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By *nJ_NW_cpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

wirral

As some posts on here end up with very personal and polarised _iews being shared, would you ever decide you could not possibly meet someone due to their forum posts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

nah, i have different _iews from my friends as well as people on here, just makes for interesting conversations

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Definitely! They'd have to be pretty bad though.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

it would make me think twice... is it a deal breaker..... no...

i would want to see what they are like in person first

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By *stwoforfun2Couple
over a year ago

South Suffolk Area

Yes, absolutely.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

yes...some have clearly posted racist or other bigoted _iews...its a hard limit for me.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

That is a very good question there are some that I want to meet because their posts are brilliant,witty and funny... The thing is with the internet is that people come across differently as they do in real life..

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

Yes...... if they are not mature enough to keep personal issues out of the forums.

Differing opinions is exactly what I look for in an interesting debate......and I like my meets to be interesting.

Snide and nasty comments, naming the person they 'bare a grudge' with isn't what I want in a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes definitely!

Although deciding if comments are tongue-in-cheek or not is another matter...

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By *illyrocCouple
over a year ago

north west

It depends on what our differences were lol ,we had a debate with a couple on here a while ago who thought an illegal immigrant who run over a kid and killed her should be forgiven so on that i could not have met them but on minor banter its a bit different lol

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

good job i'm so nice so you all want tp meet me then aint it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I posted a few days back, I have had differences of opinions with a few people, would I still meet them for a coffee? Of course, why wouldnt I? Its a bit like text messages, there is no tone in the message, so it can come across as cold, or be misinterpreted, and I think we have to take the things that people write at face value.

I am sure I have turned alot of people off, but to be fair, thats ok, because thats their choice, I still wish them well, and I bear no anomosity to anyone on the forums (in fact the whole site), even though things have sometimes gone awry.

But meeting someone for a coffee or an intimate liaison is different, there would have to be some "connection" there, and I would hope that we could both be adult enough to accept our differences in opinions.

No meets for 3 years now...... My posts are goinf down a storm

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

There are some people i wouldnt want to be on the same continent as for the things they post and its not because of differing of opinions but because of their attitude

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By *illyrocCouple
over a year ago

north west

I disagree with you but id still meet you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some people i wouldnt want to be on the same continent as for the things they post and its not because of differing of opinions but because of their attitude"

+1, Much more likely to meet someone we have had a disagreement with, than someone who has a bad attitude even if we have never posted on the same topic.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

no... if a social meet.

yes, if sexual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have made notes on people's profiles after they've been rude or said something inappropriate and even when they've admitted to playing bareback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on how contentious their point of _iew is, and how intelligently they argue their point. There's no way I could have fun with a bigot, or idiot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have gone off a couple of people because of what they write on the forums yes. Sometimes think the less you know about someone the better, if you are just meeting for sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As some posts on here end up with very personal and polarised _iews being shared, would you ever decide you could not possibly meet someone due to their forum posts?"

If someone doesn't share the same _iews then I respect their _iews and continue to value mine and could still want to meet them.

If someone comes across as bigoted, racist, sexist, miserable (from their very first post... we can all have bad days), whingy and/or gives me the impression they are a bully, troll or think just being on a swinging site means they should have 'access all areas' when it comes to sex.... I'll make a decision to avoid them.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

Yes...have seen some hardline right wing opinions that would put me off. but daresay theyd not be keen either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on how contentious their point of _iew is, and how intelligently they argue their point. There's no way I could have fun with a bigot, or idiot."

You are wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id have to say no to that, because people on here usually arnt the same in real life, i have read some posts that have made me think the person is a bit of a dick but then bumped into them in real life at a club or party and found them to be real nice, ive always said because theres no emotion in font its easy to take someones post the wrong way, i dont read to much into forums posts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I differ sufficiently in my _iews to them, possibly, yes.... but it depends, its more about general attitude.

I can have a healthy disagreement with someone on the forums and still like their persona, equally I can have not interacted with them at all if I dislike their attitiude, so obviously wouldn't choose to meet the latter, but would meet the former- socially...

Sex, whole different matter, but would meet socially first.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Obviously everyone has their own "keyboard opinions" but can you differentiate me between and someone who chooses to give a different opinion. ????

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

When someone/a couple post about arranging to meet someone, all the time it took, the journey, the cost and then say how it all went tits up because they used the wrong brand of toothpaste.... I think that makes them more appealling. I dream of having a thread started about me to show everyone what a fussy fucker I really am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me to really connect with someone sexually I have to connect with their mind too, and if I've had 'words' with them in the forums it's doubtful I'll find that connection face to face that enables a successful sexual encounter.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Oh it depends.. I know women that have decided they won't meet me because I watch WWE... yet they watch Eastenders (which I don't).

Clearly it wasn't meant to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on how contentious their point of _iew is, and how intelligently they argue their point. There's no way I could have fun with a bigot, or idiot.

You are wrong "

That's it. No shag for you then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on how contentious their point of _iew is, and how intelligently they argue their point. There's no way I could have fun with a bigot, or idiot.

