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By *hill44 OP   Man
over a year ago

hinckley

Hi is it just me or do you also look in the back ground of pics posted on here to see the cleanliness behind the scenes ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm usually more focus on the tits or arse

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

Do you mean tidiness???

Can you see dirt in the background?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to admit I do too. Have the carpets been hoovered? Clothes laying about? Bed made?

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By *hill44 OP   Man
over a year ago

hinckley

Tidiness as well both work together if there's clutter & mess every where

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, quite often see men laid on grubby looking bed sheets or women with dirty washing all over in the background and it just puts me right off someone who otherwise was attractive.

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

It's a yes from me also

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

I don't but I always (hopefully) remove any stuff in the background before taking a pic.

I'm hoping people will look at me then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant often see much background where random body parts are the subject

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am guilty of this also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup, every time. I check for clean & tidy nails too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always check make sure place is tidy.

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By *ot-AshMan
over a year ago

London

I was going to meet a busty redhead recently until i noticed she hadn't polished her mirror on her bedroom wall for several months so had to cancel quickly.

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By *hill44 OP   Man
over a year ago

hinckley

I think from this response I'm not the only one then lol

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Yes I do, I can't help myself. I have actually stopped myself messaging people a few times from telling them to clean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do always, especially the floor!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tidiness as well both work together if there's clutter & mess every where "

You've obviously never had kids,clutter and mess is just that, nothing to do with a dirty home.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I don't just look for cleanliness but for an insight into the state of humanity today.

Colour and style, clutter, oddments cast around, grandparents living in student digs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yes. Not just mess but at other things as others have eluded too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Def

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By *vcarolTV/TS
over a year ago

kilmarnockish

Yip, not do much for the cleanliness, but sometimes you spot the 2 pin US socket on the wall for the person the says he stays just a few miles away...

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By *owdyboy 890Man
over a year ago

Country West

Just to make the sure the windows are clean

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By *hill44 OP   Man
over a year ago

hinckley


"Yes I do, I can't help myself. I have actually stopped myself messaging people a few times from telling them to clean "

Lol

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By *hill44 OP   Man
over a year ago

hinckley


"Yip, not do much for the cleanliness, but sometimes you spot the 2 pin US socket on the wall for the person the says he stays just a few miles away..."
must look closer next time ha ha

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

Yep and there are some real mingers out there that make my place look like a fucking show home..

Signed, Stig of the dump.

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By *hill44 OP   Man
over a year ago

hinckley


"Tidiness as well both work together if there's clutter & mess every where

You've obviously never had kids,clutter and mess is just that, nothing to do with a dirty home."
yes got kids

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Yes! I love spotting interesting things in the background.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do. Also when single men message and there his and her toothbrushes and make up and perfume bottles on the side in the photo we tend to look out for that too. There is a difference between clutter and dirtiness but you are trying to sell yourself in your photos at least hide the clutter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went home with a beautiful woman and her house was so messy it was a turnoff .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same we are abit of a clean freak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always

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By *hill44 OP   Man
over a year ago

hinckley


"We do. Also when single men message and there his and her toothbrushes and make up and perfume bottles on the side in the photo we tend to look out for that too. There is a difference between clutter and dirtiness but you are trying to sell yourself in your photos at least hide the clutter "

I think you worded it better than me lol

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By *hyevernotMan
over a year ago

Here and there

I always make sure my sky remote and can of carling are symmetrical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs needing I think your glasses need a cleaning lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to admit I do have a look at the background.

It can say a lot about someone.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I dont look. How ever massively untidy back grounds do tend to stick out.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I always scrutinise the back ground, says a lot about the person in the pic. Hate to see filthy mirrors too

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable


"I always scrutinise the back ground, says a lot about the person in the pic. Hate to see filthy mirrors too "
Same here. It’s amazing what you can tell from the background

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always....

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Yep, I also look for signs things aren't all they seem.

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan
over a year ago

London & North Wessex Downs

Absolutely ….. sometimes too much LOL! I fid the background can help determine compatibility .… not just cleanliness, but things like books, hobbies etc...

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm hoping people are more distracted by me than the background lol

But I am a bit of a clean freak so it's not like they will find anything out of place.

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan
over a year ago

London & North Wessex Downs


"Yep, I also look for signs things aren't all they seem."

Abso-bloody-lutely!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes to that - a chaotic background says a lot - much prefer an anally obsessive level of cleanliness personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always think oh they have a nice house hahaba . Sometimes I think fuck that living room must be huge!!

Could just be camera angles I suppose lol.xx

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I always think oh they have a nice house hahaba . Sometimes I think fuck that living room must be huge!!

