they're not my cup of tea.

This is a good reason to have face pics on profile, that way people can decline without even contacting us......it's less painful.

XXXX"

We won't put our face pics on our profile, especially after seeing so many site users get theirs lifted and posted onto another site without permission only a few days ago

We will continue to send face pics when we feel the time is right .....and 'brush ourselves down and get on with it' if they say "no thanks" or if they decide to delete our message and/or block us.

We will respect their decision and actions at every level. Not one site user 'owes' another anything to another in our eyes x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We won't put our face pics on our profile, "

Dunna blame ya frockles

(after all ya dunna want ta be frightening peeps witless now do ya?) xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We won't put our face pics on our profile,

Dunna blame ya frockles

(after all ya dunna want ta be frightening peeps witless now do ya?) xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block when I am not interested in whatever the person/people may have to offer.

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

"I block when I am not interested in whatever the person/people may have to offer.

Ive yet to block anyone.. maybe im too nice...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a softy. I only block abusive people or people who live too close for comfort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ok then, who's blocked us?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see the point of being contacted by peeps I have no intention of knowing.

If that makes me a bad person, then so be it. No skin off my nose.

My life, my choice, la de da!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am surprised at this thread.

When will people realise they'll NEVER appeal to everyone? Wow...some really fragile egos around.

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