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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some people say winks are lazy? What do you think? I tend to use a wink not to be lazy but to see if people are interested if i wink someone and they wink back im happy to lay the first message, its just to see if theres a little interest.

Thoughts....?

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

Yes agree with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink at anyone and everyone. it means nothing. ...

And yes it’s lazy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like winks tbh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think its nice just to let someone know you are interested put the feelers out x

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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish)

We treat incoming winks as a statement of interest and we wink profiles that we find interesting. Can't see any other reason for the function to be honest.

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

I like to both give and receive them

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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

Yes this is the way i use winks. Now explain that in my profile. Still a lack of winks received back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m in

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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish)


"I’m in "
So I see.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Some people say winks are lazy? What do you think? I tend to use a wink not to be lazy but to see if people are interested if I wink someone and they wink back I'm happy to lay the first message, it's just to see if there's a little interest.

Thoughts....?"

Well, next time you're out in public start winking at people and see what their reactions are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For example most people would get a wink in this chat so far haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For example most people would get a wink in this chat so far haha"

It’s fun for now.... next month be even more fun when I send another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes agree with you "
exactly that

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By *urity555Man
over a year ago

south west


"Some people say winks are lazy? What do you think? I tend to use a wink not to be lazy but to see if people are interested if i wink someone and they wink back im happy to lay the first message, its just to see if theres a little interest.

Thoughts....?"

This is exactly what we Do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a wink too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wink me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like winks

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By *arah_tv999TV/TS
over a year ago

Oxford

I use winks, when there is hardly anything in the others profile just to see if they're interested in engaging in further conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like winks too and think it would relieve quite a bit of frustration for single males writing emails that get ignored if people used them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to admit I never look at my winks

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

North of Okehampton, South of Bideford

Well that depends..if someone has said in their profile they wont react to a Wink...And you still wink, is that being Lazy or just cannot be arsed to read what they have put?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m in So I see."

Wouldn’t it be the icing on the cake if you could delete a wink and the sender could tell it had been ignored

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to admit I never look at my winks "

Aww Saint i can't even send you a wink cos I'm a few months out of your range! Physically anyway!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have to admit I never look at my winks "

Why dont you tend to look dont you think its useful or just dont recognise them? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to admit I never look at my winks

Why dont you tend to look dont you think its useful or just dont recognise them? X"

Just don't really use it - Don't think I've given any out either I much prefer an attention grabbing inbox

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have to admit I never look at my winks

Why dont you tend to look dont you think its useful or just dont recognise them? X

Just don't really use it - Don't think I've given any out either I much prefer an attention grabbing inbox "

Fair enough just good to get a view x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They work for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm hypocrite. I never look at thembut I do give them out

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Some people say winks are lazy? What do you think? I tend to use a wink not to be lazy but to see if people are interested if i wink someone and they wink back im happy to lay the first message, its just to see if theres a little interest.

Thoughts....?"
Real men message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy to receive winks - it prompts me to check out a profile and see if I want to chat to the person.

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

I don't wink but occasionally W will to gauge interest. I'll always look at who's winked at us but never do anything about it. If someone likes us then I'd hope they can take 2 minutes to type a decent message

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink to get girld to look if they wink back we have a match

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like winks, they’ve led to some good meets x

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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

As most of us guys know and have done, you spend time reading a profile look at the photos maybe fab one or two.

Then set to writing a message to them you make it a good respectful message putting in some effort and points you may have picked up from there profile. This may have taken some time to do anything from 30 minutes to an hour maybe more only for that message not to be read or replied to or just deleted.

After we have done this many many time it does start to become disheartening.

Wink and find out if that effort is worth putting in first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually the only problem with winks is that I don't always notice them straight away, whereas I'll be alerted to a message as soon as I refresh a page.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why wink when you can message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why wink when you can message "

Because I then check you out, saves you're time ... I wink back hen we converse simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope my perfect man hasn’t winked me . I’ve never even looked at them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why wink when you can message

Because I then check you out, saves you're time ... I wink back hen we converse simple "

Ooh a system!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hope my perfect man hasn’t winked me . I’ve never even looked at them!"

Glad it's not just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined fab I used to be trigger happy with winks! If I enjoyed reading a profile and it made me smile it got winked. After a while I thought hmm not getting any winks back so increased the winks whoops... but it actually worked and a few conversations started.

One woman in particular replied back 3 days later and me being cheeky said too late now! Luckily she saw the funny side and a few months later I was at her house eating breakfast. My first ever meet on fab was because of a wink.

Having said that if a profile states they don't want them or will be ignored or you will get blocked don't try your luck and go crazy with winks. Some people really hate winks. I rarely wink these days because they don't make profiles like they used to.

On a side note:

Ignore the winks are lazy comments. Don't be put off because they can be fun and most fabbers don't mind them unless stated in their profile! In other words be a responsible winker.

Happy winking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I forget to look at mine

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By *ndysuzukiMan
over a year ago

Newquay

tad different environment than on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hope my perfect man hasn’t winked me . I’ve never even looked at them!

Glad it's not just me "

It’s me too. I never look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always winking oh I spelt that wrong

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I find them confusing and not always sure what to make of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We treat incoming winks as a statement of interest and we wink profiles that we find interesting. Can't see any other reason for the function to be honest."

That!

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By *edsBonkingMan
over a year ago

Near MK


"Some people say winks are lazy? What do you think? I tend to use a wink not to be lazy but to see if people are interested if i wink someone and they wink back im happy to lay the first message, its just to see if theres a little interest.

Thoughts....?"

Totally agree. And I will always reply to a wink

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By *edsBonkingMan
over a year ago

Near MK

Wow stunning pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not had one in months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do the same thing. I used as ice breaker and see if they are also interested in me, if they respond, I send message. It's just save effort of sending message if receiver going to delete or will never reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel a wink is a lazy way of saying hello or/ and trying their luck at just random profiles. I'd rather people say hi in a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's be honest 90% of winks are from guys

And being a guy its our way of saying hello without sending a typical message like "hey there youre attractive and i was wondering if i intrest you in any way"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As most of us guys know and have done, you spend time reading a profile look at the photos maybe fab one or two.

Then set to writing a message to them you make it a good respectful message putting in some effort and points you may have picked up from there profile. This may have taken some time to do anything from 30 minutes to an hour maybe more only for that message not to be read or replied to or just deleted.

After we have done this many many time it does start to become disheartening.

Wink and find out if that effort is worth putting in first."

30mins to an hour before sending a message ? Honestly? Is that with wank breaks in between?

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By *dam1000Man
over a year ago

Plymouth

Honestly, had never thought to use them, as I just always figured with how many of them the ladies must get, that they were pointless as didn't think any would have time to pay attention to them with all the messages.

Maybe I'll try sending some from now and see.

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london

Agree with post winks are not lazy, showing a sign of interest, and with a lot of couples and single females on here saying they get to many messages to respond to each one so just delete so why bother wasting time typing messages that are just going to get deleted with some not even being read “ NAH “ ( winks are not lazy just saves wasting everyone’s time).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't even know of the winks until reading this thread

So went to check all of mine

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london


"Well that depends..if someone has said in their profile they wont react to a Wink...And you still wink, is that being Lazy or just cannot be arsed to read what they have put?"

Just not being arsed to read the profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Random winks are a better way of showing interest than out the blue lazy one liners or worse one word lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well that depends..if someone has said in their profile they wont react to a Wink...And you still wink, is that being Lazy or just cannot be arsed to read what they have put?

Just not being arsed to read the profile "

not arsed and lazy

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