Could just be camera angles I suppose lol.xx"

I've done the thing where I think I'd be way too embarrassed to invite them to my tiny house that's a work that's not progressing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads of clothes and shit laying about the place puts me right off. Make some fucking effort

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By *hill44 OP   Man
over a year ago

hinckley


"I always think oh they have a nice house hahaba . Sometimes I think fuck that living room must be huge!!

Could just be camera angles I suppose lol.xx"

Bigger the room the more people you can invite I guess

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Loads of clothes and shit laying about the place puts me right off. Make some fucking effort "

Exactly.... takes 2 seconds to scoop it all up and hide it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loads of clothes and shit laying about the place puts me right off. Make some fucking effort

Exactly.... takes 2 seconds to scoop it all up and hide it "

Yup! Just don’t look in the cupboards!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yes! And when theres marvel or harry potter bed sheets... adios

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Hi is it just me or do you also look in the background of pics posted on here to see the cleanliness behind the scenes? "

I intend to look at their dvd collection if I can see it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Def

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always look for dresses, makeup, handbags, stilettos etc in single men pic backgrounds.

Mrs

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By *hill44 OP   Man
over a year ago

hinckley


"I always look for dresses, makeup, handbags, stilettos etc in single men pic backgrounds.

Mrs"

To see if they wear them or girlfriend ?

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"I always scrutinise the back ground, says a lot about the person in the pic. Hate to see filthy mirrors too Same here. It’s amazing what you can tell from the background "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always think oh they have a nice house hahaba . Sometimes I think fuck that living room must be huge!!

Could just be camera angles I suppose lol.xx

I've done the thing where I think I'd be way too embarrassed to invite them to my tiny house that's a work that's not progressing "

We have had a couple of house party's and I have spent 2 weeks prepping the house in advance.

"Don't put that there" "do not light that scented candle yet it's for the party" and "stop using those there for the party" were shouted a lot hahah

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

No it doesnt bother me. As long as person appears to look clean and we get on, for me personally I dont see why I should take that into account.

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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago

Deep in the New Forest

Yep I do... women often say about guys taking photos while on the loo... But a lot of ladies do the legs in the bath pose... one of the first things I look for is the state of the tiles and groutting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loads of clothes and shit laying about the place puts me right off. Make some fucking effort "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loads of clothes and shit laying about the place puts me right off. Make some fucking effort

This "

Or at least crop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, and tbh most of the time you don't have to look too hard.

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By *hubnwife_36dd_ukCouple
over a year ago

chester

We always look...for cleanliness plus "clues" that say all in the pic isn't the poster or is a-kilter with their profile.

Then there is the biggest turn off of all: crap, poor photo with T shirt pulled up and boxers/shorts scrumpled down at ankles (with socks on)!

Anything in that category goes straight into delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always look for dresses, makeup, handbags, stilettos etc in single men pic backgrounds.

Mrs

To see if they wear them or girlfriend ?"

Not worried if they wear them. None admitted it so far

All we get is an instant block as soon as I ask if Mrs can confirm her blessing.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I always think oh they have a nice house hahaba . Sometimes I think fuck that living room must be huge!!

Could just be camera angles I suppose lol.xx

I've done the thing where I think I'd be way too embarrassed to invite them to my tiny house that's a work that's not progressing

We have had a couple of house party's and I have spent 2 weeks prepping the house in advance.

"Don't put that there" "do not light that scented candle yet it's for the party" and "stop using those there for the party" were shouted a lot hahah

"

I'd probably be the same until the day before and then the fuck it, if they don't like it, tough, kicks in and all is lost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh god yes...and dirty fingernails...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always check out the background. It can put me off someone immediately if I see something I don't like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yip, important to us too, fuck knows why but it is !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely yes. Amazes what creeps in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Standard

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By *randmrsminxyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We do .And we feel that making a effort should extend to your pictures too. Some might say it's being pedantic. But think on if they say they can accommodate and you can see last week's washing on the floor or a pile of empty beer cans in the corner . Does it paint a picture to you ????

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By *hill44 OP   Man
over a year ago

hinckley


"We do .And we feel that making a effort should extend to your pictures too. Some might say it's being pedantic. But think on if they say they can accommodate and you can see last week's washing on the floor or a pile of empty beer cans in the corner . Does it paint a picture to you ????"

I suppose if the pics just been taken during a group session then you have to except some mess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I look and check out furniture and decor and kitchens, kitchens are used a lot in pics especially if they have islands, godamn show-offs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blur the background out.

Trim the photo.

Two ideas if you don't want to tidy up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Blur the background out.

Trim the photo.

