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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been seriously let down by a friend. We'd made anti NYE plans for tonight, they suggested it, not me,they've clearly had a better offer and now decided to go out.

I sent a brief response to them, and they're asking am I ok.

Do I....

1.Be honest and say how I feel, but in a controlled manner

2. Respond and say I'm fine and deal with it another time if it arises

3. Not respond

4. Any other suggestions?

I'm currently just angry and upset and feel let down, because I would never do it to them

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Mr here. Mrs says “if you need to say a thing, say a thing”. She’s pretty much always right. Personally? I’d say his you are feeling - keeping it for later is never good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her how you feel. Awfully shitty :-/ hope your day/evening improves!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Number 1, learned from experience that always better to just be honest about things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say you feel let down? I would ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or even just say you're disappointed ... that's better

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm not thrilled. We made plans, I was looking forward to it, and you've ditched me for a better offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you feel they have dumped you for someone else after making plans with you these are not friends i would want.

if it was me. no reply. just block

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

A bit shitty letting you down at late notice, yeah, I'd be pissed and tell them so.

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By *ross-eyed MaryMan
over a year ago

Salisbury

Take it to Facebook.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit shitty if she has let you down today when you had planned to do something together.Just call her a cunt and hope it makes you feel better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck her ex

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

And they are friends? ... I think not ... tell 'em to sod off ... ... (I take no prisoners these days) ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be honest. Tell it clear but keep it controlled and level headed.

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By *ot-AshMan
over a year ago

London

No 1. Its always better to say how you feel in a controlled manner.

If I ever do something wrong I don't mind if my friends tell me so I know about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a pretty shit thing to do to someone at New Year, sorry. I'd probably say I thought that but try not get into an argument.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"Take it to Facebook. "

I really shouldn't be laughing

OP, ignore this advice, imo it's a bad idea.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Number 1 also they will only do it again knowing that can get away with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ghost her....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Take it to Facebook.

I really shouldn't be laughing

OP, ignore this advice, imo it's a bad idea."

Good for entertainment, bad long term friendship status.

Everyone loves a bit of Facebook drama, pull up a chair and bring the popcorn this gunna be gud!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been seriously let down by a friend. We'd made anti NYE plans for tonight, they suggested it, not me,they've clearly had a better offer and now decided to go out.

I sent a brief response to them, and they're asking am I ok.

Do I....

1.Be honest and say how I feel, but in a controlled manner

2. Respond and say I'm fine and deal with it another time if it arises

3. Not respond

4. Any other suggestions?

I'm currently just angry and upset and feel let down, because I would never do it to them

"

Was it someone from here or a "proper" friend.

If from here, I wouldn't be surprised or rise to it, if it's a "proper" friend I'd tell them exactly what I thought ... Nicely of course, but you should be able to be honest with good friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nimber 1. You don't need to get into the fact you think they have had a better offer, just tell them they have let you down last minute and it is a shitty thing to do.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Been seriously let down by a friend. We'd made anti NYE plans for tonight, they suggested it, not me,they've clearly had a better offer and now decided to go out.

I sent a brief response to them, and they're asking am I ok.

Do I....

1.Be honest and say how I feel, but in a controlled manner

2. Respond and say I'm fine and deal with it another time if it arises

3. Not respond

4. Any other suggestions?

I'm currently just angry and upset and feel let down, because I would never do it to them

"

Then you need to tell them how you feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Number one every time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what would judge dredd do?

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By *hubnwife_36dd_ukCouple
over a year ago

chester


"Been seriously let down by a friend. We'd made anti NYE plans for tonight, they suggested it, not me,they've clearly had a better offer and now decided to go out.

I sent a brief response to them, and they're asking am I ok.

Do I....

1.Be honest and say how I feel, but in a controlled manner

2. Respond and say I'm fine and deal with it another time if it arises

3. Not respond

4. Any other suggestions?

I'm currently just angry and upset and feel let down, because I would never do it to them

"

None of the above.

Disregard and move on.

Get over it. Ain't the end of the world.