You are wrong

That's it. No shag for you then "

*throws teddy out of pram and goes off to start a timewasters thread*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on how contentious their point of _iew is, and how intelligently they argue their point. There's no way I could have fun with a bigot, or idiot.

You are wrong

That's it. No shag for you then

*throws teddy out of pram and goes off to start a timewasters thread* "

*starts thread about people who throw their teddies out of the pram and cry, "timewaster"*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I wouldn't let what's written on here put me off. Firstly I probably wouldn't remember having a disagreement with them and on the whole its never personal. On a meet I am not usually confrontational because the questions and conversations on a meet are rarely thought provoking or political or the kind of in depth thing we talk about on here. And secondly things written on here may lead you to believe people are a certain way and in real life if you see them in a club they are entirely different.

However if a forum poster appears to be very different from me in terms of personality then I wouldn't meet them.

But in all fairness we don't limit ourselves to playing with people who post on the forums so the majority of our sexual meets are people we've met in clubs, these people may be on fab and verify us after the event, or people who don't post on the forums. Its not deliberate, just seems to work out that way.

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

Only if I think that they are trying to wind people up for a reaction, or I don't really like their attitude. then No I wouldn't consider meeting them.

However if they had a differnet opinion to me on certain subjects then yes (Mr A and I don't agree on everything) I would meet them. As for a play meet we meet everyone 1st for social.

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By *ornyHorwichCpl aka HHCCouple
over a year ago

horwich

Minority - no way would we meet them

Majority - if only we had a chance to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not so much as differing _iews and opinions, more to do with the way they handle themselves and how they come across in the forums.

I am not interested in meeting argumentative, egoistic, chauvinistic bigots who have a superiority complex.

So I block them to prevent future contacts.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"As some posts on here end up with very personal and polarised _iews being shared, would you ever decide you could not possibly meet someone due to their forum posts?"

Yes, absolutely. While I would not necessarily consider one isolated incident, you do get to know people a bit through the way they post and what they have to say. If I felt somebody was racist or had fairly extreme _iews, we would not have enough in common to spend time withy each other, which in turn would rule out any sexy encounter anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have said I would not meet the few on here that clearly hold strong right ring/racist/bigotted _iews. When I say wouldn't meet, I mean I would not even chat to to them at a social. That said there are only 3 or 4 people in that category.

Equally there are a lot of people on here who have differing _iews that I would actively seek out, to hopefully have a laugh and a chat. I donlt see differing opinions as a massive barrier if a person is intelligent.

I expect that there are people on here that would not want to meet us based on my forum posts. To me that is far from a bad thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it is nice to chat to peeps on the forum's and you do get to see a side that you would not normally see, therefore it would help us to decide

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By *waymanMan
over a year ago

newcastle


"As some posts on here end up with very personal and polarised _iews being shared, would you ever decide you could not possibly meet someone due to their forum posts?"

I am at the other end of the spectrum. If you cannot conceive of an occasion when you'd tell someone that you wouldn't shag them if they were the last human being with a pulse (known as the Nick Griffin effect) then I don't want to shag you.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"As others have said I would not meet the few on here that clearly hold strong right ring/racist/bigotted _iews. When I say wouldn't meet, I mean I would not even chat to to them at a social. That said there are only 3 or 4 people in that category.

Equally there are a lot of people on here who have differing _iews that I would actively seek out, to hopefully have a laugh and a chat. I donlt see differing opinions as a massive barrier if a person is intelligent.

I expect that there are people on here that would not want to meet us based on my forum posts. To me that is far from a bad thing."

some would like to meet you based on your forum posts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As some posts on here end up with very personal and polarised _iews being shared, would you ever decide you could not possibly meet someone due to their forum posts?"
yep...otherwise i'd feel like i was cold fxxking a piece of meat rather a person...kinda find it difficult 2 disregard personality and attitude on the net as well as face2face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As others have said I would not meet the few on here that clearly hold strong right ring/racist/bigotted _iews. When I say wouldn't meet, I mean I would not even chat to to them at a social. That said there are only 3 or 4 people in that category.

Equally there are a lot of people on here who have differing _iews that I would actively seek out, to hopefully have a laugh and a chat. I donlt see differing opinions as a massive barrier if a person is intelligent.

I expect that there are people on here that would not want to meet us based on my forum posts. To me that is far from a bad thing.

some would like to meet you based on your forum posts

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Thanks!

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By *adcowWoman
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

Yes if they came across as the kind of person I wouldn't meet in "vanilla" life either

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

If it appeared conclusive the individual or couple were clearly driven by their egos or status then yes neither of us would find any chemistry and of course would be put off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it appeared conclusive the individual or couple were clearly driven by their egos or status then yes neither of us would find any chemistry and of course would be put off. "
Never understand the status thing, like its swing sex, so y would u give a mad fxxk?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like people that have an opinion. It doesn't have to be the same as mine, I just like people who are not afraid to put their head above the parapet.

There are quite a lot of people I'd love to meet for a coffee/pint, I like the way their mind works.

Conversely, they're some I'd avoid like the plague because of the racist, bigoted _iews or because I think they're stupid, and I can't abide stupid. I'd also avoid those with negative self image. Those types of people are usually negative and boring...can't be dealing with negativity.

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