Two ideas if you don't want to tidy up. "
Ahhh is that what you do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unbelievable some of the stuff you see in the background of pics

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By *uckmy-wifeCouple
over a year ago

essex

Ha ha great shout this one x

Yes if there is litter on the floor or pop bottles by the bed or an old fire from 1970 yes I look closely

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"I don't just look for cleanliness but for an insight into the state of humanity today.

Colour and style, clutter, oddments cast around, grandparents living in student digs"

Guilty

Entirely judgemental and quite possibly a little bit bonkers ... but yes I do this.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the floor looks like it hasn’t been hoovered in weeks and there’s piles of dishes and clutter everywhere I do block, as a mum of 2 and a dog and cat I hoover every day or every other day! Takes 10 minutes to tidy up for a photo but there’s no excuse for dirt

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Yes as pic is overall presentation of self & background can be revealing in many ways. You only get one 1st impression make it a good one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I shal stop taking pics in my car then

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"I shal stop taking pics in my car then "

ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The cleanliness

The decor

The scenery

The bathroom tiles, how clean the sky remote is ....

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
over a year ago

Didcot

I've viewed so many profiles, mostly gay/bi guys, where the background mess has put me off and I've seen some where kids toys, baby walkers etc are in the background which is seriously inappropriate in my view, do people not think and slightly off topic, why do guys feel the need to take pictures of their dick whilst sat on the bog, ewe.

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By *ingdiscreetMan
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Dirty mirrors ! Ruin many a pic in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dirty mirrors ! Ruin many a pic in my opinion "

I’ve seen one that looks like zit juice splattered across it

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By *easeme_pleasemeWoman
over a year ago

swindon

Photos on my profile just checked ha ha ha ha grouting clean ,mirror clean ,floor and back ground tidy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Blur the background out.

Trim the photo.

Two ideas if you don't want to tidy up. Ahhh is that what you do "

No... I take close ups

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always look, if the backgrounds not to my liking I don’t answer. It tells me a lot about someone.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Not me, because I live in squalor!

Kim and Aggie refuse to cross my door step (after that last threesome..).

Tidiness is overrated...

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Can't say I go looking specifically for messy backgrounds, but I have seen some gorgeous men and women upload selfies with the kind of squalor in the background you can smell with your eyes. Instant turn-off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find myself peeking but sometimes it's in your face . That loaded up clothes airer or dirty pants on the floor . I sometimes wonder do people hang their washing on the airer and think. Mmmmm time to get my cock / tits out as that's another job done . Lol ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m the same I look to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're more likely to point out something to each other from the background of someone's photo than someone themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tidiness as well both work together if there's clutter & mess every where "

I had a message from a guy at the weekend - he was supposed to be single but behind him in the attached photo he had lots of toys for young children.

A turn off on a swinging site.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Oh yes.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Yes I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tidiness as well both work together if there's clutter & mess every where

I had a message from a guy at the weekend - he was supposed to be single but behind him in the attached photo he had lots of toys for young children.

A turn off on a swinging site. "

Not saying it’s a good look for a photo on a swinging website to have children’s toys in the background, but that’s not definitive evidence that he’s not single. Again, not disputing the prevalence of “single” guys on here who are anything but, however there’s a number of single fathers too.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Tidiness as well both work together if there's clutter & mess every where

I had a message from a guy at the weekend - he was supposed to be single but behind him in the attached photo he had lots of toys for young children.

A turn off on a swinging site.

Not saying it’s a good look for a photo on a swinging website to have children’s toys in the background, but that’s not definitive evidence that he’s not single. Again, not disputing the prevalence of “single” guys on here who are anything but, however there’s a number of single fathers too. "

Exactly what I thought when I read this comment .

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By *ingdiscreetMan
over a year ago

Bournemouth


"Dirty mirrors ! Ruin many a pic in my opinion

I’ve seen one that looks like zit juice splattered across it "

Ewwwwwww ewwwwww ewwwwwww

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I don't look for it, but if I notice something it's generally not good news!!

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

My mother does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some look right out of an episode of hoarders

Dread to think what their bits smell like

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By *uriousnewbies37Couple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Not just for cleanliness. We wonder why people don't check for the random dog, clothes stuffed behind the toilet, the toilet!

And why do some people keep their socks on? Always found that odd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi is it just me or do you also look in the back ground of pics posted on here to see the cleanliness behind the scenes ? "
Defo, bed sheets instead of curtains or blinds. Wall paper pealing off, the general look of a bail hostel is a no no.Making sure there is no huge chest freezer to hold dismembered body parts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi is it just me or do you also look in the back ground of pics posted on here to see the cleanliness behind the scenes ? "
Defo, bed sheets instead of curtains or blinds. Wall paper pealing off, the general look of a bale hostel is a no no.Making sure there is no huge chest freezer to hold dismembered body parts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol I do

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