Thing of the hungry and the homeless before bitching about inconsequential stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not thrilled. We made plans, I was looking forward to it, and you've ditched me for a better offer. "

I'd like to say this. In reality I probably just wouldn't reply.

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Sorry to hear this lovely

I would go with option 1, better to be honest

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Been seriously let down by a friend. We'd made anti NYE plans for tonight, they suggested it, not me,they've clearly had a better offer and now decided to go out.

I sent a brief response to them, and they're asking am I ok.

Do I....

1.Be honest and say how I feel, but in a controlled manner

2. Respond and say I'm fine and deal with it another time if it arises

3. Not respond

4. Any other suggestions?

I'm currently just angry and upset and feel let down, because I would never do it to them

None of the above.

Disregard and move on.

Get over it. Ain't the end of the world.

Thing of the hungry and the homeless before bitching about inconsequential stuff."

That's incredibly patronising and unnecessary. It's far from bitching and it's not inconsequential, so please take your judgements elsewhere. You have no idea why today may be a difficult day, so go be bitter elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for your comments guys, I'm going to reply when I've thought about it properly.

Thanks for not being unkind and patronising x

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

1 definitely, it's very last minute to change plans for this evening. I'd be miffed to, hope you can make alternative plans x

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I'd say "Wow, that's a pisser. Feeling disappointed and let down to be honest. Enjoy your night"

Says all you need to say x

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Definitely you should tell them how you feel but certainly don't type in anger. Type your message and then perhaps leave it for 5 or 10 minutes, come back and read it before sending. Never send something anything when the red mist is down.

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By *969BewitchedWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I try to never reply while I am angry or upset.

I'd say, I'll talk to you another time, sleep on it then decide what to say.

If the person is asking you are alright, that sounds like they know they've done wrong and are trying to get you to say it's fine to justify their own feelings.

Hope they haven't ruined your New year x

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon


"Definitely you should tell them how you feel but certainly don't type in anger. Type your message and then perhaps leave it for 5 or 10 minutes, come back and read it before sending. Never send something anything when the red mist is down."

Yep, definitely no 1, but with this advice in mind. That's a pretty crap thing for them to do in relation to NYE plans.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say "Wow, that's a pisser. Feeling disappointed and let down to be honest. Enjoy your night"

Says all you need to say x"

Id say this.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you for your comments guys, I'm going to reply when I've thought about it properly.

Thanks for not being unkind and patronising x"

Can you still do the thing you'd planned even if it's on your own? Hope you have a good night. xx

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

The first rule of friendship is honesty. Even best friends can get wrapped in themselves and be a dick without realising it. A good friend politely tells them the effect of their behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you have to lose by addressing it? ..... Nothing. Just stick to the facts and don't get too emotional - you don't KNOW there is a better offer. Your friend may be feeling to wretched to go out, but not want to say so.

What do you gain by not mentioning it? ..... Martyr status. Bad feeling. Frustration. An evening of feeling cross and overlooked.

A friend will listen to what you say and act on it. An acquaintance won't give a damn. So you lose nothing in that case except someone who doesn't deserve your company.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be honest tell them u feel mugged off

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Been seriously let down by a friend. We'd made anti NYE plans for tonight, they suggested it, not me,they've clearly had a better offer and now decided to go out.

I sent a brief response to them, and they're asking am I ok.

Do I....

1.Be honest and say how I feel, but in a controlled manner

2. Respond and say I'm fine and deal with it another time if it arises

3. Not respond

4. Any other suggestions?

I'm currently just angry and upset and feel let down, because I would never do it to them

None of the above.

Disregard and move on.

Get over it. Ain't the end of the world.

Thing of the hungry and the homeless before bitching about inconsequential stuff."

Oh the irony!

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

No.1.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Reply sent. No plans for tonight, but there's a cosy fire, pizza and bottle of gin waiting for me at home.

Thank you all for your help, you're lovely people x

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

What ever you do don't regret it.

It's usually better to make a positive step rather than do nothing. With this in mind, choose No1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be honest and say you are disappointed because you were looking forward to having a non-NYE celebration with them

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